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"Can you take it to the club owner/manager, or is that the person in question? X" no they are not the person in question but thanks.. i was fuming and blocked the host when i was shown the chats. | |||
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" no they are not the person in question but thanks.. i was fuming and blocked the host when i was shown the chats. " Then I'd take it to the owner, they are giving their business a bad name, and if it were my business I'd want to know so I could deal with it.. X | |||
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" no they are not the person in question but thanks.. i was fuming and blocked the host when i was shown the chats. Then I'd take it to the owner, they are giving their business a bad name, and if it were my business I'd want to know so I could deal with it.. X" only issue is without the other person prepared to show the whats ap chat its my word against theirs | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks" As they are not employed by one one to hold these evens there is very little recourse I should imagine, I'm afraid. Other than not attend any of their evens anymore. | |||
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"Don't worry about proving it just let the club know, as it was a WhatsApp chat I'm guessing it was the host's group chat for all that was going? Xx" no private chat between the hostess and someone else. | |||
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"Don't worry about proving it just let the club know, as it was a WhatsApp chat I'm guessing it was the host's group chat for all that was going? Xx no private chat between the hostess and someone else. " Oh dear, just a host with poor skills, you have the right to disclose.the information to.the venue and you have the right to public list the host has poor skill with personal details when it regards parties, if admin here don't like the name.and shame I'm sure they will delete or advice you | |||
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" no they are not the person in question but thanks.. i was fuming and blocked the host when i was shown the chats. Then I'd take it to the owner, they are giving their business a bad name, and if it were my business I'd want to know so I could deal with it.. X" This. If you are holding an event at a club it is their repuatation as well as yours that is at risk and you should have the respect for the club to remember that and act accordingly. The club definitely need to know as it may put others off going to future events there. If you have had this problem then maybe others have too so I would mention it even if you have no proof | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks" Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on. | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on." | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on." no its an event host that i asked to be added to a private list then messaging people to tell them i was going to an event.... I did block her. but you dont expect an event host to go slatting you and telling people where you are going | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on." It's not really gossip though. She asked to not be put on any guest list as she didn't want people to know where she was gonna be. But the hostess told others where Cali was going to be, against her wishes and I assume the hostess had agreed discretion. Let the club know but expect some fall out. | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks" I'd temporary unblock her. Send her a message saying how you feel and what you found inappropriate. Then send a copy of the message to the club saying you just wanted to keep them in the loop. | |||
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"Personally I'd name and shame her, as an event host discretion is expected, I'd certainly want to know if a host wasn't going to be discrete if I was wanting to be myself" It is totally not acceptable to ever name and shame here. Depending on the details, then it may be reasonable to report to admin here, for them to determine if the user has behaved inappropriately, by Fab standards/rules. Though Fab is not responsible for things that happen off-site: it's a tough job just to keep hold on Fab online things. | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on. no its an event host that i asked to be added to a private list then messaging people to tell them i was going to an event.... I did block her. but you dont expect an event host to go slatting you and telling people where you are going " ...don't you think you're overreacting just a little? ...you asked to be added to a private list...she told one person that you know of, that you would be there. Hardly a hanging offence | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on. no its an event host that i asked to be added to a private list then messaging people to tell them i was going to an event.... I did block her. but you dont expect an event host to go slatting you and telling people where you are going ...don't you think you're overreacting just a little? ...you asked to be added to a private list...she told one person that you know of, that you would be there. Hardly a hanging offence" And that person could have told how many other people ? | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on. no its an event host that i asked to be added to a private list then messaging people to tell them i was going to an event.... I did block her. but you dont expect an event host to go slatting you and telling people where you are going ...don't you think you're overreacting just a little? ...you asked to be added to a private list...she told one person that you know of, that you would be there. Hardly a hanging offence And that person could have told how many other people ? " .....and if you're aunt had balls...she'd be you're uncle. ...much ado about nothing really. ... | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on. no its an event host that i asked to be added to a private list then messaging people to tell them i was going to an event.... I did block her. but you dont expect an event host to go slatting you and telling people where you are going ...don't you think you're overreacting just a little? ...you asked to be added to a private list...she told one person that you know of, that you would be there. Hardly a hanging offence And that person could have told how many other people ? .....and if you're aunt had balls...she'd be you're uncle. ...much ado about nothing really. ..." Very mature | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on. no its an event host that i asked to be added to a private list then messaging people to tell them i was going to an event.... I did block her. but you dont expect an event host to go slatting you and telling people where you are going ...don't you think you're overreacting just a little? ...you asked to be added to a private list...she told one person that you know of, that you would be there. Hardly a hanging offence And that person could have told how many other people ? .....and if you're aunt had balls...she'd be you're uncle. ...much ado about nothing really. ..." So put the Mrs on a single profile, put some face photos up and then advertise where she will be if it's not that much of a problem | |||
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"who would you report this too.. recently had it with a hostess who was passing messages about where i was or wasn't going to another fab member even though id asked to be on a private list.. thanks Basically, someone is gossiping about you? I don't know why you think this should be reported - it happens to most of us, at some point. Trying to stop people gossiping is like trying to pass a law that the sun shouldn't rise in the morning. Block her and move on. no its an event host that i asked to be added to a private list then messaging people to tell them i was going to an event.... I did block her. but you dont expect an event host to go slatting you and telling people where you are going ...don't you think you're overreacting just a little? ...you asked to be added to a private list...she told one person that you know of, that you would be there. Hardly a hanging offence And that person could have told how many other people ? .....and if you're aunt had balls...she'd be you're uncle. ...much ado about nothing really. ... Very mature " ....I know but....public lists...private lists....you said this...I said that...go to the event or don't. ..at the end of the day, will anyone notice? | |||
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"...if discretion is requested, that should be honoured don't you think? particularly if this was a business. it's not the best way to conduct yourself...in my opinion." I think we all agree that people *should* honour a request for discretion. However, there is no recourse, if someone doesn't honour such a request. The OP trusted someone who later turned out to be undeserving of that trust. This can't be reported to Fab, as Fab can only deal with problems that can be investigated through Fab (i.e. Fab can't deal with Whatsapp problems). The OP could report it to the owners of the club where the event was being hosted, but as she says, she has no evidence. In my experience, club owners try to stay out of spats between members. This is just one to chalk up to experience. | |||
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