FabSwingers.com forum: Dating sites VS FAB

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do you suppose it is that as a single man I have lots and lots of joy on dating sites but absolutely none on FAB.

I know how to talk to people and I have emotional intelligence. I explain within two sentences on the dating sites that I'm looking for casual sex only and I get hunted. Rather than on here I have to hunt and only end up getting my time wasted.

Weird..as this is supposedly the site where the casual sex happens and the other is for dating. The one person I met on here was lovely - but she ignored me on FAB but actually contacted me first on the dating app! Breaking her own rule of not sending the first message. She says there is nothing wrong with my profile and doesn't know why I

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Women and coupes on here aren't into dating and are more discerning in that they are looking for swingers, not serial fucks? Its about the lifestyle?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Competition is fierce on here, you have 1 veri but haven't displayed it, single ladies and couples hold all the cards! Ratio of men is very high! You have to become exceptional to start getting much notice on here, maybe try a swingers club or social.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I keep my veri private sometimes but not always. I the dating site ratio is equally high from what I've seen from my friends inboxes on both sites.

Personally I think it's more you are expected to chat more on dating sites regardless of whether it's one night stands, and regular casual sex or a girlfriend.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I keep my veri private sometimes but not always. I the dating site ratio is equally high from what I've seen from my friends inboxes on both sites.

Personally I think it's more you are expected to chat more on dating sites regardless of whether it's one night stands, and regular casual sex or a girlfriend.

I'm looking for regular casual stuff with people whose company I enjoy. I can't be arsed with a club yet if I'm honest. Maybe when I've found a woman who would also like to go, it's not something I want to do alone. Not out of fear.. I I'd like to experience their excitement as well as my own on the first time. "
ok but if you don't invest in this lifestyle you wont get any reward and you probly post another thread moaning, this swinging is a community.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I keep my veri private sometimes but not always. I the dating site ratio is equally high from what I've seen from my friends inboxes on both sites.

Personally I think it's more you are expected to chat more on dating sites regardless of whether it's one night stands, and regular casual sex or a girlfriend.

I'm looking for regular casual stuff with people whose company I enjoy. I can't be arsed with a club yet if I'm honest. Maybe when I've found a woman who would also like to go, it's not something I want to do alone. Not out of fear.. I I'd like to experience their excitement as well as my own on the first time. ok but if you don't invest in this lifestyle you wont get any reward and you probly post another thread moaning, this swinging is a community."

Got to agree with this ... if you can't be parsed, what does that say about you? I think people can read between the lines and see who is really intent on dipping then maybe diving into the lifestyle and who thinks its a sex site ....

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If you're having the fun you're seeking what's it matter where you find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined a dating app and within 3 days I had a woman contacting me and when I told her that I was just after fun, she was up for that even though it's not what she normally does! As opposed to on here, contacting females/couples and just getting deleted!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Weird innit?

I'm the opposite. I have no joy really on either POF or Tinder, but I do quite well here.

Answers on a postcard please....

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Women, we are a mystery

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We do play with single guys so we are not knocking them but some of the single guys on here are not swingers they are just looking for sex. Quite a few that contact us are happy to meet up with MrsH but are a bit freaked out that MrH likes to watch. That is not having a go at the OP just our opinion of a lot of the singles on the sight at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the same for me lol. I am on another sex dating site and I get more dates there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple really and highlights the difference in attitude to sex between men and women.

Fab is essentially a simple sex site. Uncomplicated, no strings simple sex - or it should be. There are various profiles where the lines are blurred but these do tend to be from the single women and some of the couples and the couples profiles that exhibit these traits I would assume are 'managed' by the women. We have all seen them, the ones where the posts are more appropriate for Facebook and scream give men attention as opposed to fuck me.

No strings gratification of sexual urges is nearly every mans dreams. However, for the most part, women require more 'connection' - this is mainly down to good old Mother Nature and evolution.

Our nature is reflected in dating sites v fab.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I know alot of guys where the fucking is better for them the more they know someone

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By *ornyharry39Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

What dating sites are those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Presumably the vanilla or mainstream ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm getting quite a few meets from a game app. Not gonna say the app lol, but it's just a game nowt to do with dating. Put it this way the girls aren't backward in coming forward.

Literally just finished arrangements for a sex meet Wednesday with a fit girl I didn't know existed a few hours ago.

Fab is ok though. The swipe left and right type stuff will leave Fab standing within a few years if they don't keep on top of modernising.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Fab is ok though. The swipe left and right type stuff will leave Fab standing within a few years if they don't keep on top of modernising."

Nah, I like the social element of this site. I think a lot of people forget that while they are desperately swiping with one hand while wanking with the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating sites encourage face pics. And do not allow dick pics. Fabs allows dick pics and so forth and men hide their face for discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating sites encourage face pics. And do not allow dick pics. Fabs allows dick pics and so forth and men hide their face for discretion. "

Ladies seem to prefer faces to cocks.

That game I go on has my face pic only and I'm beating them off with a stick. It goes from game to kik, and my kik now is pure filth. And I don't think I'm particularly good looking or anything.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Why do you suppose it is that as a single man I have lots and lots of joy on dating sites but absolutely none on FAB.

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If you are getting very good results on other sites , why worry about this one. ?.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Dating sites encourage face pics. And do not allow dick pics. Fabs allows dick pics and so forth and men hide their face for discretion.

Ladies seem to prefer faces to cocks.

That game I go on has my face pic only and I'm beating them off with a stick. It goes from game to kik, and my kik now is pure filth. And I don't think I'm particularly good looking or anything. "

Yeah, we get it. You're popular on a gaming site. You do realise you'll be getting non stop messages from blokes now, asking for the name of the site.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Dating sites encourage face pics. And do not allow dick pics. Fabs allows dick pics and so forth and men hide their face for discretion.

Ladies seem to prefer faces to cocks.

That game I go on has my face pic only and I'm beating them off with a stick. It goes from game to kik, and my kik now is pure filth. And I don't think I'm particularly good looking or anything.

Yeah, we get it. You're popular on a gaming site. You do realise you'll be getting non stop messages from blokes now, asking for the name of the site."

I won't be one of them. Gaming can fuck off, random sex or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omfg, when will people realise this is not a dating/sex/ site, it's swinging, it's a lifestyle, and if your not willing to invest in it,,,,,, well bog off back to pof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you suppose it is that as a single man I have lots and lots of joy on dating sites but absolutely none on FAB.

Fab is ruled by Amazon women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You do realise you'll be getting non stop messages from blokes now, asking for the name of the site."

Answer is no. Not til I've ate all the best cherries anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Omfg, when will people realise this is not a dating/sex/ site, it's swinging, it's a lifestyle, and if your not willing to invest in it,,,,,, well bog off back to pof. "

No one has criticised either, just highlighted differences and wondered why.

Sorry, but I thought a 'swinging' site was a 'sex' site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating sites encourage face pics. And do not allow dick pics. Fabs allows dick pics and so forth and men hide their face for discretion.

Ladies seem to prefer faces to cocks.

That game I go on has my face pic only and I'm beating them off with a stick. It goes from game to kik, and my kik now is pure filth. And I don't think I'm particularly good looking or anything.

Yeah, we get it. You're popular on a gaming site. You do realise you'll be getting non stop messages from blokes now, asking for the name of the site."

This is why men are not smarter than women.

A woman finds a site with lots of hot guys. She keeps quiet and fucks all the hot guys.

A man finds a site with lots of hot girls. He will tell all his friends and post in a public forum about that site before fucking all the hot girls.

Jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Omfg, when will people realise this is not a dating/sex/ site, it's swinging, it's a lifestyle, and if your not willing to invest in it,,,,,, well bog off back to pof.

No one has criticised either, just highlighted differences and wondered why.

Sorry, but I thought a 'swinging' site was a 'sex' site. "

Your perceptions are very wrong. Swinging involves a lot more than sex, sex is the icing on the cake from meeting liberated people, that you can connect with mentally and physically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Omfg, when will people realise this is not a dating/sex/ site, it's swinging, it's a lifestyle, and if your not willing to invest in it,,,,,, well bog off back to pof.

No one has criticised either, just highlighted differences and wondered why.

Sorry, but I thought a 'swinging' site was a 'sex' site.

Your perceptions are very wrong. Swinging involves a lot more than sex, sex is the icing on the cake from meeting liberated people, that you can connect with mentally and physically. "

Perhaps, for some, but the primary focus is sex. Some like the connection and social elements as well. But it's about sex. Talking? Yes, bit of weather and politics then sex.

Sex first, other stuff is an add on.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites."

Totally agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it's a marketplace and as such supply and demand affect 'pricing' and expectations.

Also indicative of the differing attitudes of men and women, typically, to sex.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I have absolutely no luck on dating sites, I don't think I've ever received a message back from anyone I'm interested in. I don't have very much free time either, which doesn't help matters.

Those two realities combined is the reason I stick to "swinging"... if a single man is capable of doing such a thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow this took off! Looks like there are few blokes who agree.. I end up as friends with as many women I have sex with on pof so I'm not sure how that differs from your "lifestyle"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't necessarily differ as such. But sex, for the men especially is the big draw on fab.

Hence the relative over supply of guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why men are not smarter than women.

A woman finds a site with lots of hot guys. She keeps quiet and fucks all the hot guys.

A man finds a site with lots of hot girls. He will tell all his friends and post in a public forum about that site before fucking all the hot girls.

Jeez

Relax fella, it's not everyone's strategy to be the only guy in the room. Some of us use wit, charm and white underpants...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why men are not smarter than women.

A woman finds a site with lots of hot guys. She keeps quiet and fucks all the hot guys.

A man finds a site with lots of hot girls. He will tell all his friends and post in a public forum about that site before fucking all the hot girls.

Jeez

Relax fella, it's not everyone's strategy to be the only guy in the room. Some of us use wit, charm and white underpants..."

Sorry, sex is a gladiator sport to me...

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

If you have to start a thread about chances, you have little chance.

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

The site he is referring to is linked to your Facebook - no thank you! Some of us respect our privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okwhu not stick to other dating sites if you're being hunted! Makes sense to stick to websites which work best for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because I would like to meet couples as well as single females.

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites."
....again from this well clued up young lady .. perfect answer .... heed what she says ...

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Wow this took off! Looks like there are few blokes who agree.. I end up as friends with as many women I have sex with on pof so I'm not sure how that differs from your "lifestyle" "

How many of your friends from other sites are into the group sex scenario? I would guess not many and the ones that are are probably on here too...And that's before bringing the fet/kink fans into the mix. Fab can be as deep as the ocean or as shallow as a puddle...The choice is yours.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"This is why men are not smarter than women.

A woman finds a site with lots of hot guys. She keeps quiet and fucks all the hot guys.

A man finds a site with lots of hot girls. He will tell all his friends and post in a public forum about that site before fucking all the hot girls.

Jeez

Relax fella, it's not everyone's strategy to be the only guy in the room. Some of us use wit, charm and white underpants..."

Haha, someone once met me for my wit and charm on the forum.....and pink undies

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I get more attention here than I do on dating sites. I'm thinking it's because on those they look at my face on here its my boobs

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I get asked on dates on the swinging site and get asked for sex on the dating sites.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I get asked on dates on the swinging site and get asked for sex on the dating sites. "

Yeah, me too - only had nsa on POF, found a lot more here!!

Mind you, I've got a date with George Clooney next week!

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

I have actually had much better luck chatting with women on Dating sites than Swinging sites.

-JD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow this took off! Looks like there are few blokes who agree.. I end up as friends with as many women I have sex with on pof so I'm not sure how that differs from your "lifestyle" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't get a date on dating sites full of guys looking for casual sex!!!

I use the sites for what they're designed but have ended up with lots of dates here and non from dating sites

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

Men get more sex on dating sites because women will use sex to get love.

Men will use love to get sex!

Actually men will use anything to get sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have absolutely no luck on dating sites, I don't think I've ever received a message back from anyone I'm interested in. I don't have very much free time either, which doesn't help matters.

Those two realities combined is the reason I stick to "swinging"... if a single man is capable of doing such a thing

Oh he is very capable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites."

Exactly this. I had some lovely dates on dating websites but realised I am not that kind of guy so let it go. If you could just find a website where you could meet people of the opposite sex to go for meals etc. with and not have commitment that would be great. Fab is great for meeting people for physical shenanigans, but you get a funny look when you suggest a picnic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women happily join a dating site,tell all their friends and have sex with someone they just had a drink with. Women don't join swinging sites because they don't want anyone to know they are looking for sex,because of the stigma attached to swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites.

I like picnics but I'd have to be attracted and have sex afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites.

I like picnics but I'd have to be attracted and have sex afterwards

I wouldn't say there hasn't been the occasional "shenanigan" both during and after the picnic but it's never be a "set in stone"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What dating sites you on thrillseekingmissile

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites.

You should keep an eye out for MissCheekyChops dating posts then. There are plenty of people on here after a no commitment date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites.

You should keep an eye out for MissCheekyChops dating posts then. There are plenty of people on here after a no commitment date."

Miss cheeky chops is a star, I posted in one of those threads once....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Perhaps because there are more men than women on here, and more women than men on dating sites.

You should keep an eye out for MissCheekyChops dating posts then. There are plenty of people on here after a no commitment date.

Miss cheeky chops is a star, I posted in one of those threads once.... "

One day....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women happily join a dating site,tell all their friends and have sex with someone they just had a drink with. Women don't join swinging sites because they don't want anyone to know they are looking for sex,because of the stigma attached to swingers. "

It's ok to shag around but swinging is disgusting.

Weird how Swingers say it's the exact opposite.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Men get more sex on dating sites because women will use sex to get love.

Men will use love to get sex!

Actually men will use anything to get sex!

You got it!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I'm beginning to agree. I think it's easier to find sex on a vanilla dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We do play with single guys so we are not knocking them but some of the single guys on here are not swingers they are just looking for sex. Quite a few that contact us are happy to meet up with MrsH but are a bit freaked out that MrH likes to watch. That is not having a go at the OP just our opinion of a lot of the singles on the sight at the moment. "

Yes I find that, a lot of single men are just looking for a female for regular sex with no commitment. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Weird innit?

I'm the opposite. I have no joy really on either POF or Tinder, but I do quite well here.

Answers on a postcard please....

What's POF??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of fish just figured it out... Haven't seen that sight for 10-15 yrs didn't know it still existed haha

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

But what fo you get asked on the fetish sites ??????

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