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Been on here quite a while and not had 1 meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best "

A good start would be to put together an insightful profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put the effort in

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth


"Write a profile "

And get rid of the three cock pics and add one's of your bum etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate updates like who's up for a fuck so wouldn't message for that and you've put no effort into your profile and the few words you do have have spelling mistakes

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

What's a guyou?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure ur profile is in detail about u what u like and ur sexual preffenses x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have face pics and cock pics private

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By *astleman46Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Mate i have every sympathy with you whatever you try this site is mostly full of idiots and timewasters so its near impossible to get a meet of your a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just gotta strike it lucky

I'm on here for single guys

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

yeah... um... fabswingers hasn't started changing people by the word quite you... so may i suggest that you use a few more than you currently do....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely disagree with above. I started as a single guy and never struggled.

As they say put the effort in to your profile. Make sure your clear about what your looking for and what you can offer (this doesn't mean claiming to be the best fuck in the world) same with pictures, I had no public cock pics at all. Don't ask for a meet after 2 messages, put a bit of time in getting to know them. Or get down to a club and meet real people!

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile text says you are 5 foot although your details say 5'8" I don't think this is the problem I think just generally you are not trying hard enough. You will only get back 1% of what you put in. Unless you are lucky like me and have to fight them off. Get to a club and have a laugh. This sex stuff is not supposed to be taken seriously.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

You need to put more effort into your profile. Would you really enjoy sex with a college student one week and then have a delightful rendezvous with a 88 year old great granny the following week ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put the effort in "

Exactly this! If your approach isn't working then change your approach.

When I first started on here I tried messaging all the people in my locale and got the grand total of zero interest. I realised that i needed to try something different and started going to clubs and attending socials, I got verified and made friends and the rest is history.

Einstein stated that the definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best "

You are verified. Who did that then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best "

With a limited profile your best bet is to go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best

You are verified. Who did that then? "

Post more cock pics... Don't forger the sky remote for comparison , and try a few in the bathroom ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend""

Love it

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best "

I've no idea how you can improve, I don't know what you're doing,.. there are however countless threads offering generic advice in the archives. have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your sexual orientation and start messaging the gay and bi fraternity.You'll be inundated with requests to meet then.

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best "

Strange, your profile say's you are verified?

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By *umpPumpyMan
over a year ago

London


"You just gotta strike it lucky

I'm on here for single guys "

Oh well in that case I'll make myself known to you seeing as we live in the same city and I've yet to get your attention in other ways

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I'm afraid most, not all, on here are as shallow as a petri dish. If you are under 40 with a fit body or a large appendage you will have no problem. For the rest of us regardless of effort or what's on your profile it's about being lucky enough to come across the right people who will appreciate your efforts and take the time to talk to you.

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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Mate i have every sympathy with you whatever you try this site is mostly full of idiots and timewasters so its near impossible to get a meet of your a single guy."

You seem to have done okay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend"

Love it "

Haha. Perfect,

if your not clear with this, ask for s YouTube video demonstration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid most, not all, on here are as shallow as a petri dish. If you are under 40 with a fit body or a large appendage you will have no problem. For the rest of us regardless of effort or what's on your profile it's about being lucky enough to come across the right people who will appreciate your efforts and take the time to talk to you. "

I agree, as a bi male i try to meet men as much as women. This site is spoilt by a load of idiots who want you to drop everything and fuck them before you even see a face pic. I know they treat women the same way as I recently had a contact on a Sunday morning from a sweet local lady, by afternoon she had deleted her account due to the number of forceful impolite emails of the same type that I get. This site is a shadow of what it used to be. I used to swing as a couple and the attitude of most men even at socials was enough to put us off attending any more. The scene is too clicky. The only way to meet is to go to clubs or in my case gay bars and meet face to face where people can appreciate your personality. Even then when chatting to friends people will try and butt in and try to outdo you. It is a meat market and I for one have had enough. I still come here to chat but it is not worth the effort anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite quickly I lost the urge to mail people, when I saw they were not read for a week after, and finding such negativity on the forum (yes mostly from men).

I accept lots of reasons for this, but when I look back, I wasn't even socialising sexually with anyone, and now I am. So people will find different things here.

But I don't think it is, or it ever was a - sign up get sex - forum.

If your alright with that, you'll be much happier, or you will leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why doesn't everyone just say what they're thinking

I will...

Your profile is dull! Is that really the best pic you have?

Your profile content is non existent and lacks effort or imagination

You say you are "average"

You use "u" again lazy!!

So to be honest I'm not surprised you haven't had a meet and you won't get one unless you make your profile more appealing!

I accept strawberries as a way of thanking me for my time and advice

Have a nice day

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Echoing some earlier advice...

Think of your profile as your shop front. What are you offering? What do you enjoy? What kind of a person are you?

Sell yourself, stand out from the crowd. There are 10 men for each lady here, and many of those ladies get multiple messages at all hours of the day expecting them to drop whatever they are doing so some wally can empty his balls with scant consideration to her pleasure. Stand out from that crowd.

Write a proper profile. Look at guys who are getting meets and see what their profiles are like. Consider visiting a club to get to meet other people on the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why doesn't everyone just say what they're thinking

I will...

Your profile is dull! Is that really the best pic you have?

Your profile content is non existent and lacks effort or imagination

You say you are "average"

You use "u" again lazy!!

So to be honest I'm not surprised you haven't had a meet and you won't get one unless you make your profile more appealing!

I accept strawberries as a way of thanking me for my time and advice

Have a nice day "

Totally This.

You need some artistic photos, good angles and good colour filters.

Stand out from the crowd.

Take a nose at my profile, I'm not skinny, I don't have massive boobs and I ain't pretty. But I can take a good photo (I think)

At the end of the day,You're advertising yourself. Be waitrose, not aldi xx

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"You need to put more effort into your profile. Would you really enjoy sex with a college student one week and then have a delightful rendezvous with a 88 year old great granny the following week ? "

Not ageist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to put more effort into your profile. Would you really enjoy sex with a college student one week and then have a delightful rendezvous with a 88 year old great granny the following week ?

Not ageist! "
very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best "
just looked at ur profile u got no info have a look at mine thats the sort of info they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best just looked at ur profile u got no info have a look at mine thats the sort of info they want "

WOW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best just looked at ur profile u got no info have a look at mine thats the sort of info they want "

Try using spell check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone help me advise how to get a meet to get verified it's hard work but trying my best just looked at ur profile u got no info have a look at mine thats the sort of info they want

Try using spell check "
very nice

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

Paragraphs!

One big jumble of words makes things very difficult to read.

Many people that are faced with a big block of words just don't bother going any further.

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