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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi, looking for some advice on swinging seperatly! we are a married couple and i have just created my own single profile (male) but not getting much luck

i am photo verified, meet verified, a site supporter and have a face pic, when i send a message out (always polite!) they either get deleted or no reply, what am i doing wrong?? or is this just the norm for single guys!

any help and advice would be greatly appreciated!!

my single profile is- sexyyoungman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im guessing that people might think you are cheating on your wife, most find that incredibly uncomfortable and wont meet you at all

And yes as you now become one of a huge majority, you have to sell yourself, make your profile sound like you are the cream of the crop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also on your profile you have:

youngsexyman and he happens to be 19 unlike you, whereas on this thread yu have:

sexyyoungman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's pretty much the norm for single guys to be honest, but if your a couple but going it alone, it's an even bigger problem.

That kind of scenario rings major alarm bells with lots of people, for example it could be interpreted as you being a single guy, playing behind his wifes back and lots of people don't like that sort of thing ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also on your profile you have:

youngsexyman and he happens to be 19 unlike you, whereas on this thread yu have:

sexyyoungman "

whoops have changed it now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And your single profile has only been active for 1 day ffs

You seem to be in a bit of a hurry ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

have put on our couple profile that we are both happy with this arrangement!

is this not enough do you think??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And your single profile has only been active for 1 day ffs

You seem to be in a bit of a hurry ...."

no, not in a hurry atall, but with the time i have taken sending out messages, just thought maybe i'd get at least a couple of replies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have put on our couple profile that we are both happy with this arrangement!

is this not enough do you think??"

Probably not because a lot of people will simply not believe you.

I'm not saying that you are telling lies but unfortunately that's just the way things are.

The odds are weighted heavily against single guys in any case, so add to the mix a little bit of doubt that guy is playing away ......

Draw you own conclusions

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"And your single profile has only been active for 1 day ffs

You seem to be in a bit of a hurry ....

no, not in a hurry atall, but with the time i have taken sending out messages, just thought maybe i'd get at least a couple of replies..."

Bloody hell, you are not giving it much time.

I don't suppose your couples profile got exactly what you wanted at a day old either.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"have put on our couple profile that we are both happy with this arrangement!

is this not enough do you think??"

Oh i am sure it's fine,after all married men never lie to get a shag on here.

We play seperatly,but kev has never bothered with a profile,he meets ppl who know we are happy with the way things are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And your single profile has only been active for 1 day ffs

You seem to be in a bit of a hurry ....

no, not in a hurry atall, but with the time i have taken sending out messages, just thought maybe i'd get at least a couple of replies...

Bloody hell, you are not giving it much time.

I don't suppose your couples profile got exactly what you wanted at a day old either."

blimey, im not saying that i want to meet and sleep with someone tonight, just want to make friends for now! on our couple profile we had quite a few messages actually and try to reply to everyone, even if its a polite no!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"And your single profile has only been active for 1 day ffs

You seem to be in a bit of a hurry ....

no, not in a hurry atall, but with the time i have taken sending out messages, just thought maybe i'd get at least a couple of replies...

Bloody hell, you are not giving it much time.

I don't suppose your couples profile got exactly what you wanted at a day old either.

blimey, im not saying that i want to meet and sleep with someone tonight, just want to make friends for now! on our couple profile we had quite a few messages actually and try to reply to everyone, even if its a polite no!"

I am sure as a couple you must realise that single men don't get the same attention as couples or females...so I am surprised you are even thinking that the response to your new profile would be as busy as when you started on a couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your partner could put on your cpls profile that she is happy for you to play alone and you could put on your singles profile that they can check the couple profile for verification of it

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"or is this just the norm for single guys!"

Ding ding ding ding... we have a winner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a scenario for the OP. Imagine you are me. Its tea time on a Friday night and you're horny, you have no kids and fancy some fun. Do you:

a) Come onto fab and find a single bloke that is also free and can accomodate

or

b) Come onto fab and find a married bloke who has to ok it with his wife first but will get back to you by 8 with an answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a scenario for the OP. Imagine you are me. Its tea time on a Friday night and you're horny, you have no kids and fancy some fun. Do you:

a) Come onto fab and find a single bloke that is also free and can accomodate

or

b) Come onto fab and find a married bloke who has to ok it with his wife first but will get back to you by 8 with an answer

"

ummm....im guessing A!

but fingers crossed somewhere on fab, theres at least 1 person that might say B!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a scenario for the OP. Imagine you are me. Its tea time on a Friday night and you're horny, you have no kids and fancy some fun. Do you:

a) Come onto fab and find a single bloke that is also free and can accomodate

or

b) Come onto fab and find a married bloke who has to ok it with his wife first but will get back to you by 8 with an answer

ummm....im guessing A!

but fingers crossed somewhere on fab, theres at least 1 person that might say B! "

Yeah good luck with that!!

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By *o Peep n WoodyCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

based on my own experience , make sure you read profiles before messaging, instead of a "polite" copy paste message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is pretty much the norm for 'single' guys. I'd say it's even more difficult for attached men playing alone - your at the very bottom of the swinging food chain!

However, some people don't like to play with one half of an attached couple full stop. Can't quite explain it but to me there's not much difference between meeting a woman whose husband has no idea, and meeting a woman whose husband knows she swings alone. If he's not present at the time, it feels the same, but maybe that's just me. Unless of course he's playing elsewhere at the same time.

If you really want to make it clear then explain fully on your single profile, and include that your other half is happy to chat to any potential meets to give her approval (on the phone or in person). That's more likely to be believed than mentioning it on your couple profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a scenario for the OP. Imagine you are me. Its tea time on a Friday night and you're horny, you have no kids and fancy some fun. Do you:

a) Come onto fab and find a single bloke that is also free and can accomodate

or

b) Come onto fab and find a married bloke who has to ok it with his wife first but will get back to you by 8 with an answer

ummm....im guessing A!

but fingers crossed somewhere on fab, theres at least 1 person that might say B!

Yeah good luck with that!! "

over half my playmates are married "singles"... lol so not all of us would pick A.

katie.x

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