FabSwingers.com forum: Really need advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm pretty new to the swinging scene and am understandably nervous and excited by it. I've sent countless well thought of messages to people in my area and seem to be having no luck. I'm starting to get fed up of so many unanswered messages. This is something I'm serious about and I really want I carry on with but I can't help but feel that possibly people my age have a bad name on here because of the minority spoiling it for the majority. If anyone has any advice on how to possibly have more messages answered on here or on swinging in general it would be hugely appreciated

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the 'minority spoiling it for the majority'. If that was the case nobody would be meeting at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the 'minority spoiling it for the majority'. If that was the case nobody would be meeting at all."

Quite right. OP, you can only spoil it for yourself.

As I have no idea what messages you send, I can't proffer advice.

As you have not requested advice on your profile, I can't offer any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile isn't the worst I've seen but your age may be going against you. Just be patient most single guys have the same problem. Have you thought about going to a club?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile isn't the worst I've seen but your age may be going against you. Just be patient most single guys have the same problem. Have you thought about going to a club? "

I've thought about it but I'm nervous about going alone haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an age thing for me. But I'm presuming you're messaging people that are around your age. Do you send a face pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At your age you can be shagging the living daylights out of all the 19 year olds....at that age they walk about fanny first....feed on it while you're still at the age they want you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's an age thing for me. But I'm presuming you're messaging people that are around your age. Do you send a face pic?"

Yeah I message people my age and older as its a fantasy of mine. And I always send a face pic with my first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself. Dont know why ppl ask for advice from others. Fill your profile up with what others say its hardly unique to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Book a holiday to Kavos. My 20 yr old bro was knee deep in clunge the second he got on the plane!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At your age you can be shagging the living daylights out of all the 19 year olds....at that age they walk about fanny first....feed on it while you're still at the age they want you."

Hahaha I suppose

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Book a holiday to Kavos. My 20 yr old bro was knee deep in clunge the second he got on the plane!

Done all that, I'm not here just for the sex btw people hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Book a holiday to Kavos. My 20 yr old bro was knee deep in clunge the second he got on the plane!

Done all that, I'm not here just for the sex btw people hahah"

Well that's what everyone else is here for

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Book a holiday to Kavos. My 20 yr old bro was knee deep in clunge the second he got on the plane!

Done all that, I'm not here just for the sex btw people hahah

Well that's what everyone else is here for

Well obviously things will lead to sex but I'd want to have socials too

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Your profile isn't the worst I've seen but your age may be going against you. Just be patient most single guys have the same problem. Have you thought about going to a club?

I've thought about it but I'm nervous about going alone haha"

Why? What do you think happens?

I go everywhere on my own and yep, occasionally it's a little nerve wracking but if you stopped doing stuff just because it makes you feel anxious, you may as well stay in front of the telly.

A club is a building, like a pub, with people in in. Some of them will be shagging somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile looks good although you may come across as a little serious. Some ladies don't want to chat they just want sex. If you want socials search for them and go. Clubs aren't that scary but I don't think I have ever spoken to anyone I have met at a club other than to say thanks afterwards and "do you mind if i wipe my cock on your knickers." Even going as a couple is not guaranteed to be social. Keep plugging away but try and keep it fun. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile looks good although you may come across as a little serious. Some ladies don't want to chat they just want sex. If you want socials search for them and go. Clubs aren't that scary but I don't think I have ever spoken to anyone I have met at a club other than to say thanks afterwards and "do you mind if i wipe my cock on your knickers." Even going as a couple is not guaranteed to be social. Keep plugging away but try and keep it fun. Good luck. "

Cheers mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get out into the real world.

Sitting behind a profile expecting words and a few pictures to get you laid is only ever going to bring so much success, especially when the numbers game isn't in your favour.

Clubs, socials etc all give you the chance to meet for real.

Your profile will always give people reasons not to message you or reply, age, how it's written, even punctuation. But out there it's your looks and personality that are on show, the real you. Not an online profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get out into the real world.

Sitting behind a profile expecting words and a few pictures to get you laid is only ever going to bring so much success, especially when the numbers game isn't in your favour.

Clubs, socials etc all give you the chance to meet for real.

Yeah I suppose, thanks for the advice!

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Get to some socials if you can as said above. The profile seems fine, though if we are being super picky, your pics though not being all cock shots are a little cock focused

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get to some socials if you can as said above. The profile seems fine, though if we are being super picky, your pics though not being all cock shots are a little cock focused

Do you have any advice on what other pics I could take?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

N likes more teasing shots. We both aren't fans of full on shots, but you could ask 100 people and get 100 answers lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"N likes more teasing shots. We both aren't fans of full on shots, but you could ask 100 people and get 100 answers lol."

Yeah I suppose lol, everyone likes something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ...I'm starting to get fed up of so many unanswered messages..."

You think that's annoying? Try to send someone message and...they block you

Unanswered message doesn't look that bad now huh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" ...I'm starting to get fed up of so many unanswered messages...

You think that's annoying? Try to send someone message and...they block you

Unanswered message doesn't look that bad now huh

Haha oh I've had the blocking aswell

I can't see why someone would block you though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When messaging have a good read of there profile and pick some key points out of it to start a conversation. Send a message that they can reply to with an answer. You have to remember single ladies on here get hundreds of messages so try and stand out and always attach a clear face picture. Alot of men on here spoil it for a small but good bunch of blokes. Hope it helps bud.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When messaging have a good read of there profile and pick some key points out of it to start a conversation. Send a message that they can reply to with an answer. You have to remember single ladies on here get hundreds of messages so try and stand out and always attach a clear face picture. Alot of men on here spoil it for a small but good bunch of blokes. Hope it helps bud.

Cheers mate really appreciate it

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