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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on this site a good few months now and still haven't managed to get that first meet under my belt. I know it's all about being patient but it's just so frustrating when you're sending messages back and forth and then suddenly the woman or couple just stop replying. I'm not massively in favour of message ping pong but as the majority on here, I feel somewhat obliged to engage in the ping pong because I know a lot of people get messed around by single guys on here and so by messaging I guess I'm trying to help prove I'm genuine. Just need that first meet and first veri and then I'm sure things will change....just seems to be taking forever and a day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on this site a good few months now and still haven't managed to get that first meet under my belt. I know it's all about being patient but it's just so frustrating when you're sending messages back and forth and then suddenly the woman or couple just stop replying. I'm not massively in favour of message ping pong but as the majority on here, I feel somewhat obliged to engage in the ping pong because I know a lot of people get messed around by single guys on here and so by messaging I guess I'm trying to help prove I'm genuine. Just need that first meet and first veri and then I'm sure things will change....just seems to be taking forever and a day!"

Some folks might be intimidated man: you're profile and pics look like they should be working fine so I'm not sure what the issue is. I know other threads have suggested going to clubs or social events, maybe worth a try to get the verifications out of the way?

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

It won't change after first meet and verification why would it?

You signed up to life as a single guy on fab this is it pretty much and things like that will happen

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

OP, you've been on here eight weeks. It took me eight months to get my first meet.

And it's already been said, dealing with the sudden silences and rejection is part of being a single guy on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What they said above lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You gotta give it time make friends and it will come takes alot of time like blokes women and cpls have types and youll get there ive been on and off site for over 5 years and only had 4 solo meets rest been at partys and clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why dont you get yourself to a club someplace show your face get a veri from club meets if your finding the ping pong not your gamegame

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah to be fair you guys are all making sense. Think I may try a club, purely for the veri. Think it's just frustrating when you put such time and effort into messaging and then for it all to just suddenly stop for no reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah to be fair you guys are all making sense. Think I may try a club, purely for the veri. Think it's just frustrating when you put such time and effort into messaging and then for it all to just suddenly stop for no reason!"

It also depends what you're looking for. There's a well-known supply and demand problem on Fab. If it's hookups you're after, Tinder remains a great call.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination to have rumpus puppy fun. So, we assume there's plenty of stops to get off at and surprised that the journey is taking so long.

We aren't alone on this train, so enjoy what's around you. Chat with other passengers without chatting them up in the hopes of sex together. Make use of the various facilities on the train and take on the different views through the forum windows. They might not always be enjoyable views, so change seats to the other side perhaps. Check out the restaurant. It's where the socials are held. Coffee, cake and chocolate available without play.

The Fab train is not about the destination, it's about having a good time on the journey. Your stop will come along quicker if you're not looking at the clock, so chill, make friends and eat cake!

Please note that the Fab toilets are not to be used for taking selfies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination to have rumpus puppy fun. So, we assume there's plenty of stops to get off at and surprised that the journey is taking so long.

We aren't alone on this train, so enjoy what's around you. Chat with other passengers without chatting them up in the hopes of sex together. Make use of the various facilities on the train and take on the different views through the forum windows. They might not always be enjoyable views, so change seats to the other side perhaps. Check out the restaurant. It's where the socials are held. Coffee, cake and chocolate available without play.

The Fab train is not about the destination, it's about having a good time on the journey. Your stop will come along quicker if you're not looking at the clock, so chill, make friends and eat cake!

Please note that the Fab toilets are not to be used for taking selfies. "

Haha what an analogy!

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Rumpus puppy? Rumpy pumpy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination to have rumpus puppy fun. So, we assume there's plenty of stops to get off at and surprised that the journey is taking so long.

We aren't alone on this train, so enjoy what's around you. Chat with other passengers without chatting them up in the hopes of sex together. Make use of the various facilities on the train and take on the different views through the forum windows. They might not always be enjoyable views, so change seats to the other side perhaps. Check out the restaurant. It's where the socials are held. Coffee, cake and chocolate available without play.

The Fab train is not about the destination, it's about having a good time on the journey. Your stop will come along quicker if you're not looking at the clock, so chill, make friends and eat cake!

Please note that the Fab toilets are not to be used for taking selfies. "

Excellent

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Mind the gap!

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

It doesn't matter whether you're in First Class as a gold or silver supporter, or a free member in Second Class, all passengers are free to socialise together.

It doesn't matter which class you are travelling in, any baggage brought on board must be stowed away and securely locked, to prevent harm to other passengers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im part of a couple and still find it hard to get meets. Weve had to go to socials and parties to get noticed xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on this site a good few months now and still haven't managed to get that first meet under my belt. I know it's all about being patient but it's just so frustrating when you're sending messages back and forth and then suddenly the woman or couple just stop replying. I'm not massively in favour of message ping pong but as the majority on here, I feel somewhat obliged to engage in the ping pong because I know a lot of people get messed around by single guys on here and so by messaging I guess I'm trying to help prove I'm genuine. Just need that first meet and first veri and then I'm sure things will change....just seems to be taking forever and a day!"

We don't understand how you haven't had a meet yet .... If we were nearer we would meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on this site a good few months now and still haven't managed to get that first meet under my belt. I know it's all about being patient but it's just so frustrating when you're sending messages back and forth and then suddenly the woman or couple just stop replying. I'm not massively in favour of message ping pong but as the majority on here, I feel somewhat obliged to engage in the ping pong because I know a lot of people get messed around by single guys on here and so by messaging I guess I'm trying to help prove I'm genuine. Just need that first meet and first veri and then I'm sure things will change....just seems to be taking forever and a day!

We don't understand how you haven't had a meet yet .... If we were nearer we would meet you "

I'd be second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say no lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta be patient like the wolf bro & maybe change ur approach with messages e.g. bit cheeky & make sure address both when chatting to couples!

Good friend told me have a peek at the most successful guys profiles, see how they do it and apply to urs'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a lot have said, it takes time and guys who mess people about sadly make it so much harder for decent genuine guys to be trusted and given a chance.

For what it's worth your profile and pics look good to me so you have no issues there, it's refreshing to see a profile with good details and pics that aren't all cocks. Your profile stands out in a good way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination to have rumpus puppy fun. So, we assume there's plenty of stops to get off at and surprised that the journey is taking so long.

We aren't alone on this train, so enjoy what's around you. Chat with other passengers without chatting them up in the hopes of sex together. Make use of the various facilities on the train and take on the different views through the forum windows. They might not always be enjoyable views, so change seats to the other side perhaps. Check out the restaurant. It's where the socials are held. Coffee, cake and chocolate available without play.

The Fab train is not about the destination, it's about having a good time on the journey. Your stop will come along quicker if you're not looking at the clock, so chill, make friends and eat cake!

Please note that the Fab toilets are not to be used for taking selfies. "

Best description of Fab ever !!!

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest


"Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination.....

Best description of Fab ever !!!

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Thank you! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination to have rumpus puppy fun. So, we assume there's plenty of stops to get off at and surprised that the journey is taking so long.

We aren't alone on this train, so enjoy what's around you. Chat with other passengers without chatting them up in the hopes of sex together. Make use of the various facilities on the train and take on the different views through the forum windows. They might not always be enjoyable views, so change seats to the other side perhaps. Check out the restaurant. It's where the socials are held. Coffee, cake and chocolate available without play.

The Fab train is not about the destination, it's about having a good time on the journey. Your stop will come along quicker if you're not looking at the clock, so chill, make friends and eat cake!

Please note that the Fab toilets are not to be used for taking selfies. "

Brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It won't change after first meet and verification why would it?

You signed up to life as a single guy on fab this is it pretty much and things like that will happen "

If only that first verification opened the floodgates eh..... If only....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your kind words, and critiques of my profile. Think I just needed to rant after this morning when a couple I had been messaging asked me to pay for the hotel (which I was happy to do to be honest) but then asked me to transfer the money to them so they could book it...as if I was born yesterday!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your kind words, and critiques of my profile. Think I just needed to rant after this morning when a couple I had been messaging asked me to pay for the hotel (which I was happy to do to be honest) but then asked me to transfer the money to them so they could book it...as if I was born yesterday!!"

Wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to make you feel a bit better this doesn't just happen to single guys it's an Internet known phenomenon known as distance makes the heart grow forgetful.

As stated by many others fab isn't really a place for a quick lay (generally) there are better places to look for that, but it's a great blend of social and sex and you'll find the whole experience a ton more fun if you enjoy both elements to the full instead of looking at everything as a chance to get your leg over (even if ultimately that is the end goal)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rumpus puppy? Rumpy pumpy! "

I like Rumpus puppy..

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Why dont you get yourself to a club someplace show your face get a veri from club meets if your finding the ping pong not your gamegame "
this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you get yourself to a club someplace show your face get a veri from club meets if your finding the ping pong not your gamegame this x"

Agreed! And us ladies are always right, right? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful about booking hotels in general anyway. A lovely guy i used to chat to on here ended up booking one and the other people never turned up.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

If you don't want to do a club and you get yourself to me one day I'll do you a social meet for a veri if you really think it'll help?

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

OP, as well as the socials and parties, I always recommend the chat rooms. Northern Chat is a very friendly chat room, and if you don't like message Ping-Pong, you might find the chat rooms more to your taste.

You won't get an immediate meet, but if you chat in the same room regularly, you will build up a network of online-friends, who will turn into real-life-friends, if you go along to the swingers clubs and parties.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Chat rooms is a shout, but have to quite discreet as my flatmate would probably easily hear. Seriously considering a club, just wish I had someone to go with, might ease the nerves a bit, god I must sound like a right wimp haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chat rooms is a shout, but have to quite discreet as my flatmate would probably easily hear. Seriously considering a club, just wish I had someone to go with, might ease the nerves a bit, god I must sound like a right wimp haha "

Not at all man: I'm nervous about going to a club as well. Would prefer to meet a group first for a few drinks in a pub then head down together if at all possible. Maybe you can arrange a similar thing down by you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chat rooms is a shout, but have to quite discreet as my flatmate would probably easily hear. Seriously considering a club, just wish I had someone to go with, might ease the nerves a bit, god I must sound like a right wimp haha

Not at all man: I'm nervous about going to a club as well. Would prefer to meet a group first for a few drinks in a pub then head down together if at all possible. Maybe you can arrange a similar thing down by you?"

To be fair, I wouldn't even need a group, would be happy with just another person!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I think is important for single guys, looking for an MF couple, to appreciate, is why they want to play with a couple. Are they interested in the threeway dynamics of MMF play, or do they just want NSA sex? What is the husband going to get out of it? What is it the single man can offer a couple so that their fantasies can be realised? When we look at single male profiles, we are looking for men who understand the dynamics of playing with a swinging couple, and I didn't feel that was reflected in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One thing I think is important for single guys, looking for an MF couple, to appreciate, is why they want to play with a couple. Are they interested in the threeway dynamics of MMF play, or do they just want NSA sex? What is the husband going to get out of it? What is it the single man can offer a couple so that their fantasies can be realised? When we look at single male profiles, we are looking for men who understand the dynamics of playing with a swinging couple, and I didn't feel that was reflected in your profile. "

Take that on board - I've amended my profile slightly now to include a bit about playing with couples - hope it's an improvement.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Take the advice you were given when you asked this question 4 weeks ago. I gave you advice but you ignored me but answered the lady so here you are again...go figure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take the advice you were given when you asked this question 4 weeks ago. I gave you advice but you ignored me but answered the lady so here you are again...go figure. "

Sorry but I don't remember seeing your advice. I think as well, the fact a MF couple have said it, makes me appreciate it more no offence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well to be honest I don't know where you are going wrong... I have had this profile 6 weeks or so and had 3 play meets and 5 socials...

You have a better bod than me... you are probably better looking than me.... I don't message first; but update my pics regular...

I don't know chap I really don't. I am quite picky... but maybe you are very picky? I go for people that I connect with on a mental level; but there has to be a physical attraction. Patience chap. I guess and well maybe a social or two?

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

Never message first if they want you they will find you. Just update your status with some funny stuff and if a woman is free she and likes you she will message. Then there's no rejection no work and no hassle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pauly90

Lonerangernotts

Yeah I mean I do message people who I like the look of physically but that doesn't necessarily mean it's a done deal. Like to click with people first. Am trying to do all those things although haven't uploaded a new pic in a while, maybe something I can do tonight !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pauly90

Lonerangernotts

Yeah I mean I do message people who I like the look of physically but that doesn't necessarily mean it's a done deal. Like to click with people first. Am trying to do all those things although haven't uploaded a new pic in a while, maybe something I can do tonight !"

I noticed you were 25 as well. This may go against you with couples/singles that have kids your age... it does for some. So you are working a smaller demographic 20-35 or +40 with no kids... it will happen chap. Keep your profile fresh. Don't be pushy, accept the socials and go from there.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

As previously stated, use the chat rooms, have socials (particularly organised ones), keep your profile fresh, and above all keep the faith.

It will happen, it's just a matter of when.

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

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We gave up trying to meet on here long ago, clubs only for us now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed you were 25 as well. This may go against you with couples/singles that have kids your age... it does for some. So you are working a smaller demographic 20-35 or +40 with no kids... it will happen chap. Keep your profile fresh. Don't be pushy, accept the socials and go from there."

I think age could well be relevant, although I'm not entirely sure how usual it is for swinging couples to pursue a man in their twenties. We personally wouldn't. In swing clubs, I don't think we come across many people under the age of thirty, so it's probably a smaller swinging population to draw upon. You would probably need to pursue couples who have a particular interest in playing with a much younger man. There are of course advantages to young men eg. better bodies, more virile, more energetic etc, so you may need to find that niche market of hotwives who crave that, and husbands to want to see that. Your competition will be the guys in their thirties, who still have the youthfulness and virility, but also have the experience of the swing scene. You might find you do better at a swing club, as it will give you a chance to prove yourself without age being relevant. The biggest obstacle with being successful with MF couples is understanding what they are after, especially if cuckolding is on the table, but this comes with experience. Men that do well with swinging couples are those who understand what the husband wants and doesn't exclude him in communications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry op at least you're getting replies so that a good start

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"Chat rooms is a shout, but have to quite discreet as my flatmate would probably easily hear."

Just another quick point on Feb chat rooms... you CAN literally chat on voice, and if you did, your flatmate might hear. However, the vast majority of members don't use voice, they chat by typing their news/views/comments etc into the room. When full, a chat room has 175 members.... just imagine the babble that would produce, if everyone tried to use voice at the same time! In fact, you can only view a maximum of 4 cams and listen to a maximum of 4 audio streams. So you really don't have to worry about your flatmate hearing you .... just don't use audio.

Give it a try, as I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chat rooms is a shout, but have to quite discreet as my flatmate would probably easily hear.

Just another quick point on Feb chat rooms... you CAN literally chat on voice, and if you did, your flatmate might hear. However, the vast majority of members don't use voice, they chat by typing their news/views/comments etc into the room. When full, a chat room has 175 members.... just imagine the babble that would produce, if everyone tried to use voice at the same time! In fact, you can only view a maximum of 4 cams and listen to a maximum of 4 audio streams. So you really don't have to worry about your flatmate hearing you .... just don't use audio.

Give it a try, as I think you'll be pleasantly surprised."

Did not know that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone who's given advice, it hasn't gone unnoticed - if I do get a meet, I will be sure to let you guys know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stop trying so hard

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I've never been to a club, and all my verifications have been from people I've met in here. I've had quite a bit of success, but I've probably had ten times more failures, it really is a rollercoaster ride in here. Just be yourself in any messages, don't try to say what you think that person is wanting you to say, to get laid. And use the block button on anyone who doesn't fit your criteria, or you don't theirs, or those so ignorant (sorry, I mean those who get soooo many messages we can't possibly answer them all) to reply to your well-written message. When you cut out the chaff, it's easier to see the wheat

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor


"Been on this site a good few months now and still haven't managed to get that first meet under my belt. I know it's all about being patient but it's just so frustrating when you're sending messages back and forth and then suddenly the woman or couple just stop replying. I'm not massively in favour of message ping pong but as the majority on here, I feel somewhat obliged to engage in the ping pong because I know a lot of people get messed around by single guys on here and so by messaging I guess I'm trying to help prove I'm genuine. Just need that first meet and first veri and then I'm sure things will change....just seems to be taking forever and a day!"

Amen to that brother lol

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"If you don't want to do a club and you get yourself to me one day I'll do you a social meet for a veri if you really think it'll help? "

I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thanks for all your kind words, and critiques of my profile. Think I just needed to rant after this morning when a couple I had been messaging asked me to pay for the hotel (which I was happy to do to be honest) but then asked me to transfer the money to them so they could book it...as if I was born yesterday!!"

Yeah?!! Wow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri! "

Thanks for the offer! 20miles is a bit of a trek just for a social!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri!

Thanks for the offer! 20miles is a bit of a trek just for a social!"

it'll get you that veri you're wanting though.

i'm also only 20 miles away. thought you was in london when you first joined the forums for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri!

Thanks for the offer! 20miles is a bit of a trek just for a social!

it'll get you that veri you're wanting though.

i'm also only 20 miles away. thought you was in london when you first joined the forums for some reason."

OMG you rejected someone for being 20 miles away! We've gone into London many times for socials. That's an hour and a half journey and much more than 20 miles. But that's normal on the swing scene.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri!

Thanks for the offer! 20miles is a bit of a trek just for a social!

it'll get you that veri you're wanting though.

i'm also only 20 miles away. thought you was in london when you first joined the forums for some reason.

OMG you rejected someone for being 20 miles away! We've gone into London many times for socials. That's an hour and a half journey and much more than 20 miles. But that's normal on the swing scene. "

I'm not rejecting anyone! I fully appreciate the offer!! I would be willing to travel most longg distances but right now, probably would only do that for people I already know/have spoken to. Seriously thank you for the offer though!

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By *punkyhelmet5Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-mare

I had my 1st meet with a couple 1 week after joining Fab just struck it lucky i suppose and went to a very busy club within 3 weeks of joining never knew a single person there till i started chatting to people, I thought sod it jump in at deep end what have i got to loose but certainly a lot to gain and it payed off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri!

Thanks for the offer! 20miles is a bit of a trek just for a social!"

You turned down hanky for a social

Seriously 20 miles is nothing for either a social or a meet. Sadly these things don't happen in your own back yard. You need to make an effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri!

Thanks for the offer! 20miles is a bit of a trek just for a social!

it'll get you that veri you're wanting though.

i'm also only 20 miles away. thought you was in london when you first joined the forums for some reason.

OMG you rejected someone for being 20 miles away! We've gone into London many times for socials. That's an hour and a half journey and much more than 20 miles. But that's normal on the swing scene.

I'm not rejecting anyone! I fully appreciate the offer!! I would be willing to travel most longg distances but right now, probably would only do that for people I already know/have spoken to. Seriously thank you for the offer though!"

Your OP was just asking for a veri to get you started on fab. You have been offered a social veri from a verified popular lady on the forum but you can't travel 20 miles?? Either you are not serious about swinging, a fantasist or look nothing like your photos. Who knows? Whatever it is you really only have yourself to blame for your lack of success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I offered as you are only 20miles away.... You can't be THAT desperate for a veri!

Thanks for the offer! 20miles is a bit of a trek just for a social!"

Totally agree , there's no way we would travel 20 miles for a social either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Your OP was just asking for a veri to get you started on fab. You have been offered a social veri from a verified popular lady on the forum but you can't travel 20 miles?? Either you are not serious about swinging, a fantasist or look nothing like your photos. Who knows? Whatever it is you really only have yourself to blame for your lack of success.

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All my photos are mine. I am definitely serious about swinging, I wouldnt still be active on this site if I wasn't. There's just certain elements of it that I'm still nervous/shy about - travelling 20 miles to meet someone I don't know is quite a long way just for a drink - even if it will get that veri. Think it's quite an unfair comment to say that I've only got myself to blame for my lack of meets on here.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


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Your OP was just asking for a veri to get you started on fab. You have been offered a social veri from a verified popular lady on the forum but you can't travel 20 miles?? Either you are not serious about swinging, a fantasist or look nothing like your photos. Who knows? Whatever it is you really only have yourself to blame for your lack of success.

All my photos are mine. I am definitely serious about swinging, I wouldnt still be active on this site if I wasn't. There's just certain elements of it that I'm still nervous/shy about - travelling 20 miles to meet someone I don't know is quite a long way just for a drink - even if it will get that veri. Think it's quite an unfair comment to say that I've only got myself to blame for my lack of meets on here."

It might be harsh but in essence its true - no-one on here is responsible for your (lack of) success apart from you.

Sure, 20 miles is a way to go if you're a nervous newbie, but at some point you'll have to start compromising to get meets, social or otherwise.

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over a year ago

Im in the same boat mate.. Lots of bites but then silences and no meet. Any help as to where I'm going wrong would be appreciated

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


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Your OP was just asking for a veri to get you started on fab. You have been offered a social veri from a verified popular lady on the forum but you can't travel 20 miles?? Either you are not serious about swinging, a fantasist or look nothing like your photos. Who knows? Whatever it is you really only have yourself to blame for your lack of success.

All my photos are mine. I am definitely serious about swinging, I wouldnt still be active on this site if I wasn't. There's just certain elements of it that I'm still nervous/shy about - travelling 20 miles to meet someone I don't know is quite a long way just for a drink - even if it will get that veri. Think it's quite an unfair comment to say that I've only got myself to blame for my lack of meets on here."

I think it's entirely fair to say that ;

20 miles? To get that supposedly all important verification?

That's one ( possibly two ) hours of your life?

If you can't make that effort.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your kind words, and critiques of my profile. Think I just needed to rant after this morning when a couple I had been messaging asked me to pay for the hotel (which I was happy to do to be honest) but then asked me to transfer the money to them so they could book it...as if I was born yesterday!!"

Was the account in the name of Doctor Goodman Phillips or something similar...and c/o the national bank of Nigeria where a further £5million was waiting to be deposited in your account?

I'd bet a pound to a pinch of crap you were talking to a fake profile? Sadly there are some of those about....you learn to be aware.

But yes...clubs/parties/socials are the way to get known. Worked for me on my previous profile...finished up with too many verifications lol...got told I was taking up server space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well im 45 guys and been on here about 4 weeks, had 5 meets, missed out on another 4 because I was working, Have 3 lined up for this week so I dont know why your struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in the same boat mate.. Lots of bites but then silences and no meet. Any help as to where I'm going wrong would be appreciated "

Hornyboy - you're cute!

Op - I'd suggest trying a bmfc event - I think your nearest would be the number 3 club in Chorley! Looking at your pictures I'd imagine you'd be very popular! Xx

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over a year ago

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Im in the same boat mate.. Lots of bites but then silences and no meet. Any help as to where I'm going wrong would be appreciated

Hornyboy - you're cute!

Op - I'd suggest trying a bmfc event - I think your nearest would be the number 3 club in Chorley! Looking at your pictures I'd imagine you'd be very popular! Xx"

Is Chorley more or less than 20 miles from the Op though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in the same boat mate.. Lots of bites but then silences and no meet. Any help as to where I'm going wrong would be appreciated

Hornyboy - you're cute!

Op - I'd suggest trying a bmfc event - I think your nearest would be the number 3 club in Chorley! Looking at your pictures I'd imagine you'd be very popular! Xx

Is Chorley more or less than 20 miles from the Op though? "

Slightly more perhaps - but he'd probably get a shag or two there as well as a drink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you Peach

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your kind words, and critiques of my profile. Think I just needed to rant after this morning when a couple I had been messaging asked me to pay for the hotel (which I was happy to do to be honest) but then asked me to transfer the money to them so they could book it...as if I was born yesterday!!

Was the account in the name of Doctor Goodman Phillips or something similar...and c/o the national bank of Nigeria where a further £5million was waiting to be deposited in your account?

I'd bet a pound to a pinch of crap you were talking to a fake profile? Sadly there are some of those about....you learn to be aware.

But yes...clubs/parties/socials are the way to get known. Worked for me on my previous profile...finished up with too many verifications lol...got told I was taking up server space."

They probably were fake , did speak to the female on the phone which probably hooked me in a bit more into thinking they were genuine!

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over a year ago


"Im in the same boat mate.. Lots of bites but then silences and no meet. Any help as to where I'm going wrong would be appreciated

Hornyboy - you're cute!

Op - I'd suggest trying a bmfc event - I think your nearest would be the number 3 club in Chorley! Looking at your pictures I'd imagine you'd be very popular! Xx

Is Chorley more or less than 20 miles from the Op though?

Slightly more perhaps - but he'd probably get a shag or two there as well as a drink! "

Yeah do you think I should just try a club or wait till I get a meet off here privately? Peach thank you for you kind words haha, they did make me chuckle!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im in the same boat mate.. Lots of bites but then silences and no meet. Any help as to where I'm going wrong would be appreciated "

Well done on at least getting a meet bud!

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over a year ago

If i was a lot younger id meet you. No worries about me not turning up. Id be there in a flash. But alas the age is toooooooooo far apart.

There are some genuine ones out there. Keep trying. Im one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had it happen to me right now. Unbelievable really three or 4 messages back snd forth and now blocked? It really pisses me off!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i was a lot younger id meet you. No worries about me not turning up. Id be there in a flash. But alas the age is toooooooooo far apart.

There are some genuine ones out there. Keep trying. Im one of them"

Yeah, maybe in another life haha. Thank you though and yeah I won't give up easily!

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over a year ago


"Just had it happen to me right now. Unbelievable really three or 4 messages back snd forth and now blocked? It really pisses me off!!!! "

Tell me about it!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are holding all the cards, patience is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you Peach "

You're welcome!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are holding all the cards, patience is the key."

Patience

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


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Your OP was just asking for a veri to get you started on fab. You have been offered a social veri from a verified popular lady on the forum but you can't travel 20 miles?? Either you are not serious about swinging, a fantasist or look nothing like your photos. Who knows? Whatever it is you really only have yourself to blame for your lack of success.

All my photos are mine. I am definitely serious about swinging, I wouldnt still be active on this site if I wasn't. There's just certain elements of it that I'm still nervous/shy about - travelling 20 miles to meet someone I don't know is quite a long way just for a drink - even if it will get that veri. Think it's quite an unfair comment to say that I've only got myself to blame for my lack of meets on here.

I think it's entirely fair to say that ;

20 miles? To get that supposedly all important verification?

That's one ( possibly two ) hours of your life?

If you can't make that effort......."

I'm inclined to agree. I once drove from Brighton to Portsmouth for a social and the lady was kind enough to leave me a veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP there's a social on in townhouse on Friday. There a lovely bunch of people. Why don't you check out the list and message a few of the people going? I'm not sure I can make this one but they are usually a good night!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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OP there's a social on in townhouse on Friday. There a lovely bunch of people. Why don't you check out the list and message a few of the people going? I'm not sure I can make this one but they are usually a good night! "

Bit tempted now to be honest!

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