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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like that's unusual. .. we're all painted with the same shitty stick...

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By *jtintin and stretchygirlMan
over a year ago

Dartford

Totally agree with op make it hard for the genuine guys out there

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By *heOwlMan
over a year ago

Altrincham


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

Well said, manors maketh the man. Better to be a gentleman than a ...

Owl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of the men on here are total idiots with no idea what they're doing and reeking of desperation.

Yep they spoil it for the rest.

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

On the flip side with a lot of guys having no sense of how to approach things it makes the good ones stand out.

That's why I'll never help on the "what am I doing wrong???" Threads. Best leave those that can't work out that a 1 line profile and "I need to unload my cock" statuses arnt going to work, as they are.

In reality if said woman/couple really want to meet singles they'll have to unblock or message you so if you're what they're after so not I your best intrest to get others to up their game.

D

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Most guys have no clue that women are often not turned on by pictures of cocks in the same way that a guy might be if a lady sent a pic of her pussy.

Plus they generally do not realise that the poor ladies get tens of cock pics every day.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very commendable OP but most of the idiots that send the cock pics don't tend to frequent the forums...

They are far too busy looking for unrealistic angles to photograph their cocks in to make them look bigger

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By *omerladyWoman
over a year ago

Taunton

Ahh, the search for a decent gentleman to play with. This has been a massive exercise in futility for me!

Every so often, I decide the time has come to see whether I could find such a man, and I alter my profile and change my filters to reflect this.

And every time I end up swamped with messages from men that have not read even the simplest instructions, such as being able to accommodate. The cock shots, I can live with that but it's the messages such as "dress like that with me and you'll have to crawl away from me" and much worse. Then there are the one who you do decide to give a chance, and then find they are dreamers and/or picture collectors.

I managed this for 3 days the last time (this weekend) and I just got exhausted with dealing with the barrage. Worse were the ones who then gave the verbal diarrhoea because I deleted their one line, sometimes one word, attempt to woo me.

The ray of light, the guy that did message me, was sensitive to my needs and who I was. Even more admirable was the kind manner he treated me when I decided we were incompatible due to this marital situation. There is still hope in this girl, but for now, I need a break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ill take it all on board

I tend to do my own thing and really couldnt give a **** what other guys do. Works fine for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you've seen one you've seen them all. Also messages like 'I'm gonna ruin you' or 'can you deep throat' are rife.

When I do get a nice message it's a refreshing change & have to say I do have chats with a few in here...nice respectable guys too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"they are.

In reality if said woman/couple really want to meet singles they'll have to unblock or message you so if you're what they're after so not I your best intrest to get others to up their game.

D"

Probably best to let them trip up and I then win the race? Haha.

But if men just tried to be their best they can be, then women on here would open up more and be more trusting surely? if all she has experienced is a good time with every single male she has spoken to, when you do make a mistake ie, like not sending a picture in your first post. She might give you a second chance. Because all she has ever had was positivity from us gents.

(I forgot to attach a face pic by mistake, I was blocked promptly, and that wax because of her mistrust of men in here, and indirectly, me)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes ill take it all on board

I tend to do my own thing and really couldnt give a **** what other guys do. Works fine for me "

As I said, there are very few I would want to mail here.

I don't throw my bowl of baked beans at a wall. I already know that one of them will stick.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach"

My wife and several female friends are on Fab. I see daily the woeful messages from disrespectful guys that inundate the ladies' in_oxes.

"Fancy my cock drilling you 2nite?" Complete with 6 photos of said organ next to a Sky remote.

"Wanna watch me blow a load on cam lolz"

"You look horny. Wanna meet now? Why not? Ur a timewaster"

The end is listless. And it makes me wary of unprotected Sky remotes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind cock pictures, the ones I really hate are cock pictures of cocks with cum coming out of them. Revolting. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?... "

Men tend to be turned on by visuals.

Ladies less so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes ill take it all on board

I tend to do my own thing and really couldnt give a **** what other guys do. Works fine for me

As I said, there are very few I would want to mail here.

I don't throw my bowl of baked beans at a wall. I already know that one of them will stick. "

They can still mail you. So if they wanna chat with you they still can. You can only spoil things for yourself. Id take it as a excuse and there not interested but what do i know

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"On the flip side with a lot of guys having no sense of how to approach things it makes the good ones stand out.

That's why I'll never help on the "what am I doing wrong???" Threads. Best leave those that can't work out that a 1 line profile and "I need to unload my cock" statuses arnt going to work, as they are.

In reality if said woman/couple really want to meet singles they'll have to unblock or message you so if you're what they're after so not I your best intrest to get others to up their game.

D"

I quite agree with this.

The OP exercised sound restraint in not "jumping on" apparently suitable people, but the fact remains that by not having established any contact before the embargo on single men, he will never know what might have been the response

....had they liked him that much they would have most likely replied and stayed in contact, over-riding the embargo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?... "

This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women message me asking to see my cock

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?"

That is what I felt this was about.

I feel that men really should witness what Fab is like for a woman, and just to remember they are initiating contact with a human being, not a vagina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?"

Fella, you are entitled to your opinion. And for the most part you are quite correct in your assessment of the not inconsiderable number of the men on here and their vulgarity.

Even though it is less common, there are women that initiate contact in just as an ungentle manner. I merely wanted to point out that it occurs on the other side of the gender fence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All women on fab adore cock pics. It's peer pressure making them go into a process of denial. You guys keep on sending them. Don't let others bully you into being someone you're not.

You love your cock. Share that love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women on fab adore cock pics. It's peer pressure making them go into a process of denial. You guys keep on sending them. Don't let others bully you into being someone you're not.

You love your cock. Share that love!

"

Ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?

That is what I felt this was about.

I feel that men really should witness what Fab is like for a woman, and just to remember they are initiating contact with a human being, not a vagina. "

A nod to the wiser man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?

Fella, you are entitled to your opinion. And for the most part you are quite correct in your assessment of the not inconsiderable number of the men on here and their vulgarity.

Even though it is less common, there are women that initiate contact in just as an ungentle manner. I merely wanted to point out that it occurs on the other side of the gender fence."

I expect that to be true. I'm certain it's true. but we are genetically programmed to not complain on forums about it. Strengthening my point that some men here don't now what they are doing wrong.

Men want it. Most women don't. You have to find the women who do, and don't contact the ones who don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?

Fella, you are entitled to your opinion. And for the most part you are quite correct in your assessment of the not inconsiderable number of the men on here and their vulgarity.

Even though it is less common, there are women that initiate contact in just as an ungentle manner. I merely wanted to point out that it occurs on the other side of the gender fence.

I expect that to be true. I'm certain it's true. but we are genetically programmed to not complain on forums about it. Strengthening my point that some men here don't now what they are doing wrong.

Men want it. Most women don't. You have to find the women who do, and don't contact the ones who don't. "

Agreed!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

let's assume all of the guys you're referring to stop sending cock pictures and send the artful body shot or other picture ... The recipient is still going to be receiving loads of messages and your message will likely be lost in the masses.. let the numb nuts behave like numb nuts...they spoil things for no one butthemselves.

I'm happy for ladies to block single guys...yep that's right .it doesn't stop those ladies looking for single guys just guys cannot message....those ladies that wish to meet single guys can find those who appeal.that's where the guys who get this stand out, they've a profile that shows them to be the best they can be. Pictures text etc..

Stop helping those who can't help themselves you're just muddying the water for the ladies you're so keen to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

Men tend to be turned on by visuals.

Ladies less so.

"

Quite generalised IMO. How often have you watched the ladies response on most....Ass Wednesday or Chest Thursday.

I must be one of the few males that get turned on primarily by a sexy witty filthy mind and turned off by her pics of cocks in her mouth or up her holes on display.... Some love it...some just don't....

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"let's assume all of the guys you're referring to stop sending cock pictures and send the artful body shot or other picture ... The recipient is still going to be receiving loads of messages and your message will likely be lost in the masses.. let the numb nuts behave like numb nuts...they spoil things for no one butthemselves.

I'm happy for ladies to block single guys...yep that's right .it doesn't stop those ladies looking for single guys just guys cannot message....those ladies that wish to meet single guys can find those who appeal.that's where the guys who get this stand out, they've a profile that shows them to be the best they can be. Pictures text etc..

Stop helping those who can't help themselves you're just muddying the water for the ladies you're so keen to help. "

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

Men tend to be turned on by visuals.

Ladies less so.

Quite generalised IMO. How often have you watched the ladies response on most....Ass Wednesday or Chest Thursday.

I must be one of the few males that get turned on primarily by a sexy witty filthy mind and turned off by her pics of cocks in her mouth or up her holes on display.... Some love it...some just don't.... "

Oh and before anyone smart arse a comment...I don't have any cock pics. ...she can see it when/if we meet and certainly not before lol. I've never needed to show so no need to start

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics "
i personally think that if a dick is all you can show then you are a dick in real life too

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

Men tend to be turned on by visuals.

Ladies less so.

Quite generalised IMO. How often have you watched the ladies response on most....Ass Wednesday or Chest Thursday.

I must be one of the few males that get turned on primarily by a sexy witty filthy mind and turned off by her pics of cocks in her mouth or up her holes on display.... Some love it...some just don't....

Oh and before anyone smart arse a comment...I don't have any cock pics. ...she can see it when/if we meet and certainly not before lol. I've never needed to show so no need to start "
exactly cock pics and indeed pussy pics are not good and for when and if you play with that person not plastered all over the place lol nobody see's my genitals unless we play

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

Men tend to be turned on by visuals.

Ladies less so.

Quite generalised IMO. How often have you watched the ladies response on most....Ass Wednesday or Chest Thursday.

I must be one of the few males that get turned on primarily by a sexy witty filthy mind and turned off by her pics of cocks in her mouth or up her holes on display.... Some love it...some just don't.... "

Yes it is generalised. Hence the word "tend".

Most women are not impressed or turned on by unsolicited pictures of male genetalia in the way most men would be if they received photos of a woman's.

When a lady receives tens of unwanted cock pics accompanied by messages such as "suck this now" or "I wanna ruin you with this 2nite" it really is usually unwelcome.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

I guess that we all do things differently, and that what makes life interesting and us unique.

I don't think this is any different to the various approaches I've had when in a normal bar... Some bold, some obscene, some don't have the confidence and some wait in the wings... horses for courses and all that ??

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

Men tend to be turned on by visuals.

Ladies less so.

Quite generalised IMO. How often have you watched the ladies response on most....Ass Wednesday or Chest Thursday.

I must be one of the few males that get turned on primarily by a sexy witty filthy mind and turned off by her pics of cocks in her mouth or up her holes on display.... Some love it...some just don't....

Yes it is generalised. Hence the word "tend".

Most women are not impressed or turned on by unsolicited pictures of male genetalia in the way most men would be if they received photos of a woman's.

When a lady receives tens of unwanted cock pics accompanied by messages such as "suck this now" or "I wanna ruin you with this 2nite" it really is usually unwelcome."

Easy fixed...block single guys from messaging, then your good lady can do the searching. Simples...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very commendable OP but most of the idiots that send the cock pics don't tend to frequent the forums...

They are far too busy looking for unrealistic angles to photograph their cocks in to make them look bigger "

Or meeting us

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By *umpPumpyMan
over a year ago

London

I'm very careful with how I approach potential suitors. I read profiles carefully. Some Actually y want a cock pic, if they do I oblige. If not I send a few face and body pics, they can then go to my profile if they want to see the cock.

Polite, respectful and bespoke has got me a lot more responses back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very careful with how I approach potential suitors. I read profiles carefully. Some Actually y want a cock pic, if they do I oblige. If not I send a few face and body pics, they can then go to my profile if they want to see the cock.

Polite, respectful and bespoke has got me a lot more responses back. "

If i get a request for a cock pic...its usually sorry if that's important to you I don't think you're what I'm looking for and move on. It usually happens from younger ladies...and their usually not what I'm looking for anyways.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I'm very careful with how I approach potential suitors. I read profiles carefully. Some Actually y want a cock pic, if they do I oblige. If not I send a few face and body pics, they can then go to my profile if they want to see the cock.

Polite, respectful and bespoke has got me a lot more responses back.

If i get a request for a cock pic...its usually sorry if that's important to you I don't think you're what I'm looking for and move on. It usually happens from younger ladies...and their usually not what I'm looking for anyways."

They usually turn out to be guys posing as women as well...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

that is one assumption..... so let me give you another......

they decided they wanted to do the choosing of single men... so they put on the "not looking" so they could search for the people they fancied...

after all.... there is nothing to stop them from contacting you if they really want to if you thought you matched up as well as you seem to think

the one thing i hate more than couples taring single guys with the same brush ... and those guys who thing they are doing themselves a service of standing out by running over other single guys.....

there only difference between the chancer who contacts them within a day.... and a chancer who contacts them after a week is just "time"...

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach"

Isn't it! Bit speechless really. Think I'll start a thread for all those women that are spoiling it for me,bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahh, the search for a decent gentleman to play with. This has been a massive exercise in futility for me!

Every so often, I decide the time has come to see whether I could find such a man, and I alter my profile and change my filters to reflect this.

And every time I end up swamped with messages from men that have not read even the simplest instructions, such as being able to accommodate. The cock shots, I can live with that but it's the messages such as "dress like that with me and you'll have to crawl away from me" and much worse. Then there are the one who you do decide to give a chance, and then find they are dreamers and/or picture collectors.

I managed this for 3 days the last time (this weekend) and I just got exhausted with dealing with the barrage. Worse were the ones who then gave the verbal diarrhoea because I deleted their one line, sometimes one word, attempt to woo me.

The ray of light, the guy that did message me, was sensitive to my needs and who I was. Even more admirable was the kind manner he treated me when I decided we were incompatible due to this marital situation. There is still hope in this girl, but for now, I need a break."

Have you ever considered blocking all men and messaging suitable people yourself??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very careful with how I approach potential suitors. I read profiles carefully. Some Actually y want a cock pic, if they do I oblige. If not I send a few face and body pics, they can then go to my profile if they want to see the cock.

Polite, respectful and bespoke has got me a lot more responses back.

If i get a request for a cock pic...its usually sorry if that's important to you I don't think you're what I'm looking for and move on. It usually happens from younger ladies...and their usually not what I'm looking for anyways.

They usually turn out to be guys posing as women as well..."

Must be simpletons as they'd get better pics off Google lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was all just a thought, and I could go on but won't. Us men will do whatever we want anyway.

You all have free choice, I can't change that and I shouldn't try.

But thanks for reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahh, the search for a decent gentleman to play with. This has been a massive exercise in futility for me!

Every so often, I decide the time has come to see whether I could find such a man, and I alter my profile and change my filters to reflect this.

And every time I end up swamped with messages from men that have not read even the simplest instructions, such as being able to accommodate. The cock shots, I can live with that but it's the messages such as "dress like that with me and you'll have to crawl away from me" and much worse. Then there are the one who you do decide to give a chance, and then find they are dreamers and/or picture collectors.

I managed this for 3 days the last time (this weekend) and I just got exhausted with dealing with the barrage. Worse were the ones who then gave the verbal diarrhoea because I deleted their one line, sometimes one word, attempt to woo me.

The ray of light, the guy that did message me, was sensitive to my needs and who I was. Even more admirable was the kind manner he treated me when I decided we were incompatible due to this marital situation. There is still hope in this girl, but for now, I need a break."

Bloody hell...are you sure you didn't talk em to death?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it lol.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Please be original and don't follow the pack, think with your brain and not your cock. Far too many cock pics, I know what one looks like and yes it's boring. I would rather chat to a face preferably with a name and a nice message consisting of more than two syllables.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading this thread I have found the captain of the white knights brigade

So you can't message a couple and it's all the single guys fault.. hmmm have you ever thought they just might want to meet only other couples and single women

No it can't be that

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By *omerladyWoman
over a year ago

Taunton


"Have you ever considered blocking all men and messaging suitable people yourself?? "

I did indeed try that. I seem to be met with more dreamers or collectors


"Bloody hell...are you sure you didn't talk em to death?"

I write a sensible message, and some seem to feel the need to mock that. The ability to write and converse is a quality of mine, and that's what I seek in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?... "

There are quite a few pussies on display, but not to the extent of cocks. But I guess fewer men object to pussy pics than women object to cock pics. That's the difference.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Women message me asking to see my cock "

Only for laughs though.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Yeah I have my cock on my profile but there not many and I try to do something a bit different

What makes me chuckle is the women that don't want cock pics but have their pussy on profile all wide open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

I bloody hate opening my messages up and seeing a thumbnail cock shot. One guy and I were messaging and I told him I hated to see his cock as a profile pic and he changed it, which was fine. Then he changed it to another pic of his cock. It wasn't a good picture, there was nothing aesthetic about it, just a 'from-the-top' shot. I blocked him, got tired of asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please be original and don't follow the pack, think with your brain and not your cock. Far too many cock pics, I know what one looks like and yes it's boring. I would rather chat to a face preferably with a name and a nice message consisting of more than two syllables. "

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"Have you ever considered blocking all men and messaging suitable people yourself??

I did indeed try that. I seem to be met with more dreamers or collectors

Bloody hell...are you sure you didn't talk em to death?

I write a sensible message, and some seem to feel the need to mock that. The ability to write and converse is a quality of mine, and that's what I seek in return."
indeed i too seek quality in the written word and not so many vulgar cock shots and the men i meet never send cock pics as they don't need to stoop so low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?... "

Each to their own but no pic of my nethers is being shown to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I truly congratulate the poster special being a male.The male get excited soon they see a bit of flesh ! But ladies dynamic works differently! Personally Really makes sick to see pictures and sometimes of dirty cocks! And doesn't do anything for me! I do love ? sex and I am no Saint by any means! But those pics are just revolting and I delete it straight away!But even worse is a single male displaying pictures of ladies having sex .As a woman I think is disgusting ,may this ladies don't know that they are using their pictures.I told them but they don't care they send you a picture of a cock which may don't work in real life but they want to meet you without showing their face,this is a joke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On the flip side with a lot of guys having no sense of how to approach things it makes the good ones stand out.

That's why I'll never help on the "what am I doing wrong???" Threads. Best leave those that can't work out that a 1 line profile and "I need to unload my cock" statuses arnt going to work, as they are.

In reality if said woman/couple really want to meet singles they'll have to unblock or message you so if you're what they're after so not I your best intrest to get others to up their game.

D"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

Each to their own but no pic of my nethers is being shown to anyone "

It's not attractive tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get cock pics sent to us anymore, nor we we get many messages from profiles that are 'all cock'. This is because on the second sentence of our profile we request not to receive messages from these profiles. Downside is that there aren't many men left to message us lol!

It has always intrigued me, though, why so many men automatically send a cock pic with a first message. This must mean they are ASSUMING that the recipient requires such a picture in order to help them choose a sex partner. Now I fully appreciate that all women are different and that some do indeed like to see a cock pic. But why oh why do some men take it that ALL women want to see one? Who told these men when they joined Fab that a cock pic must be sent with the first message? Or is it just a 'follow the herd' mentality - everybody else does it, so it must be the way it's done. It both intrigues and saddens me that so many men are so misguided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?

Well said, manors maketh the man. Better to be a gentleman than a ...

Owl"

And if he is not the owner of a manor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Devious game op.

Big gamble waiting for the standard idiots on the site to make there pathetic attempts at communication before you jump in with an alternative 'breathe of fresh air' message.

Some things will never change regardless.. idiots learn control but more take there place.

It's the swinging circle of fab

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

research shows that Men have a greater interest in visual sexual stimuli than women and placing a greater emphasis on physical attractiveness in a potential sex partner. However,there is greater sensitivity to partner status in women when choosing a sexual partner. Men have a significantly tendency toward sexual jealousy and women emotional jealousy. (Bus et al 93, Wiederman & Allgier 92)

Tanin 01 & Peploe03 suggest that most men for sociological reasons do not understand women's sexual desires due to Women being less likely to come out openly in front of men and talk about sex.

Harding 87 suggests that men apply their own sexual desires and preferences or perceptions of sexual preferences upon women.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"research shows that Men have a greater interest in visual sexual stimuli than women and placing a greater emphasis on physical attractiveness in a potential sex partner. However,there is greater sensitivity to partner status in women when choosing a sexual partner. Men have a significantly tendency toward sexual jealousy and women emotional jealousy. (Bus et al 93, Wiederman & Allgier 92)

Tanin 01 & Peploe03 suggest that most men for sociological reasons do not understand women's sexual desires due to Women being less likely to come out openly in front of men and talk about sex.

Harding 87 suggests that men apply their own sexual desires and preferences or perceptions of sexual preferences upon women. "

Well I'm glad we got that sorted out (Bennett, 2016)

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

OP I hear/feel your pain. You spend 5-10mins reading the page/constructing the perfect message only for it to be losed amongst sexually desperate men with no respect. No wonder it does not get read.

I always spend 5-10 mins at least constructing the message. Self admittedly Im not always best at writing the perfect first message.

P.s. Can people please explane why people misconstrue messages tht are nothing to do with sex as"I am wanting to message you for sex" yes I know it's a sex site but sometimes I don't want to message someone for sex I might want to message them because I am bored and want someone to talk to.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"research shows that Men have a greater interest in visual sexual stimuli than women and placing a greater emphasis on physical attractiveness in a potential sex partner. However,there is greater sensitivity to partner status in women when choosing a sexual partner. Men have a significantly tendency toward sexual jealousy and women emotional jealousy. (Bus et al 93, Wiederman & Allgier 92)

Tanin 01 & Peploe03 suggest that most men for sociological reasons do not understand women's sexual desires due to Women being less likely to come out openly in front of men and talk about sex.

Harding 87 suggests that men apply their own sexual desires and preferences or perceptions of sexual preferences upon women.

Well I'm glad we got that sorted out (Bennett, 2016)"

ahah lol (Boxes, unknown)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't get cock pics sent to us anymore, nor we we get many messages from profiles that are 'all cock'. This is because on the second sentence of our profile we request not to receive messages from these profiles. Downside is that there aren't many men left to message us lol!

It has always intrigued me, though, why so many men automatically send a cock pic with a first message. This must mean they are ASSUMING that the recipient requires such a picture in order to help them choose a sex partner. Now I fully appreciate that all women are different and that some do indeed like to see a cock pic. But why oh why do some men take it that ALL women want to see one? Who told these men when they joined Fab that a cock pic must be sent with the first message? Or is it just a 'follow the herd' mentality - everybody else does it, so it must be the way it's done. It both intrigues and saddens me that so many men are so misguided.

"

Do you buy a car without looking at the engine?

Most men are here for sex first , friendship after. They feel like not beating around the bush and getting straight to the point. Another thing people don't realize is the fact that if you're really attractive and the person that receives the message is attracted to you. You could write "Hi " and they will answer.... There is not one 100 percent method to sending a message.

If you think I'm lying, how many men block and delete a woman or couples message if they send a fancy a fuck message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are one amongst hundreds trying to win the attention of a woman.

On a swinging site like this men think of one thing first before other things (Otherwise we would use vanilla forums)

No matter what we say however honest..every woman on here knows we want to eventually try to get them into bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics "

If I receive a cock picture, I automatically delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See my cock over the loo thread lol x

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"
I have never worried about how others manage their profile or how they behave in regard to the messages that they either send or receive . .

Does it really matter if couples or ladies block all single men?. If they are really interested in a males profile I am sure that they would make an effort to contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell? I have never worried about how others manage their profile or how they behave in regard to the messages that they either send or receive . .

Does it really matter if couples or ladies block all single men?. If they are really interested in a males profile I am sure that they would make an effort to contact them. "

Please leave common sense and intelligence out of this discussion. The op can't meet a couple he wants , so it's the single guys fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't get cock pics sent to us anymore, nor we we get many messages from profiles that are 'all cock'. This is because on the second sentence of our profile we request not to receive messages from these profiles. Downside is that there aren't many men left to message us lol!

It has always intrigued me, though, why so many men automatically send a cock pic with a first message. This must mean they are ASSUMING that the recipient requires such a picture in order to help them choose a sex partner. Now I fully appreciate that all women are different and that some do indeed like to see a cock pic. But why oh why do some men take it that ALL women want to see one? Who told these men when they joined Fab that a cock pic must be sent with the first message? Or is it just a 'follow the herd' mentality - everybody else does it, so it must be the way it's done. It both intrigues and saddens me that so many men are so misguided.

Do you buy a car without looking at the engine?

Most men are here for sex first , friendship after. They feel like not beating around the bush and getting straight to the point. Another thing people don't realize is the fact that if you're really attractive and the person that receives the message is attracted to you. You could write "Hi " and they will answer.... There is not one 100 percent method to sending a message.

If you think I'm lying, how many men block and delete a woman or couples message if they send a fancy a fuck message "

You've put the car analogy to me before, and I remember thinking it was a good analogy. I guess in answer to your question, no, I have never looked at a car engine before. However, I would always take a car for a test drive before committing to it. Although I wouldn't necesarily think of myself as 'test-driving' a man when he's fucking me for the first time, if that man gives me a good time, whether it be with his cock, fingers, tongue, or psychological mind play, then I am more likely to want to have a repeat with that man. And there are a number of men I know on the swing scene I have 'test driven', who I think "they are good". But I had to play with them first to know they are good. I would never have known from just looking at a picture of their cock.

I don't think you are lying at all, I completely agree with you that men by and large have a different approach than women. But throughout history men have always had to second guess what women want in order to get a women into bed. Men who understand what turns a woman on are the ones who get less rejections. So the OP doesn't really need to worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"research shows that Men have a greater interest in visual sexual stimuli than women and placing a greater emphasis on physical attractiveness in a potential sex partner. However,there is greater sensitivity to partner status in women when choosing a sexual partner. Men have a significantly tendency toward sexual jealousy and women emotional jealousy. (Bus et al 93, Wiederman & Allgier 92)

Tanin 01 & Peploe03 suggest that most men for sociological reasons do not understand women's sexual desires due to Women being less likely to come out openly in front of men and talk about sex.

Harding 87 suggests that men apply their own sexual desires and preferences or perceptions of sexual preferences upon women. "

This is interesting, and probably helps explain why so many men get it so wrong - they are assuming that women will have the same approach to choosing a sex partner as they would. They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

On the whole, I think men are more visual. All it takes is an image for a man to be sexually turned on. A woman usually needs mental stimulation, and any imagery probably needs a more artistic leaning so as to stimulate the mind. From my time on Fab, I've noticed that a man can decide he wants to fuck someone, just from looking at a picture of the lady. Women don't often make that final decision to fuck someone until a conversation has taken place. I suspect women also have a more holistic approach to sex - after all there are so many different ways of stimulating the complex female body, that a man, who at first glance, only has a cock to offer, comes across as a bit basic.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

Men tend to be turned on by visuals.

Ladies less so.

Quite generalised IMO. How often have you watched the ladies response on most....Ass Wednesday or Chest Thursday.

I must be one of the few males that get turned on primarily by a sexy witty filthy mind and turned off by her pics of cocks in her mouth or up her holes on display.... Some love it...some just don't.... "

A chest or a bum are not a cock though.

A few cocks are beautiful to look at but most really aren't.

Chests and bums are a much better bet.

I want a view of the person, who they are and what they look like.

I don't object to body shots that include the cock, although I prefer the cock is hard rather than soft, but a close-up of the cock of a stranger, unless it's one of the very rare visually appealing ones, does nothing for me at all.

Even if it is visually appealing, it does nothing to attract me to the owner. Deciding whether I find them attractive and want to meet them is down to several factors but a cock photo, attractive or not, does not come into the matter.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Those people who can't see the difference between a graphic photo of a man and a graphic photo of a woman make me laugh.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality."

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of the men on here are total idiots with no idea what they're doing and reeking of desperation.

Yep they spoil it for the rest. "

I used to think the crap guys make it easier for the rest because they make the good ones stand out.

Recently I'm changing my mind and think I agree with this again.

The crap guys are so crap they are an utter turn off. Lately I've noticed many very horny sexual women get so sick to death of the crap men that they've actually gone off sex.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"A lot of the men on here are total idiots with no idea what they're doing and reeking of desperation.

Yep they spoil it for the rest.

I used to think the crap guys make it easier for the rest because they make the good ones stand out.

Recently I'm changing my mind and think I agree with this again.

The crap guys are so crap they are an utter turn off. Lately I've noticed many very horny sexual women get so sick to death of the crap men that they've actually gone off sex. "

Now that is depressing

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"A lot of the men on here are total idiots with no idea what they're doing and reeking of desperation.

Yep they spoil it for the rest.

I used to think the crap guys make it easier for the rest because they make the good ones stand out.

Recently I'm changing my mind and think I agree with this again.

The crap guys are so crap they are an utter turn off. Lately I've noticed many very horny sexual women get so sick to death of the crap men that they've actually gone off sex. "

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

For the most part it is the unsolicited close up cock pictures, and the mistaken belief that 6 of these with no body/face pics will entice a lady, that are the problem. And the attitude that often goes with them. "Why am I not getting meets? I keep saying hi and sending my pics?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer a face pic with a smile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best."

This is all so true

And I think you are right, and I've wondered this for a while - men are proud of their cocks! They WANT to show them off, and their need to do that is so great that it doesn't matter that they run a huge risk of turning someone off. Like that man who drove you away by sending you a video you hadn't asked for. Women who don't appreciate a cock pic are spoiling it for them, thus it gets justified that we must be in the wrong. A man showing off his erect penis must be like a peacock displaying his fanned tail to the peahen - a primeval need. But women, as especially women on the swing scene, are generally much more sophisticated in their sexual needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank YOU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly this is all to true for guys with at least one brain cell in their heads. I only have body lick in public view & never send cock pics unless it's stated in the profile text. What can you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not looking for single guys yet (unfortunately )

I had to block them because guy didn't like them messaging me

Some were lovely but most were vile.

We'd only been on a day and 1 guy had recognised me from the village, found me on Facebook and told me he was coming round to destroy me etc (my address is open on FB for my business) so that was scary, I had to threaten to tell his wife and he got all defensive.

I've noticed a couple of guys in forums and who have liked me photos, and they're in my mental hotlist for if we do get to have guys, I can message and ask them.

I honestly don't give a shit about the size of a cock, it's a pretty face I love, to make me laugh and be a decent guy

Girl x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm glad to read I'm not alone.

I'm afraid I'll never get speak to the fantasy of my dreams because of all the knobs she sees on here

All those who think differently, and go with. - you've gotta be in it to win it. Fine, as it's been said. Whatever works for you. you keep gambling and playing the odds. Of course you will win eventually, But your rewards won't be what they could have been.

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"We're not looking for single guys yet (unfortunately )

I had to block them because guy didn't like them messaging me

Some were lovely but most were vile.

We'd only been on a day and 1 guy had recognised me from the village, found me on Facebook and told me he was coming round to destroy me etc (my address is open on FB for my business) so that was scary, I had to threaten to tell his wife and he got all defensive.

I've noticed a couple of guys in forums and who have liked me photos, and they're in my mental hotlist for if we do get to have guys, I can message and ask them.

I honestly don't give a shit about the size of a cock, it's a pretty face I love, to make me laugh and be a decent guy

Girl x"
exactly it matters not the size of your appendage you can be hung like a horse but if your face looks like it would sour milk it aint happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit i chat to some lovely guys on here,some since ive joined a couple of years ago,most dont even chat about sex or send cock pictures,love my new friends,yes its a swinging site but you can make friends to and really nice ones to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're not looking for single guys yet (unfortunately )

I had to block them because guy didn't like them messaging me

Some were lovely but most were vile.

We'd only been on a day and 1 guy had recognised me from the village, found me on Facebook and told me he was coming round to destroy me etc (my address is open on FB for my business) so that was scary, I had to threaten to tell his wife and he got all defensive.

I've noticed a couple of guys in forums and who have liked me photos, and they're in my mental hotlist for if we do get to have guys, I can message and ask them.

I honestly don't give a shit about the size of a cock, it's a pretty face I love, to make me laugh and be a decent guy

Girl x exactly it matters not the size of your appendage you can be hung like a horse but if your face looks like it would sour milk it aint happening "

I get more from sex than just a cook, I mean, I love a good pounding, but I also like exploring each other's bodies and connecting on another level. I need pretty to look at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On the flip side with a lot of guys having no sense of how to approach things it makes the good ones stand out.

That's why I'll never help on the "what am I doing wrong???" Threads. Best leave those that can't work out that a 1 line profile and "I need to unload my cock" statuses arnt going to work, as they are.

In reality if said woman/couple really want to meet singles they'll have to unblock or message you so if you're what they're after so not I your best intrest to get others to up their game.

D"

I've been on and off here over the years depending on my single status. I rarely message anyone, and always put a good effort into writing a few paragraphs on my first message. I don't have a dick pic available even for "friends", it has to be asked for. I've not once been asked for it btw. On top of that with that approach and attitude I get a reply 9 times out of ten.

I also think people forget, just because I message you, it doesn't necessarily mean I want to meet, it's just I saw something in your profile I found intriguing so I'm messaging to find out if you're suitable for me as much as I am you. Wheat from chaff quickly that way too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've looked everywhere for a white horse and a knights outfit.

Not a single one left. They're all already taken apparently.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I've looked everywhere for a white horse and a knights outfit.

Not a single one left. They're all already taken apparently. "

the amount that to show there different is to run over everyone else with the big bus is sad, but not surprising.... dog eat dog... white knighting it all over the joint....

they are different ways to show you are different... in actions and words...

its too easy to blame everyone else... it's a kop out! it takes no ownership and leaves them blameless because it's "the fault of the other nasty pasties"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread with interest.Just been having a nosey through the updates near us and a single woman joined 4 hours ago.Theres no pic etc but her status says"calm down guys 300 messages in 2 hours, i cant cope".Why do they do it then wonder why they go unlos in the same day ?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Reading this thread with interest.Just been having a nosey through the updates near us and a single woman joined 4 hours ago.Theres no pic etc but her status says"calm down guys 300 messages in 2 hours, i cant cope".Why do they do it then wonder why they go unlos in the same day ? "

They think it's first come, first served, like the deli counter at the supermarket?

Or think if they don't get in early their message will be missed in the noise?

Or they need to get in before the other guys (always the other guys) drive her off the site?

Or they want to get in before she gets too many messages and realises there are some really fucking hot men on here?

I don't know. I often wonder the same thing.

Even before they put photos up, new women get bombarded with messages

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land

I don't mind a cock pic - what I don't like is - meet me now, or, meet without hubby

Guys if you want to pic someone up and get your

Cock Wet without any social interaction - spend £25 and sort a prostitute #instantblock

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"We are one amongst hundreds trying to win the attention of a woman.

On a swinging site like this men think of one thing first before other things (Otherwise we would use vanilla forums)

No matter what we say however honest..every woman on here knows we want to eventually try to get them into bed. "

not always I have turned women down before off this site and In person simply because they are not my type (sadly these ofers are not often). We are not all thinking with our penises instead of our brains.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

This is all so true

And I think you are right, and I've wondered this for a while - men are proud of their cocks! They WANT to show them off, and their need to do that is so great that it doesn't matter that they run a huge risk of turning someone off. Like that man who drove you away by sending you a video you hadn't asked for. Women who don't appreciate a cock pic are spoiling it for them, thus it gets justified that we must be in the wrong. A man showing off his erect penis must be like a peacock displaying his fanned tail to the peahen - a primeval need. But women, as especially women on the swing scene, are generally much more sophisticated in their sexual needs. "

the ironic thing is that the research would suggest differently. A study by Veale 08 shhowed that out of a sample of a 173 men almost all had a desire for a larger penis. stuy by channel 4 suggested that 80% of married/in a relationship had a desre for a penis that is 2.2 inches longer and extra inch in girth, only 46% of their partners desired that their man had a larger penis.

in April in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, found that women preferred larger penises only up to a point (anything bigger than a flaccid length of 2.99 inches (7.59 centimeters) did not additionally impress women), and preferences also varied based on a guy's height. A 2012 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found similarly ambivalent female preferences. In that study, women who experienced frequent vaginal orgasms were much more likely than other women to express an interest in better-endowed guys. For women who didn't prefer vaginal orgasms, penis size was a far less pressing matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

I laughed when I read that. Seriously mate? Blaming everyone else for your short comings is in very poor taste.

The type of guys that you're talking about don't even read the forums so your white knight rant is lost on them for a start.

If a women fancies you and wants sex then you can pretty much say what you want within reason.

You can have the best profile and take all the advice you want from the forum regulars but if the lady doesn't like you you've got zero chance.

Nothing to do with knob head men it's down to you and whoever you've contacted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

This is all so true

And I think you are right, and I've wondered this for a while - men are proud of their cocks! They WANT to show them off, and their need to do that is so great that it doesn't matter that they run a huge risk of turning someone off. Like that man who drove you away by sending you a video you hadn't asked for. Women who don't appreciate a cock pic are spoiling it for them, thus it gets justified that we must be in the wrong. A man showing off his erect penis must be like a peacock displaying his fanned tail to the peahen - a primeval need. But women, as especially women on the swing scene, are generally much more sophisticated in their sexual needs.

the ironic thing is that the research would suggest differently. A study by Veale 08 shhowed that out of a sample of a 173 men almost all had a desire for a larger penis. stuy by channel 4 suggested that 80% of married/in a relationship had a desre for a penis that is 2.2 inches longer and extra inch in girth, only 46% of their partners desired that their man had a larger penis.

in April in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, found that women preferred larger penises only up to a point (anything bigger than a flaccid length of 2.99 inches (7.59 centimeters) did not additionally impress women), and preferences also varied based on a guy's height. A 2012 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found similarly ambivalent female preferences. In that study, women who experienced frequent vaginal orgasms were much more likely than other women to express an interest in better-endowed guys. For women who didn't prefer vaginal orgasms, penis size was a far less pressing matter."

That is hardly conclusive evidence , survey of 173 men!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?

I laughed when I read that. Seriously mate? Blaming everyone else for your short comings is in very poor taste.

The type of guys that you're talking about don't even read the forums so your white knight rant is lost on them for a start.

If a women fancies you and wants sex then you can pretty much say what you want within reason.

You can have the best profile and take all the advice you want from the forum regulars but if the lady doesn't like you you've got zero chance.

Nothing to do with knob head men it's down to you and whoever you've contacted. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach"

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention.

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. "
not really he is just a guy who rightly realises that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best."

You are a trouble maker and do not speak for all women.

The next thing you will say is women want romance and affection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of the men on here are total idiots with no idea what they're doing and reeking of desperation.

Yep they spoil it for the rest.

I used to think the crap guys make it easier for the rest because they make the good ones stand out.

Recently I'm changing my mind and think I agree with this again.

The crap guys are so crap they are an utter turn off. Lately I've noticed many very horny sexual women get so sick to death of the crap men that they've actually gone off sex.

Now that is depressing "

This is pure propaganda. We all know that women can get any man they want on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't get cock pics sent to us anymore, nor we we get many messages from profiles that are 'all cock'. This is because on the second sentence of our profile we request not to receive messages from these profiles. Downside is that there aren't many men left to message us lol!

It has always intrigued me, though, why so many men automatically send a cock pic with a first message. This must mean they are ASSUMING that the recipient requires such a picture in order to help them choose a sex partner. Now I fully appreciate that all women are different and that some do indeed like to see a cock pic. But why oh why do some men take it that ALL women want to see one? Who told these men when they joined Fab that a cock pic must be sent with the first message? Or is it just a 'follow the herd' mentality - everybody else does it, so it must be the way it's done. It both intrigues and saddens me that so many men are so misguided.

Do you buy a car without looking at the engine?

Most men are here for sex first , friendship after. They feel like not beating around the bush and getting straight to the point. Another thing people don't realize is the fact that if you're really attractive and the person that receives the message is attracted to you. You could write "Hi " and they will answer.... There is not one 100 percent method to sending a message.

If you think I'm lying, how many men block and delete a woman or couples message if they send a fancy a fuck message

You've put the car analogy to me before, and I remember thinking it was a good analogy. I guess in answer to your question, no, I have never looked at a car engine before. However, I would always take a car for a test drive before committing to it. Although I wouldn't necesarily think of myself as 'test-driving' a man when he's fucking me for the first time, if that man gives me a good time, whether it be with his cock, fingers, tongue, or psychological mind play, then I am more likely to want to have a repeat with that man. And there are a number of men I know on the swing scene I have 'test driven', who I think "they are good". But I had to play with them first to know they are good. I would never have known from just looking at a picture of their cock.

I don't think you are lying at all, I completely agree with you that men by and large have a different approach than women. But throughout history men have always had to second guess what women want in order to get a women into bed. Men who understand what turns a woman on are the ones who get less rejections. So the OP doesn't really need to worry."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. not really he is just a guy who rightly realises

that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something "

I'm good, thanks. Im not one for painting all guys a cock sending neanderthals.

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

You are a trouble maker and do not speak for all women.

The next thing you will say is women want romance and affection. "
i feel sorry for the men who feel that their cock is their best quality, obviously nothing in between the ears poor fools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't mind a cock pic - what I don't like is - meet me now, or, meet without hubby

Guys if you want to pic someone up and get your

Cock Wet without any social interaction - spend £25 and sort a prostitute #instantblock"

25 quid for a prostitute

Where can you find these women? I'm asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

You are a trouble maker and do not speak for all women.

The next thing you will say is women want romance and affection. i feel sorry for the men who feel that their cock is their best quality, obviously nothing in between the ears poor fools "

Awwww , try to smile when you read my posts. Read my screen name and that will give you some perspective.

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. not really he is just a guy who rightly realises

that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something

I'm good, thanks. Im not one for painting all guys a cock sending neanderthals."
do you go into a pub/club/party and slap your penis on the table and shout hey look at that, or see a girl you fancy and pull her to one side and pull down your trouser's and say take a look at that? a bit of mystery is better not have it all laid out like sausages in a butchers shop window lol its crass at best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree with op make it hard for the genuine guys out there"

Unfortunately there is not many genuine guys on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. not really he is just a guy who rightly realises

that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something

I'm good, thanks. Im not one for painting all guys a cock sending neanderthals. do you go into a pub/club/party and slap your penis on the table and shout hey look at that, or see a girl you fancy and pull her to one side and pull down your trouser's and say take a look at that? a bit of mystery is better not have it all laid out like sausages in a butchers shop window lol its crass at best"

No and I haven't insinuated I have. Although if you're trying to compare this site to a club or pub that's pretty ridiculous.

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. not really he is just a guy who rightly realises

that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something

I'm good, thanks. Im not one for painting all guys a cock sending neanderthals. do you go into a pub/club/party and slap your penis on the table and shout hey look at that, or see a girl you fancy and pull her to one side and pull down your trouser's and say take a look at that? a bit of mystery is better not have it all laid out like sausages in a butchers shop window lol its crass at best

No and I haven't insinuated I have. Although if you're trying to compare this site to a club or pub that's pretty ridiculous."
yeah right thats what all men who bombard you with cock pics say "this is a swingers sex site get used to it blah blah blah"same old crap different day tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. not really he is just a guy who rightly realises

that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something

I'm good, thanks. Im not one for painting all guys a cock sending neanderthals. do you go into a pub/club/party and slap your penis on the table and shout hey look at that, or see a girl you fancy and pull her to one side and pull down your trouser's and say take a look at that? a bit of mystery is better not have it all laid out like sausages in a butchers shop window lol its crass at best

No and I haven't insinuated I have. Although if you're trying to compare this site to a club or pub that's pretty ridiculous. yeah right thats what all men who bombard you with cock pics say "this is a swingers sex site get used to it blah blah blah"same old crap different day tbh "

Well when I do go to a swing party. I walk in and get undressed and walk around nude. I'm a man of action.

You see that's the problem . More people need to talk less and do more. Action's speak louder than words.

This is a sex site , not Facebook. If people would only log on when they are horny and looking for a meet , this site would work much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell? I have never worried about how others manage their profile or how they behave in regard to the messages that they either send or receive . .

Does it really matter if couples or ladies block all single men?. If they are really interested in a males profile I am sure that they would make an effort to contact them.

Please leave common sense and intelligence out of this discussion. The op can't meet a couple he wants , so it's the single guys fault "

I disagree, I see his point entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. not really he is just a guy who rightly realises

that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something

I'm good, thanks. Im not one for painting all guys a cock sending neanderthals. do you go into a pub/club/party and slap your penis on the table and shout hey look at that, or see a girl you fancy and pull her to one side and pull down your trouser's and say take a look at that? a bit of mystery is better not have it all laid out like sausages in a butchers shop window lol its crass at best

No and I haven't insinuated I have. Although if you're trying to compare this site to a club or pub that's pretty ridiculous."

I would say a sex site is comparable to a sex club, in that both are used by sexually liberated men and women to find sex. I think what the lady was saying was that a man looking for sex in a club, before any conversation takes place, would not take his cock out for women to inspect before they decide whether he's worth playing with. But when it comes to searching for sex on-line, even though it's the same or similar people, women are presented with a cock to check out before getting any other information. I would have thought that as both club and website serve the same purpose, then similar techniques would be adopted by men to tempt a women into bed. However it seems not.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

To the ladies and couples who are bombarded with pictures and messages you don't want to receive.. use the tools (filters etc) provided do your own searching ... Simple solution

To the op' you do it your way others will do it there's, I've always thought the cream rises to the top...

To those that can't find a 'genuine' guy whatever that means.. the popular guys the guys who get this... are already out there having fun and enjoying themselves amongst like-minded folk chances are they're not the ones messaging with cock pictures etc... Search them out they're worth the effort.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Yes, this is a sex site...but what many of the single guys do not understand is that most women are far from impressed by a single sentence accompanied by six pictures of a cock.

As another poster so ably points out, you wouldn't get your tackle out at a swingers club or sex party for inspection...you'd chat, flirt, exchange cheeky looks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the ladies and couples who are bombarded with pictures and messages you don't want to receive.. use the tools (filters etc) provided do your own searching ... Simple solution

To the op' you do it your way others will do it there's, I've always thought the cream rises to the top...

To those that can't find a 'genuine' guy whatever that means.. the popular guys the guys who get this... are already out there having fun and enjoying themselves amongst like-minded folk chances are they're not the ones messaging with cock pictures etc... Search them out they're worth the effort."

I sometimes wonder if I'm the only one who gets this.....i couldn't have put it better myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the ladies and couples who are bombarded with pictures and messages you don't want to receive.. use the tools (filters etc) provided do your own searching ... Simple solution

To the op' you do it your way others will do it there's, I've always thought the cream rises to the top...

To those that can't find a 'genuine' guy whatever that means.. the popular guys the guys who get this... are already out there having fun and enjoying themselves amongst like-minded folk chances are they're not the ones messaging with cock pictures etc... Search them out they're worth the effort."

Agree, I use my filters... And yes each to there own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is new take on it all. Guys slagging off the guys. Intresting approach

Its a standard "look at me, I'm different to all the other guys on here, I care blah blah blah" it's an old tactic to get womens attention. not really he is just a guy who rightly realises

that us ladies are sick to death of endless cock shots,i'd take a leaf out of his book my dear as you might learn something

I'm good, thanks. Im not one for painting all guys a cock sending neanderthals. do you go into a pub/club/party and slap your penis on the table and shout hey look at that, or see a girl you fancy and pull her to one side and pull down your trouser's and say take a look at that? a bit of mystery is better not have it all laid out like sausages in a butchers shop window lol its crass at best

No and I haven't insinuated I have. Although if you're trying to compare this site to a club or pub that's pretty ridiculous. yeah right thats what all men who bombard you with cock pics say "this is a swingers sex site get used to it blah blah blah"same old crap different day tbh

Well when I do go to a swing party. I walk in and get undressed and walk around nude. I'm a man of action.

You see that's the problem . More people need to talk less and do more. Action's speak louder than words.

This is a sex site , not Facebook. If people would only log on when they are horny and looking for a meet , this site would work much better. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the ladies and couples who are bombarded with pictures and messages you don't want to receive.. use the tools (filters etc) provided do your own searching ... Simple solution

To the op' you do it your way others will do it there's, I've always thought the cream rises to the top...

To those that can't find a 'genuine' guy whatever that means.. the popular guys the guys who get this... are already out there having fun and enjoying themselves amongst like-minded folk chances are they're not the ones messaging with cock pictures etc... Search them out they're worth the effort.

I sometimes wonder if I'm the only one who gets this.....i couldn't have put it better myself. "

No I get it too. We've become friends with some super guys over the past year and a half. They make up a small proportion of Fab, but it's true they are out there having fun.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

You are a trouble maker and do not speak for all women.

The next thing you will say is women want romance and affection. "

No, I just regularly disagree with you and I say so.

I wasn't speaking for all women, that was my opinion and when I generalised I said "tend".

The number of women saying the same thing on this thread and the many others on this subject should make the situation clear. I expect it does to those men who don't have their fingers in their ears as they loudly sing, "lalala, I'm right, I'm right, I'm not listening, lalala".

Listen, be what women meet, get meets or don't and don't. It's entirely an individual choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and if all else fails post a thread on here and see if they notice you

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"On the flip side with a lot of guys having no sense of how to approach things it makes the good ones stand out. "

Exactly

Stop whining about other guys and make yourself look good

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


" This is a sex site , not Facebook."

It's a swinging site not a sex site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

You are a trouble maker and do not speak for all women.

The next thing you will say is women want romance and affection.

No, I just regularly disagree with you and I say so.

I wasn't speaking for all women, that was my opinion and when I generalised I said "tend".

The number of women saying the same thing on this thread and the many others on this subject should make the situation clear. I expect it does to those men who don't have their fingers in their ears as they loudly sing, "lalala, I'm right, I'm right, I'm not listening, lalala".

Listen, be what women meet, get meets or don't and don't. It's entirely an individual choice."

Well I will continue to send fancy a fuck messages accompanied by multiple cock pics. The people who just want to have sex will meet me. The Facebook crowd who want free coffee, pints , dinners and lifelong friends won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site "

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site "

Ooh hypocrite much?

I can't speak for all women (which I wasn't anyway) but you can decide on the ultimate definition of swinging and speak for all swingers

That may be what swinging is *to you*. In case you hadn't noticed, not everyone is like you.

Being a single person, a lot of swingers would contend that you can't even be a swinger!

But yeah women who don't like cock pics and fancy a fuck messages must just not want to have sex.

I mean, despite being one of those women, I obviously wouldn't know anything relevant or useful on the subject.

LALALA I'M NOT LISTENING LALALA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Ooh hypocrite much?

I can't speak for all women (which I wasn't anyway) but you can decide on the ultimate definition of swinging and speak for all swingers

That may be what swinging is *to you*. In case you hadn't noticed, not everyone is like you.

Being a single person, a lot of swingers would contend that you can't even be a swinger!

But yeah women who don't like cock pics and fancy a fuck messages must just not want to have sex.

I mean, despite being one of those women, I obviously wouldn't know anything relevant or useful on the subject.

LALALA I'M NOT LISTENING LALALA"

Totally agree! Anyone who send me fuck messages and cock messages goes straight to the bin!Yes is about sex but isn't like many guys think it is! A prostitute you pay and say what you wish! Not here !I don't appreciate those kind of messages! I like to learn a bit more about the person.Before sex is mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"and if all else fails post a thread on here and see if they notice you "

I'll bump that for you incase nobody else saw or thought the same

Whatever I think how men or women act, we are all going to act differently here, and that's why there will be so much choice for so many different people. Diversity will always be more exciting than monotany.

So to argue for the other side, yes, if woman want to find knobs they will find knobs here.

And if they want to wait for a gent who will treat them with respect, and then give them what they're looking for sexually. They themselves probably will just have to be patient. Those type of men are here, as it shows in threads just like this.*

* It has all been said before, but I was initially talking from my personal point of view, which means nothing to some. My views will never change, and I can't change theirs.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Ooh hypocrite much?

I can't speak for all women (which I wasn't anyway) but you can decide on the ultimate definition of swinging and speak for all swingers

That may be what swinging is *to you*. In case you hadn't noticed, not everyone is like you.

Being a single person, a lot of swingers would contend that you can't even be a swinger!

But yeah women who don't like cock pics and fancy a fuck messages must just not want to have sex.

I mean, despite being one of those women, I obviously wouldn't know anything relevant or useful on the subject.

LALALA I'M NOT LISTENING LALALA"

I find it ironic when some single men protest that 'this is a sex site!'. I suspect a lot of the women and couples, who complain about men with a crass approach, are getting a hell of a lot more sex than these men. There are also men out there (men I know personally, and many I have played with) having regular NSA sex. These guys don't dish out stupid messages accompanied by cock pics - they don't need to!

So it is a sex site? Is it a swing site? To the guys who show off pictures of their dicks like strutting peacocks, instead actually having regular NSA sex, I don't see how they are using this site as either. But many of these guys have the audacity to say (when women insist on a social meet, or object to cock pics and 'fancy a shag' messages) 'but this is a sex site!'. Yes I know it's a sex site. And NSA sex is exactly what I'm getting!

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By *ifestoooooshortMan
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to them

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

Totally sympathise with this!? I don't mail a lot and I've had a skmilat situation recently with someone I really did think fitted the bill and we were going through the initial ice breaking stuff...then all males blocked!?

I know females are bombarded and it's a fine line between us guys being pleasantly persistent and a pain in the ass but it is frustrating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Ooh hypocrite much?

I can't speak for all women (which I wasn't anyway) but you can decide on the ultimate definition of swinging and speak for all swingers

That may be what swinging is *to you*. In case you hadn't noticed, not everyone is like you.

Being a single person, a lot of swingers would contend that you can't even be a swinger!

But yeah women who don't like cock pics and fancy a fuck messages must just not want to have sex.

I mean, despite being one of those women, I obviously wouldn't know anything relevant or useful on the subject.

LALALA I'M NOT LISTENING LALALA

Totally agree! Anyone who send me fuck messages and cock messages goes straight to the bin!Yes is about sex but isn't like many guys think it is! A prostitute you pay and say what you wish! Not here !I don't appreciate those kind of messages! I like to learn a bit more about the person.Before sex is mentioned. "

So you wouldn't answer if he was good looking,

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By *ifestoooooshortMan
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics "

I'm finding this out!!! Never posted a cock pic on my previous profile but did this time and must say got far more attention ...it was a sort to test to see if it's all bull!?? But now I get more attention but not from the quality of people I'd like?! It's s tough one to call??

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Ooh hypocrite much?

I can't speak for all women (which I wasn't anyway) but you can decide on the ultimate definition of swinging and speak for all swingers

That may be what swinging is *to you*. In case you hadn't noticed, not everyone is like you.

Being a single person, a lot of swingers would contend that you can't even be a swinger!

But yeah women who don't like cock pics and fancy a fuck messages must just not want to have sex.

I mean, despite being one of those women, I obviously wouldn't know anything relevant or useful on the subject.

LALALA I'M NOT LISTENING LALALA

Totally agree! Anyone who send me fuck messages and cock messages goes straight to the bin!Yes is about sex but isn't like many guys think it is! A prostitute you pay and say what you wish! Not here !I don't appreciate those kind of messages! I like to learn a bit more about the person.Before sex is mentioned.

So you wouldn't answer if he was good looking, "
how the hell would she be able to tell when all that is sent is a cock pics first,don't you get it?

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By *ifestoooooshortMan
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"Very commendable OP but most of the idiots that send the cock pics don't tend to frequent the forums...

They are far too busy looking for unrealistic angles to photograph their cocks in to make them look bigger "

Haha MsFox!! I'm starting to realise the only way to show people you're s good guy and have a personality is via the forums and not through endless messaging!

Now where's my wife angled lense gone!? Lol

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics

I'm finding this out!!! Never posted a cock pic on my previous profile but did this time and must say got far more attention ...it was a sort to test to see if it's all bull!?? But now I get more attention but not from the quality of people I'd like?! It's s tough one to call?? "
the men i meet don't need to send pics of their cocks and are not dickheads please forgive the pun

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over a year ago


"Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics

I'm finding this out!!! Never posted a cock pic on my previous profile but did this time and must say got far more attention ...it was a sort to test to see if it's all bull!?? But now I get more attention but not from the quality of people I'd like?! It's s tough one to call?? "

A point I've said before. you will increase your odds as you now appeal to more people who just want a cock that you didn't attract before. But those who were attracted to you, because of the way you carried yourself has decreased because as we all know - for each action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. ( I when the to high school )

Swings and round a bouts, horses for courses etc..

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics

I'm finding this out!!! Never posted a cock pic on my previous profile but did this time and must say got far more attention ...it was a sort to test to see if it's all bull!?? But now I get more attention but not from the quality of people I'd like?! It's s tough one to call??

A point I've said before. you will increase your odds as you now appeal to more people who just want a cock that you didn't attract before. But those who were attracted to you, because of the way you carried yourself has decreased because as we all know - for each action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. ( I when the to high school )

Swings and round a bouts, horses for courses etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site "

Swinging is whatever you want it to be. Some swingers just want sex and no friendship, others enjoy the lifestyle because they like to fuck their friends. Historically swinging is more associated with couples getting together socially and ending up exchanging partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site "

Naturist. Naturalists are people who like nature.

It may be about sex first (as is everything to some people) but you do not whip it out in a "normal" club before the woman has seen your face and exchanged a few sentences with you. No one has cancelled manners.

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Naturist. Naturalists are people who like nature.

It may be about sex first (as is everything to some people) but you do not whip it out in a "normal" club before the woman has seen your face and exchanged a few sentences with you. No one has cancelled manners."
well many of the men who flood you with cock pics and wanna fuck messages lack manner class and decorum, so that is why many women won't meet and they don't get it why many women hate such stuff

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By *ifestoooooshortMan
over a year ago

Middle Earth


"A lot of the men on here are total idiots with no idea what they're doing and reeking of desperation.

Yep they spoil it for the rest.

I used to think the crap guys make it easier for the rest because they make the good ones stand out.

Recently I'm changing my mind and think I agree with this again.

The crap guys are so crap they are an utter turn off. Lately I've noticed many very horny sexual women get so sick to death of the crap men that they've actually gone off sex. "

There are some good ones Ladies...me included?!!? It's a fine line between pleasantly persistent and pain in the ass!? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Naturist. Naturalists are people who like nature.

It may be about sex first (as is everything to some people) but you do not whip it out in a "normal" club before the woman has seen your face and exchanged a few sentences with you. No one has cancelled manners. well many of the men who flood you with cock pics and wanna fuck messages lack manner class and decorum, so that is why many women won't meet and they don't get it why many women hate such stuff "

Total BS! You're honestly as a grown woman, who is heavily outnumbered by men, trying to convince the whole forum that this is the reason you have never met anyone? Surely you have come across one man that doesn't fit the description you've mentioned.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"On the flip side with a lot of guys having no sense of how to approach things it makes the good ones stand out.

That's why I'll never help on the "what am I doing wrong???" Threads. Best leave those that can't work out that a 1 line profile and "I need to unload my cock" statuses arnt going to work, as they are.

D"

So it's not just me who leaves the knob-heads to their own lonely ruin?

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Help me out, I'm trying to think of a term for a gathering of white knights. A roundtable? What about a circlejerk of white knights?

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By *ifestoooooshortMan
over a year ago

Middle Earth

Agreed!!

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Naturist. Naturalists are people who like nature.

It may be about sex first (as is everything to some people) but you do not whip it out in a "normal" club before the woman has seen your face and exchanged a few sentences with you. No one has cancelled manners. well many of the men who flood you with cock pics and wanna fuck messages lack manner class and decorum, so that is why many women won't meet and they don't get it why many women hate such stuff

Total BS! You're honestly as a grown woman, who is heavily outnumbered by men, trying to convince the whole forum that this is the reason you have never met anyone? Surely you have come across one man that doesn't fit the description you've mentioned. "
who said i never meet anyone lol i do meet and the men i meet don't rely on dick pics

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Naturist. Naturalists are people who like nature.

It may be about sex first (as is everything to some people) but you do not whip it out in a "normal" club before the woman has seen your face and exchanged a few sentences with you. No one has cancelled manners. well many of the men who flood you with cock pics and wanna fuck messages lack manner class and decorum, so that is why many women won't meet and they don't get it why many women hate such stuff

Total BS! You're honestly as a grown woman, who is heavily outnumbered by men, trying to convince the whole forum that this is the reason you have never met anyone? Surely you have come across one man that doesn't fit the description you've mentioned. who said i never meet anyone lol i do meet and the men i meet don't rely on dick pics "
they leave that stuff for the rampant sex in the bedroom where it belongs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly guys just don't get the fact that cock pics are a turn off for most women.

Personally I don't ever respond to mail with a cock pic avatar or if they send pics "

Totally spot on. Let's face it we ladies know what one looks like, we don't need to be reminded!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been sent and also seen cock pics which have been limp, alarmingly red, spotty, bent, resembling a cocktail sausage that wouldn't look out of place in the chiller section of a supermarket, cock shots badly taken with too much glare - the list is endless...guys, cock pics are good to send privately within the context of a sizzling liason but not as a way of a sweetener to get us ladies into bed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" This is a sex site , not Facebook.

It's a swinging site not a sex site

Yes but swinging is about sex first , friendship second.

If I wanted a bunch of friends that I didn't want to have sex with but look at naked. I would have join a naturalist site

Ooh hypocrite much?

I can't speak for all women (which I wasn't anyway) but you can decide on the ultimate definition of swinging and speak for all swingers

That may be what swinging is *to you*. In case you hadn't noticed, not everyone is like you.

Being a single person, a lot of swingers would contend that you can't even be a swinger!

But yeah women who don't like cock pics and fancy a fuck messages must just not want to have sex.

I mean, despite being one of those women, I obviously wouldn't know anything relevant or useful on the subject.

LALALA I'M NOT LISTENING LALALA

Totally agree! Anyone who send me fuck messages and cock messages goes straight to the bin!Yes is about sex but isn't like many guys think it is! A prostitute you pay and say what you wish! Not here !I don't appreciate those kind of messages! I like to learn a bit more about the person.Before sex is mentioned.

So you wouldn't answer if he was good looking, "

Good looking don't make them a good person or a good fuck! Actually I think the ugly ones are the best in bed because is all about please the ladies not full of themselves! So the answer is no.

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land


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I don't mind a cock pic - what I don't like is - meet me now, or, meet without hubby

Guys if you want to pic someone up and get your

Cock Wet without any social interaction - spend £25 and sort a prostitute #instantblock

25 quid for a prostitute

Where can you find these women? I'm asking for a friend "

Coventry! (And they're open to offers if you have a full pack of cigs - apparently!!!)

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"They don't know that women are generally stimulated differently, because women are not good at articulating their sexuality.

Many also don't listen when they are told because it doesn't suit what they want to believe.

How often is it said here that women tend not to like close-up cock pics? Forum users at least should not be unaware of it.

Some listen but most try to justify it. But, but, but women show their fannies so that's double standards. You should want to see it because who buys a car without looking at the engine?

To me the "engine" of sex is the mind. A cock is just part of the running gear. It's integral to the machinery and the process of sex but it's of no particular interest.

Rather than change, they try to convince us we're wrong and we should change. I don't know why this is but it's how it is.

Men are proud of their cocks. I get that. They think we should find it appealing too.

They don't get that most of us need our minds to be engaged before our bodies will follow.

If someone turns me on and draws me in mentally, I'm more likely to find his cock appealing.

A guy who is totally in my head sent me a video of him wanking yesterday and it's absolutely a turn on. If I'd seen it before the mental appeal was there, however, it would have been just another cock and of little to no interest at best.

This is all so true

And I think you are right, and I've wondered this for a while - men are proud of their cocks! They WANT to show them off, and their need to do that is so great that it doesn't matter that they run a huge risk of turning someone off. Like that man who drove you away by sending you a video you hadn't asked for. Women who don't appreciate a cock pic are spoiling it for them, thus it gets justified that we must be in the wrong. A man showing off his erect penis must be like a peacock displaying his fanned tail to the peahen - a primeval need. But women, as especially women on the swing scene, are generally much more sophisticated in their sexual needs.

the ironic thing is that the research would suggest differently. A study by Veale 08 shhowed that out of a sample of a 173 men almost all had a desire for a larger penis. stuy by channel 4 suggested that 80% of married/in a relationship had a desre for a penis that is 2.2 inches longer and extra inch in girth, only 46% of their partners desired that their man had a larger penis.

in April in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, found that women preferred larger penises only up to a point (anything bigger than a flaccid length of 2.99 inches (7.59 centimeters) did not additionally impress women), and preferences also varied based on a guy's height. A 2012 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found similarly ambivalent female preferences. In that study, women who experienced frequent vaginal orgasms were much more likely than other women to express an interest in better-endowed guys. For women who didn't prefer vaginal orgasms, penis size was a far less pressing matter.

That is hardly conclusive evidence , survey of 173 men!!"

173 is quite a large medical study, but to cross reference with the rest of society it can not. another limitation with this is that was an internet survey think who is most likley to enter a search term to do with penis size, (possibly those who are anxious about their size).

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By *teve197_ukMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Well said.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"There are some good ones Ladies...me included?!!?"

You seem nice in here. But your profile pics would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a new profile pop up. I hot listed it after I read & saw that our circumstances might just match. A nice description told me I fit them, and they fit me. I didn't jump on them, I let them fit in, hopefully see them on the forum.

Within 5 days they have blocked all men because in their words - too many cock pics have been sent to themquite agree I would never send a cock pic and always am polite just good manners

Guys show some decorum, have some respect for them and yourselves.

I can't describe what you all must look like to the girls. There's very few girls who match you, why would you throw your end game at her and find she doesn't like it? What did you all expect. Try your A game. Be the best man you can be. Maybe you will get to see the best girl she can be for you.

There are not many people I could mail, or I would want to mail. But they are there, and I would at least like a chance to chat to them. Again, the masses have spoiled it for the few.

I'm so annoyed, can you tell?"

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

If photo's of dodgy cocks isn't bad enough have to put up with crap spelling too lol.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I sometimes assume that some guys on here are pretty useless with the objects of their desire outside of Fab. Often said, that there are those who think women here are easy to get shags with.

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By *handi83Man
over a year ago

Right here


"This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?"

I quite agree, this site should be about empowerment and sexual Liberty and freeness (spot the bohemian, hipster from the bunch). I'm always respectful and polite and nine pushy. It may take time but good things come to those who wait. It's not just on here though I've lots of female friends on dating websites who get the same. The worst one I've heard from here is a woman being asked if she has sex with animals?! What the chuff! Pack it in boys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before we all get too PC, what really is wrong with cock pics on a swinger site?

Women constantly flash their tits and arses. No one is moaning about them. I like to know what is on offer before i waste time chatting... I don't want a relationship, to marry them or have their children. I am looking for sexy nsa fun and for that a cock is the key part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before we all get too PC, what really is wrong with cock pics on a swinger site?

Women constantly flash their tits and arses. No one is moaning about them. I like to know what is on offer before i waste time chatting... I don't want a relationship, to marry them or have their children. I am looking for sexy nsa fun and for that a cock is the key part. "

Nothing wrong with it as such, but I personally don't enjoy the sight of a bodiless cock, so will deviate to profiles with images I do find sexy. I guess men don't moan about pictures of tits and arses because they like pictures of tits and arses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooooo... Having said how atrocious it is for fellas having it all on show, would everyone decry the ladies displaying all their wares?...

This isn't about women here. It's about the way guys initiate contact and how it's massively outweighed with vulgarity, and how the guys are so stupid, they don't even know that they are doing it. They try to justify it.

I'm not on my own am I?"

No because us bi guys get it too, like you are going to meet someone on the basis of a nice cock. Most have no profile content or pictures at all. I have now blocked men and I contact who I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before we all get too PC, what really is wrong with cock pics on a swinger site?

Women constantly flash their tits and arses. No one is moaning about them. I like to know what is on offer before i waste time chatting... I don't want a relationship, to marry them or have their children. I am looking for sexy nsa fun and for that a cock is the key part. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before we all get too PC, what really is wrong with cock pics on a swinger site?

Women constantly flash their tits and arses. No one is moaning about them. I like to know what is on offer before i waste time chatting... I don't want a relationship, to marry them or have their children. I am looking for sexy nsa fun and for that a cock is the key part. "

Don't worry nobody wants to marry you either! Don't you know women and men are not only different physically,but also mentally! A guy is turned on with a bit of flesh!Can you tell me how a cock pictures shows what is in offer? Firstly pictures can play tricks,small cocks different angles, to look huge!secondly it may not work in real life! Anyway everybody who sends me a cock pictures will be deleted !I rather meet a man who think with his brains,than a man who thinks with his cock!

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