FabSwingers.com forum: Message advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello everyone,

Just thought I'd post to here to see if I'm doing something wrong. I've sent out plenty of messages to women in my area and I don't appear to get any replies.

I'm always polite and try to engage things on their profile but I never get any responses.

Just wondering if there's anything I could try or be doing wrong?

Thanks,

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people tend to look at a profile before opening a message. Do you send a face photo?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was hoping I'd just send face photos later on. Normally just attach my profile photo instead. Do you think that's it then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was hoping I'd just send face photos later on. Normally just attach my profile photo instead. Do you think that's it then?"

Possibly. IMO it's best to swap face pictures earlier on to gauge if there's a mutual attraction.

Do you just send messages to all women, or do you read their profiles to see if you fit the image of what they're looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people prefer guys to send a face pic straight away, I personally wouldn't need one with first message but very soon after. As said above most people look at a profile before responding to a message, you need to make sure you stand out from the crowd. To many cock pics is a bad thing. Let your personality shine through

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was hoping I'd just send face photos later on. Normally just attach my profile photo instead. Do you think that's it then?

Possibly. IMO it's best to swap face pictures earlier on to gauge if there's a mutual attraction.

Do you just send messages to all women, or do you read their profiles to see if you fit the image of what they're looking for?"

Okay thanks, I usually read their profile to see if they're what I'm looking for and try to engage them in relation to what it says on their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people prefer guys to send a face pic straight away, I personally wouldn't need one with first message but very soon after. As said above most people look at a profile before responding to a message, you need to make sure you stand out from the crowd. To many cock pics is a bad thing. Let your personality shine through

Poppy"

Okay thanks poppy,

I think I probably haven't been showing much of my personality, need to send less generic/robotic messages then? Haha thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always look at the profile if we are at all interested by the content of a message. If the profile is not of interest, we do not reply to the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello everyone,

Just thought I'd post to here to see if I'm doing something wrong. I've sent out plenty of messages to women in my area and I don't appear to get any replies.

I'm always polite and try to engage things on their profile but I never get any responses.

Just wondering if there's anything I could try or be doing wrong?

Thanks,

John"

What you're doing wrong is you have a cock and balls and you dare to message the women on here! It's the same for all of us, I wouldn't worry too much...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be very honest, we will delete any message from a single guy where no face pic is included with the first message. We also delete messages from profiles where the photos are predominantly cock pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's honestly not personal but when as a couple we can get 30 messages a day (and I'm assuming women get even more) you can't reply to them all. And it they're just 1 liners and not at all engaging, I admit we do just hit delete. It's just too much traffic and has to be something special to stand out.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

It could be a number of things: it could be your age, as some wouldn't meet anyone around your age, because they have children the old, and sometimes sending a unsolicited cock pic in the first message is a put off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe....try some humour instead

This message(as example) made me lol the other day:

'Hot girl:found

Stroking mode:enabled

Cumshot:ongoing

Permission to cum on sexy body: pending'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

-Add a face pic

-Include something you've read on their profile - it shows you've shown an interest in them as a person

- never send 'cut and paste messages'

- Be patient. Sometimes I read my messages at work but can't get chance to reply until much later.

Happy fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely send face pics with a first message unless it specifically says in the profile then, very often I forget. I'd prefer people read my profile where there are photos anyway. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then they are just as bad as all those that complain they receive messages from people who obviously haven't read their profile.

Tailor messages to the profile, op. Put a some of your personality into, what you can offer and if it's a couple make sure you include both of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditch the pics from your profile in favour of ones with no cock in show would be a good start. No one wants to see your cock unless they ask!

Face pic with every first message, because let's face it (no pun intended) that's what everyone really goes off first, if there's no attraction physically then no awesome perfect message with cut it. Also doing that shows you're more honest and aren't more likely to be a fake or cheater.

The profile you have doesn't really tell anyone about you either, so spend time developing it bit by bit to really stand out. Remember there's like 69 of you to every woman on here too...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't send face pics unless they ask. It can be a numbers game insofar as women might get 100's of messages a day. You just have to make sure your message is top notch, together with your profile and photos.

Don't get disheartened - join in on the forums chatrooms and go to a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try having a face pic and not a nude as your profile picture, first impressions count and all that jazz

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