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men pretending they into safe sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do so many say yes we are only into safe Anal, then when you meet them try every think to bare back you. Had a couple of meets now where ive put a stop to every thing. And had a meet last night , every thing going really well until he tried to bare back me, when i asked him where his condom was, he said he has run out, so i gave him one at which point he lost his hard on and started to act rather threatning , it was only the fact he was concerned about his neighbours seeing/hearing a Tgirl leaving his place he shut up while i left. Ive all ways made it clear before meeting only into safe sex, and will not change my mind. Any one else had this, or have any hints how to spot people like this in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not juat single guys.. its couples and women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think most guys would rather go bareback but common sense should kick in and use protection. this is about fun so safe sex on profile means safe sex on meet surely. idiots spoil it for all x

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By *ax1971Man
over a year ago

St helens

Be straight with them donna(no pun intened).. Hehe... Tell them to bring there own and when you meet am them b4 anything starts Where's your condoms. Best of luck play save have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly yes, had this a couple of times, my profile states safe only but that seems to get ignored. It's their health as well as mine they're risking (I'm clean obviously but how would they know that).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not juat single guys.. its couples and women too "

bukake a bit tricky with a condom princess lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be straight with them donna(no pun intened).. Hehe... Tell them to bring there own and when you meet am them b4 anything starts Where's your condoms. Best of luck play save have fun. "

no pun!! have all ways made it clear before meeting safe only, and get the normal answer of , of course no problem. and they have all had veriified profiles as well

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover


"Its not juat single guys.. its couples and women too

bukake a bit tricky with a condom princess lol "

There a big difference between bukake and unprotected anal sex!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's no way to tell really, they always have the safe sex box checked for some reason though.

at least you stuck to your guns so they might think twice next time someone insists on condoms before a meet.

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Where had guys in clubs try to bareback.

And that's the end of it.

I don't bother asking them to put in a condom, if that's not their default setting, they are out the door.

Had a guy in a club try to hide the fact that he had pulled his condominium off before entering OH.

Physically removed him from the room and the closest I've ever come at a club to getting punchy with some one. Some guys are complete tossers.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Yep ... ive had this .... one guy took off the condom ... because he couldnt perform properly ..... my profile clearly states safe sex ....

Then he had the cheek to say ... oh don't worry ive had the snip ......ffs ...

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

I watch guys like a hawk in clubs to make sure they don't try this, always helps to have someone watch for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only time I hve unprotected sex is with Jack. I hope he respects my safety as well as his gf's if he's playing with others.

If i'm with others if no rubber no sex. I don't want STI's. Things aren't great with hubby but if we do decide to hve sex I don't want anything carried back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make sure I've got someone looking out for me during groups.

Too many times I've seen guys put on a condom but sneakily slide it off just for penetration

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im surprised how often and to how many people this has happened to. So many idiots spoiling others fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly yes, had this a couple of times, my profile states safe only but that seems to get ignored. It's their health as well as mine they're risking (I'm clean obviously but how would they know that)."

I once had a guy try and do the whole 'but I'm clean' speech. When I asked him if he could be sure I was the look on his face was quite entertaining. Needless to say the night ended there, but I'm hoping it made him think twice going forward..although probably not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snap never falls with the I can't .it didn't feel right .I'll pull out ....only thing ull be pulling mate is ur own dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not juat single guys.. its couples and women too

bukake a bit tricky with a condom princess lol "
bukkake is on my face not my pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I make sure I've got someone looking out for me during groups.

Too many times I've seen guys put on a condom but sneakily slide it off just for penetration"
its why i always offer to watch for other ladies as it happens a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see the problem with safe sex ?

Its something we will always carry out !

Especially where someone is putting trust in you why ? Try to sneak it off !

Its safety for all involved?

There are worse things than pregnancy that can be passed !!

But it's more of the trust being broken that is the worst ! We have too put our trust in others for fun and to lose the trust is too lose the fun ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a condom is always best but when meeting on a casual basis it's not something I'd consider.

Even if regularly tested you could still pick something up and spread it for 4/8/12 weeks or more until you'd find out on your next test.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you practice safe sex and use a condom you limit the risks. But why worry about what others do. Its there health there choice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As long as you practice safe sex and use a condom you limit the risks. But why worry about what others do. Its there health there choice "

the whole thing is people trying to practice safe sex while the partner trys to sneak around it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest we prefer bareback.

From our experience of couples I reckon in excess of 50% of those who list safe sex in their profile likes actually are happy to go bare.

We are absolutely honest and upfront about our preferences right at the outset but would get pretty pissed if someone tried barebacking us without explicit advance agreement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as you practice safe sex and use a condom you limit the risks. But why worry about what others do. Its there health there choice

the whole thing is people trying to practice safe sex while the partner trys to sneak around it"

This is a big problem..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a guy put the condom on and then deliberately break it before penetration so it is still round the Base of his cock but that's all that's there. Why????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever have sex in a safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a guy put the condom on and then deliberately break it before penetration so it is still round the Base of his cock but that's all that's there. Why????"

because he is going bareback then and doesn't feel the condom where it matters on a guy.

i'm sure someone slipped a condom off when we went doggy, my first ever topic in here was asking if people do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a guy but this behavior of other guys really annoys me.

It's about fun here and fun is about trust! How can the girl be relaxed and enjoy meeting if needs to constantly think about this?

For me it is difficult to build trust then as a new guy here when people have such experience here.

Besides that, protection is for us guys as well! Think of if these ladies did bare-back with whoever they met before you - do you get it?

So glad for you ladies that you care about your health more than some guys here And annoyed you need to go thru this...

Other situation of course is if you have STD results from doctor and both agree on that they trust each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex is clearly importsnt, however condoms are horrific!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need eyes in your butt cheeks at times. Really fucks me off when guys slip their condom off and hope you won't notice.

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