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By *issfunandflirty OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bridgend

Me and my partner, well more specifically the F is looking for a female for her, for all the males out there don't judge me (M) but it genuinely isn't about me and is more her idea and interest than mine.

I do have a life philosophy of never saying no. Ever. But it's almost impossible to find a woman willing to join a couple/join the female? We are completely new to all this so are in uncharted waters.

We went to chams in darlaston as our 'introduction' to the swinging world and we are keen but anyone with experience have any tips for us?

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

From experience, clubs are the way to go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely agree with clubs being the best way.

We have met single females, however we have met them in clubs first, formed friendships with them and they have got to know us as a couple and our dynamics before any mention of play.

What you have to remember is that a single female is on her own, and absolutely has to feel safe and comfortable with both in a couple, the dynamics of that couple etc. And certainly don't want to be a 'performing seal' for any couple which is why getting to know them and most importantly them you first is so important.

It's not impossible to find women on fab but it is certainly harder than in clubs in my experience, if you've been to Chams it's a good place, perhaps travelling to other clubs such as Xtasia, Townhouse etc for couples and single lady nights would be a good idea, you can have a drink and socialise

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

please write on your profile what 'type' she likes..no one will get narky, reading what her preference in women is, will make it easier, than saying you have a type but its unspecified xx i like what you write on your profile, but would avoid sending private message, because of unspecified type xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"please write on your profile what 'type' she likes..no one will get narky, reading what her preference in women is, will make it easier, than saying you have a type but its unspecified xx i like what you write on your profile, but would avoid sending private message, because of unspecified type xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"please write on your profile what 'type' she likes..no one will get narky, reading what her preference in women is, will make it easier, than saying you have a type but its unspecified xx i like what you write on your profile, but would avoid sending private message, because of unspecified type xx"

Do you need to like a specific type of woman? I personally like woman of all shapes and sizes, for me it is more about personality, how we click in real life and if I feel like we would be able to have a good time together.

Same for Mark too. Each person is different, you could be identical twins and we might like one and not the other based on personality alone.

We found we had the most success online finding single women OP, as we never found many at clubs, but we found that there were alot of fake women's profiles along with the people who just weren't interested in us too which does make it feel like a Narrow search field. But you will get there in the end there are lots of single women out there who want to have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That makes it seem like my reply was to the quoted piece it was more a reference to how it can affect your chances OP, As the above quote shows. Should have been more specific!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely agree with clubs being the best way.

We have met single females, however we have met them in clubs first, formed friendships with them and they have got to know us as a couple and our dynamics before any mention of play.

What you have to remember is that a single female is on her own, and absolutely has to feel safe and comfortable with both in a couple, the dynamics of that couple etc. And certainly don't want to be a 'performing seal' for any couple which is why getting to know them and most importantly them you first is so important.

It's not impossible to find women on fab but it is certainly harder than in clubs in my experience, if you've been to Chams it's a good place, perhaps travelling to other clubs such as Xtasia, Townhouse etc for couples and single lady nights would be a good idea, you can have a drink and socialise

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Couldn't agree with this more. We have a good few friends we see regularly and have established really good friendships with. Not just through clubs though, socials and parties are also a great way for people to get to know you both as a couple and if they want to take things further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What you have to remember is that a single female is on her own, and absolutely has to feel safe and comfortable with both in a couple, the dynamics of that couple etc. And certainly don't want to be a 'performing seal' for any couple which is why getting to know them and most importantly them you first is so important."

This! Absolutely

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