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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?

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By *orkshire biMan
over a year ago

elland

Git the same problem. Keep dropping hints like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you need to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?"

You dont need tell them your bisexual unless you really want to x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you need to?"

Well I don't need to make it public, I really do fell I need to tell this one

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do you need to?

Well I don't need to make it public, I really do fell I need to tell this one "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you need to?

Well I don't need to make it public, I really do fell I need to tell this one

Why?"

Probably one of those changing room incidents

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've heard that people 'coming out of the closet' are often met with people saying "Oh we knew you were."

It's a tricky one and in some ways better to get it over and in others better to keep quiet if it will rock the boat too much.

Difficult choice for you OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you need to?

Well I don't need to make it public, I really do fell I need to tell this one

Why?

Probably one of those changing room incidents"

made me chuckle but no not an incident haha cheers for the advice though guys

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If it's your wife or gf then it's well complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?"

Is it a friend or family, male or female ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?

Is it a friend or family, male or female ? "

Girlfriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you're planning a relationship with a guy while your are still seeing gf i would stay quiet. Most bi guys only see men for sex not relationships. And yes I'm bi. Or are you dreaming of a threesome?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing as you fucked four couples in one afternoon does your gf even know you are swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?

Is it a friend or family, male or female ?

Girlfriend "

That makes things more difficult

Are you planning on acting on your bi-side, either with or without your girlfriend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing as you fucked four couples in one afternoon does your gf even know you are swinging? "

How do you know that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?

Is it a friend or family, male or female ?

Girlfriend

That makes things more difficult

Are you planning on acting on your bi-side, either with or without your girlfriend?"

Yeah and ideally I'd like her to be involved

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seeing as you fucked four couples in one afternoon does your gf even know you are swinging? "

Wasn't 4 couples it was 2 and 2 women and yes she knows just don't think she'll be happy with me adding guys into the mix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?

Is it a friend or family, male or female ?

Girlfriend

That makes things more difficult

Are you planning on acting on your bi-side, either with or without your girlfriend?

Yeah and ideally I'd like her to be involved"

Have you ever talked about threesomes, straight or bi?

Guys usually get close when playing in a threesome whether bi or not, so if you talk about that it might be a way for you to bring up the idea and see how she reacts.

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Really with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?"

I did, we had been together about 16 years too, its a bit rocky now and we don't have sex anymore but there are other reasons for that. She is quite supportive though. I find it more difficult coming out in the 'straight' community, there is a lot of homophobia and fear from 'straight' people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing as you fucked four couples in one afternoon does your gf even know you are swinging?

Wasn't 4 couples it was 2 and 2 women and yes she knows just don't think she'll be happy with me adding guys into the mix "

If you were to introduce a guy into the mix would she get to play with him also assuming she plays with you while swinging. What would her reasons be for not accepting it be? Do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took my 19 years to tell my best friend I was bi (fem talking). Her reaction was, I'm glad you've told me, I always knew just didn't want to ask. It's your choice and self confidence that will allow you to speak honestly, if your ready to do so then go for it, in my experience most people have guessed before you say anything but always be prepared for the questioning and which from others.

There is no right or wrong way to do it, just be you, best advice I have x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing as you fucked four couples in one afternoon does your gf even know you are swinging?

How do you know that?"

His status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't mind telling her you are out shagging couples and other women but are worried about telling her that you want men too.

You should have been honest from the start.

I feel really sorry for her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing as you fucked four couples in one afternoon does your gf even know you are swinging?

How do you know that?

His status"

He didn't say that, he said he'd come 4 times and where were the mf couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing as you fucked four couples in one afternoon does your gf even know you are swinging?

How do you know that?

His status

He didn't say that, he said he'd come 4 times and where were the mf couples "

On the thread he said ..

Wasn't 4 couples it was 2 and 2 women and yes she knows just don't think she'll be happy with me adding guys into the mix

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By *icpl81Couple
over a year ago

hednesford


"Really struggling with telling someone close that I'm bisexual any help?

Is it a friend or family, male or female ?

Girlfriend "

For me, when my oh told me he was bi it was a massive shock but in a good way! 3somes so much more funannd so many possibilities! We're both bi so bi cpl meets and very interesting! She might surprise you with her reaction. Does she play at present? Either alone or with you as a cpl? Wishing you the best possible out come OP XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps test the water by saying you 'think' you may be curious. If she reacts badly you can just say it was only a mild curiosity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you need to?

Well I don't need to make it public, I really do fell I need to tell this one "

The only advice I can give is tell them outright if they have a problem r they really worth having u in ur life. A friend of mine told me they were bisexual about a month ago and my response was "cool. So what u got planned for today" if they care about u they won't care if ur gay straight bi or a freaking unicorn. People who care will show it and those who don't don't deserve ur time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you something you're struggling to say to us Wolf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just say that you want to try is and see.. say maybe on the next meet etc... when I told my husband that I wanted to try it he was fine with it. X

Mrs p x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first met my wife we had a straight talking night

Previous experiences etc

I said that was it but she kept saying no no you not told me everything I can tell

So told her I was bi thinking best pack my bag cos she going to kick me back up the M4 and she was like ok cool.

Told my eldest son one day over a pint and I was

Oh dude btw I'm bi

He was kk

Want a pint?

Job done

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Cant see the problem. So many couples dont communicate. I dont see how people can surpress who they really are. Just tell her

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