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By *o Peep n Woody OP   Couple
over a year ago

suffolk

Good morning all. We have been on fab for 5 months and are looking for a single female to help us fulfill our threesome fantasy

We have a detailed profile, several pics and try posting meets but as yet we cannot seem to find a genuine female or maybe we are just not appealing ??

We message females but 9 times out of 10 no reply

Any tips on what we are doing wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have much the same problem when buying a lottery ticket each week.........you just have to keep trying and hoping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've only had a quick look cos i'm on my phone so apologies if i've missed something. But it looks like you're only into soft play and i have to say if i was playing with a couple as a single it would not appeal. If 2 couples are playing you still have all options available to you just not with all participants lol but to soft play then watching the 2 of you getting it on would make me feel a little left out i think. So possibly you've limited your market although if i've read it right and that's what you're after then there will be someone out there good luck x

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Maybe take your own advice

"if we do not reply please do not take offence; you are just not our type."

Unfortunately there are many couples and single men on the site all looking for the same thing. A bi or straight single female. Females can afford to be picky. You are also pricing yourselves out further by saying you'd prefer people at the same stage as you, not an experienced swinger.

Yes, your profile is very specific, but mainly about what you want. Very little, if anything about what you want from potential playmates. That comes across as a little selfish.

There is nothing worse for a single fem, joining a couple for their fantasy, and them giving nothing to her.

I'm not saying that's what you'll do, but your profile insinuates that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe take your own advice

"if we do not reply please do not take offence; you are just not our type."

Unfortunately there are many couples and single men on the site all looking for the same thing. A bi or straight single female. Females can afford to be picky. You are also pricing yourselves out further by saying you'd prefer people at the same stage as you, not an experienced swinger.

Yes, your profile is very specific, but mainly about what you want. Very little, if anything about what you want from potential playmates. That comes across as a little selfish.

There is nothing worse for a single fem, joining a couple for their fantasy, and them giving nothing to her.

I'm not saying that's what you'll do, but your profile insinuates that. "

*Nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont be put off, it takes time and when it happens it will be worth it.

Keep you chin up

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I have to disagree with others and say that I think your profile is a good one, lets people know what you are after and I think thats the point of profiles. People can read it and decide if you suit them.

I am guessing the mails you have sent out that have not been answered are to be taken the same way as you practise......you were not their type so they didn't answer.

Keep plugging though, there is someone for everyone on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile is fine but i think you have to remember that the vast majority of people here are not here for "soft swing", so that's going to be a big problem, on the bigger problem of finding a fem that wants to join you in the first place.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I think your profile is perfectly fine. But also do agree that if your looking for a single fem (coming from a single fem) then a meet that was say with you and soft swing only wouldnt appeal to me.

From my point we all get hot and steamy and have good fun but at the end of every sex session I prefer to actually also have some sex(penetration)or its all build up and no final fun.

I am also aware I wouldnt be suitable as late 30s and an experienced swinger.

Hope you do find what your looking for but remember there are so many people looking for the single bi female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think there is that many looking for bi females to be honest with you ,maybe you have to look further a field to find one.

i know with me all men ask me to do 3somme with other woman and them some times drives you mad as its all mens fantasy.

Have you try doing 4some with a bi female and being flexiable see if that works for you .gd luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say as a single fem, meeting for soft play and no kissing etc would not appeal to me either, would feel like a spare part to be honest but as others have said there are plenty of people looking for different things you just have to keep looking

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Wow. Just re read the profile and can see the no kissing bit too. No kissing no actual penetritive sex with the male....sounds like a wonderful time for the woman!

Sorry. Being serious you make.it sound like the woman is just there for your pleasure. can she expext to get anythibg from it.

Would just like you to look at it from the single fems point of view.

I would rather meet a couple where everyone gets equal fun sex and kissing and dont feel that the single fem is just there to add to your fun.

Apologies if that seems harsh but doesnt sound a very exciting opportunity to me x

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By *o Peep n Woody OP   Couple
over a year ago

suffolk

Hi all

thanks for the comments and advice and tips.

I must be honest and say that being very niave and new to this I (Bo peep) wasnt thinking about what the female would get out of a meet with us.

I think that we need to re-write some bits cos it relates to different circumstances/meets.

I.e soft swop and full sex with our own partners works with another couple BUT

as you point out this wouldn't work with a single female/male.

Thanks for the info and constructive critism as it has opened my eyes a bit to my wants and desires.....

Also, helped me see why single females not keen.

thanks for your honesty

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Glad your thinking of it all x

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We decided after ages of trying to find a single fem to play with to meet couples aswell. Still not met a single fem as it must be so much harder to meet a couple on your own. But wow have we had some fun! Lol.

As long as you Pick the right couples where everyone is chilled out and relaxed, we found it can be fantastic. Our boundaries moved everytime we met for the first few meets lol.

We sure we'll get to play with a single fem one day, but feel this will probably come from a club when we can chat to them face to face in an environment where they can relax and speak to us in person and figure out for themselves that we're actually kinda alright lol.

Well that's our theory! Good luck xxxx

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