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"true, thats been an option for us, but its the fear of it going terribly wrong! such as arguing and never been able to look at eachother again, bit extreme and not likely with us but it does happen does it not haha " You need to be asking her this question not us. You both need to want this 100% | |||
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"If you both think you're ready for it, but a bit aprehensive, maybe see if one of the couples you've already soft swapped with would like to meet again (assuming things went well last time) to take it further? Might make you both feel a bit more relaxed about it, rather than someone completely new? If you think either of you might change your mind at the last minute, make sure your swinging partners are aware that this might happen, otherwise they could end up a bit disappointed and miffed. I'm not sure that I could do full swap as a couple, worried I might get jealous/inferiority complex if my real partner appeared to be getting too much satisfaction from another man! One day maybe I'll be in a relationship and think that I could overcome the jealousy thing, so never say never." So what if you see your partner getting more pleasure from another person. Are they only allowed to swap if they don't like it as much as with you? I mean, not many people here are vain enough to believe that they are THE greatest lover in the world ever, so it's going to happen. Seeing the other getting so much pleasure is what makes this so great for us. And to add our two pence worth.. a single guy can be a lot easier route to take to start things off. If anyone is going to get jealous it is more likely the lady, plus it's only one person you have to feel comfortable with. Just make sure that you both want this 100%, as like someone else said, when it's done, it's done. | |||
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"Maybe you need to find another couple to swap with rather than a single. So if your both occupied playing then you might be more relaxed." totally agree | |||
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"I have to say that some men enjoy seeing their partner with someone else, some dont.. however, I would never actually get a better time with another man, it maybe different.. but its not got a hope in hell of being better, or even coming close to the sex I have with my Master... and that I would imagine would be the same for most women( if not I would wonder why) As a man if you can except that no matter what fun your woman is having, its you she has the most fun, the most intimacy, and its you she loves and is with, then issues really wouldnt arise.. Master was unsure for ages how he would feel with me kissing someone else, so we tried it... and while he did feel the turning in his stomach, it was in a good way... Master needed me and wanted me so much more than normal.... so Master hurried home to reclaim me. My ex got me into swinging, but never really liked me with men, it was all for him with other women.. I have also seen a woman crying in the changing rooms at chams, while her husband tried to make her carry on... Make sure you do it for you both, not one, not the other, for you both.. Katie.x" thanks for that, yeah were sure we both want it. | |||
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"weve been swinging for a while now, mainly with women and a few couples but only soft swap, but we have always fantasisied about full swap or possibly watching her with another guy! not sure if i could actually sit an watch her be fucked by another guy though! any advice on how to tackle this?? much appriciated! ok 1, were asking for advice not a telling off lol and 2, weve been with couples and enjoyed it, its just a big step to sit and watch eachother with other people, but thanks for the comment i guess lol" I am sorry if you think THAT was a telling off! Not even close to what some get on here lol... But I am at a loss to tie up your posts.. Firstly (up there) you say you have been with couples for soft swap only and then you say that you have been with other couples and enjoyed it! Soft swap is not the same as full swap! Secondly you are the one who said you doin't think you could watch her with another guy! My reply was only to indicate that if you feel that way, perhaps you should leave it until you don't feel this way, cos there is a strong likelyhood that it will end in tears! Thirdly, if you do feel this way, I think you would be misguided to take on a single guy, unless you can get one of the good guys from the forum! They do for the most part seem to be different to the "I want a shag and I want it now!" brigade. I still think you would be better off with a sympathetic couple who maybe have even been through this trial! Lastly, I am not like others (the majority) on here who thinks each to their own. I say what I think and have opinions on other peoples lifestyles. I happen to think you need to wait and I suspect quite a few others do to but won't say... At the end of the day it will be your choice. Only you and her know how you are together and that will be the decider, not some wishy washy non judgemental non advice from the politically correct on here. Not from me either, but I will give you an honest answer and then it is up to you. Whatever you decide, best of luck. | |||
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"The very fact that you asking this question probably means your not ready to take things further. Enjoy the fun you have and give it some time " In my opinion this advice is the best. If you were ready you wouldnt be thinking about the what ifs. There should be no doubt in your minds about what you both want. It is nerve racking going the full hog for the first time but being nervous with excitement is entirely different from being nervous because you arent sure whether you can cope with the reality. Its not worth months of pain and upset in your relationship for an hour with a stranger - be sure and take your time. We went to clubs and only played with each other for a while and we moved onto soft swap and only indulged in that for nearly a year. We have only been full swapping for 4 months. Im glad we took our time | |||
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