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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, I need some advice I was talking to a woman who is married but powers with other men. We live close by but as far as she knows we don't know each other but I was able to find her Facebook profile, she left the information on her other site profile and if I am able to figure it out others will too. I'm not looking to blackmail her or anything, I'm just afraid to say something to her about it in case I get accused of it. Thing is should I say something or nothing at all. I would definitely not say anything if only I could figure it out but other people could also figure it out. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you be looking for her Facebook profile or other information in the first place??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, I need some advice I was talking to a woman who is married but powers with other men. We live close by but as far as she knows we don't know each other but I was able to find her Facebook profile, she left the information on her other site profile and if I am able to figure it out others will too. I'm not looking to blackmail her or anything, I'm just afraid to say something to her about it in case I get accused of it. Thing is should I say something or nothing at all. I would definitely not say anything if only I could figure it out but other people could also figure it out. Thanks"

how odd

seems a bit creepy that you would look on FB tbh...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Her identity is on a picture she has up and I checked to see if I was right and a bit curious to be honest. Listen guys there is no malice on my part here. Just saying if I could figure it out someone else definitely will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Her identity is on a picture she has up and I checked to see if I was right and a bit curious to be honest. Listen guys there is no malice on my part here. Just saying if I could figure it out someone else definitely will"

yes but maybe someone may not want to?

there is no easy way to break it to her that you checked her out on FB just to 'see how easy it is'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not looking to blackmail her or anything....??? Why on earth would you even think to write that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Her identity is on a picture she has up and I checked to see if I was right and a bit curious to be honest. Listen guys there is no malice on my part here. Just saying if I could figure it out someone else definitely will"

Then leave it to her. She is a grown up.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hi guys, I need some advice I was talking to a woman who is married but powers with other men. We live close by but as far as she knows we don't know each other but I was able to find her Facebook profile, she left the information on her other site profile and if I am able to figure it out others will too. I'm not looking to blackmail her or anything, I'm just afraid to say something to her about it in case I get accused of it. Thing is should I say something or nothing at all. I would definitely not say anything if only I could figure it out but other people could also figure it out. Thanks"

Just leave her to do whatever she wants. It's not your concern.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Leave it be. Not your concern.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not looking to blackmail her or anything....??? Why on earth would you even think to write that "
. Because others could. I'm being realistic here. That could happen in the wrong hands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not looking to blackmail her or anything....??? Why on earth would you even think to write that "

oh here?

you have to cover all basis

people accuse you of alsorts

i dont find that an odd thing to say on here at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will definitely leave it now. Judging by some responses. Just if I made that mistake I would like someone to point it out before maybe my family or someone worse saw it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say

"Look petal, I don't wish to alarm you, but I was on Facebook the other night and had a nose and I found you. If I found you, others might. Maybe time to check privacy settings, just in case".

She'll either thank you or block you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just say

"Look petal, I don't wish to alarm you, but I was on Facebook the other night and had a nose and I found you. If I found you, others might. Maybe time to check privacy settings, just in case".

She'll either thank you or block you."
that's what I thought too but not so sure judging by some of the responses. Thanks though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just say

"Look petal, I don't wish to alarm you, but I was on Facebook the other night and had a nose and I found you. If I found you, others might. Maybe time to check privacy settings, just in case".

She'll either thank you or block you."

Or shag you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd just mention it to her in a non alarming way, loads of people aren't aware how easy it is to trace someone with the simplest information. Just mention it though, no need to mention blackmail etc.

It's good to look out for other people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just say

"Look petal, I don't wish to alarm you, but I was on Facebook the other night and had a nose and I found you. If I found you, others might. Maybe time to check privacy settings, just in case".

She'll either thank you or block you. that's what I thought too but not so sure judging by some of the responses. Thanks though"

Great advice , think positive. She might thank you and give you a shag..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd just mention it to her in a non alarming way, loads of people aren't aware how easy it is to trace someone with the simplest information. Just mention it though, no need to mention blackmail etc.

It's good to look out for other people "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just say

"Look petal, I don't wish to alarm you, but I was on Facebook the other night and had a nose and I found you. If I found you, others might. Maybe time to check privacy settings, just in case".

She'll either thank you or block you. that's what I thought too but not so sure judging by some of the responses. Thanks though

Great advice , think positive. She might thank you and give you a shag.. "
. Ha ha, I know her and she is definitely not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not looking to blackmail her or anything....??? Why on earth would you even think to write that "

Indeed OP will be buying a bunny to boil next !!!!

Very creepy indeed

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

JHC what a bunch of judgmental puddings. I've seen people give out info that makes them easily identifiable and have told them so. The op is obviously a good guy and has a fellow swingers best interests at heart. End of. Honest to Bod the swinging "community" needs a foot up the arse with attitudes like this how are we ever going to draw together and fight cheap newspapers if you can't see something as simple as this? Pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assumed OP Google reversed her image just to check if she was legit or fake to be honest, which is standard practice if you're a little sceptical

I doubt he was actively looking for her Facebook

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

If I was her I'd want to know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"JHC what a bunch of judgmental puddings. I've seen people give out info that makes them easily identifiable and have told them so. The op is obviously a good guy and has a fellow swingers best interests at heart. End of. Honest to Bod the swinging "community" needs a foot up the arse with attitudes like this how are we ever going to draw together and fight cheap newspapers if you can't see something as simple as this? Pathetic. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, I need some advice I was talking to a woman who is married but powers with other men. We live close by but as far as she knows we don't know each other but I was able to find her Facebook profile, she left the information on her other site profile and if I am able to figure it out others will too. I'm not looking to blackmail her or anything, I'm just afraid to say something to her about it in case I get accused of it. Thing is should I say something or nothing at all. I would definitely not say anything if only I could figure it out but other people could also figure it out. Thanks"

Genuine question, not an accusation but why did you look for it?

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By *exydoctorsCouple
over a year ago

Galway/Clare

Early days when I was probably over the top about my and my wife's anonymity, I used to check what I could to verify people were real. I ended up telling one girl i could find out where she worked and her full name on the basis of the info she told me that she thought did not give that away.

I'm still meeting her so that's a good sign lol. But she did say she temporarily wondered was I a bit stalky, but appreciated the sentiment of trying to keep her safe.

So could go either way depending on the person. Personally I feel some people don't realize how little information you need to actually find someone online so i felt obliged to tell her.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Maybe I'm just being thick.... But I do t really get what your saying.

Is it that she has used a pic on here that is also on her Facebook?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

OP if you feel you need to say something to her, why not just say, 'look you popped up on my Facebook and I obviously recognised you, others will too, might be worth checking your privacy settings'

Other than that, just block on there and leave it. I've had people find me on there, and tried to use it against me, it can turn nasty.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Maybe I'm just being thick.... But I do t really get what your saying.

Is it that she has used a pic on here that is also on her Facebook? "

She used information on here that led to him being able to find her on Facebook. People put way too much personal information on the net and it only takes one vindictive person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"JHC what a bunch of judgmental puddings. I've seen people give out info that makes them easily identifiable and have told them so. The op is obviously a good guy and has a fellow swingers best interests at heart. End of. Honest to Bod the swinging "community" needs a foot up the arse with attitudes like this how are we ever going to draw together and fight cheap newspapers if you can't see something as simple as this?

Pathetic. "

Love this response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I would mention it in a nice way. I had an issue similar to this once because I didn't quite know how to use an app properly and my full name was showing. The person I was talking to menfioned it to me and I was very grateful because I wouldn't have known otherwise (it was something they could see on their end that I didn't realize they could see).

Anyway, I think it would be the right thing to do. She might block you though, as now that you know personal information about her she may not want to take things further. But do the right thing and let her know.

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By *ltravioletWoman
over a year ago

In amongst the Unicorns & fairy dust


"OP, I would mention it in a nice way. I had an issue similar to this once because I didn't quite know how to use an app properly and my full name was showing. The person I was talking to menfioned it to me and I was very grateful because I wouldn't have known otherwise (it was something they could see on their end that I didn't realize they could see).

Anyway, I think it would be the right thing to do. She might block you though, as now that you know personal information about her she may not want to take things further. But do the right thing and let her know. "
I totally agree with this - I would like someone to tell me - I would probably thank the person very much then block - I had a scare a few months ago when a male set up a profile and used my avatar pic ( not this one ) as his own ! He then messaged me to say he'd copied all my public and friends pics ( I'd not invited him as friend ) and would be distributing to everyone who I knew ( that was the spooky part) Stupidly he got through my filters as he had an avatar pic of half his face at first - so I showed my close friends and reported to a local policeman I know quite well along with the messages he'd sent - so its on file now - so yes I would like to know

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