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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Maybe

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Maybe "

Bad girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't think it's a maybe....

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

I just don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists? "

To the question "Do you want to play?" there's not much of an answer. I want to play, depends who with and when. With a couple depends what their expectations are and what boundaries etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

let me check and get back to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

though vague opening messages are the worst...

we stopped replying if its not worth replying to now.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists? "

To respond properly, I do agree that people should say yes or no. It grinds my gears when some guy badgers me for a meet but never ever nails one down. however I don't think they are the norm. I have had enough meets to know there are plenty of people out there willing to say yes.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Not sure

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists? "

See, because of my overwhelming pedantism, my answer would be yes, I do want to play but not necessarily with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone wants to meet you they will..

if they start fannying around with 'err maybe's' then its time to cut them loose and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can i get back to you on that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if someone wants to meet you they will..

if they start fannying around with 'err maybe's' then its time to cut them loose and move on "

We do........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists? "

Wow did you just get the email?

This place has been awash with sin , since they let me join

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists? "

Umm.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with Mrs fox!

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists? "

Tut tut silly people! Its a yes from me

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Ermmmmmm? ?????? Can I phone a friend ???? Or take 50/50 ????? Suzi xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone wants to meet you they will..

if they start fannying around with 'err maybe's' then its time to cut them loose and move on

We do........"

excellent

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Ermmmmmm? ?????? Can I phone a friend ???? Or take 50/50 ????? Suzi xxxxx "

You forgot to ask the audience too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Vague reply means not really interested...move on.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"Vague reply means not really interested...move on. "

Agreed don't waste your time..

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Ermmmmmm? ?????? Can I phone a friend ???? Or take 50/50 ????? Suzi xxxxx

You forgot to ask the audience too "

Damm it ....Yeh, thanks knew there was another option .... lol dippy as xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We realise that a vague answer means a no, but the question remains why be vague? We use our stock reply....

"Thanks, but not for us, happy swinging" it's pretty easy!

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Concentrating on other mails

Keeping options open

Hoping someone will go away

pass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See, because of my overwhelming pedantism, my answer would be yes, I do want to play but not necessarily with you."

I've literally given that reply to someone before and got several people telling me off for being rude to the poor bloke. You just can't win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We realise that a vague answer means a no, but the question remains why be vague? We use our stock reply....

"Thanks, but not for us, happy swinging" it's pretty easy! "

People are vague when they mean no because they don't know how to say no without seeming mean or rude. I think it's an attempt not to hurt others' feelings.

I personally agree that a straight up no would be better, but I can understand why that often doesn't seem like the kindest way. If we just took the vagueness to mean no then I think it would be just as simple (kind of like taking no answer to a pm as a no).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, that really annoys me!

If it's got to the point that I'm swapping messages with them, then I'm pretty much ready to meet - quite available if they want me...

So I ask what they like to do, what they really want, so that I can be sure we're looking for the same things..

And the vague answers start - or else they very obviously try to say the things that they think I want to hear... and I just go cold, turn off like somebody has slammed my brakes on hard!

Why can't people just be honest and direct? Let's find out if we both want the same thing?

Sorry - I've just had one of those messages a moment ago, and I'm in a right proper moody...!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists? "

love these guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps perhaps perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some people reply in such a vague way to direct questions? for example :- do you want to play? Surely we are all adult enough to just say yes or no, has fabswingers become awash with dreamers, time wasters and fantasists?

See, because of my overwhelming pedantism, my answer would be yes, I do want to play but not necessarily with you."

Lol my sort of answer

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

They are being polite, is my guess. Hint-taking is not always strong around here.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

Christmas is Coming YAY!

Well Thursday is out this week and Monday isn't looking good either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your right

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"if someone wants to meet you they will..

if they start fannying around with 'err maybe's' then its time to cut them loose and move on "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I like this thread, or am I ambivalent? Well yes and no....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye

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