FabSwingers.com forum: Advice about dressing up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, me and hubby are new to this and have been on a couple of meets and to a club which we loved! Looking at everyone profiles ladies all seem to dress up in basques & Kinky outfits.

Problem is I absolutely HATE dressing up!

I'm totally body confident and have no issues getting my kit off - but the thought of walking round a club in a kinky outfit just horrifies me!

do you think we will attract many couples at clubs if I dress smart casual or is this a turn off for other couples?

All advice welcome & appreciated

Sorry for the long winded post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk about naked then, problem solved

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh my god, no I wouldn't want to do that either

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Just go dressed as if you were going to a night club, err on the more revealing and you will be totally fine! It also depends on going to a clothed or not club. Chams in Darlston is undies or towels Xtasia is night club or as rique as you dare.

In reality just go with what you are comfortable with, then once you have got used to it go again and see if your idea of comfort has changed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about sexy bra and matching panties? Or a sexy dress and hold ups? I do both!

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Oh my god, no I wouldn't want to do that either

What about sexy lingerie or skimpy dress? It's not that smart casual is a turn off - it's just not a particular turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes dress and stockings I can do

I just don't wanna look weird not being in really kinky gear. I'm naturally confident but that is just not me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies at Clubs usually dress to feel attractive in whatever guise that may be. There is no dress code and smart/casual is fine. You may undress in the rooms you play in, and then redress after play or use the lockers that are provided. Some clubs issue you with a towel but this doesn't mean you have to undress it is about what you feel confident in. You are not judged on what you wear or don't wear. You have to feel relaxed and confident.

Charlotte

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree that hold up stockings are really good and wear sexy underwear under your smart clothes. Test the water and as you become more confident you can explore what works or doesn't work with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all this is a relief

I think I look better in clothes or naked cause I have a bit of extra weight. Not prepared to lose it cause I love cake

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

I usually find ladies in clubs more atractive when they are dressed as they would be in a good nightclub.

As the evening goes on and things hot up some sexy undies is always great and I certainly dont mind that people start off dressed in kinky gear but for me, I'd rather leave something thing to imagination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rule of thumb about clothes in a club...

Less clothes more play

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By *igergirl31Couple
over a year ago

Leigh

Loads of women in clubs just get there. .get naked in locker room. .put a towel round them and sorted for the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am going to a social event in a club so am I ok in just something nice and dressy?

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

How about nice thin dress and nothing underneath??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am going to a social event in a club so am I ok in just something nice and dressy?

Is it a club where it's dress down straight away? I've been to one in a party dress and one where I wore a corset, stockings etc. Clubs want you to feel comfortable too. You can check on their site for dress code.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Walk about naked then, problem solved

That's what we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the male part of a couple...I prefer a generous hint of bosom in of a woman dressed in smart nightclub wear than the (often) misguided (& clichéd) "Look at me in my risqué basque"....it's all about the buildup, I don't want to see the goods at the beginning of the night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you I never dress up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As couple with similar mind set its never bothered or been a problem in our experience

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