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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unicorns are hard to find

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

theres a lot of fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X"

Single ladies have the pick of the crop. You need to attract them.

Your profile is not helping you. Do you really think a lady is going to go the effort of holding up a piece of paper?

Brush up on your grammar. Make your text positive rather than a series of moans. Add some pictures.

At the moment, it just doesn't come across as fun.

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By *uck princess and himCouple
over a year ago

washington

Get yourselves to a swingers club, it will open up a whole new world to you both.

Nervous?, you have each other and remember everyone there was also new to this once upon a time.

Good look OP.

Princess xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you delete messages and don't reply. It works both ways

Also,you haven't been here very long- give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X"

Possibly they read the message, go look at your profile and think 'no way' ...

Why should I jump through hoops for them?'

That's what's I'd think anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were having the same trouble but tbh we were advised that the elusive unicorn is extremely hard to find.

Patience is the key we hope lol good luck

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

There is too many fakes on here so be prepared to send us a picture with you holding a piece of paper with our username written on it. X

Only my opinion but the bit about "be prepared" sounds confrontational and I would change the wording ?

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X

Single ladies have the pick of the crop. You need to attract them.

Your profile is not helping you. Do you really think a lady is going to go the effort of holding up a piece of paper?

Brush up on your grammar. Make your text positive rather than a series of moans. Add some pictures.

At the moment, it just doesn't come across as fun."

This

Many people who receive messages will tend to checkout your profile first (this can be done in 'stealth' mode, without you realising it). You both appear a lovely and nice couple in your profile picture, but more public pictures would help. They don't need to be explicit, but something like: wearing sexy lingerie, legs in stockings from the lady, and a torso, back and possibly a bum shot from the man (us women like that!).

It's not a good idea to put negatives in a profile; profiles should express the positives and fun of swinging. So I would ditch the lines regarding timewasters (they wouldn't take any notice anyway!), etc. and touch on a little what you like to do and what would you bring to the table. Furthermore, don't get too much into sexchat within messages; most women don't tend to engage in this, because they may suspect you're a single male in disguise, or the 'woman' you're chatting to may be a single male.

Hope this helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio of couples to single bi women is vastly disproportionate (same as guys to couples) so you only stand a slim chance of being successful.

I had the same problem when playing as a couple a few years ago but it did happen - eventually - twice! Well worth the headache.

Remember, the more effort you put in the more likely you are of success.

Whatever you do, don't start giving a list of your demands - you aren't the ones calling the shots here. Perhaps you can change that stance when you start receiving 50 emails a day from single women...

Happy hunting

Wicked Willy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X

Tried to message you to say have a look at York social on forum as it's a great place to meet people but can't send a pm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X

Possibly they read the message, go look at your profile and think 'no way' ...

Why should I jump through hoops for them?'

That's what's I'd think anyway "

I'd have to agree with this I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X"

To be honest your profile is not much different to most couples profiles looking for a bi fem, it wouldn't appeal to me you need to lose the demand for the pic as most said you're looking in a niche market be positive a couple more public pics would be better too.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

hi, all of the above + you are missing out on couples where the lady like to play away. think on changing you filters to include couples..and write a nice profile ..yours at the mo is much to much negative..enjoy fab..connie x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice it's much appreciated and we will be changing a few things on our profile. You all have been kind with your advice thank you happy fabbing everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X

Tried to message you to say have a look at York social on forum as it's a great place to meet people but can't send a pm x"

Thanks for the advice we have now changed our settings so you can now message us if you could let us know more about York social thanks. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for your advice it's much appreciated and we will be changing a few things on our profile. You all have been kind with your advice thank you happy fabbing everyone. "

Much better. If I were to be picky, I would suggest a grammar check. Much better text and photos, though. (Get rid of the screenshot ones - they always arouse suspicion)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a club is the best option to network! Get yourself out there and find out what other people are looking for too, they are just as important as what you what, if not more so. The women on here must get hundreds of messages a day and have the pick of anyone they want, look at people's profiles and make sure they are interested in the same things.

I'm not Jason Statham by any means, but I have been here before and know what it's about now! Have fun!

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

Good luck finding Unicorns. My wife and I have dealt with a handful, and every single one of them eventually flaked out. ( seemed a little crazy ) I believe they are out there, but finding a good, sane one is like searching for a marble at the bottom of the ocean....while blindfolded....from an airplane.

-JD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unicorns are hard to find "

Yep this.. We are in the same boat but looking for a man.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Definitely get to a social, even if it's further away than you'd want, be friendly talk to everyone you can and get lots of veris from the night.

Worked for me and a single guy has a tough time here too

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Personally I would not meet a couple for ffm alone, makes you very vulnerable. Also, despite any claims one lady will be left wanting. Mmf much more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are couple looking for a lady but we are struggling to find a lady. We have messaged god knows how many women and they either delete our messages or when we do talk to them it ends up a few words then nothing. If we do talk to someone for a little while and arrange a meet they come up with a excuse that something has come up. Just don't know where we are going wrong, so any help and advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. X"

I get the opposite problem with couples letting me down. Not every time thankfully But it does happen a lot.

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