FabSwingers.com forum: Newbie

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi people, I'm fairly new to all this. I'm looking to have a go at thressomes (MMF or MFF) and even try out a swingers club. I've not had any luck so far meeting people. I'm just wondering what I'm probably doing wrong, any help or tips would be appreciated! Be as critical as you like!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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Try out the club would be my advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try out the club would be my advice."

I think going first time I'd probably be nervous going on my own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try out the club would be my advice.

I think going first time I'd probably be nervous going on my own!"

And you won't be if you get a meet on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attend local socials. Or try a club newbie night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be difficult to find a couple who would take on a newbie, though I'm sure it's not impossible, and of course everyone has to start somewhere. The reason we wouldn't meet someone who was new to the scene, is because for us, there are a lot of complex dynamics in MMF okay, and it gives us comfort when a man understands what we want. Attending a club may get you chatting to couples so you can gain confidence and understanding that way. You don't have to play if you are not ready, or you may not have the opportunity to play and that's fine too. You will get a chance to watch, and all that will get you used to the lifestyle. Have a think about what a couple may want from you, and try and reflect in your profile what you have to offer. The easiest MMF scenario is having two men pleasuring a woman. Sometimes husbands are happy to watch and take photos. One of the biggest mistakes made by single men is marginalising the husband, so get him on side and find out what would turn him on as well as her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It might be difficult to find a couple who would take on a newbie, though I'm sure it's not impossible, and of course everyone has to start somewhere. The reason we wouldn't meet someone who was new to the scene, is because for us, there are a lot of complex dynamics in MMF okay, and it gives us comfort when a man understands what we want. Attending a club may get you chatting to couples so you can gain confidence and understanding that way. You don't have to play if you are not ready, or you may not have the opportunity to play and that's fine too. You will get a chance to watch, and all that will get you used to the lifestyle. Have a think about what a couple may want from you, and try and reflect in your profile what you have to offer. The easiest MMF scenario is having two men pleasuring a woman. Sometimes husbands are happy to watch and take photos. One of the biggest mistakes made by single men is marginalising the husband, so get him on side and find out what would turn him on as well as her."

To Echo this, always always always address the couple as a couple not as a hot chick with some guy attached. Nothing winds us up more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow some really good feedback here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was being appreciative by the way lol

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

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Stood in your shoes for sure. Best advice already given. Go to a club or two with no expectations to play and socialise. Good luck hope you find sexy times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi people, I'm fairly new to all this. I'm looking to have a go at thressomes (MMF or MFF) and even try out a swingers club. I've not had any luck so far meeting people. I'm just wondering what I'm probably doing wrong, any help or tips would be appreciated! Be as critical as you like!"

No public pictures is a big killer for you most will just pass by (women have so much choice theyre aren't going to message to ask for a picture).

The profile is very bland it doesnt say anything about you as a person.

You want to find somone you "click" with, thats gonna be easier if they know something about you.

My tip is pretend your somone else and read your profile out loud.

Now try to think what youd send yourself as a first message.

If you find it hard you need to add more stuff.

You need to make that first message as easy as possible my making yourself aproachable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No public pictures is a big killer for you most will just pass by (women have so much choice theyre aren't going to message to ask for a picture).

The profile is very bland it doesnt say anything about you as a person.

You want to find somone you "click" with, thats gonna be easier if they know something about you.

My tip is pretend your somone else and read your profile out loud.

Now try to think what youd send yourself as a first message.

If you find it hard you need to add more stuff.

You need to make that first message as easy as possible my making yourself aproachable.

This is very true

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