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"It starts with a decent message then a decent profile...for me at least" Yes but you have a fabulous avatar, love that picture | |||
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"It starts with a decent message then a decent profile...for me at least Yes but you have a fabulous avatar, love that picture " Thank you. It still doesn't get me a decent message from guys 9 out of 10 times so it's easy to stand out! | |||
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"It starts with a decent message then a decent profile...for me at least" What would be a decent message in your eyes? | |||
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"It starts with a decent message then a decent profile...for me at least What would be a decent message in your eyes?" Not hi, how are you, how's your day/weekend/life going Not fancy a fuck or some ridiculous sex story that you've nicked from someone else Not a copy and paste to all ladies within a 200 mile radius So try... Reading someone's profile Checking you're what they're looking for Connect with them Tell them a bit about what you're looking for Send a nice pic of yours aren't public Err on the side of caution and not send a cock pic (doesn't apply to me, I like them...well if they have pubes it's an auto delete!) Spend the time messaging one person you'd really like to meet rather than 10 people you're just chancing your luck with and have no idea if you're what they're looking for | |||
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"It starts with a decent message then a decent profile...for me at least What would be a decent message in your eyes? Not hi, how are you, how's your day/weekend/life going Not fancy a fuck or some ridiculous sex story that you've nicked from someone else Not a copy and paste to all ladies within a 200 mile radius So try... Reading someone's profile Checking you're what they're looking for Connect with them Tell them a bit about what you're looking for Send a nice pic of yours aren't public Err on the side of caution and not send a cock pic (doesn't apply to me, I like them...well if they have pubes it's an auto delete!) Spend the time messaging one person you'd really like to meet rather than 10 people you're just chancing your luck with and have no idea if you're what they're looking for" Thank you so much for your advice | |||
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"Hey everyone, I'm just wondering what it takes to get a message back on here. I'm a young, fit and I thought quite cute guy. I'm new and when I message someone I always put a face pic and a polite message saying I like your profile and it would be great to chat if you like mine. But I'm getting no response. I understand women get bombarded with messages. But Im starting to realise that maybe I'm actually really unattractive lol it's making me feel a little low. But what do women look for in looks on here? Do you have to look like a model? Thanks " I've never had a message back either, I've never had a single reply to any message I have mailed first, not even a your not my type Maybe we are just aiming to high and mailing people who are out of our league, that's what I put my failure rate to | |||
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"for some it will be your age and nothing to do with your profile or pics..some of us have kids your age and dont consider it appropriate xx dont be put off and get your true self known in the forms, get out and about, even to socials and trust yourself xx" I only seem to message people around my age or younger. :/ I don't know, no matter what I say, I guess everyone still has a preference (I'm mixed race) and I'm just not fitting the bill. But its okay, I guess the site is not for everyone lol | |||
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"It starts with a decent message then a decent profile...for me at least What would be a decent message in your eyes?" You're the 'intelligent' one - work it out. Looks to me like you thought you were gonna be knee deep in clunge, and expected your age and body would get you sex. It hasn't so far, so now that little bit of reality has bounced off your head - now what? I'm not going to give any advice at all except to say wait more than two weeks before announcing you can't get sex because that makes you sound desperate and needy and impatient, It's a learning curve. Reality. Life. If whatever you're doing isn't working, then do something else. | |||
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"for some it will be your age and nothing to do with your profile or pics..some of us have kids your age and dont consider it appropriate xx dont be put off and get your true self known in the forms, get out and about, even to socials and trust yourself xx I only seem to message people around my age or younger. :/ I don't know, no matter what I say, I guess everyone still has a preference (I'm mixed race) and I'm just not fitting the bill. But its okay, I guess the site is not for everyone lol" No point in blaming people for not wanting mixed race men for sex. It's bleedin' obvious that many do. Don't blame something you can't change for your lack of success. If whatever you're doing isn't working, change it. Harsh advice but judging from your profile, I think you need it. | |||
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"Hey everyone, I'm just wondering what it takes to get a message back on here. I'm a young, fit and I thought quite cute guy. I'm new and when I message someone I always put a face pic and a polite message saying I like your profile and it would be great to chat if you like mine. But I'm getting no response. I understand women get bombarded with messages. But Im starting to realise that maybe I'm actually really unattractive lol it's making me feel a little low. But what do women look for in looks on here? Do you have to look like a model? Thanks " I look like the back of a bus and did ok as a single guy.... Take the advice you've been given and try to stand out.... Oh and don't sound desperate! Best of luck... Mr | |||
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"Hey everyone, I'm just wondering what it takes to get a message back on here. I'm a young, fit and I thought quite cute guy. I'm new and when I message someone I always put a face pic and a polite message saying I like your profile and it would be great to chat if you like mine. But I'm getting no response. I understand women get bombarded with messages. But Im starting to realise that maybe I'm actually really unattractive lol it's making me feel a little low. But what do women look for in looks on here? Do you have to look like a model? Thanks " For us it would be age and seeing the year u were born in your username just a constant reminder,,,, no kids ur age but I have siblings | |||
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"It starts with a decent message then a decent profile...for me at least What would be a decent message in your eyes? Not hi, how are you, how's your day/weekend/life going Not fancy a fuck or some ridiculous sex story that you've nicked from someone else Not a copy and paste to all ladies within a 200 mile radius So try... Reading someone's profile Checking you're what they're looking for Connect with them Tell them a bit about what you're looking for Send a nice pic of yours aren't public Err on the side of caution and not send a cock pic (doesn't apply to me, I like them...well if they have pubes it's an auto delete!) Spend the time messaging one person you'd really like to meet rather than 10 people you're just chancing your luck with and have no idea if you're what they're looking for" Saved me a lot of typing...It's a shame some people don't realise it's that easy. | |||
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"Define 'super attractive'. " Me... I am the definition od super attractive | |||
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"Define 'super attractive'. Me... I am the definition od super attractive " Damn. .. was supposed to say of, not odd! blooming honest settings | |||
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"I think your profile is okay - nicely written although I wouldn't call it an ad. Add a couple more pictures (bum shot, full length etc). You have only been on two weeks and there are hundreds of single guys on here to stand out from. I suspect the problem is the message you send people. If it literally is what you wrote in your OP then it's pretty boring and doesn't show that any thought has gone into it. Personally, I hate when people ask 'can we chat?'. Ask something interesting and we will be chatting rather than a question with a yes or no answer! " | |||
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"for some it will be your age and nothing to do with your profile or pics..some of us have kids your age and dont consider it appropriate xx dont be put off and get your true self known in the forms, get out and about, even to socials and trust yourself xx I only seem to message people around my age or younger. :/ I don't know, no matter what I say, I guess everyone still has a preference (I'm mixed race) and I'm just not fitting the bill. But its okay, I guess the site is not for everyone lol" You have been here two weeks! | |||
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