FabSwingers.com forum: Exit Strategy Tips Please

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer

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By *albec26Man
over a year ago

Great Yarmouth

Be honest I think is the best policy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest I think is the best policy x"

You'll learn

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I've had a lovely time but don't wish to take it further. Would you like a verification?"

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found after a couple of my socials conversation just stopped so there was no need to say anything anyway

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By *andbCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *andbCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

""I've had a lovely time but don't wish to take it further. Would you like a verification?""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invest in a good pair of running shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make it clear before you meet that a social is just that, a social, a quick chance to say how'd you do and give each other the once over in the flesh. I've stopped the coffee side now and just meet them in a car park, I stay in my car them in theirs, I can see through their window if I fancy them or not. If not I'll just say thanks for meeting but I'm not feeling this ta-ra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

"I just got my period, sorry I wasn't due until tomorrow but it's early"

"We did a bareback gangbang last week and are waiting for the GUM clinic results"

"I just shit myself"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We treat people the way we would like to be treated. If we don't feel the attraction we say thank you, very nice to meet you, glad we talked but we don't want to take things further. M x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I have a social meet first. No need to tell them face to face if you don't want to meet up. I usually send a text later politely saying no and there was no connection.

I'd rather meet in a cafe or a pub where there are people about.

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Always meet somewhere that has two exits to the restroom.

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Or just say it's been lovely to meet but your just not really "feeling it".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smoke bomb. Furl the cape. Evil laugh and run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet first. If not going well I pretend to see a rare endangered bird of prey fly past the window. Whilst they look, I leg it. I have long legs so I'm quite nifty

Or just arrive and say you can't stay long as something has cropped up in work (or something) so have a coffee and go.

If they are a nutbag then just get up and leave.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Apart from with one disaster that was like something from Little Britain, recently I've just simply politely said 'sorry you're not for me' but in years gone by I've said all kinds - my favourite used to be 'sorry but I have to go, I've just remembered my house is on fire'!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apart from with one disaster that was like something from Little Britain, recently I've just simply politely said 'sorry you're not for me' but in years gone by I've said all kinds - my favourite used to be 'sorry but I have to go, I've just remembered my house is on fire'!!

It is easy to forget these things.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

I always specify that I just want a first social without it leading to play. That way, it gives us both the opportunity to converse after and say how it's gone. Suppose it's a bit easier to message after than saying to someone's face that they aren't interested. I'd also hate the thought of someone continuing the social with me into play if they weren't 100% because they were reluctant to say anything.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

At the planning stage make it clear that this social is only going to be a social, that play isn't to be expected. That way you don't have to find an excuse not to shag them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just be honest and say we don't want to take it any further. Then they know for sure that you aren't interested.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

It is easy to forget these things. "

Unless you have good company to distract you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is easy to forget these things.

Unless you have good company to distract you

I'm excellent company. Just a bugger for flattery and seduction.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer

"I just got my period, sorry I wasn't due until tomorrow but it's early"

"We did a bareback gangbang last week and are waiting for the GUM clinic results"

"I just shit myself""

Taking notes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

If it's a social meet surely there's no expectation to play?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer

"I just got my period, sorry I wasn't due until tomorrow but it's early"

"We did a bareback gangbang last week and are waiting for the GUM clinic results"

"I just shit myself"

Taking notes

"Which herpes treatment are you on?"

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

It is easy to forget these things.

Unless you have good company to distract you

I'm excellent company. Just a bugger for flattery and seduction. "

Prove it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is easy to forget these things.

Unless you have good company to distract you

I'm excellent company. Just a bugger for flattery and seduction.

Prove it

Happily. Let's make it so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a social meet surely there's no expectation to play

I also thought this was the purpose of a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

Set the meet up as time restricted, where you have another place to be. Both can go to the meet with expectation of it just being a face/personality to name courtesy thing. Leave the play meet as a "for later" right from the start.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

If it's a social meet surely there's no expectation to play

I also thought this was the purpose of a social

Many don't seem to see the line - I've had plenty lunge at me and several gropes.

It's rare I see those people again unless I have previously made it obvious that's what I'd like....

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Make it clear before you meet that a social is just that, a social, a quick chance to say how'd you do and give each other the once over in the flesh. I've stopped the coffee side now and just meet them in a car park, I stay in my car them in theirs, I can see through their window if I fancy them or not. If not I'll just say thanks for meeting but I'm not feeling this ta-ra. "

That's pretty brutal,if we don't fancy each other it's still good to have a little chat over a coffee especially as I tend to speak for a while online first. I suppose if your time is precious then fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't do social's anymore,for that reason. Got ourselves, in to a situation. Where a simple no thankyou. Wouldn't suffice. Very uncomfortable. An experience,we wouldn't want to repeat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Smoke bomb. Furl the cape. Evil laugh and run. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer

"I just got my period, sorry I wasn't due until tomorrow but it's early"

"We did a bareback gangbang last week and are waiting for the GUM clinic results"

"I just shit myself""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we being thick here?

Isn't the point of a social meet just that... Social, probably partially to find out whether you want to go further another time?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Always have a friend ready to do the emergency call

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Usually say politely that they're a really nice person but they're not for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

Just pick your nose and eat whatever you find.

Works every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless they push it no need to say anything really ..just say you will be in touch soon.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We did a bareback gangbang last week and are waiting for the GUM clinic results"

That's a great one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest and say you don't want to take things any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rip your clothes, ask if they could give you a blindfold, sigh loudly and say "OK, come on, let's get this over with quickly."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

why should you need any exit strategy not to play its a social

isnt that what a social is no play expected

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

Get someone to ring you half an hour after the meet is due to start. You can either dismiss the caller or make your excuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them you have to wait a few days as you have a maggot infestation going on at the moment your trying to sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if made clear from onset social maybe play if connection but not a guaranteed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them "where's your fire exit"

and when they says "we don't have one"

just reply with a simple

"where would you f*%king like one"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Point out the window whilst shouting "Look at that thing"

When they turn their head, run like fuck. If you're quick you can be gone before they realise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smoke bomb. Furl the cape. Evil laugh and run. "

Oh that's so funny!! Laughing out loud here!

Pure genius!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smoke bomb. Furl the cape. Evil laugh and run. "

Looooooooooooooooooooooool

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

The only way youre going to get anything out of this is to be honest honesty is a massive part of it, leave lame excuses for the "others!" Anyway its empowering, you dont have to be abrupt especially at a social, you just say 'im only here to socialise tonight'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the bathroom window is always the best exit.

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

There should be no pressure at all at a socialif they pushed itjust say youre coming across as desporate and im finding that increasingly unattractive, goodbye,,

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We are clear when meeting for socials that nothing is guaranteed and at the end of the night we are honest if we don't want to take it further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think with some socials it becomes blatantly obvious that it's game on for more than a quick social but I would aim to leave on the note that we would be in contact via the site after the social.

Makes it far easier to say 'Lovely to meet you but don't think it will go any further, sorry'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say you aren't really feeling the mood. I'd rather someone was honest to me than make something up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest I think is the best policy x"
i agree not everyone hits it off. But I would still stay and have a social with them.

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By *rand Central CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Hi,

what do you do if you go for a social meet and then decide that you don't want to play?

How do you get out of there amicably?

Can someone offer advice or possible exit strategies?

Sincerely yours,

Hunnybunny & Dozer"

In my view people should not be swinging if they cannot answer this question. The answer is a polite but decided ' Well thanks for your time. It has been nice to meet. I/we would not want to take this any further than here. Thanks.'

optional extra (but only if sincere) are

- maybe another time

- do keep in touch

- we'll send you a veri

You can have dishonest insincere relationships in vanilla world but when you swing, you swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this last year with my.fb Bruce and another guy...he was awful and I pretended I needed my inhaler from my car..when outside I texted Bruce to tell him to tell the guy I was unwell.

But generally I have a chat and sayat the end "was great to meet you...keep in touch and have fun". Hate telling someone they are not for me!

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By *bandjam91Couple
over a year ago

London

Can you tell the Little Britain story please?

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