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"Hi this is probably the wrong place to seek advice but I need a bit of advice/perspective. I was playing with the male half of a couple (they play separately). Well long story short feelings got involved on bother sides...but I overstepped the mark and got tearful....Tad girly and silly but I'm an emotional person. Well I'm now blocked/deleted etc etc. I'm gutted to say the least as I can't explain or defend myself. Do I just put up and shut up and move on or go to his house to at least end things decently so I don't feel like a total dick " They've made their feelings quite clear. No good can come of going to their house other than to make you look needy and stalkerish... | |||
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"Sadly you need to move on. Definitely don't turn up at the house. If you really want to end things being able to explain yourself, then put something in writing. Wait 24 hours and re-read it. Then if it is factual and not emotional waffle, post it. I am sorry for how you are feeling today. I guess several of us, me included, have been in a similar position. Learn from this experience. XX" Oh thank you for that support. I really appreciate it...tried to pm you but Im not a site supporter at the mo x | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x" Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn " It sounds like he's been a little economical with the truth. But either way, if someone has blocked you, then just see that as a clear intention, they think it's for the best. When did you meet? | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn " Well then I feel really sorry for you. He lied to you and strung you along. It's not like you fell for him and knew about the wife. Bastard Don't go to the house. Walk away with dignity. | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn Well then I feel really sorry for you. He lied to you and strung you along. It's not like you fell for him and knew about the wife. Bastard Don't go to the house. Walk away with dignity." Yup I agree with above. Lots of people get mislead and treated wrong on here by idiots if various forms - me included. But never again for me - it's ALL nsa and they don't get an option to hurt me. My lesson learnt a very hard way x | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn Well then I feel really sorry for you. He lied to you and strung you along. It's not like you fell for him and knew about the wife. Bastard Don't go to the house. Walk away with dignity. Yup I agree with above. Lots of people get mislead and treated wrong on here by idiots if various forms - me included. But never again for me - it's ALL nsa and they don't get an option to hurt me. My lesson learnt a very hard way x" Another agree from me.... don't give him the satisfaction of knowing you're still thinking about him x | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn It sounds like he's been a little economical with the truth. But either way, if someone has blocked you, then just see that as a clear intention, they think it's for the best. When did you meet?" Met in Feb....had 3 months of 'dating' type thing b4 him and his wife decided to get back together | |||
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"I will just point out though that even though there are blocks in place these people can read the forums. I know this from my idiot ex " I don't care if he reads it. I have nothing to hide....I've Benn honest and behaved properly at all times. But thank you for saying that, good advice | |||
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"Nothing worse than falling for someone who was supposed to be nsa only. I did the same, and paid a very dear emotional price for it. Walk away and never ever look back. It firmly belongs in the past. " Thank you x | |||
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"I started to fall for a guy. His fault for being so damn hot and holding me as we slept after hours and hours of fun! I ran away. Blocked him. Now I'm over it. We're talking and planning some more fun. No overnight stays though! " That was the problem....the dating stuff, cooking together, shopping together, dog walking etc etc and sleeping over night....fucks with your head....how cud he do that?? | |||
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"I started to fall for a guy. His fault for being so damn hot and holding me as we slept after hours and hours of fun! I ran away. Blocked him. Now I'm over it. We're talking and planning some more fun. No overnight stays though! That was the problem....the dating stuff, cooking together, shopping together, dog walking etc etc and sleeping over night....fucks with your head....how cud he do that??" Mine kept asking if I was in love with him. It was like he wanted me to be. Kept telling me I was 'girlfriend material'. | |||
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"I started to fall for a guy. His fault for being so damn hot and holding me as we slept after hours and hours of fun! I ran away. Blocked him. Now I'm over it. We're talking and planning some more fun. No overnight stays though! That was the problem....the dating stuff, cooking together, shopping together, dog walking etc etc and sleeping over night....fucks with your head....how cud he do that?? Mine kept asking if I was in love with him. It was like he wanted me to be. Kept telling me I was 'girlfriend material'. " He actually told me he loved me!!! We told each other often. It was so wrong of him | |||
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"I started to fall for a guy. His fault for being so damn hot and holding me as we slept after hours and hours of fun! I ran away. Blocked him. Now I'm over it. We're talking and planning some more fun. No overnight stays though! That was the problem....the dating stuff, cooking together, shopping together, dog walking etc etc and sleeping over night....fucks with your head....how cud he do that?? Mine kept asking if I was in love with him. It was like he wanted me to be. Kept telling me I was 'girlfriend material'. He actually told me he loved me!!! We told each other often. It was so wrong of him" I think you have to accept that things went wrong and you've now got to move on. It's not right to break up their marriage and it's for them to deal with how they go forward, but without you. You also need to think if you want to carry on in this lifestyle and how you stop this happening again. Perhaps don't meet attached men without their partner, or stick to single men only. | |||
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"I feel for you too but it had clearly turned into an affair and his wife has realised and reigned him in. " I think you cud be right....he stopped the stopping over once she moved back....guess she didn't realise wot had been going on in her house and bed before....it wasn't swinging it was an affair.....thank you all so much for your words. It's really helped me xxx | |||
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"I feel for you too but it had clearly turned into an affair and his wife has realised and reigned him in. I think you cud be right....he stopped the stopping over once she moved back....guess she didn't realise wot had been going on in her house and bed before....it wasn't swinging it was an affair.....thank you all so much for your words. It's really helped me xxx" The forums really can help bring clarity at times. I wish you well xxx | |||
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"I will just point out though that even though there are blocks in place these people can read the forums. I know this from my idiot ex I don't care if he reads it. I have nothing to hide....I've Benn honest and behaved properly at all times. But thank you for saying that, good advice " Wasn't suggesting you have for a moment - just making sure you are aware lovely x | |||
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"I will just point out though that even though there are blocks in place these people can read the forums. I know this from my idiot ex I don't care if he reads it. I have nothing to hide....I've Benn honest and behaved properly at all times. But thank you for saying that, good advice Wasn't suggesting you have for a moment - just making sure you are aware lovely x" Thank you | |||
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"I started to fall for a guy. His fault for being so damn hot and holding me as we slept after hours and hours of fun! I ran away. Blocked him. Now I'm over it. We're talking and planning some more fun. No overnight stays though! That was the problem....the dating stuff, cooking together, shopping together, dog walking etc etc and sleeping over night....fucks with your head....how cud he do that??" Men do it all the time on this and every other site, to boost their ego, or to keep a woman at their beck and call. You did nothing wrong, he deceived you, end of. Go find someone with a six pack and a big willy!! | |||
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"I started to fall for a guy. His fault for being so damn hot and holding me as we slept after hours and hours of fun! I ran away. Blocked him. Now I'm over it. We're talking and planning some more fun. No overnight stays though! That was the problem....the dating stuff, cooking together, shopping together, dog walking etc etc and sleeping over night....fucks with your head....how cud he do that?? Men do it all the time on this and every other site, to boost their ego, or to keep a woman at their beck and call. You did nothing wrong, he deceived you, end of. Go find someone with a six pack and a big willy!! " Ooohh good idea....any men with 6 packs and a good willy available? ?? Please feel free to contact me lol x | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn Well then I feel really sorry for you. He lied to you and strung you along. It's not like you fell for him and knew about the wife. Bastard Don't go to the house. Walk away with dignity. Yup I agree with above. Lots of people get mislead and treated wrong on here by idiots if various forms - me included. But never again for me - it's ALL nsa and they don't get an option to hurt me. My lesson learnt a very hard way x" As females, we can be very easily ruled by our hearts especially when the male of the species tells us that he loves us, whether he is free to love elsewhere or not. You need to realise that he was having his cake and eating it. Were they really on a break? She might have just been working away and he had full balls. If he had been honest, rather than playing with your feelings, then you wouldn't be feeling this way. If he had been up front and said NSA only, you would not have ended up in this state. You do need to realise that he isn't interested in you. If he wanted to see/speak to you, he would move heaven and earth to do so. He has blanked you, it is the most cowardly form of 'dumping' someone - ever. Beats a text or an email hands-down. If I sound like I know what I am talking about, I do. But likewise, never again. | |||
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"Hi this is probably the wrong place to seek advice but I need a bit of advice/perspective. I was playing with the male half of a couple (they play separately). Well long story short feelings got involved on bother sides...but I overstepped the mark and got tearful....Tad girly and silly but I'm an emotional person. Well I'm now blocked/deleted etc etc. I'm gutted to say the least as I can't explain or defend myself. Do I just put up and shut up and move on or go to his house to at least end things decently so I don't feel like a total dick They've made their feelings quite clear. No good can come of going to their house other than to make you look needy and stalkerish..." Exactly this. You will look clingy if you go over. As much as you'd like closure, if feelings got involved from his side too, he is protecting his relationship. Good luck, OP. | |||
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"I've had one attached fellow chasing me for months, he came back and said 'Oh it's alright, we can meet now we're on a break, even though most of her stuff is still here.....' Yeah right. I have avoided married men so far as I look for people who can accomm at home, but if the existance of a wife or partner is still not in evidence....?? There is no good way to end it, you just have to make other plans and work out how to avoid the same trap again. Good luck " There was no evidence of her at all....but I'm feeling much better now....takes a few others kind words to be able to move on | |||
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"Sadly you need to move on. Definitely don't turn up at the house. If you really want to end things being able to explain yourself, then put something in writing. Wait 24 hours and re-read it. Then if it is factual and not emotional waffle, post it. I am sorry for how you are feeling today. I guess several of us, me included, have been in a similar position. Learn from this experience. XX" | |||
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"going to his house would make things worse in my opinion, think you just have to put it down to experience and move on, easy to say, hard to do i know xx" This... Don't go round.....Respect their space and definately their place. You're not alone on here. Show maturity and move on though it may be very hard for a while but don't look back there. They may be reading this post too. Learn from each encounter. | |||
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"I started to fall for a guy. His fault for being so damn hot and holding me as we slept after hours and hours of fun! I ran away. Blocked him. Now I'm over it. We're talking and planning some more fun. No overnight stays though! That was the problem....the dating stuff, cooking together, shopping together, dog walking etc etc and sleeping over night....fucks with your head....how cud he do that?? Mine kept asking if I was in love with him. It was like he wanted me to be. Kept telling me I was 'girlfriend material'. He actually told me he loved me!!! We told each other often. It was so wrong of him I think you have to accept that things went wrong and you've now got to move on. It's not right to break up their marriage and it's for them to deal with how they go forward, but without you. You also need to think if you want to carry on in this lifestyle and how you stop this happening again. Perhaps don't meet attached men without their partner, or stick to single men only." as far as I can tell the only thing that went wrong was that the wife came back...although he should not have led the OP on in the first place but we all know that these situations do happen...but only if we let them | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn Well then I feel really sorry for you. He lied to you and strung you along. It's not like you fell for him and knew about the wife. Bastard Don't go to the house. Walk away with dignity." | |||
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"Hi this is probably the wrong place to seek advice but I need a bit of advice/perspective. I was playing with the male half of a couple (they play separately). Well long story short feelings got involved on bother sides...but I overstepped the mark and got tearful....Tad girly and silly but I'm an emotional person. Well I'm now blocked/deleted etc etc. I'm gutted to say the least as I can't explain or defend myself. Do I just put up and shut up and move on or go to his house to at least end things decently so I don't feel like a total dick " Why do you care about ending things decently if he treated you the way he has? By going round to his house, you'll probably cause issues between him and his wife. That's the only motivation I see for going to his home. It doesn't matter what you say to defend yourself, if he's a liar, he'll just manipulate the situation and his wife will most likely believe him over you. Distraction works best. Find someone else to give your time and attention to. | |||
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"Hi this is probably the wrong place to seek advice but I need a bit of advice/perspective. I was playing with the male half of a couple (they play separately). Well long story short feelings got involved on bother sides...but I overstepped the mark and got tearful....Tad girly and silly but I'm an emotional person. Well I'm now blocked/deleted etc etc. I'm gutted to say the least as I can't explain or defend myself. Do I just put up and shut up and move on or go to his house to at least end things decently so I don't feel like a total dick " You need to sort your emotions out by yourself, do not go to them. Find out what the cause is and deal with that before you meet again. | |||
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"I'm very sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve this and I hope you become a stronger person because of this. But I think you should go over to his house and demand answers. You're not a piece of thrash that can be used and thrown in the rubbish bin. Talk to the wife also , let her know what a real winner she has for a husband... And if they have a bunny as a pet , say goodbye to that bunny.. That will show him not to hurt you and will discourage him from doing this again in the future..... Revenge is best thing to mend a broken heart... Good luck" haha been watching fatal attraction have we | |||
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"I'm very sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve this and I hope you become a stronger person because of this. But I think you should go over to his house and demand answers. You're not a piece of thrash that can be used and thrown in the rubbish bin. Talk to the wife also , let her know what a real winner she has for a husband... And if they have a bunny as a pet , say goodbye to that bunny.. That will show him not to hurt you and will discourage him from doing this again in the future..... Revenge is best thing to mend a broken heart... Good luck haha been watching fatal attraction have we" | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x" Just one of those things. Keep moving | |||
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" Revenge is best thing to mend a broken heart... " What goes around comes around..is your dignity worth revenge? In my experience it's not..move on and don't sink to his level x | |||
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" Revenge is best thing to mend a broken heart... What goes around comes around..is your dignity worth revenge? In my experience it's not..move on and don't sink to his level x" Says you... I believe in a eye for an eye.. I want my pound of flesh | |||
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"Yup I hate to say it, it's horrible when things go wrong, but the site is generally NSA and as he had a partner you need to respect that x. Move on OP plenty of fish in the sea and fucks on fab x Thank you....I met him on his single profile....no word of a wife for bout 2 months and lots of over nights at his house.....they were on a break lol! Then wife came back and I tried to just see it as nsa but he had told me he loved me.....I didn't stand a chance did I???? Oh well..you live and learn Well then I feel really sorry for you. He lied to you and strung you along. It's not like you fell for him and knew about the wife. Bastard Don't go to the house. Walk away with dignity." This! Sounds like a manipulative so and so, you're best shot of and move on to better things x | |||
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