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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been chatting to a guy on here and we got on pretty well so planned to go visit him one day this week but the day we started chatting we were like a house on fire all keen to meet blah blah blah - he met all my requirements for a meet and I was what he looks for in a lady, changed to Whatsapp but that went on until the afternoon now I've not heard from him and my visit is coming up in the next couple days. Now do I just leave it? He's been on here to have been able to explain he's not been able to reply via Whatsapp and I hate to badger people when it comes down to it - I sent the last two messages and won't be sending more. Third time this has happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all been there. C'èst la vie de Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Either I need to remove some of my standards or need to move where the men actually do meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him..you have given him a chance by sending messages..obviously a time waster and may even have a partner xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly this happens a lot !! I've learnt if they go quiet before the meet the likelyhood he will show up is 0. Personally I wouldn't chase him. Move on to the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a problem when reality clashes with Fab dreams for guys. Check his profile properly for signs of exactly how "single" he is....? (Just a thought)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time, people talk a good time then go quiet the day of the meet. Some just bottle it or simply change their mind but cannot be adult about it and say for fear of abuse. I just meet for a quick coffee in a localish cafe where I'd probably be on my work break anyway so no issues if they no show. If someone went quiet on the day of a meet I'd send another message, on here and private text saying something like as I've not heard back from you I'll assume you've changed your mind and wish you well then forget them. Life's to short to stress about it or wonder why they've done it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a problem when reality clashes with Fab dreams for guys. Check his profile properly for signs of exactly how "single" he is....? (Just a thought)"

That's one of the requirements - they have to be able to accommodate and our first meet was gonna be for a coffee in a public place incase in person we didn't get on. Shame really it's not often I find a guy who matches my wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id send a message saying if you dont hear from him then you wont go - if hes got a genuine reason he will apologise and say so or if not then youve lost nowt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some guys think once they're in and gonna get sex (or have had sex with you) they can stop making any effort, after all sex is supposed to be NSA. he's probably busy chasing someone else already now.

i personally don't meet these guys because i lose interest in them seeing as they've changed how they interact with you when it was the original interaction that got you interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think thats what's happened - I'll email him tonight see if he still wants to meet or no. Bit miffed like but that's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is confusing yeah.

i get that people have lives and that outside of fab but sorry if you had time to make the effort and all of a sudden you don't, with no explanation, i just presume married and busy with that or just a flakey liar who doesn't respect women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see I'm not the only lady this happens too.

Between that and getting grief for being on the site with no veris...the amount of guys who accuse you of all sorts when you have no veris is unreal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've sent two messages that have been read and not replied to?

I don't get too engaged in sexual fantasy talk/telling them what I'm going to do/what they will do etc,and I don't swap pics unless I'm pretty certain he isn't a pic wanker. The ones who are not intending to meet will get bored with no wank fodder and fuck off. I learnt that lesson a long time before I joined Fab.

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

It's not just Fab, it happens on dating sites as well. Obviously attached or just simply a tossed. I personally wouldn't message and say are we meeting or not. Just think to yourself.....next!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it is confusing yeah.

i get that people have lives and that outside of fab but sorry if you had time to make the effort and all of a sudden you don't, with no explanation, i just presume married and busy with that or just a flakey liar who doesn't respect women."

Someone bailed on me after he kept on about meeting and right up to being on his way home from work and he will ring in 5 minutes. An hour later I'm thinking he might have crashed his car texting me on his way home. But no,he came back on to block me. I was relieved he hadn't died a horrible death in a mangled car,but did wonder if I said something to put him off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it is confusing yeah.

i get that people have lives and that outside of fab but sorry if you had time to make the effort and all of a sudden you don't, with no explanation, i just presume married and busy with that or just a flakey liar who doesn't respect women.

Someone bailed on me after he kept on about meeting and right up to being on his way home from work and he will ring in 5 minutes. An hour later I'm thinking he might have crashed his car texting me on his way home. But no,he came back on to block me. I was relieved he hadn't died a horrible death in a mangled car,but did wonder if I said something to put him off "

that's weird. that he'd say he's on his way then block you. i've had this once only.

doubt you did anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see I'm not the only lady this happens too.

Between that and getting grief for being on the site with no veris...the amount of guys who accuse you of all sorts when you have no veris is unreal."

I made my veris public for him to read but I'd rather keep who I meet to myself which is why I only post what they wrote not who wrote it. He was well verified, unless of course he found something/someone better for the day we chose. We never had any sexual conversation other than what I do/don't do and face pictures. Hey ho onwards and upwards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"it is confusing yeah.

i get that people have lives and that outside of fab but sorry if you had time to make the effort and all of a sudden you don't, with no explanation, i just presume married and busy with that or just a flakey liar who doesn't respect women.

Someone bailed on me after he kept on about meeting and right up to being on his way home from work and he will ring in 5 minutes. An hour later I'm thinking he might have crashed his car texting me on his way home. But no,he came back on to block me. I was relieved he hadn't died a horrible death in a mangled car,but did wonder if I said something to put him off

that's weird. that he'd say he's on his way then block you. i've had this once only.

doubt you did anything."

This was one of the reasons I left last time. He messaged on here when he was a half an hour away then stopped and next thing I knew he blocked me.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Can you see when he was last online on whatsapp? Before assuming the worst in anyone, I would hope that he hasn't fallen ill or involved in an accident, arrested by the police, kidnapped or anything other kind of emergency for him, a family member or close friend.

Whatsapp has the option to show when he opened the app last. One grey tick against your message mean it has sent ok. Two grey ticks mean it has been delivered but not read. Two blue ticks mean it has been read. Two blue ticks and no subsequent reply can mean that he hasn't been able to reply, for whatever reason, including the above, so I'd be inclined to send another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you see when he was last online on whatsapp? Before assuming the worst in anyone, I would hope that he hasn't fallen ill or involved in an accident, arrested by the police, kidnapped or anything other kind of emergency for him, a family member or close friend.

Whatsapp has the option to show when he opened the app last. One grey tick against your message mean it has sent ok. Two grey ticks mean it has been delivered but not read. Two blue ticks mean it has been read. Two blue ticks and no subsequent reply can mean that he hasn't been able to reply, for whatever reason, including the above, so I'd be inclined to send another."

He's been online on fab, I disabled the ability to see who was online when as was getting harassment from it. He's read both my messages on Whatsapp they are two blue ticks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave him to it, he's clearly not interested, he'd of be in contact if he was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've sent two messages that have been read and not replied to?

I don't get too engaged in sexual fantasy talk/telling them what I'm going to do/what they will do etc,and I don't swap pics unless I'm pretty certain he isn't a pic wanker. The ones who are not intending to meet will get bored with no wank fodder and fuck off. I learnt that lesson a long time before I joined Fab.

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This.

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor

This has happened with nealy all the couples I talk to. Time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see I'm not the only lady this happens too.

Between that and getting grief for being on the site with no veris...the amount of guys who accuse you of all sorts when you have no veris is unreal."

It's very easy to get one, I'd also be suspicious if someone had been on over a year with no verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we should all be taking a deposit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see I'm not the only lady this happens too.

Between that and getting grief for being on the site with no veris...the amount of guys who accuse you of all sorts when you have no veris is unreal.

It's very easy to get one, I'd also be suspicious if someone had been on over a year with no verification."

I was waiting for that kind of comment.

Yes if I were to jump in with anyone who messages me. Not prepared to do that.

Also just because I have been a registered user for over a year does not mean that I have been logging in regularly. It can be several weeks in between log ins sometimes.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Can you see when he was last online on whatsapp? Before assuming the worst in anyone, I would hope that he hasn't fallen ill or involved in an accident, arrested by the police, kidnapped or anything other kind of emergency for him, a family member or close friend.

Whatsapp has the option to show when he opened the app last. One grey tick against your message mean it has sent ok. Two grey ticks mean it has been delivered but not read. Two blue ticks mean it has been read. Two blue ticks and no subsequent reply can mean that he hasn't been able to reply, for whatever reason, including the above, so I'd be inclined to send another.

He's been online on fab, I disabled the ability to see who was online when as was getting harassment from it. He's read both my messages on Whatsapp they are two blue ticks"

Timewaster. Block him and breathe a sigh of relief that you never met him or spent any money on him or the meet

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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

Like has been said before just block

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