FabSwingers.com forum: Honest advice please

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, before I start a few things

1) this is not a look at me post

2) this is not a poor poor me post

3) this is not a ' i have a right to meets ' post

All I'm asking is any solid advice here

I'm not expecting women to be fighting over me to meet.

My age at 53 is against me and am not in my prime anymore.

Oh plus I smoke.

Have tried nice polite messages,witty messages, slightly random messages, all tailored to the persons profile.

I know several guys here who are similar age and looks who seem to get replies

Just like to see if I'm heading in the right direction or not

Thanks for reading

( ok guys slate away)

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Hi, as a woman I find your pics off putting. I didn't read the profile either

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The best thing to do is do a forum search for 'Profile Advice' and there is lots of really good information in most of those posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, as a woman I find your pics off putting. I didn't read the profile either

No face....too much cock.

So similar to many bad profiles.

The advice on literally hundreds of these threads reads the same...but guys persist in ignoring the advice and carrying on regardless.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

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By *he Cunning Linguist1000Man
over a year ago

Leek

My advice is to go to the clubs and talk to people. unfortunately, most ladies receive upwards of 200 messages a day and nothing like enough time to trawl through them so it's not personal, building friendships in the clubs is more likely to result in meets.

Hope this helps

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By *he Cunning Linguist1000Man
over a year ago

Leek

Hope this helps

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I wouldnt go for a guy that referred to himself as mature either. You could do with taking some new pics too.

It's always going to be difficult being married but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off"

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple...you want advise your profile is shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Simple...you want advise your profile is shit "

Could you Clarify plz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically you can write the best profile in the world and send the best messages in the world, using the standards of English that would be required from a top-level lawyer, but it is all in vain if you have no face pic and, more importantly, you have a good face pic. Everybody, and I mean everybody, checks pics and stats first. If you don't fit the bill there, unlucky.

I've been told my profile is well written and my messages are good too, but they get to my pics and stats and that's all they need to see. I'm not tall, slim or particularly handsome and so I'm very much pissing into the wind most of the time.

PS. I'm not looking for sympathy, just being frank about how shit goes down on here. At least in my area anyway...

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad"

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

Just got onto this thread. His wife verified him?? And it was a bit bad?? Seriously??!! This is priceless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soon as I witnessed a cock pic with a dicky bow on it, I wanted to gouge my eyes out with a heroin addicts rusty needle!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

Just got onto this thread. His wife verified him?? And it was a bit bad?? Seriously??!! This is priceless!

I meant it was understated cos seemed wrong if she had told the truth about one of our RP date days like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Soon as I witnessed a cock pic with a dicky bow on it, I wanted to gouge my eyes out with a heroin addicts rusty needle!!

Wife's idea that one

I clearly don't get her Welsh humour lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

Just got onto this thread. His wife verified him?? And it was a bit bad?? Seriously??!! This is priceless!

It's comedy gold in here some days.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad"

Sorry but I find that highly misleading . Making out your wife was a meet from here ... to me it begs the quesion what else you bending the truth over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

Just got onto this thread. His wife verified him?? And it was a bit bad?? Seriously??!! This is priceless!

It's comedy gold in here some days."

*Shaking with laughter* Poor guy, he'll have to hide his profile now just like his wife is doing.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

Just got onto this thread. His wife verified him?? And it was a bit bad?? Seriously??!! This is priceless!

It's comedy gold in here some days.

*Shaking with laughter* Poor guy, he'll have to hide his profile now just like his wife is doing."

I'm more concerned that he's hidden his wife in his love caravan shack against her will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's be honest here

It's not about age as such, some mature guys are gorgeous and very fuckable

They have the fab sex factor

Looking at what little face you show

behind your camera in your naff pic, you I'm sorry to say don't!

Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And as I'm obviously really in a cow bag of a mood, I would question your true age!

I would be very surprised if you were really 53 and not much older!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

Just got onto this thread. His wife verified him?? And it was a bit bad?? Seriously??!! This is priceless!

It's comedy gold in here some days.

*Shaking with laughter* Poor guy, he'll have to hide his profile now just like his wife is doing.

I'm more concerned that he's hidden his wife in his love caravan shack against her will

Bit like Courtney, she keeps Marc locked up in the loft.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let's be honest here

It's not about age as such, some mature guys are gorgeous and very fuckable

They have the fab sex factor

Looking at what little face you show

behind your camera in your naff pic, you I'm sorry to say don't!

Just my opinion

Can't show face pic as I know a couple of people on here know my family and are not at all discreet. Why are you and mum on this site? Not a convo high on my to do list

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Let's be honest here

It's not about age as such, some mature guys are gorgeous and very fuckable

They have the fab sex factor

Looking at what little face you show

behind your camera in your naff pic, you I'm sorry to say don't!

Just my opinion

Can't show face pic as I know a couple of people on here know my family and are not at all discreet. Why are you and mum on this site? Not a convo high on my to do list"

So your mum and wife are on here ? It gets better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And as I'm obviously really in a cow bag of a mood, I would question your true age!

I would be very surprised if you were really 53 and not much older!

Obviously a honest comment. I am 53!!!! and yes I do look older and yes not the first time I've been told that. We all have our cross to bare

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Lmao re using your wife to verify you and then stating it's a bit bad

Comedy genius my friend

Just got onto this thread. His wife verified him?? And it was a bit bad?? Seriously??!! This is priceless!

It's comedy gold in here some days.

*Shaking with laughter* Poor guy, he'll have to hide his profile now just like his wife is doing.

I'm more concerned that he's hidden his wife in his love caravan shack against her will

Trust me on this......

Not even the SAS,and seal team 3 and 4 could make my wife do anything against her will lmao

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

So you have a false verification? ?? ..... thats against the rules.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you have a false verification? ?? ..... thats against the rules.....

We met as our other self's that's the idea,of a RP DATE day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you have a false verification? ?? ..... thats against the rules.....

We met as our other self's that's the idea,of a RP DATE day

Seriously, I would quit now, really I would. You have broken site rules and generally made a complete tit of yourself on the forum. I mean, why not go the whole hog and get your mum to write you a verification? Not much different to getting your wife to. And no, I don't consider your RP Date counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And as I'm obviously really in a cow bag of a mood, I would question your true age!

I would be very surprised if you were really 53 and not much older!

I was thinking exactly the same and the pic of you all hunched up, referring to yourself as mature - puts an image of a guy with a walking stick in my mind - sorry - you did ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And as I'm obviously really in a cow bag of a mood, I would question your true age!

I would be very surprised if you were really 53 and not much older!

I was thinking exactly the same and the pic of you all hunched up, referring to yourself as mature - puts an image of a guy with a walking stick in my mind - sorry - you did ask "

Well I use a crutch as I have rheumatoid arthritis. But thanks for your feedback xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you have a false verification? ?? ..... thats against the rules.....

We met as our other self's that's the idea,of a RP DATE day

Well my mum died in 2010

But thanks for your honest feedback xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So let's see who troll's those 2 comments then

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Your photos are awful and you are lying about your smoking status. What else?

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London

I am laughing so hard I can't get my breath! Is this thread a wind up? If so its priceless, if not holy shit!!

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I feel a bit bad about some of these comments..or am I being naïve??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel a bit bad about some of these comments..or am I being naïve??"

What is there to feel bad about?

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I feel a bit bad about some of these comments..or am I being naïve??

What is there to feel bad about?"

They just seem a bit shitty..I thought he was asking for advice not tearing apart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They just seem a bit shitty..I thought he was asking for advice not tearing apart."

I thought that was standard on here? Stick your head above the parapet and get instantly shot-down...

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

That's not my style..it's good to be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's not my style..it's good to be different"

But then people might get too confident, and then what happens? They send you a one liner message, or even worse wink at you! Is that the kind of Fab you want to be a part of?

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"That's not my style..it's good to be different

But then people might get too confident, and then what happens? They send you a one liner message, or even worse wink at you! Is that the kind of Fab you want to be a part of?"

I agree, it's dangerous territory!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"6 months on fab and you've had a meet, I'd say that's not bad considering you're married and that will put a big % of women off

I'd wager that's his wife that verified him

Yes she did, but told her not to over do it, hence it a bit bad

Sorry but I find that highly misleading . Making out your wife was a meet from here ... to me it begs the quesion what else you bending the truth over "

That was my thought too when I read it's his wife.

It's not honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, it's dangerous territory!"

It gets worse... Guys whose height starts with a 5 might start to actually believe they are *gasp* ATTRACTIVE!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Your photos are awful and you are lying about your smoking status. What else?"

Oh goodness, I'd missed that.

OP, being dishonest is not a good way to get meets. Even if it works, they're unlikely to go well.

You realise you're going to be less in demand than some other guys on here, so you just have to represent yourself as well as you can but *honestly* and be patient.

It really pisses me off when I meet guys only to find they lied to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your photos are awful and you are lying about your smoking status. What else?

Oh goodness, I'd missed that.

OP, being dishonest is not a good way to get meets. Even if it works, they're unlikely to go well.

You realise you're going to be less in demand than some other guys on here, so you just have to represent yourself as well as you can but *honestly* and be patient.

It really pisses me off when I meet guys only to find they lied to me."

Actually didn't realise that I hadn't put smoker. I never message people who won't meet smokers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well would like to say thank you to those of you've given honest advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To everyone else just remember

That the next time you hear of a death due to cyber assault

Make sure u laugh!!

Cos no one likes a hypocrite

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"To everyone else just remember

That the next time you hear of a death due to cyber assault

Make sure u laugh!!

Cos no one likes a hypocrite "

When you post on an open forum, you invite any and all comments and criticisms.

As my dad used to say, if you don't want to hear the answers, don't ask the question.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

Ok I'll be blunt.... Just my views.

1. Spelling and grammar

2. Your wife has her own profile, then put her name on there.

3. The first part of your profile reads like a dating advert. I couldn't really give a flying fuck that you like to watch tv etc.

4. Mirror selfies - yuk. Get the wife to take some good pics. Cock shots, again get the wife to take some.

Now as for other things to help.

Attend your local socials

Go to clubs

Chat to folk in the chat rooms... As in really chat, not just a "wanna see me cum on cam".

Hope it helps!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok I'll be blunt.... Just my views.

1. Spelling and grammar

2. Your wife has her own profile, then put her name on there.

3. The first part of your profile reads like a dating advert. I couldn't really give a flying fuck that you like to watch tv etc.

4. Mirror selfies - yuk. Get the wife to take some good pics. Cock shots, again get the wife to take some.

Now as for other things to help.

Attend your local socials

Go to clubs

Chat to folk in the chat rooms... As in really chat, not just a "wanna see me cum on cam".

Hope it helps!"

Thank you for these comments

Point one - omg really damn I'll check through, I hate bad grammar

Point two - I used to have her user name on my profile but got loads of.. ...

She not replying to me

Put a good word in for me

Etc etc messages from guys thinking I'm her pimp!!!!

I'll take this all on board and do a re vamp

Thanks again

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

Maybe put a block on single guys messaging you... Should out some of the "she's not replying" messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe put a block on single guys messaging you... Should out some of the "she's not replying" messages."

Good call!!!!

Thanks xx

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I just don't fancy men in their 50's unless they are super smart, smoking makes your skin age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To everyone else just remember

That the next time you hear of a death due to cyber assault

Make sure u laugh!!

Cos no one likes a hypocrite "

If someone commits suicide because someone told them they had bad grammar, chances are they will find something equally as insignificant to top them selves over if you didn't say anything...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my dad used to say, if you don't want to hear the answers, don't ask the question."

And if you can't handle the butt-hurt, don't keep going on the forum...

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