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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

I have been sending messages but not getting any replys.

I know I am no greek god oil painting but I put effort in to every message and always read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just you most single men have the same issue, your profile is ok but doesn't stand out it reads a bit like all the other single mens profiles to be honest.

Just be patient or try going to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been sending messages but not getting any replys.

I know I am no greek god oil painting but I put effort in to every message and always read profiles. "

Hi OP the women get hundreds of messages one of my swing buddies has around 400 messages she has not read. Sometimes its the luck of the draw and its not necessarily, your message or your profile.

Don't rely on messaging as a way to meet, get off to the socials and go to the clubs. I know a lad whose profile is pants he gets meets via the chat rooms.

So try some different strategies and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then you're not trying hard enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then you're not trying hard enough "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just you most single men have the same issue, your profile is ok but doesn't stand out it reads a bit like all the other single mens profiles to be honest.

Just be patient or try going to a club "

.... Although I've never been to one myself, I do think going to a club is the way forward for single guys (although appreciate that must be nerve wracking)

PS Love the bike pic!

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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Ladygogo would you like to meet for a drink and some advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not finding any luck either mate.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I currently have 380 messages it takes time for us to wade through the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes me a blink of an eye

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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Thanks Betty46 like your pics too must admit I have thought of going to a club I have eureka quite collection but would like to find someone to go with.

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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

I only send one message I know some woman hate pushy people don't want to pester.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have thought of going to a club I have eureka ...... but would like to find someone to go with."

Doh how are you going to go if no one replies to your messages! You need to grow some and just go. My first outing to a club had a lady shagging the life out of my cock within half an hour of me walking through the doors!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have been sending messages but not getting any replys.

I know I am no greek god oil painting but I put effort in to every message and always read profiles. "

At least you're getting meets.

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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford


"I have thought of going to a club I have eureka ...... but would like to find someone to go with.

Doh how are you going to go if no one replies to your messages! You need to grow some and just go. My first outing to a club had a lady shagging the life out of my cock within half an hour of me walking through the doors!

Will have to give it a try been out of the game for 14 years so it's a bit daunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only send one message I know some woman hate pushy people don't want to pester."

If that's in connection to my status? ... Then I'm just tired of some guys messaging you like it's the first time.. They clearly forgot they'd messaged weeks ago.

Sorry think I'm hormonal and just feeling Grrrr lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have thought of going to a club I have eureka ...... but would like to find someone to go with.

Doh how are you going to go if no one replies to your messages! You need to grow some and just go. My first outing to a club had a lady shagging the life out of my cock within half an hour of me walking through the doors!

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This is why single men get slated in clubs , because people give this advice

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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford


"I only send one message I know some woman hate pushy people don't want to pester.

If that's in connection to my status? ... Then I'm just tired of some guys messaging you like it's the first time.. They clearly forgot they'd messaged weeks ago.

Sorry think I'm hormonal and just feeling Grrrr lol "

Oh no not aimed at you I have seen a lot of profiles that say don't keep sending messages and I will always respect the wishes of a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" My first outing to a club had a lady shagging the life out of my cock within half an hour of me walking through the doors!

This is why single men get slated in clubs , because people give this advice "

What so single men should not go to clubs on their own!

When I have been to clubs the slating of single men is aimed at those who make no attempt to socialise and just follow couples/single fems about without having spoken and then expect sex. I have also seen men come in go straight to the changing room put the towel on and go straight into the play rooms and just hang around.

I did not advocate this.

My experience is engage in the social and it is usually rewarded.

BTW the lady in question was not on Fab, because she always liked to talk to a man in person and the club was the best place to meet them. If they were too timid to go it was their loss not hers. We hit it off straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eureka is fun in the sun although I have only been there as a couple and played in the couples room. I think it may be hard for a single guy. Abfabs is easier for single guys bit as people here have said be sociable. It pays dividends.

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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Well what a night had my first proper meet bit spontaneous and ended up at eureka had a great night with a lovely lady made me feel at ease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well what a night had my first proper meet bit spontaneous and ended up at eureka had a great night with a lovely lady made me feel at ease "

Yey!!!!

Glad you had a good time x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"It's not just you most single men have the same issue, your profile is ok but doesn't stand out it reads a bit like all the other single mens profiles to be honest.

Just be patient or try going to a club "

Great advice, I'm in the same situation as most of us are.

I try to enjoy the forums and banter and just hope there is someone who likes the sound of me rather than relying on looks alone

It's fun trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well what a night had my first proper meet bit spontaneous and ended up at eureka had a great night with a lovely lady made me feel at ease "

Glad it worked out.

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By *jtintin and stretchygirl OP   Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Thanks had a bit of nerves but they went pretty quickly so all good

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Get to a social

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/518765

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I have been sending messages but not getting any replys.

I know I am no greek god oil painting but I put effort in to every message and always read profiles. "

You make your own luck.

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By *TFSeventyMan
over a year ago

Weybridge


"Well what a night had my first proper meet bit spontaneous and ended up at eureka had a great night with a lovely lady made me feel at ease "

Good on ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that picture of u with strimmer is your best one ..you have better pic for your profile than that ....it's the first thing people see wen they look at your profile ....so I would change it ......

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