FabSwingers.com forum: first time whipping

By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Going to be whipping my girlfriend today whilst she's tied up. Any advice for us?

I'd like her to talk to a total stranger as she is flogged. Lol

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"Going to be whipping my girlfriend today whilst she's tied up. Any advice for us?

I'd like her to talk to a total stranger as she is flogged. Lol"

Have a safe word...and enjoy.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Take photos

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Oh there will be photos for my eyes only!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going to be whipping my girlfriend today whilst she's tied up. Any advice for us?

I'd like her to talk to a total stranger as she is flogged. Lol"

Take it slow, build up the intensity, vary the strength of the strokes, and enjoy it

Just don't get so involved that you miss her safe word

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Mmm thanks. You ever done the phone element too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mmm thanks. You ever done the phone element too?"

Neither of us have. But it's an interesting idea

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Mmm thanks. You ever done the phone element too?

Neither of us have. But it's an interesting idea

Well we will see if it happens and let you know!

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

Take it slowly

Use a good flogger

Listen to her

Establish a safeword

And this part is also ESSENTIAL.... Aftercare aftercare, aftercare!!

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Ok noted. Will look after her. Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Yes its more of a crop with a latex butterfly on the end. Thanks for the advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently."

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

Make sure you build her up. Start through her clothing, take layers away each time she feels comfortable to do so. As someone said start with your hands, don't just go all out flogging her or you may put her off it again

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Lots to take on board!

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.

Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor).

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

You sound very experienced. Thankyou for your help so far x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Oh there will be photos for my eyes only! "

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Fractionate from hard to soft increasing the intensity.

However, a safe out and as been mentioned, aftercare is paramount.

Have brilliant time OP.

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

You guys have been great. We can't wait. Maybe the phone element will have to wait until next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently."

I've now got visions of her restrained and blindfolded, wondering why he's gone so quiet

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

"You guys have been great. We can't wait. Maybe the phone element will have to wait until next time."

Very good idea.... Take your time learning and enjoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

Whips - as in single tail whips - can rip flesh open quite easily. Hence why they're not something for beginners to try.

You'd struggle to do that kind of damage with a riding crop or flogger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.

Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor)."

But ask her if she likes cuddles and kisses while playing - not all of us do.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.

Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor).

But ask her if she likes cuddles and kisses while playing - not all of us do.

I don't while being whipped... But after.... Essential for me

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

Whips - as in single tail whips - can rip flesh open quite easily. Hence why they're not something for beginners to try.

You'd struggle to do that kind of damage with a riding crop or flogger."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would recommend a paddle or suede flogger for beginners

Also start off very slow, and soft - it will release endorphins into her mind and body gradually increasing her pain threshold - and of course as its been said above - safe word or traffic light system - green Amber red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.

Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor).

But ask her if she likes cuddles and kisses while playing - not all of us do.

I didn't until my Domme came round to be all soft and cuddly as I stood strapped to a cross.

She soothed me and then whispered "now this is for me.... It's will last a few minutes and it's going to really hurt".

Oh my

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By *addyandbabyCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.

If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.

We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol

Whips - as in single tail whips - can rip flesh open quite easily. Hence why they're not something for beginners to try.

You'd struggle to do that kind of damage with a riding crop or flogger."

Totally agree, I love single tails but only in experienced hands.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I would luv a dominant lady to explore my submissive side but not met d right one yet , have chatted to quite a few messers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember that it's only fun until the one getting whipped stops enjoying it and cant take it, anything after that is just abuse.

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x"

Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember that it's only fun until the one getting whipped stops enjoying it and cant take it, anything after that is just abuse."

Some of us don't want to enjoy it and NEED to go beyond the point we think we can take.

That's when you need a Domme who understands you most.

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x

Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants."

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x

Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants.

Really? "

You should ask her what she wants.

She may just want to tingle. She may want to be bruised and crying. You won't know until you ask.

She may not know the answer. That's when you have to gently build it up and have a safe word.

Remember; a hundred little flicks of a whip or cane can hurt more than one harder one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x

Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants.

Really? "

Hitting someone with a riding crop will cause them pain. If you don't want to cause your girlfriend pain, don't hit her with a riding crop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x

Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants.

Really?

Hitting someone with a riding crop will cause them pain. If you don't want to cause your girlfriend pain, don't hit her with a riding crop."

Simples

( I want you to hurt me Wasp and I don't mean my feelings

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By *aptivatingWoman
over a year ago

Chester

If you are gagging her too make sure you put a safe signal in place.

Take your time and have a few thwacks outside of the scene, where she can just tell you how it feels. At this point be watching for her reaction, most people signal somehow when it starts getting too much (for example I curl my toes, and as soon as I release them I'm good to go, but it's a completely subconscious thing I only know about because it's been pointed out).

If you are tying her, I'd suggest for the first time that you don't use any stress positions, could just be the thing that makes the whole experience too much for her rather than super hot.

As others have suggested, a good warm up, build it up slowly and hold the pace, then build it up some more. Learn if she likes a steady beating, or prefers the unknown.

If you both enjoy it you should be aiming to get to a point where you can play her body like a musical instrument with pain in the way you probably already know how to do with pleasure.

More than anything else though, I hope you both have a LOT of fun!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Anyone want to send me pics of their arse having been caned, feel free

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

She's sat here on the train and loving reading all your messages. She just can't wait to get going!

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By *elticcurlsWoman
over a year ago

london

Hopefully an obvious point but you're aiming for the bum and, if you like, the upper back. Don't strike the lower back as it can cause damage to the internal organs.

Have fun!

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Will aim for her beautiful bum then!

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

Buy quality whips and canes. Suzie has whipscars on her bottom which were from a poor quality item.

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By *leedsw OP Man
over a year ago

London

Well what can i say...WOW! What an amazing experience. Thanks for all the tips, made for a great experience and one we will be repeating x

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By *aptivatingWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"Well what can i say...WOW! What an amazing experience. Thanks for all the tips, made for a great experience and one we will be repeating x

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over a year ago

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