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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can't believe the amount of messages I send that don't ever get read even though the people have been online since I sent the message. Do all messages actually get through ?

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Yes they do.

But.... Some people read profiles before deciding if they want to open the message..

Some people may be working and wait till later before opening.

Some people ie couples wait till both of them are there before opening and deciding on replying..

Some people open then mark as unread.

All that said.... Everyone does things differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested "

Try being a single fem with a follow up of 7 messages as to why you said no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive sent messages and ive had a reply a week later lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested

Try being a single fem with a follow up of 7 messages as to why you said no thanks "

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested "

As this is a frequent 'grumble' why not read the Frequently Asked Questions on the website? It's at the bottom of the page.

Q: There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

A: It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Too busy. Ok thanks for the reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do what we do, send messages then delete all your sent items. Then if it's read and you don't get a reply you don't even know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't reply it's because the person isn't for me, and I'm not going to waste my time or theirs by messaging someone I have no desire to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested "

Try being a female. Wife put a new pic up last night, currently got 468 unread and that's after loads been cleared. Just impossible to reply to all.

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By *imon and saffyCouple
over a year ago

southampton

I know its naughty, but as an experiment, about a year ago I created a fictitious single female profile.

The standard of messages from single men was awful. Rude, disrespectful and would put me right off having a single profile. I was bombarded with over 700 messages in 24 hours...

Just make sure your initial message is fun, shows you're human and that you've read the profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its naughty, but as an experiment, about a year ago I created a fictitious single female profile.

The standard of messages from single men was awful. Rude, disrespectful and would put me right off having a single profile. I was bombarded with over 700 messages in 24 hours...

Just make sure your initial message is fun, shows you're human and that you've read the profile.

"

I had the same when I set this profile up. However having been here before and knowing the score I assumed that all those fellas who messaged me in the first 24 hrs where just praying on fresh meet. Ironically the same names and faces keep coming up. They are just desperate chances who will fuck anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its naughty, but as an experiment, about a year ago I created a fictitious single female profile.

The standard of messages from single men was awful. Rude, disrespectful and would put me right off having a single profile. I was bombarded with over 700 messages in 24 hours...

Just make sure your initial message is fun, shows you're human and that you've read the profile.

I had the same when I set this profile up. However having been here before and knowing the score I assumed that all those fellas who messaged me in the first 24 hrs where just praying on fresh meet. Ironically the same names and faces keep coming up. They are just desperate chances who will fuck anything."
my messages are always polite and courteous with a hint of my wicked sense of humour hopefully

... But still my box is empty

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested "

I saw a single fem set up a profile the other day, and saw what happened when it went live.

Within 10 minutes she had ten messages, despite having no pics up. This carried on.

Now, even if that message rate slowed down to half, that's still 30 messages an hour, for maybe 10 hours or more a day, every day!

Would you be willing to sit there and type "No thanks" 300 times a day?

And then deal with the whiney "Awww, why not mun?" replies?

Funnily enough, some folks have jobs, families, hobbies, mates etc that mean they aren't able to sit down for 2- 3 hours every night to do that lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested

Try being a single fem with a follow up of 7 messages as to why you said no thanks "

Agree with you there, plus if you tell them it's too far, they say why it's not that far. XXX

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London


"I know its naughty, but as an experiment, about a year ago I created a fictitious single female profile.

The standard of messages from single men was awful. Rude, disrespectful and would put me right off having a single profile. I was bombarded with over 700 messages in 24 hours...

Just make sure your initial message is fun, shows you're human and that you've read the profile.

"

This is the issue with Fab! People creating fake profiles. Regardless of your reasons it is unacceptable and I would think that admin will action this.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


"I can't believe the amount of messages I send that don't ever get read even though the people have been online since I sent the message. Do all messages actually get through ? "

I am surprised to read this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its naughty, but as an experiment, about a year ago I created a fictitious single female profile.

The standard of messages from single men was awful. Rude, disrespectful and would put me right off having a single profile. I was bombarded with over 700 messages in 24 hours...

Just make sure your initial message is fun, shows you're human and that you've read the profile.

This is the issue with Fab! People creating fake profiles. Regardless of your reasons it is unacceptable and I would think that admin will action this. "

I don't think you are looking at the bigger picture there. Read their post - they did it as part of an experiment. If anything it highlights what is really wrong with this site: the vast number of preditory men who jump on newbies, therefore frightening them off and reducing the overall number of women on this site. THAT is the issue that should being addressed.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"If I don't reply it's because the person isn't for me, and I'm not going to waste my time or theirs by messaging someone I have no desire to meet. "

This !

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

Someone sent me a message the other night, a well written polite message. However, I looked at his profile and he was the total opposite of what I would look for on this site, so I thought 'hey, I'll reply and just let him know I appreciate the well thought out message but I'm not interested', did so and the torrent of abuse that followed was disgusting!!

Funny how people turn nasty when you don't reply, and they sometimes get even nastier when you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We work on this basis

Fancy a fuck or one line messages- no reply

half decent message but obviously not read our profile- no reply

Decent message but blatantly does not fit what we are looking for.. Reply no thanks and block

Decent message, has read profile, fits our profile- jump on and enjoy the ride

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you dont have t to open a message to read it

clickon try our newstyle inbox ..you can read the messageand delete without opening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a question.. If you send a message to the wrong person then delete it.. Does it still count as sent?

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By *imon and saffyCouple
over a year ago

southampton


"I know its naughty, but as an experiment, about a year ago I created a fictitious single female profile.

The standard of messages from single men was awful. Rude, disrespectful and would put me right off having a single profile. I was bombarded with over 700 messages in 24 hours...

Just make sure your initial message is fun, shows you're human and that you've read the profile.

This is the issue with Fab! People creating fake profiles. Regardless of your reasons it is unacceptable and I would think that admin will action this.

I don't think you are looking at the bigger picture there. Read their post - they did it as part of an experiment. If anything it highlights what is really wrong with this site: the vast number of preditory men who jump on newbies, therefore frightening them off and reducing the overall number of women on this site. THAT is the issue that should being addressed."

Exactly that, it was saffy who created it, so not really fictitious, to test the waters. Needless to say it was deleted shortly after when we realised that it was more trouble than it was worth.

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London


"I know its naughty, but as an experiment, about a year ago I created a fictitious single female profile.

The standard of messages from single men was awful. Rude, disrespectful and would put me right off having a single profile. I was bombarded with over 700 messages in 24 hours...

Just make sure your initial message is fun, shows you're human and that you've read the profile.

This is the issue with Fab! People creating fake profiles. Regardless of your reasons it is unacceptable and I would think that admin will action this.

I don't think you are looking at the bigger picture there. Read their post - they did it as part of an experiment. If anything it highlights what is really wrong with this site: the vast number of preditory men who jump on newbies, therefore frightening them off and reducing the overall number of women on this site. THAT is the issue that should being addressed.

Exactly that, it was saffy who created it, so not really fictitious, to test the waters. Needless to say it was deleted shortly after when we realised that it was more trouble than it was worth."

I get what you are saying and those issues do need addressed, I get that and fully agree with you but by creating fake profiles you do not help the problem, you contribute to it by being on the site with a fake profile. Once again regardless of the reasons this is not right, how would you like it if you were strung along by someone's so called experiment..... Thought so.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"Someone sent me a message the other night, a well written polite message. However, I looked at his profile and he was the total opposite of what I would look for on this site, so I thought 'hey, I'll reply and just let him know I appreciate the well thought out message but I'm not interested', did so and the torrent of abuse that followed was disgusting!!

Funny how people turn nasty when you don't reply, and they sometimes get even nastier when you do "

We've had someone turn nasty on us for just looking at his profile and not answering his first message asking what was wrong with his profile, why we didn't message him!!

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By *esiderataWoman
over a year ago

St Helier

The infamous wall of yellow strikes.

I check profile first too, and regretfully sometimes ignore. Sad but we all need to use fab how we want best - hope you get a message soon OP.

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By *he VansCouple
over a year ago

mullingar

We try to answer all mails from people who have read and understood our profile .we respect everybody and their intrests and wants so the least anybody could do is respect ours .

That said ,we have always firmly believed that manners cost nothing and it's nice to be nice .

My Dad drilled that into me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested "

Because after 200 "not interested" replies each day....often followed by then receiving 150 abusive replies from total tosspots.....ladies get fed up so just delete...or delete and block.

It's not rocket science!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can't talk now, deleting messages!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested

Try being a female. Wife put a new pic up last night, currently got 468 unread and that's after loads been cleared. Just impossible to reply to all."

Yup this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a single man lol it's quite surprises me how people can't even reply with a no thanks I'm not interested "

you'd be surprised at hire many messages a couple or even single ladies get to take valuable time to reply then get same person coming back asking why not lol if no answer its a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio of men to women and couples is so high that it's not surprising messages are not answered.. Guys just need to chill out and take this experience for what it should be.. It's no different to looking an attractive woman in a public place only for her to look away... you wouldn't start following her home would you??

My experience is a well thought out tastefully written message usually get a reply...??

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London


"We work on this basis

Fancy a fuck or one line messages- no reply

half decent message but obviously not read our profile- no reply

Decent message but blatantly does not fit what we are looking for.. Reply no thanks and block

Decent message, has read profile, fits our profile- jump on and enjoy the ride

Xxx"

We do this exact same thing with our messages, seems the best way to be.

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