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Verifying advice for the plague of single males!!

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Hi all! Finding it very hard to get someone's attention long enough for a decent conversation let alone get anywhere near verified.

Having been here for 3weeks now and have tried all different approaches to a variety of different people still with no joy! From what I have learnt single men seem to be the majority and are viewed as pests/time wasters by minority of genuine ppl willing/wanting to meet! so my question is how is a genuine newbie single male like myself able to verify themselves?? Most chat rooms seem to be a free for all on the first women to get her boobs out still not even had a response to hello until yest evening with 12 ppl in the room haha! It's just very frustrating for a single male to break into the scene! Any advice greatly appreciated from either sex! And any other men feeling my pain? Peace Fab fuckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a better profile pic i had to tilt my fone back and forth before i actually relised what it was, your profile pic is what most people look at first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just out 'profile advice' into the search in the forums and you'll see loads of advice

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

welcome to Fab. as you have guessed you are in the 'difficult' group!

it can take time to get known, some use the forum as you are and this gets you noticed - just be aware that all posts you make will be visible to people you might want to meet one day, so perhaps temper the comments or at least count to 10 sometimes - this is not aimed at you, just general advice!

think about attending a social or going to a club and getting someone there to verify you.

lastly, persevere as 3 weeks is very brief in people's Fab lifes.

good luck & enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not looking for profile advice, so I cannot really help. Most will say go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op. Get yourself to group socials or clubs and ask for a veri that way provided you are who you are polite respectful look nice n smell good you will get a good responce. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A poor photograph doesn't help, nor does the demand for something in the subject line of messages. Plus you are restricting the likelihood of getting replies by saying as much about what you don't want as you say about what you do want.

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Thanks for the responses! Clubs are another misson altogether the majority will only accept verified single males on sites such as this haha! Seems to be a some what demoralising circle until we lower our standards just to get verified to be accepted by the elite!

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"You're not looking for profile advice, so I cannot really help. Most will say go to a club."

Struggling with getting verified tick on profile! Not a profile advice? Haha

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Just join in on the forums and chatrooms and look in the meets section and go to a social and a club and relax and be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've know idea what your different approaches are when you message, so can't comment, but your profile picture is dreadful. Show pictures that show your sex appeal, and that might help widen your fishing pool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just out 'profile advice' into the search in the forums and you'll see loads of advice"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to a club and have good chat with people there, couples, females, males if you're that way inclined.

Don't expect to get lucky, if you do great, but don't go in thinking that's the end result.

Most people will be happy to verify you.

Good luck though, it's not the easiest of places I here for single guys. Unless you're someone like Chris hemsworth!! Haha

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Ok ok profile pics changed! I live in a small city and would prefer not to broadcast myself that much with family members working in local public sector. Clubs would be abit intimidating for the most confident newbie to attend alone! Surely I'm not alone here?!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"Ok ok profile pics changed! I live in a small city and would prefer not to broadcast myself that much with family members working in local public sector. Clubs would be abit intimidating for the most confident newbie to attend alone! Surely I'm not alone here?! "

Grow some and go to one.

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Ok ok profile pics changed! I live in a small city and would prefer not to broadcast myself that much with family members working in local public sector. Clubs would be abit intimidating for the most confident newbie to attend alone! Surely I'm not alone here?!

Grow some and go to one. "

Real talk!! Thanks Bobby! Fellow lone wolf? Have you attended many?

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Three weeks is absolutely nothing on here.

Take your time, join in forums, try and chat to people, but accept that women are inundated on here and often can't reply.

Slowly you'll become known and seen as being a committed member, rather than one of the thousands of blokes who join expecting to be jumped on by a gang of nymphomaniac women within an hour of joining.

It might take weeks or months, but the decent folk start to stand out after a while. Patience is everything.

Oh, and forget the stuff about lowering standards. Sounds tacky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep at what you are doing dose take a few weeks but..... I would say is maybe a few more pics etc... not saying face pic... everyone loves a good bum pic body etc so maybe that might help a little.

Mrs p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all! Finding it very hard to get someone's attention long enough for a decent conversation let alone get anywhere near verified.

Having been here for 3weeks now and have tried all different approaches to a variety of different people still with no joy! From what I have learnt single men seem to be the majority and are viewed as pests/time wasters by minority of genuine ppl willing/wanting to meet! so my question is how is a genuine newbie single male like myself able to verify themselves?? Most chat rooms seem to be a free for all on the first women to get her boobs out still not even had a response to hello until yest evening with 12 ppl in the room haha! It's just very frustrating for a single male to break into the scene! Any advice greatly appreciated from either sex! And any other men feeling my pain? Peace Fab fuckers"

Try going into a cam room local to you. .. no cock out or boobies, just general chat.

Get noticed, and if you want a cam veri (not worth the effort, but your choice) then ask for someone to do so... but LEAVE YOUR COCK IN YOUR TROUSERS.

helpful enough?

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Three weeks is absolutely nothing on here.

Take your time, join in forums, try and chat to people, but accept that women are inundated on here and often can't reply.

Slowly you'll become known and seen as being a committed member, rather than one of the thousands of blokes who join expecting to be jumped on by a gang of nymphomaniac women within an hour of joining.

It might take weeks or months, but the decent folk start to stand out after a while. Patience is everything.

Oh, and forget the stuff about lowering standards. Sounds tacky "

Sound advice thank you! Any club experience? I will not lower lower my standards

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Hi all! Finding it very hard to get someone's attention long enough for a decent conversation let alone get anywhere near verified.

Having been here for 3weeks now and have tried all different approaches to a variety of different people still with no joy! From what I have learnt single men seem to be the majority and are viewed as pests/time wasters by minority of genuine ppl willing/wanting to meet! so my question is how is a genuine newbie single male like myself able to verify themselves?? Most chat rooms seem to be a free for all on the first women to get her boobs out still not even had a response to hello until yest evening with 12 ppl in the room haha! It's just very frustrating for a single male to break into the scene! Any advice greatly appreciated from either sex! And any other men feeling my pain? Peace Fab fuckers

Try going into a cam room local to you. .. no cock out or boobies, just general chat.

Get noticed, and if you want a cam veri (not worth the effort, but your choice) then ask for someone to do so... but LEAVE YOUR COCK IN YOUR TROUSERS.

helpful enough? "

Yup thank you! Cock is on lock down! To be fair is seen more helmets the halfords since joining here!!

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Just keep at what you are doing dose take a few weeks but..... I would say is maybe a few more pics etc... not saying face pic... everyone loves a good bum pic body etc so maybe that might help a little.

Mrs p "

Thanks Mrs P! New pics coming soon!!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just keep at what you are doing dose take a few weeks but..... I would say is maybe a few more pics etc... not saying face pic... everyone loves a good bum pic body etc so maybe that might help a little.

Mrs p

Thanks Mrs P! New pics coming soon!! "

Will keep a eye out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join in on the forums, enjoy the banter, show us your personality.

I'd try a big social in your area, keep checking the meet forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look you're making this out to be hard. Just send out a fancy a fuck message with lots of cock pics to all the women and couples in your area. If you do that everyday someone will say yes. It's a numbers game

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Look you're making this out to be hard. Just send out a fancy a fuck message with lots of cock pics to all the women and couples in your area. If you do that everyday someone will say yes. It's a numbers game "

Things must b different this side of the water my friend! Iv had 3 absolute stunning women bloke me because I sent one in a collection of pics out of pure excitement haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look you're making this out to be hard. Just send out a fancy a fuck message with lots of cock pics to all the women and couples in your area. If you do that everyday someone will say yes. It's a numbers game

Things must b different this side of the water my friend! Iv had 3 absolute stunning women bloke me because I sent one in a collection of pics out of pure excitement haha "

Try a face pic sent in a message see if that works x

Mrs p x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look you're making this out to be hard. Just send out a fancy a fuck message with lots of cock pics to all the women and couples in your area. If you do that everyday someone will say yes. It's a numbers game

Things must b different this side of the water my friend! Iv had 3 absolute stunning women bloke me because I sent one in a collection of pics out of pure excitement haha "

You're not applying yourself... Swinging is a gladiator sport. You have to take no prisoners. You need to expand your search field to 200 miles , go to gangbangs , go dogging, and try BDSM.... That's how you become a swinging champion... Let these other guys go to socials and clubs... To spend money and waste time. You're a warrior fighting the good fight . It will pay off..

Btw if you get one Verifaction from a woman. It doesn't mean the flood gates will open for sex. Focus on getting great sex and the verifications will come... Also there are no women on fab in NYC

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Look you're making this out to be hard. Just send out a fancy a fuck message with lots of cock pics to all the women and couples in your area. If you do that everyday someone will say yes. It's a numbers game

Things must b different this side of the water my friend! Iv had 3 absolute stunning women bloke me because I sent one in a collection of pics out of pure excitement haha

Try a face pic sent in a message see if that works x

Mrs p x"

Mrs p the face pic is always at the front!!!

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"Look you're making this out to be hard. Just send out a fancy a fuck message with lots of cock pics to all the women and couples in your area. If you do that everyday someone will say yes. It's a numbers game

Things must b different this side of the water my friend! Iv had 3 absolute stunning women bloke me because I sent one in a collection of pics out of pure excitement haha

You're not applying yourself... Swinging is a gladiator sport. You have to take no prisoners. You need to expand your search field to 200 miles , go to gangbangs , go dogging, and try BDSM.... That's how you become a swinging champion... Let these other guys go to socials and clubs... To spend money and waste time. You're a warrior fighting the good fight . It will pay off..

Btw if you get one Verifaction from a woman. It doesn't mean the flood gates will open for sex. Focus on getting great sex and the verifications will come... Also there are no women on fab in NYC "

You just won the "Fab Motivation Award 2016" with that post!! One of the reasons I always love MERICA! Haha! Advice absorbed and applied!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look you're making this out to be hard. Just send out a fancy a fuck message with lots of cock pics to all the women and couples in your area. If you do that everyday someone will say yes. It's a numbers game

Things must b different this side of the water my friend! Iv had 3 absolute stunning women bloke me because I sent one in a collection of pics out of pure excitement haha

You're not applying yourself... Swinging is a gladiator sport. You have to take no prisoners. You need to expand your search field to 200 miles , go to gangbangs , go dogging, and try BDSM.... That's how you become a swinging champion... Let these other guys go to socials and clubs... To spend money and waste time. You're a warrior fighting the good fight . It will pay off..

Btw if you get one Verifaction from a woman. It doesn't mean the flood gates will open for sex. Focus on getting great sex and the verifications will come... Also there are no women on fab in NYC

You just won the "Fab Motivation Award 2016" with that post!! One of the reasons I always love MERICA! Haha! Advice absorbed and applied! "

I love the Brits, my father was one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not looking for profile advice, so I cannot really help. Most will say go to a club.

Struggling with getting verified tick on profile! Not a profile advice? Haha "

You're missing the point. I am not risking a ban. Profile advice cannot be given without an explicit request.

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"You're not looking for profile advice, so I cannot really help. Most will say go to a club.

Struggling with getting verified tick on profile! Not a profile advice? Haha

You're missing the point. I am not risking a ban. Profile advice cannot be given without an explicit request."

Y will u get banned?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not looking for profile advice, so I cannot really help. Most will say go to a club.

Struggling with getting verified tick on profile! Not a profile advice? Haha

You're missing the point. I am not risking a ban. Profile advice cannot be given without an explicit request.

Y will u get banned?!?! "

You are taking a little while to take the hint.

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"You're not looking for profile advice, so I cannot really help. Most will say go to a club.

Struggling with getting verified tick on profile! Not a profile advice? Haha

You're missing the point. I am not risking a ban. Profile advice cannot be given without an explicit request.

Y will u get banned?!?!

You are taking a little while to take the hint."

Get to the point if you have one please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have you thought of becoming bisexual ? twice the chance of a meet ! x

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By *nkforthekink OP   Man
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton


"have you thought of becoming bisexual ? twice the chance of a meet ! x"

Might aswel think about being gay 3 times as lucky ?!?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"You're not looking for profile advice, so I cannot really help. Most will say go to a club.

Struggling with getting verified tick on profile! Not a profile advice? Haha

You're missing the point. I am not risking a ban. Profile advice cannot be given without an explicit request.

Y will u get banned?!?!

You are taking a little while to take the hint.

Get to the point if you have one please "

Maybe you would like to ask for profile advise ? Doh !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the responses! Clubs are another misson altogether the majority will only accept verified single males on sites such as this haha! Seems to be a some what demoralising circle until we lower our standards just to get verified to be accepted by the elite! "

News to me - tell us which ones will only let fab verified males in. I have been to loads and none have ever asked for my fab profile. Photo ID yes when you join - fab profile no. OP I think you are just using this as an excuse not to go to one.

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