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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi folks.

Never swung before and never been to a club...the idea of a club is realy exciting....are they friendly and basically would we get to play with sexy couples?

Also wondering what people wear?

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By *uck princess and himCouple
over a year ago

washington


"Hi folks.

Never swung before and never been to a club...the idea of a club is realy exciting....are they friendly and basically would we get to play with sexy couples?

Also wondering what people wear?"

From our experience Clubs are by far, the most friendliest places to be.

There everyone is kind of equal and we all have something in common.

Never go with any expectations but I am sure you guys will have all the fun you want, just mingle.

I dress casual smart and get changed while I'm there into something more sexy.

Good luck and I really hope you both enjoy it

Fuck Princess xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanx for the advice... xx

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Very friendly places and what to wear would depend on where you go....we turn up and get naked

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

When I first started out.... Someone said to me....

'Never expect anything. That way you can't be disappointed. And if anything does happen, it's a bonus'.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

There are dressed clubs and dressed down clubs - also sometimes called wet clubs. So check the information. You may be expected (eg Chameleons, Cupids) to go straight to the locker room and change into lingerie etc. Other clubs you remain fully dressed in in the social areas. Though there are often rules about men stripping down in play areas.

Read the club website and consider messaging them letting them know when you're coming so you can be sure to get all the info you need and answers to any questions. Read reviews on here, but like TripAdvisor use a bit of nous: complainers might have a valid point or they may have been kicked out for being a twat, praisers may have genuinely loved the place or they could be cronies. Mostly you can suss it out.

Go expecting a night out that's unlike your usual one but don't plan on play. In fact, possibly plan NOT to play so you can work out your boundaries and communication - I've seen couples go off to play because someone asked and neither really wanted to but they didn't know how to say no or how to share that info in front of someone. Asking for a minute to confer or saying you'll get back to someone or simply saying no thanks is not rude and anyone who whinges is being an arse. Many couples have codewords or phrases to let the other know hell yes or hell no.

Socialise. Chat, make friends. It's not all going to be orgy. Chat to anyone who is pleasant and if they invite don't think that turning them down pleasantly will end all future communications. And just cos you don't fancy them bear in mind that it's a community and people talk. I've had people ask me what I thought of someone I was just talking to and I will say if I think they're arrogant or pushy or stared at my tits or if they are polite and pleasant or maybe new and a little nervous.

Don't stare at someone's bits in social areas. Talk to both halves of a couple or everyone in a group. Don't ask one half of a couple for permission to play with the other - if you only want to play with one ask if they play together or separately. Don't offer running commentary on people playing or talk loudly in play areas. Don't get too close when people are playing. Don't touch without permission. Don't try to get someone's attention if they're playing - if they want more company they'll look for it and invite. Don't go into invite only areas without an invitation. Don't go into couples only areas without your other half.

Above all, don't drink more than one or two if you are thinking of playing. It gets messy and it's not attractive and you'll get a reputation.

If someone touches you or gets funny or pushy tell them calmly and clearly no. Don't shout, push or hit, just be firm and clear. Then tell staff and let them deal with it.

Clubs can be brilliant but they are all individual. So look around, try a few and remember it's supposed to be fun.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Crikey TD, you took the words right out of my mouth

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Crikey TD, you took the words right out of my mouth "

Did I miss any?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are dressed clubs and dressed down clubs - also sometimes called wet clubs. So check the information. You may be expected (eg Chameleons, Cupids) to go straight to the locker room and change into lingerie etc. Other clubs you remain fully dressed in in the social areas. Though there are often rules about men stripping down in play areas.

Read the club website and consider messaging them letting them know when you're coming so you can be sure to get all the info you need and answers to any questions. Read reviews on here, but like TripAdvisor use a bit of nous: complainers might have a valid point or they may have been kicked out for being a twat, praisers may have genuinely loved the place or they could be cronies. Mostly you can suss it out.

Go expecting a night out that's unlike your usual one but don't plan on play. In fact, possibly plan NOT to play so you can work out your boundaries and communication - I've seen couples go off to play because someone asked and neither really wanted to but they didn't know how to say no or how to share that info in front of someone. Asking for a minute to confer or saying you'll get back to someone or simply saying no thanks is not rude and anyone who whinges is being an arse. Many couples have codewords or phrases to let the other know hell yes or hell no.

Socialise. Chat, make friends. It's not all going to be orgy. Chat to anyone who is pleasant and if they invite don't think that turning them down pleasantly will end all future communications. And just cos you don't fancy them bear in mind that it's a community and people talk. I've had people ask me what I thought of someone I was just talking to and I will say if I think they're arrogant or pushy or stared at my tits or if they are polite and pleasant or maybe new and a little nervous.

Don't stare at someone's bits in social areas. Talk to both halves of a couple or everyone in a group. Don't ask one half of a couple for permission to play with the other - if you only want to play with one ask if they play together or separately. Don't offer running commentary on people playing or talk loudly in play areas. Don't get too close when people are playing. Don't touch without permission. Don't try to get someone's attention if they're playing - if they want more company they'll look for it and invite. Don't go into invite only areas without an invitation. Don't go into couples only areas without your other half.

Above all, don't drink more than one or two if you are thinking of playing. It gets messy and it's not attractive and you'll get a reputation.

If someone touches you or gets funny or pushy tell them calmly and clearly no. Don't shout, push or hit, just be firm and clear. Then tell staff and let them deal with it.

Clubs can be brilliant but they are all individual. So look around, try a few and remember it's supposed to be fun."

Excellent advice!!

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou...just about covers everything we are apprehensive about...ie etiquette xx

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Thankyou...just about covers everything we are apprehensive about...ie etiquette xx"

A good club will take time to ensure you know your way around and what the rules are, it's in their interests too because that way anyone who crosses a line can't claim ignorance.

At some they will introduce you to a few people too.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"There are dressed clubs and dressed down clubs - also sometimes called wet clubs. So check the information. You may be expected (eg Chameleons, Cupids) to go straight to the locker room and change into lingerie etc. Other clubs you remain fully dressed in in the social areas. Though there are often rules about men stripping down in play areas.

Read the club website and consider messaging them letting them know when you're coming so you can be sure to get all the info you need and answers to any questions. Read reviews on here, but like TripAdvisor use a bit of nous: complainers might have a valid point or they may have been kicked out for being a twat, praisers may have genuinely loved the place or they could be cronies. Mostly you can suss it out.

Go expecting a night out that's unlike your usual one but don't plan on play. In fact, possibly plan NOT to play so you can work out your boundaries and communication - I've seen couples go off to play because someone asked and neither really wanted to but they didn't know how to say no or how to share that info in front of someone. Asking for a minute to confer or saying you'll get back to someone or simply saying no thanks is not rude and anyone who whinges is being an arse. Many couples have codewords or phrases to let the other know hell yes or hell no.

Socialise. Chat, make friends. It's not all going to be orgy. Chat to anyone who is pleasant and if they invite don't think that turning them down pleasantly will end all future communications. And just cos you don't fancy them bear in mind that it's a community and people talk. I've had people ask me what I thought of someone I was just talking to and I will say if I think they're arrogant or pushy or stared at my tits or if they are polite and pleasant or maybe new and a little nervous.

Don't stare at someone's bits in social areas. Talk to both halves of a couple or everyone in a group. Don't ask one half of a couple for permission to play with the other - if you only want to play with one ask if they play together or separately. Don't offer running commentary on people playing or talk loudly in play areas. Don't get too close when people are playing. Don't touch without permission. Don't try to get someone's attention if they're playing - if they want more company they'll look for it and invite. Don't go into invite only areas without an invitation. Don't go into couples only areas without your other half.

Above all, don't drink more than one or two if you are thinking of playing. It gets messy and it's not attractive and you'll get a reputation.

If someone touches you or gets funny or pushy tell them calmly and clearly no. Don't shout, push or hit, just be firm and clear. Then tell staff and let them deal with it.

Clubs can be brilliant but they are all individual. So look around, try a few and remember it's supposed to be fun."

Absolutely spot on!!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Most clubs are very friendly places.

Go without any expectations though, it is not the right frame of mind to be thinking "We are going to have fun with other sexy people". Attend without expectations over and above enjoying a sex positive atmosphere and meeting some interesting people.

Do take time to research the clubs in your area, read reviews on Fab and check out the club's own websites. Different clubs have varying facilities, atmospheres and many host themed party nights - some of which may be appropriate for you and some not. Several clubs hold occasional nights aimed at newbies, or you may prefer a specific couples night or a non-themed night. Take a look at what's going on in your area, discuss what you are most comfy with.

Do talk about boundaries beforehand, and think about how to politely reject advances if someone wishes to play and you don't take a liking to them or don't feel ready. Most people will respect nervous newcomers but it only takes one to spoil things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks folks xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I just go to relax and enjoy myself and don't expect sex. The people there will vary as does the vibe. Find the hang out social areas and mingle - people are friendly.

Move around a fair bit and settle and make eye contact etc if you like the look of others. Use private play areas until you're more certain about etiquette and your own comfort levels with public play.

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By *orth South DivideCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

brilliant advice from TD.

Our top tips would be to go to a couples night (usually Saturday although Cupids holds a great one on a Wednesday night) and perhaps choose a theme night or special event as these tend to attract newbies and those who perhaps want to socialize more.

If you are nervous about dress code then choose a 'dressed club'. Our first club was Xtasia which was perfect to get a feel for what we were getting into without feeling in anyway that we had to get involved. We just had a fantastic and very sexy night out. We've since been to Chameleons (lots, cause we love the place!) but i'd have probably run a mile if that was our first experience.

What ever you do, talk a lot and set your boundaries and do not overstep them without talking and agreeing. We've encountered a number of couples who seem to go too far, too fast - and regret is not something that should be associated with this lifestyle.

Have fun. If it is for you, then it can be bloody amazing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What Would you peeps recommend for newbies first experience,club or private meet?xx

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Club for first, second and third time, then you could try parties etc. The great thing about clubs is that if you arrange a meet and the other person/ people doesn't turn up you are still in a club!

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over a year ago

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