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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all

I'm new on fab this time around but have been on and off the site a fair few times. It looks fab from afar but want more of, well, all the usual I suppose

Thing is this has always been alone on here and not with my other half. I'd love to get more involved in the scene and involve my wife but it's starting that conversation in a subtle way that I'd like some input on.

What do we think? Interested in opinions from women, men and couples who may have been in similar situations and came through the other side successfully!

Tell me those stories, give me tips, most appreciated

Mr H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel you pain as have been here. Although she loves it now.

Took a while to convince her that the turn in for me was to see her with another guy and not that I just wanted permission to have sex with another woman.

There is a lot of trust involved and you need to make sure she is really comfortable with your motives.

As silly as it sounds, porn and alcohol is always a good place to start, it gives you a chance to discuss 'do you fancy trying that', or 'I bet you'd love that' . Then you can use toys as a virtual 3rd party etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the messages Sir, more are welcome as it'll all help! Cheers

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I don't think it's am easy conversation to start...maybe watch some porn together with group or swap sex scenarios and see if that's her thing or not...if not, it's probably a non starter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her it turns you on to think of her being fucked by another man. Let the conversation develop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take her dogging

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

If you told me you had joined a swingers site without me, I would not be impressed. Hardly open and honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you told me you had joined a swingers site without me, I would not be impressed. Hardly open and honest."

Got to agree with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel you pain as have been here. Although she loves it now.

Took a while to convince her that the turn in for me was to see her with another guy and not that I just wanted permission to have sex with another woman.

There is a lot of trust involved and you need to make sure she is really comfortable with your motives.

As silly as it sounds, porn and alcohol is always a good place to start, it gives you a chance to discuss 'do you fancy trying that', or 'I bet you'd love that' . Then you can use toys as a virtual 3rd party etc"

Great answer. Saved me all that typing lol

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"I feel you pain as have been here. Although she loves it now.

Took a while to convince her that the turn in for me was to see her with another guy and not that I just wanted permission to have sex with another woman.

There is a lot of trust involved and you need to make sure she is really comfortable with your motives.

As silly as it sounds, porn and alcohol is always a good place to start, it gives you a chance to discuss 'do you fancy trying that', or 'I bet you'd love that' . Then you can use toys as a virtual 3rd party etc"

Pretty much this for us

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice

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By *inkswithpanCouple
over a year ago

lough


"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice "

Don't think he did that was someone else.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Sorry to say this, but if you aren't close enough to discuss this with her openly then you probably aren't ready to swing together.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice

Don't think he did that was someone else."

No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Sorry to say this, but if you aren't close enough to discuss this with her openly then you probably aren't ready to swing together. "

This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer

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By *inkswithpanCouple
over a year ago

lough


"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice

Don't think he did that was someone else.

No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be? "

Nope, still cannot see that ?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice

Don't think he did that was someone else.

No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be?

Nope, still cannot see that ?"

Well you won't see it the thread got deleted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all, all valid points one way or another.

P.S. Curvymama, you have me confused with someone else, as the other poster said

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By *inkswithpanCouple
over a year ago

lough


"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice

Don't think he did that was someone else.

No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be?

Nope, still cannot see that ?

Well you won't see it the thread got deleted "

Use the green arrow, helps a lot

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice

Don't think he did that was someone else.

No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be?

Nope, still cannot see that ?

Well you won't see it the thread got deleted

Use the green arrow, helps a lot "

Not with a deleted thread it doesn't because the thread no longer exsist a to green arrow it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to say this, but if you aren't close enough to discuss this with her openly then you probably aren't ready to swing together.

This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer "

This

I was a lonesome swinger last year, never having done anything though, just the odd watch n wank sort of thing, then one night Mrs M sort of 'found' my profile.... we chatted and now we are here as a couple, life has never been better between us both, and all because she was a Mrs Marple on the computer! Haha

The advice I would give.... tell her, if you have a strong relationship then it will be much easier for you to come clean with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take her dogging "

Good call , we will happily take her with us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to say this, but if you aren't close enough to discuss this with her openly then you probably aren't ready to swing together.

This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer

This

I was a lonesome swinger last year, never having done anything though, just the odd watch n wank sort of thing, then one night Mrs M sort of 'found' my profile.... we chatted and now we are here as a couple, life has never been better between us both, and all because she was a Mrs Marple on the computer! Haha

The advice I would give.... tell her, if you have a strong relationship then it will be much easier for you to come clean with her. "

There you go then OP. Seems the best thing is to show her your profile....? Or not?

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester


" This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer "

Totally agree! We are closer than ever now, after a shaky few years after the kids arrived we are in a good place now! We still talk about our feelings, if something upsets my and why it has (normally I'm totally irrational)

I was introduced by my hubby and was disgusted at first... I listened to him and we have met as a couple and me alone. Still unsure of a full swap or hubby with another woman.. but we shall see on the occasion. Xx

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