FabSwingers.com forum: Would this be rude?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks "

No just don't keep messaging the same people loads, I stick to 2 messages max and then leave it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not rude if you actually read the profile before messaging and tailor your message to what they are looking for or if you are what they are looking for ...

It is rude to send out a 'fancy a fuck' message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not rude if you actually read the profile before messaging and tailor your message to what they are looking for or if you are what they are looking for ...

It is rude to send out a 'fancy a fuck' message

Yeah that is rude haha! Thanks for the reply!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks

No just don't keep messaging the same people loads, I stick to 2 messages max and then leave it"

Yeah 2 messages is probably enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks "

If you have messaged someone once and not received a reply, don't message again. If they had been interested, they would have replied.

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By *otsexyladyXXXWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks

If you have messaged someone once and not received a reply, don't message again. If they had been interested, they would have replied."

I think 2 messages is right, some people get a ton of messages and I've had meets with people that have sent a second message because the first got missed. One message then maybe a second a week later?

In fact I've had two very enjoyable meets with people that tried again so thank God they did!

I would stop at 2 though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks "

There's still not much info in your profile tho is there? A few standard lines. Nothing that would make me look twice or think you were worth exploring I'm afraid x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks

If you have messaged someone once and not received a reply, don't message again. If they had been interested, they would have replied.

In fact I've had two very enjoyable meets with people that tried again so thank God they did!

I would stop at 2 though!"

I would stop at 1!

in fact what id do is block all those you messaged first that didn't reply and start again elsewhere

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

IF it's months since you mailed them, and IF you have significantly improved your profile/added better pics since then, it wouldn't be out of order to mail them again. It may have been your old profile that was putting them off, so a new message (tailored to them) might get a different reply, now. However, you are still unverified, so it might be worth going along to a local social first, to try to get a verification. Then you can genuinely present yourself as more 'meet-able' than you were when you first joined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if your profile is now better, you have more to offer now, and you write a relavant and personalised message, it doesn't hurt to try once more. Don't whatever you do send an identical message to last time. Some people, like myself, have very good memories, and it's very humorous when when someone bides their time for a few months, then sends an identical message, presumably assuming the first message won't be remembered.

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By *anaduABCMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"It's not rude if you actually read the profile before messaging and tailor your message to what they are looking for or if you are what they are looking for ...

It is rude to send out a 'fancy a fuck' message

Fancy a fuck??...-

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks "
youre still the same person no matter what your profile says so if it was a no the first time its likely to be no the second time, its YOU not your profile that people would be meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab a few months ago, I messaged quite a lot of people straight away and because I was new, understandably I didn't get many replies.

However now I've been on here a while and updated my profile, do you think that it would be rude to message people again?

Let me know what you think, thanks "

if it's a no or a blank the first time probably arn't into you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just msg them you've nothing to loose.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

No its not rude ... ladies get so many messages they carnt possibly answer all ....so try again ... something like .. hi remember me ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the feedback guys

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