FabSwingers.com forum: Polandry want a bigger loving family

By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

Hi,Any Couples MF M or F looking at the alternative lifestyles, we are very keen to get into a more meaningful relationship with the right people..we love being swingers but always knew that's something is missing... maybe the mental connect.

Rahul and Neha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't have any shortage of applicants lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, we're open to it with the right man but in the poly world it's termed a unicorn as finding someone we both 'connect' with emotionally as well as physically is quite a challenge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, we're open to it with the right man but in the poly world it's termed a unicorn as finding someone we both 'connect' with emotionally as well as physically is quite a challenge."

Does that mean all household bills are split 3 ways?

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

Thanks for the advice and terms used in the poly world .,

I know it will be hard to find the right people to connect with .,

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

We have not thought that far .. But thanks for the foresight ..

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"Yes, we're open to it with the right man but in the poly world it's termed a unicorn as finding someone we both 'connect' with emotionally as well as physically is quite a challenge.

Does that mean all household bills are split 3 ways?

In my case, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an interesting idea. At what poin do you put that label on it though? Plenty of plusses but I should imagine it's a tough balance to get right.

Anyway I'm in. When do I move in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend who i guess had such a relationship. She lived with one guy through the week and one at the weekend. Not sure if this is the same.

Im anyone wants to talk to her about this I could ask and see.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Is this a way of getting a big council house lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always loved and imagined this. As a bi lady i would have loved a relationship with both a man and a woman. All 3 of us together but actually now i find myself wishing i was with a bi guy who was into other bi guys so i could envisage a relationship with 2 bi guys.. yum... hell why not add in a bi girl too... so a 4 people relationship... smiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

M cannot contact you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does Polly mean ? . Soz I'm not the best educated

It's a parrot....you have to like parrots.

Actually it means polyamory....Google it....

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Hi,Any Couples MF M or F looking at the alternative lifestyles, we are very keen to get into a more meaningful relationship with the right people..we love being swingers but always knew that's something is missing... maybe the mental connect.

Rahul and Neha "

I would imagine these things build up over time. They don't just happen, just like any relationship .... if you are out and about at clubs and socialising, I would imagine people would get to know you and decide for themselves. Its a big commitment to get into any relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does Polly mean ? . Soz I'm not the best educated

It's a parrot....you have to like parrots.

Actually it means polyamory....Google it...."
just have sounds like my idea off heaven

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Rahul and Neha "

Would it not end up being a source of friction in the end

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

What you need is a sect site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a friend who i guess had such a relationship. She lived with one guy through the week and one at the weekend. Not sure if this is the same.

Im anyone wants to talk to her about this I could ask and see."

If she was emotionally attached to them both rather than just sexually, then yes she had a poly v setup. Like I said, we've discussed it as we're open to things developing deeper, I guess you have to be if you're opening up your relationship to someone sexually and you're seeing that person more than once.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Rahul and Neha

Would it not end up being a source of friction in the end"

Not necessarily. It may for some, but I've been in an open poly relationship for around 7 years now. And yes, there is arguments, but you learn to deal with those. Just like in a 'normal' relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we have had experience of this and are currently looking for the right man for us

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By *obinchrisMan
over a year ago

wimbeldon

Rahul and Neha "

U have echoed my thoughts

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"I have a friend who i guess had such a relationship. She lived with one guy through the week and one at the weekend. Not sure if this is the same.

Im anyone wants to talk to her about this I could ask and see."

We are sure she had best of both worlds .,

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"I have always loved and imagined this. As a bi lady i would have loved a relationship with both a man and a woman. All 3 of us together but actually now i find myself wishing i was with a bi guy who was into other bi guys so i could envisage a relationship with 2 bi guys.. yum... hell why not add in a bi girl too... so a 4 people relationship... smiles"

That's an ideal scenario. Why not go for it ..

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"M cannot contact you....."

You can now ..

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

Rahul and Neha

You hit the nail . Yes we agree its a big commitment .. We have given out feelers to our families and they always new we are a bit different ..they assured us it's our life .. It's up to us what we make out of it ..

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"Is this a way of getting a big council house lol

We don't know if the government supports this form of family dynamics .. But it can save a lot government money in the long run coming to think of it .

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

Rahul and Neha

Would it not end up being a source of friction in the end

This a beauty of relations you bound to have agreements and disagreements even in monogamy kind of relationships ..

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"What does Polly mean ? . Soz I'm not the best educated

It's a parrot....you have to like parrots.

Actually it means polyamory....Google it....just have sounds like my idea off heaven "

We will never know until we eat that pudding ..

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Check out the website and podcast "Life on the Swing Set" the latest podcast covers moving from swinging to poly so it might be perfect for you guys.

Also try reading "Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships" by Tristan Taormino. She also has a great podcast that is well worth a listen

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

Rahul and Neha

U have echoed my thoughts "

It's nice to see we are not the only one with these thoughts ..

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"Check out the website and podcast "Life on the Swing Set" the latest podcast covers moving from swinging to poly so it might be perfect for you guys.

Also try reading "Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships" by Tristan Taormino. She also has a great podcast that is well worth a listen

Will surely do Chris .. How are you my friend long time .

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

This a beauty of relations you bound to have agreements and disagreements even in monogamy kind of relationships .. "

Yeah but Rahul what if the disagreements don't go in your favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always been thinking of this but like you said it's quiet hard to find a matching couple.

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

This a beauty of relations you bound to have agreements and disagreements even in monogamy kind of relationships ..

Yeah but Rahul what if the disagreements don't go in your favour.

Not worry we have a very strong bound ., which has been tested many times ..

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

This a beauty of relations you bound to have agreements and disagreements even in monogamy kind of relationships ..

Yeah but Rahul what if the disagreements don't go in your favour.

Not worry we have a very strong bound ., which has been tested many times ..

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Thanks for the advice and terms used in the poly world .,

I know it will be hard to find the right people to connect with ., "

Unicorn isn't solely a poly term - it's also used in swinging, mainly for single girls, but a lot of people don't like that term being used to describe them.

We've been exploring polyamory for the last couple of years and had some great experiences. I've had a boyfriend and C has had another girlfriend but we don't really specifically look for someone to be poly with - if we bump into the right person and it happens then great

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"We have always been thinking of this but like you said it's quiet hard to find a matching couple.

We know it's hard but not impossible .. The search is on ., we know most people will promise the sky get the sex and out they will be ..we have factored that too and how to over come that part ..

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

"Is this a way of getting a big council house lol

We don't know if the government supports this form of family dynamics .. But it can save a lot government money in the long run coming to think of it .

With 3 or more incomes you shouldn't need a council house...

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Is this a way of getting a big council house lol

We don't know if the government supports this form of family dynamics .. But it can save a lot government money in the long run coming to think of it .

With 3 or more incomes you shouldn't need a council house...

I don't think that getting social housing was the motivation for starting a polygamous relationship.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

"Is this a way of getting a big council house lol

We don't know if the government supports this form of family dynamics .. But it can save a lot government money in the long run coming to think of it .

With 3 or more incomes you shouldn't need a council house...

I don't think that getting social housing was the motivation for starting a polygamous relationship. "

I understand that but was replying to the comments above mine...

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"Is this a way of getting a big council house lol

We don't know if the government supports this form of family dynamics .. But it can save a lot government money in the long run coming to think of it .

With 3 or more incomes you shouldn't need a council house...

You are damn right .. That's what we meant saving the government funds

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"Is this a way of getting a big council house lol

We don't know if the government supports this form of family dynamics .. But it can save a lot government money in the long run coming to think of it .

You are right .. We want to love not funds .

With 3 or more incomes you shouldn't need a council house...

I don't think that getting social housing was the motivation for starting a polygamous relationship. "

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By *obinchrisMan
over a year ago

wimbeldon

Rahul and Neha

U have echoed my thoughts

It's nice to see we are not the only one with these thoughts ..

I share similar thoughts but seems like I cannot contact you guys ...M...??

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

Rahul and Neha

U have echoed my thoughts

It's nice to see we are not the only one with these thoughts ..

I share similar thoughts but seems like I cannot contact you guys ...M...??"

Where there is the will there will be a way ., lol

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By *obinchrisMan
over a year ago

wimbeldon

Rahul and Neha

U have echoed my thoughts

It's nice to see we are not the only one with these thoughts ..

I share similar thoughts but seems like I cannot contact you guys ...M...??

Where there is the will there will be a way ., lol "

Hahahaha...lol...we made a way ...??????

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I have thought about this in the past and would be open to it but as a single straight man I doubt I'd get much interest.

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"I have thought about this in the past and would be open to it but as a single straight man I doubt I'd get much interest. "

I'm sure there are lot of people out there who would like to meet you ..

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Why is that ????

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"Why is that ????"

There is always someone out there for you ..

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

"I have thought about this in the past and would be open to it but as a single straight man I doubt I'd get much interest.

I'm sure there are lot of people out there who would like to meet you .."

Thank you for your optemisem, my in box is always available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with finding new partners. I live a non-monogamous lifestyle with multiple partners and I couldn't imagine it any other way.

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By *esi tardka OP Couple
over a year ago

acton

"Good luck with finding new partners. I live a non-monogamous lifestyle with multiple partners and I couldn't imagine it any other way."

That's the only way forward ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys can count me in

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

We discussed it too after a guy Kate was meeting expressed he was developing emotions.

After talking we decided to go for it, however I think the fantasy was better than the reality for the guy so it didn't come to anything.

That said, it's still something we'd like to explore but don't see it as being easy to find as already mentioned, some people can be very convincing when sex is on offer etc.

Still, we are still open to it. Let us know how you get on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you considered relocating to Utah? Might make your search easier...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is Polandry? (an Eastern European Laundromat?)

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By *ockman3858Man
over a year ago

didcot

Lol that's funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you considered relocating to Utah? Might make your search easier... "

It's not difficult to find poly people in the UK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you considered relocating to Utah? Might make your search easier...

It's not difficult to find poly people in the UK."

Better stock in Utah though, especially if you like beards

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Looked at the idea, wiggles would love us to meet a fem or couple, but ones we have seen nearby are all very young males. So we skipped the local poly scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does Polly mean ? . Soz I'm not the best educated

It's a parrot....you have to like parrots.

Actually it means polyamory....Google it....just have sounds like my idea off heaven "

Im not having sex with a Parrot! Oh errr

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

Thought about all of this myself as well!

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

Interesting topic!..As I myself have often thought about the idea.

Lucky them (green eyed monster) (smiles)..

Whatevers missing...I hope one day you find.Good luck guys

Bambi x

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We've been poly for a couple of years. We've each had relationships whilst together, but haven't yet found a person who is right for both of us and vice versa. Even finding a sexually and emotionally bi person is hard

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