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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance unless she regularly posts on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, and trying to get round people's filters can result in a ban

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait 2 years?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wait 2 years?"
seems like it doesn't it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?"

Yes change your age

I mean lie ... What's the difference between 28-30

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By *scottMan
over a year ago

Irvine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Ask someone on here within her age range to contact her to tell her you are interested or perhaps even to pass on your phone number "

That wouldn't only get him a ban, but the person he asks too.

Age filters are there for a reason.

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By *ecretgamesMan
over a year ago

the moon


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her?"

This plus she has set her boundries for a reason and those limits are what she is looking for. It's her choice and should be respected !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her?"
hoping I might be able to sway her God loves a trier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They chose age filters for a reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Alright I get the point - sorry I asked!

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey

Let it go lad . Such is life . I want to fuck Angelina Jolie.....but I have to accept it's just not going to happen . There are loads of wonderful women on here who will ease your pain .

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her? hoping I might be able to sway her God loves a trier "

God may do but women on fab dont mate respect her choice and wait 2 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people set their age filters at the absolute extremity. So being at the bottom of the range is probably too low. So 1 or 2 years even further away is hopeless. Especially if they applied the filter. Find someone else mate.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?"

Fab all her pictures, she might take a look at you to see who you are.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?

Yes change your age

I mean lie ... What's the difference between 28-30 "

That'll be two years- check me out with my quick maths!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to fuck Angelina Jolie....."

Hey!

I saw her first!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her? hoping I might be able to sway her God loves a trier

God may do but women on fab dont mate respect her choice and wait 2 years"

Alright everyone, I've got the point. No need to labour it

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey


"I want to fuck Angelina Jolie.....

Hey!

I saw her first! "
see what I mean ?....now there's a fucking queue . Typical !

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her? hoping I might be able to sway her God loves a trier "

Ah the old "worth a try" routine...works every time....not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her? hoping I might be able to sway her God loves a trier

Ah the old "worth a try" routine...works every time....not "

Oh I appreciate the satire. Very whimsical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to fuck Angelina Jolie.....

Hey!

I saw her first! "

Can yous send me Brad when yous are dealing with her lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her? hoping I might be able to sway her God loves a trier

God may do but women on fab dont mate respect her choice and wait 2 years

Alright everyone, I've got the point. No need to labour it"

Ok get your pm now lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?"

My thoughts are that she doesn't want to talk to you because of your age. So you know better than her what she wants? She put in age filters for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's two years in the great scheme of things? I say give it your best shot and good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people set their age filters at the absolute extremity. So being at the bottom of the range is probably too low. So 1 or 2 years even further away is hopeless. Especially if they applied the filter. Find someone else mate."
I do this, my filters are set slightly above and below what I am looking for, just so that I don't miss someone interesting. Realistically, I am not usually interested in the guys just inside my published, preferred age range. If she is doing the same, and you are two years out of that range, then you are really not in with a chance. Take it on the chin and move on.

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By *-elleWoman
over a year ago

Romford


"Let it go lad . Such is life . I want to fuck Angelina Jolie.....but I have to accept it's just not going to happen . There are loads of wonderful women on here who will ease your pain . "
laughing my ass off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is meant to be, it's meant to be.

I presume you have Fab'd all her pictures at least twice, made sure she has seen you have looked at her profile (i.e. don't look incognito)

The rest is in the hands of the lady in question.

Good luck in your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?"

I have found myself in exactly the same position several times now, being too young for the ladies I'd like to make contact with. You just have to take it on the chin I'm afraid...if you're outside their age range there really is no option but to accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the first things I look at on a profile is their age requirements. If I'm not within it I pass them by.

I haven't looked at your profile op, but if you're not bi but keeping getting messages from men.....just in case, would you reconsider?

Another way of looking at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great way to advertise the fact that you have no respect for the choices and boundaries of others, OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of the first things I look at on a profile is their age requirements. If I'm not within it I pass them by.

I haven't looked at your profile op, but if you're not bi but keeping getting messages from men.....just in case, would you reconsider?

Another way of looking at it."

Age and sexual orientation are not the same thing are they

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great way to advertise the fact that you have no respect for the choices and boundaries of others, OP"

Yes. That's exactly what I was intending to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the first things I look at on a profile is their age requirements. If I'm not within it I pass them by.

I haven't looked at your profile op, but if you're not bi but keeping getting messages from men.....just in case, would you reconsider?

Another way of looking at it.

Age and sexual orientation are not the same thing are they"

I think the point he was making was preferences. Why waste time on this thread, use it messaging people whose criteria you do fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great way to advertise the fact that you have no respect for the choices and boundaries of others, OP

Yes. That's exactly what I was intending to do. "

Give the guy a break!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been trying with a woman I really fancy, never worked so I feel your pain

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her?

This plus she has set her boundries for a reason and those limits are what she is looking for. It's her choice and should be respected !!!! "
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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?"
Surely we should be respecting people's boundaries .

If they were not bothered who contacts them, they would not set age limits .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been trying with a woman I really fancy, never worked so I feel your pain

"

You fancy her "fancy her" or

Fancy her "wanna fuck her"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?"

Maybe respect her preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh how I wish I had the problem of being to young. Quit ya whining and enjoy your youth.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?"

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you want to waste your time trying to contact someone who has already clearly stated that they have no interest in you.?

As others have said...no point. Would just waste your time. Look for people who fit your criteria and you fit theirs.

This is why so many people talk about "time wasters" it is usually those making contact with unsuitable people who are actually wasting their own time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just read your profile OP, you know that sentence you have at the end of yours - "Everyone has their own sexual preference, I respect yours, please respect mine."

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By *teveeb46Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Just put it down to the one that got away. Plenty more fish in the sea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great way to advertise the fact that you have no respect for the choices and boundaries of others, OP

Yes. That's exactly what I was intending to do.

Give the guy a break! "

Aw thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why would you want to waste your time trying to contact someone who has already clearly stated that they have no interest in you.?

As others have said...no point. Would just waste your time. Look for people who fit your criteria and you fit theirs.

This is why so many people talk about "time wasters" it is usually those making contact with unsuitable people who are actually wasting their own time!"

Fair point well made - shame that it's the exact same point that every other condescending person put before you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just read your profile OP, you know that sentence you have at the end of yours - "Everyone has their own sexual preference, I respect yours, please respect mine." "

First of all, as I stated earlier, sexual preferences are different to age requirements aren't they.

Also, I never said that I was going to forcefully message her (you can't do that anyway) and I also wasn't going to do anything under handed like change my age etc. If you saw me you'd definitely know I'm not 30 so it would be futile, and disrespectful.

My question was, how could I get around it? As in, how could I grab her attention. It's not like I've committed mass genicide. Just wanted to grab the attention of woman I'd like to chance my arm with!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger."

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius. "

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar. "

I understand the analogy. I'm not that daft. I just think it's a facile argument because the two are not on the same level of importance. I wouldn't go out with a woman who was a certain number of years older than me, but if one came along who I was mad about then I would make an exception. Desire of age is a subjective and maluable concept, that one can judge differently depending on a given situations merit. Sexuality on the other hand, on the whole, a less fluid concept. Most people know exactly what they want in terms of gender and would not deviate from that no matter how funny or good in the sack the person my proclaim to be.

So saying to me that sex and age are the same is like saying - well apples and oranges are both fruit. But they aren't the same fruit. So there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar.

I understand the analogy. I'm not that daft. I just think it's a facile argument because the two are not on the same level of importance. I wouldn't go out with a woman who was a certain number of years older than me, but if one came along who I was mad about then I would make an exception. Desire of age is a subjective and maluable concept, that one can judge differently depending on a given situations merit. Sexuality on the other hand, on the whole, a less fluid concept. Most people know exactly what they want in terms of gender and would not deviate from that no matter how funny or good in the sack the person my proclaim to be.

So saying to me that sex and age are the same is like saying - well apples and oranges are both fruit. But they aren't the same fruit. So there. "

But to some people they ARE the same level of importance

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

ignore all the naysayers on this thread, go with the advice of fabbing all her photos so she knows you are interested if she looks, and hopefully she will contact you.

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"But to some people they ARE the same level of importance "

Just use some common sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But to some people they ARE the same level of importance

Just use some common sense "

I have lots thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just read your profile OP, you know that sentence you have at the end of yours - "Everyone has their own sexual preference, I respect yours, please respect mine."

First of all, as I stated earlier, sexual preferences are different to age requirements aren't they.

Also, I never said that I was going to forcefully message her (you can't do that anyway) and I also wasn't going to do anything under handed like change my age etc. If you saw me you'd definitely know I'm not 30 so it would be futile, and disrespectful.

My question was, how could I get around it? As in, how could I grab her attention. It's not like I've committed mass genicide. Just wanted to grab the attention of woman I'd like to chance my arm with! "

Only way I can suggest is you maybe fab her pics? She may not notice....but she might?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Well if they have made their mind up about where their age boundaries are - what do you hope to achieve from talking to her? hoping I might be able to sway her God loves a trier "

Oh no we don't love triers .. just shows you disregard other peoples bounderies because they don't suit you . Shows disrespect and a sense of entitlement. ..not traits anyone wants in a meet

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"Oh no we don't love triers .. just shows you disregard other peoples bounderies because they don't suit you . Shows disrespect and a sense of entitlement. ..not traits anyone wants in a meet"

Does it really? i mean come on think about it!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Oh no we don't love triers .. just shows you disregard other peoples bounderies because they don't suit you . Shows disrespect and a sense of entitlement. ..not traits anyone wants in a meet

Does it really? i mean come on think about it!"

Why doesn't it exactly??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd complain to the forum moderator mate I'm sure they would adjust their age range for you

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"I'd complain to the forum moderator mate I'm sure they would adjust their age range for you "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar.

I understand the analogy. I'm not that daft. I just think it's a facile argument because the two are not on the same level of importance. I wouldn't go out with a woman who was a certain number of years older than me, but if one came along who I was mad about then I would make an exception. Desire of age is a subjective and maluable concept, that one can judge differently depending on a given situations merit. Sexuality on the other hand, on the whole, a less fluid concept. Most people know exactly what they want in terms of gender and would not deviate from that no matter how funny or good in the sack the person my proclaim to be.

So saying to me that sex and age are the same is like saying - well apples and oranges are both fruit. But they aren't the same fruit. So there. "

So there!!! Hahaahaa really made me laugh, my kids used to say that in primary school, think it shows the level of maturity you're at. Are you stamping your feet too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?"

It's me I just know it. What a lucky girl I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?

It's me I just know it. What a lucky girl I am "

I think you're onto something here

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Oh no we don't love triers .. just shows you disregard other peoples bounderies because they don't suit you . Shows disrespect and a sense of entitlement. ..not traits anyone wants in a meet

Does it really? i mean come on think about it!

Why doesn't it exactly?? "

I don't love the attached guys who repeatedly message me trying to persuade me to change my mind, or the women and couples who are convinced that I don't know my own mind concerning sex with women.

I also know that I rarely even consider people at the bottom end of my age range let alone drop beneath it. By all means fab her pics OP but remember you're only doing the same thing that men and T girls are doing if they fab yours and would you message them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar.

I understand the analogy. I'm not that daft. I just think it's a facile argument because the two are not on the same level of importance. I wouldn't go out with a woman who was a certain number of years older than me, but if one came along who I was mad about then I would make an exception. Desire of age is a subjective and maluable concept, that one can judge differently depending on a given situations merit. Sexuality on the other hand, on the whole, a less fluid concept. Most people know exactly what they want in terms of gender and would not deviate from that no matter how funny or good in the sack the person my proclaim to be.

So saying to me that sex and age are the same is like saying - well apples and oranges are both fruit. But they aren't the same fruit. So there. "

In defence of the OP - we have a age limit of 35 but that's not set in stone and in the past we have met slightly younger

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?

Fab all her pictures, she might take a look at you to see who you are."

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over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar.

I understand the analogy. I'm not that daft. I just think it's a facile argument because the two are not on the same level of importance. I wouldn't go out with a woman who was a certain number of years older than me, but if one came along who I was mad about then I would make an exception. Desire of age is a subjective and maluable concept, that one can judge differently depending on a given situations merit. Sexuality on the other hand, on the whole, a less fluid concept. Most people know exactly what they want in terms of gender and would not deviate from that no matter how funny or good in the sack the person my proclaim to be.

So saying to me that sex and age are the same is like saying - well apples and oranges are both fruit. But they aren't the same fruit. So there.

In defence of the OP - we have a age limit of 35 but that's not set in stone and in the past we have met slightly younger "

I think we all appreciate that sometimes people may well meet people under their age range, however puts is set at 27, I personally will not meet anyone under that age, no matter how nice they may be. My point of my post was people have age ranges for a reasons and for many they are hard limits, and as such should be respected as such. That includes age, sexuality etc. We say no straight guys in our profile, the number of straight guys who have messaged us when our filters are open is laughable.

My point is respect people's preferences, we all have no idea the reason why they are such and they shouldn't be questionable to anyone but the person / people who set them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As some as said, fab her pictures but if she is still not interested are you going to give up then and leave her alone? I hope so, if someone did that to me I might see it as stalking perhaps and block them, in which case you might never have the chance

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar.

I understand the analogy. I'm not that daft. I just think it's a facile argument because the two are not on the same level of importance. I wouldn't go out with a woman who was a certain number of years older than me, but if one came along who I was mad about then I would make an exception. Desire of age is a subjective and maluable concept, that one can judge differently depending on a given situations merit. Sexuality on the other hand, on the whole, a less fluid concept. Most people know exactly what they want in terms of gender and would not deviate from that no matter how funny or good in the sack the person my proclaim to be.

So saying to me that sex and age are the same is like saying - well apples and oranges are both fruit. But they aren't the same fruit. So there.

So there!!! Hahaahaa really made me laugh, my kids used to say that in primary school, think it shows the level of maturity you're at. Are you stamping your feet too? "

Good to see you're able to pick up on irony.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a certain age range. Only, there is a delightful looking woman id love to talk to but I'm 2 years younger than she wants. Any thoughts?

It's me I just know it. What a lucky girl I am "

How did you guess? Well done!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there any way of chatting to somebody who has blocked people of a gender range. Only, there is a delightful looking man id love to talk to but I'm also a man and his profile says straight and he wants women. Any thoughts?

I adjusted your original post OP to switch the preferences around. It may seem to you that two years is nothing but that's her preference just as being straight is one of yours.

We all have boundaries, pushing against what appears to be a minor boundary is just as rude and presumptive as pushing against what appears to be a major one. Respect is paramount in swinging. A swinger who can't or won't respect someone's choices is not a swinger.

Yeah because having sex with a bloke when you're straight is the same as having sex with a 28 year old instead of a 30 year old. Wind your neck in and stop being so pius.

I believe the point is that being straight is a major boundary line you and others have. That is the same for others in age, there are reasons people don't want to have sex with a 28 year old but would with a 30 year old, it's preference and may well be a hard line for them. So actually in some respects it is the same, not completely but definitely similar.

I understand the analogy. I'm not that daft. I just think it's a facile argument because the two are not on the same level of importance. I wouldn't go out with a woman who was a certain number of years older than me, but if one came along who I was mad about then I would make an exception. Desire of age is a subjective and maluable concept, that one can judge differently depending on a given situations merit. Sexuality on the other hand, on the whole, a less fluid concept. Most people know exactly what they want in terms of gender and would not deviate from that no matter how funny or good in the sack the person my proclaim to be.

So saying to me that sex and age are the same is like saying - well apples and oranges are both fruit. But they aren't the same fruit. So there.

In defence of the OP - we have a age limit of 35 but that's not set in stone and in the past we have met slightly younger

I think we all appreciate that sometimes people may well meet people under their age range, however puts is set at 27, I personally will not meet anyone under that age, no matter how nice they may be. My point of my post was people have age ranges for a reasons and for many they are hard limits, and as such should be respected as such. That includes age, sexuality etc. We say no straight guys in our profile, the number of straight guys who have messaged us when our filters are open is laughable.

My point is respect people's preferences, we all have no idea the reason why they are such and they shouldn't be questionable to anyone but the person / people who set them "

Yeah fair enough. I do see your point and I hope you know I never meant to suggest I would be disrespectful.

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