FabSwingers.com forum: Sub Dom relationships

By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

Hi team, are any of you involved in a sub Dom relationship?

How do you lead your lives if it's a fully committed 24hr situation, or is it a part time relationship sub/Dom wise.......

Do you live with you sub/Dom or are you seperate.

How does it work ...... I think you know what i am asking.

Would really like to know how it works on a day to day basis as it's something that we are both interested in perusing.

Read the articles on the net but, want real people's experiences and advice please.

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By *all and ChainWoman
over a year ago

Truro

24/7 live the lifestyle.

You can't get any answers from us, from the net, or from anywhere else, on how YOU should lead YOUR life, everyone is different, it's all the same but it's all different too..

A sub is not a 2003 2 litre mondeo water pump that will fit any 2 litre ford lump, it's still a water pump but useless to a renault engine.. which is still and engine.

More about "Do Not" than do, and the do not's are all obvious.

So bottom line is forget trying to do what you have read or been told, do what is right and true to yourself.

HTH etc

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By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

That's a great way to look at it. And I appreciate your input. I was looking how you live the lifestyle and how it fits into everyday life x

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By *all and ChainWoman
over a year ago

Truro

"That's a great way to look at it. And I appreciate your input. I was looking how you live the lifestyle and how it fits into everyday life x"

We live it our way.

It does not fit into everyday life, it is everyday life.

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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"That's a great way to look at it. And I appreciate your input. I was looking how you live the lifestyle and how it fits into everyday life x

We live it our way.

It does not fit into everyday life, it is everyday life."

this. Totally.

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By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

"That's a great way to look at it. And I appreciate your input. I was looking how you live the lifestyle and how it fits into everyday life x

We live it our way.

It does not fit into everyday life, it is everyday life.

That makes sense, like you say their are varying degrees of involvement and it's what suits the couple and not all are the same .....

this. Totally. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's a great way to look at it. And I appreciate your input. I was looking how you live the lifestyle and how it fits into everyday life x

We live it our way.

It does not fit into everyday life, it is everyday life."

Like said above, each way and dynamic will be different, some D/s relationships aren't full time and use scenes for escapism alongside 'regular' lifestyles etc, for example.

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By *addyandbabyCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

We live as Dom and slave 24/7, from the outside it looks like any vanilla relationship I should imagine. We live together and both work. We run the house and look after the children. In all things Daddy has the last say, but he takes into consideration all my inputs and thoughts.

Pm us for more precise answers to more precise questions, we are happy to chat about our lifestyle.

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By *addyandbabyCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

"That's a great way to look at it. And I appreciate your input. I was looking how you live the lifestyle and how it fits into everyday life x

We live it our way.

It does not fit into everyday life, it is everyday life.

this. Totally. "

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By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

"We live as Dom and slave 24/7, from the outside it looks like any vanilla relationship I should imagine. We live together and both work. We run the house and look after the children. In all things Daddy has the last say, but he takes into consideration all my inputs and thoughts.

Pm us for more precise answers to more precise questions, we are happy to chat about our lifestyle."

Thankyou, that's the sort of thing we are curious about how it all works xx

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By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

Pm us for more precise answers to more precise questions, we are happy to chat about our lifestyle."

I'm on a single male profile and can't message. Will get a couples profile set up, we see each other as partners but live seperately for now, but need a joint profile x

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"That's a great way to look at it. And I appreciate your input. I was looking how you live the lifestyle and how it fits into everyday life x

We live it our way.

It does not fit into everyday life, it is everyday life.

Like said above, each way and dynamic will be different, some D/s relationships aren't full time and use scenes for escapism alongside 'regular' lifestyles etc, for example. "

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By *azleesiCouple
over a year ago

west bromwich

Check out fetlife.com a great fetish community

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By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

"Check out fetlife.com a great fetish community"

Thankyou we will X is it welcoming to newbies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in an FLR and it was my longest relationship, i really enjoyed it. wasn't really anything more than cross dressing involved in the sexual side of things.

also been with a guy who claimed to be submissive but he was only sub sexually and the rest of the relationship he tried to be controlling and i wouldn't be looking for that again.

i prefer to be an equal, or the dominant one with permission.

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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

"A sub is not a 2003 2 litre mondeo water pump that will fit any 2 litre ford lump, it's still a water pump but useless to a renault engine.. which is still and engine".

Great analogy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Check out fetlife.com a great fetish community"

You said fetlife.com and was not hit by Fab moderator blocking, wow!

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By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

"Check out fetlife.com a great fetish community

You said fetlife.com and was not hit by Fab moderator blocking, wow!"

Tried to send a message via email and they did when I used that address.... I didn't know in my defence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be they block mentioning websites un messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours isn't full time d/s relationship, we are vanilla most the time but sexually I'm his sub and he's my master. It's just not a full time thing for us

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Having lived this in the passed,I would say you must do what feels right for you.

24/7 is very hard for both parties so it is a matter of finding the right balance.

Reality and fantasy can be quite different so you need to allways communicate with each other and good luck,it can be fantastic if you get it to work.

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By *ustme1xxx OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

"Having lived this in the passed,I would say you must do what feels right for you.

24/7 is very hard for both parties so it is a matter of finding the right balance.

Reality and fantasy can be quite different so you need to allways communicate with each other and good luck,it can be fantastic if you get it to work."

Yes , we are looking forward to the journey and growing together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works the way you want it to work.

How do you both want it to work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live it as much as I can just wish I could live it 24/7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi team, are any of you involved in a sub Dom relationship?

How do you lead your lives if it's a fully committed 24hr situation, or is it a part time relationship sub/Dom wise.......

Do you live with you sub/Dom or are you seperate.

How does it work ...... I think you know what i am asking.

Would really like to know how it works on a day to day basis as it's something that we are both interested in perusing.

Read the articles on the net but, want real people's experiences and advice please.

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Hey there

my fiancé and I are in a 24/7 Dom / sub relationship. I (f) am the submissive and we decided to do this because in the past we have both been involved in Dom / sub relationships so we know it works for us. My personally is submissive; I like to be looked after, controlled and kept in line as I can be a little rebellious. J is very domineering (in a good way) and he likes to take care of me as well. We live together and are planning our wedding. It plays a part of our every day life like crossing the street, J will tell me to hold his hand etc like just becsuse I'm his little one and he has to look after me. We have a set of rules we negotiated when we first started together with both our limits on them. We both love our lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi team, are any of you involved in a sub Dom relationship?

How do you lead your lives if it's a fully committed 24hr situation, or is it a part time relationship sub/Dom wise.......

Do you live with you sub/Dom or are you seperate.

How does it work ...... I think you know what i am asking.

Would really like to know how it works on a day to day basis as it's something that we are both interested in perusing.

Read the articles on the net but, want real people's experiences and advice please.

My Sir & I live in our own separate homes, I see him twice a week. We message each other daily and we enjoy each other's conversation & company. We live the lifestyle when we can & thoroughly enjoy exploring new kinks together. You can listen to what everyone likes or doesn't like, you can read what everyone else does but the lifestyle should always be what you want from it. Choosing to live the lifestyle is just the first step, you can start at setting 1 night a week or however often you like to trial it on a temporary basis. If it works well & you both enjoy it equally then you can decide to keep it as that or whether to add in an extra night/day depending on your other commitments - work/children etc.

Sir & I enjoy the masochistic side as well as the Dom/sub side, we don't like humiliation and we only take pain so far, we don't like the real heavy sadistic side of things, but others live for it.

My advice would be to each of you go through a BDSM checklist & see who likes the idea of which things, put them into categories of mainstream/possibles & never gonna happen. Then you have a basis to work on. The possibles can quite easily become mainstream in the future and some of the nevers could become mainstream or possibles.

Hope some of this makes sense & is useful

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

Hi,

We live a unique 24/7 D/s lifestyle.

I met Master on FL 7 years ago.

He saw me on there & from then we" are how us" started.

He's strict & firm but fair and extremely loving & caring not to mention very protective.

Sir, has control over our everyday life/routines ect.

Every Sunday we will have a lunch prepared by him and sit and he will have the whole week planed out from mundane tasks ie housework/shopping ect..to what he has in mind for my obedience or punishments.

Examples of our lifestyle. (Randomly)

Sir,will choose & lay clothes out everynight for me to wear the next day.He also chooses my underwear for the night too.

He allows me to wear & do my makeup how I like.Only sometimes he will object.

Sir will have a weekly list of what he would like for tea/supper.

Dinner on the weekends as he's home.

He controls what I eat/drink.

He control every part of our sex life (this is something he puts pride into doing) and enjoys seeing me fulfilled,as I do him.

On an evening we may stay home and watch some movies/TV like "normal regular people" but he may make me sit on the floor while he stroked or massages my body.if we go out he will choose my outfit & he gets me dressed (his choice to do so as its always been)

Yes he likes to push my boundaries little (limits) I have our safe word. I kinda like that though.(smiles)..

This is just a slight glimpse into "our world" in our D/s lifestyle.Many have different ways/roles ect.

We choose to live like this because it's our way of living & I wouldn't want it any other!..

I consider myself extremely lucky & blessed to be owned by such an amazing person as he is!

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dnt live together so our Sir / sub relationship isnt 24/7. we choose not to live together but it doesn't in any way mean I'm not Sirs full time sub. We dnt play with others as a Dom/sub couple. X

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