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By *ounginyorkshire OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Hi my girlfriend wants to use her dildo on me and one day in the future use a strap on what advise and tips can u give us for first time anal play I've used a finger and dildo before but hurt what's best to start off with etc new to all this she says one day shed love to see me with a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi well I would start off with something small like a butt plug but make sure you always use lot's of lube to make entry a lot easier. Once you have mastered that then go for a bit bigger and so on. But do make sure you use plenty of lube it will make you less sore hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi my girlfriend wants to use her dildo on me and one day in the future use a strap on what advise and tips can u give us for first time anal play I've used a finger and dildo before but hurt what's best to start off with etc new to all this she says one day shed love to see me with a man

Also I have known couples to try it on a doggy style position immediately, though I wouldn't recommend this.

If male lies on back with legs bent and apart, have your gf give you oral and as you relax she can slide the dildo up your ass.

Once she's loosened you up a little, you can let the fun begin and let her loose on that ass lol

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

"Hi well I would start off with something small like a butt plug but make sure you always use lot's of lube to make entry a lot easier. Once you have mastered that then go for a bit bigger and so on. But do make sure you use plenty of lube it will make you less sore hope this helps. "

Good advice

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By *ounginyorkshire OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Thanks for the advise see what tonight brings anymore tips or help with what we can use small as we don't have a butt plug... yet

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

I'm introducing a fb to anal fun and I invested in a tube of anal relaxant lube from bondara. Picey, but it worked a treat. She couldn't get enough and now she's addicted.

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over a year ago

"I'm introducing a fb to anal fun and I invested in a tube of anal relaxant lube from bondara. Picey, but it worked a treat. She couldn't get enough and now she's addicted.

Ooh..where did you get the anal relaxant from?

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

I'm not in any way directing this at you.... But....

It always makes me laugh when I hear grown men say anything anal hurts... Or even anything for that matter...

They then want to throw a girl round the room like she's a rag doll, but the moment she gets hold of their throat it's panic...

They say good subs make the best doms...

*These are just the musings of a random mind... Please don't feel the need to message me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a finger hurts I think it best to try to continue getting used to that before moving on.

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By *ounginyorkshire OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Finger didn't hurt but the rabbit did lol will get the lube aswel

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

You could also try just some varying pressure on your butt hole with the tip of a lubed slender vibe. Get used to the sensation of something gently pushing on or past your sphincter rather than go for distance or girth right off. The vibrations will feel amazing along with a blowjob and will help relax you.

Enjoy!

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By *ounginyorkshire OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Anyone got a guide of how they've down it with there partners which worked

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

Have you tried using poppers? This is really good for relaxing and also getting you a little more horny!

I have personal experience of using poppers and it works a treat and a lot of my gay friends like to use it too for relaxing the anal sphincter.

Start a finger and then 2 fingers. Ask you GF to rotate her 2 fingers slowly and enjoy the feeling. Use loads of lube and if you feel it hurting ask her to stop but don't take the fingers out, just stop moving them. Take a breath, then try again. She could try and find your prostate while she is there and this in itself will feel good and relax you more. I wouldn't introduce toys until you are completely happy with a couple of fingers and then move up to the butt plugs.

Anal training can take a while for some, so take it easy and enjoy it. It's not a race! xx

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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago

Manchester Area

The fact you are talking about it and asking others shows this isnt a bend over its getting rammed up you hard and deep scenario...its sounds like youd both like to try this ..and hou havent saod you dont want to try anythjng she has mentioned so presumably you will practice together ...use lots of lube ..i bought an anal vibe from love honey and my FB used it to get my tight arse relaxed ..we bith enjoyed the experience and are looking forward to here usjng the strap on in its harness as she loosened me.up a bit then used dildo elements in size order .biggest in the set was a bit girthy so we went back to the mid girth still 6 inches so i knew it was up there ...have fun together..

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By *ounginyorkshire OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Just a quick update I've come upstairs alone before ei shower and lubed up and started with a finger or so I have managed to get a dildo in without much pain as I was patient and when I felt it hurt stopped ones it was in once and the head of the dildo had gone fulling in slight pain turned to pleasure and your right it's something she's wanted to do for a while and I also like the thought of it so we've agreed to do it like I said she also wants to share sucking a guy off and I believe wants to see me take a man which is something we're both looking forwards too still going to buy some anal relaxing lube as I would like to make anal play part of regular sex for us bring on the fun

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By *ounginyorkshire OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Thanks for all comment im happy she's happy were all happy loved every minute of it me and the missus just need to keep up with it so I don't have to go threw pain again lol and onto more fun things next now for some horny sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The general guide to anal is that it shouldn't hurt at all.

Your bum does get used to things going 'the wrong way' over time and it becomes easier to take things the more you do it.

It hurts when you try to push things in when your bum isn't ready for you to. Clearly lube helps a lot but it doesn't relax your sphincter.

There are creams, lubes and sprays that can encourage it to relax. I'd warn you away from things that numb you as it's easy to damage yourself if you can't feel the pain you should be feeling.

Lube up the thing you want to take and lube your bum. Press it gently into the opening. Position can help; knees draw up on your side perhaps.

Press it into the opening try to push your bum to meet it. If it starts to hurt back it up a bit and hold it there.

I sort of fuck myself with a toy shallowly and as I start to enjoy it I push it in a bit further.

Once you're used to taking things in its actually quite easy to progress to bigger things. Taking something thicker than your biggest poo requires more effort and time to stretch yourself

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By *ounginyorkshire OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I can imagine it was more discomfort than pain but it soon went I don't think I'll be going bigger than the dildo even though the missus was impressed I took a lot of it 6"ish dildo 8-9"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can imagine it was more discomfort than pain but it soon went I don't think I'll be going bigger than the dildo even though the missus was impressed I took a lot of it 6"ish dildo 8-9"

If all else fails I'll just come around and slam it up there

Carpe Dium

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Lube lube and more lube, followed by a bit o lube.

Best position is on your side, knees pulled up and leaning forward......opens up said lubricated hole and helpful for insertion.

So i have been told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love anal play. I started with a mans smallish cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experience is take it bloody slow lube it up well best position is on ur side with ur knees up my partners had a strapon up their arse and fucking loves it he's got a butt plug but I highly recommend vibrating ones to start with it actually makes the experience alot better to start with check out love honey they've got a vibrating strapon ur misses can use too vibrates u both together and I also got a strapon kit with 3 different sizes it's really useful trust me hope it helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi if you do use the Ann Summers booty relax or any other relax products do be careful with what toys you use it with, as it can react with silicone based toys. So if you want your toys to last longer and not get damaged then make sure you read the instructions with any toys you have or may get. Just a thought as we used the Ann Summers booty relax and couldn't use it one of my toys.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

Let her tie and gag you really securely, before starting off reasonably slowly, then she can take the chance to fuck you really hard... And you won't say stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anal beads, start off small and get bigger. We also have but plugs that we have used which help since they come in small sizes.

However, just relax and lube lube lube. OH has used some big dildos on me and once past the initial pain the feeling can be a real mind fuck and takes me to another level.

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

"I'm introducing a fb to anal fun and I invested in a tube of anal relaxant lube from bondara. Picey, but it worked a treat. She couldn't get enough and now she's addicted.

Ooh..where did you get the anal relaxant from?

From Bondara.

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

"Hi if you do use the Ann Summers booty relax or any other relax products do be careful with what toys you use it with, as it can react with silicone based toys. So if you want your toys to last longer and not get damaged then make sure you read the instructions with any toys you have or may get. Just a thought as we used the Ann Summers booty relax and couldn't use it one of my toys. "

The Bondara one doesn't say anything about not using it with toys. We've used it with her new butt plug with no problems.

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