FabSwingers.com forum: declare bi or not for male?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm fairly sure I'm full bi and my mrs is bi curious having had a little play with another girl and would try again.

I'm not bothered at all about bringing out my bi side while in a couple situation, I don't particularly feel the need or want to play with a guy when swapping but ive noticed some couples wont play with a bi guy.

So we are losing out by being honest, even though it makes no difference to the situation at hand.

I always feel honesty is the best policy but I'm curious to know your thoughts on this?

Do I pretend to be straight or bi curious to widen possible meets with sexy people?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be honest. I am, I think I attract more people than I would if I was straight. The combinations and possibilities are more anyway, even if I'm wrong. It my be my bicep.

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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We are both straight and only play straight, however we have played with plenty of bi guys and girls without any issue. Have fun X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No be honest, otherwise you end up doing unsatisfactory meets where you don't really get what all parties are looking for. We try to be hetro flexible but it just ends up me fucking the blokes wife and him fucking Mrs N. Gets a bit boring and the tangled up bodies stuff which we like just don't happen.

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By *omeotherguyMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"We are both straight and only play straight, however we have played with plenty of bi guys and girls without any issue. Have fun X "

Seems to me to be plenty of folks who appreciate the bi side...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We are both straight and only play straight, however we have played with plenty of bi guys and girls without any issue. Have fun X "

A good answer. Bisexual people can have 'straight' sex the same as any heterosexual person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why lie to get a shag??

OK i know its lost me some fun here, but the repercussions could be nasty or at least get me a block. So i do not lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know being bi has probably lost me some meets, but its what I am!

not going to change profile now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know how I feel about it and Bi is staying on my profile.

I suppose a little sentence on my profile saying I play straight is all it needs for people that can be bothered to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty all round for me is the way for me.

But people have their own reasons as to why they would to rather not be completely open etc.

Again it's each to their own.

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By *omeotherguyMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

It's a bit like customs really.

Anything to declare?

Uh, yes, I'm bi.

Line on the left I'm afraid, mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is still a stigma around bi men. I dont think its fair, but it's a fact. In the States I do know ladies and couples that won't go near an openly bi guy. I don't happen to be bi, --im not morally opposed, but men just don't interest me. The bi friends I have don't play bi all the time. It depends on who they're with. Bi or hetero, Limits are still limits.

It may cost you a hetero meet, but I still think you should honest about your preference.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It's a bit like customs really.

Anything to declare?

Uh, yes, I'm bi.

Line on the left I'm afraid, mate."

As long as there's no 'search', I couldn't care less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know being bi has probably lost me some meets, but its what I am!

not going to change profile now

Same here but the other way. I'm straight, I don't and can't play bi....even if it loses me meets.

Same story either way. Some like/want it...others don't. Stick to your guns and just be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We took the decision to not declare hubby's bisexuality. Typically we play straight, and didn't want to limit our choices in straight play. We find that any man who is bisexual or bicurious will usually bring up the subject fairly early on, so we have never felt limited when bisexual play has been on offer. We don't feel we are deceiving strictly straight men, because what we do in our own time is our business. We are aware that most people will consider this dishonest, but we are not hurting anyway, we only ever play in a manner that is appropriate to the situation, and above all we have no desire to limit our opportunities due to prejudices. It would be better if we didn't have to declare our sexuality on Fab, then we wouldn't be judged for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be up front about it ,there is nothing to be ashamed of ..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be up front about it ,there is nothing to be ashamed of ..x"

They arnt ashamed of it .

They just think it limits who they can play with .

So I've learnt from these types of threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife and i are bi and dont hide it..and we go through stages when she becomes the male in our relationship.nothing like getting pegged as another couple watches us. Honesty works ..no need to hide here ...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be proud of who you are and enjoy !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fairly sure I'm full bi and my mrs is bi curious having had a little play with another girl and would try again.

So we are losing out by being honest, even though it makes no difference to the situation at hand.

I always feel honesty is the best policy but I'm curious to know your thoughts on this?

Do I pretend to be straight or bi curious to widen possible meets with sexy people?"

You're not losing out, You're just not meeting pricks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fairly sure I'm full bi and my mrs is bi curious having had a little play with another girl and would try again.

So we are losing out by being honest, even though it makes no difference to the situation at hand.

I always feel honesty is the best policy but I'm curious to know your thoughts on this?

Do I pretend to be straight or bi curious to widen possible meets with sexy people?"

Be honest like me, there are more bi cocks than fussy fuckers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the dilemma but honesty definitely best policy. No matter what you put someone will contradict you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I want you, don't flatter yourself

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Be honest. I am, I think I attract more people than I would if I was straight. The combinations and possibilities are more anyway, even if I'm wrong. It my be my bicep.

Or your bum and personality

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We wouldn't say no to playing with a bi guy or girl. Just because they are bi doesn't mean they're going to try it, or that they even want to.

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By *teve197_ukMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

I like the "straight" guys on here who contact me asking for sex,nice one.

And a lot of so called straight guys are on fabguys as bi.

Tell the truth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am bi and proud of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

State that you are bi but maybe put in your bio bit that you can and will play straight where necessary? Or even in the headline bit? - a lot of people don't seem to read profiles

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

As previous poster says, people don't often read profiles. So if you have Bi as your sexuality, most people won't even get past that. No matter if you qualify that with a statement in the write up.

Think people scroll down to those details first, to check the female is bi and the male isn't, then hit the pics, and then if you're lucky they read the blurb.

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By *earlyNipsCouple
over a year ago

St Neots

I used to have bi on my profile (mr here) but took it off as I'm not looking to incorporate it into our activities. I'm just very picky with guys and it'd be too much hassle, so I'm good leaving it out unless someone who perfectly fitted the bill came along. While I put it in there at first, because it's the case, I kept getting invites to play with guys in couples despite making it clear that I'm not looking to do this. It just became easier to change it to straight.

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"I'm fairly sure I'm full bi and my mrs is bi curious having had a little play with another girl and would try again.

So we are losing out by being honest, even though it makes no difference to the situation at hand.

I always feel honesty is the best policy but I'm curious to know your thoughts on this?

Do I pretend to be straight or bi curious to widen possible meets with sexy people?"

Be honest. If it puts people off its their loss

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By *exyFusionCouple
over a year ago

Near to you

Be honest. You "lose out" more by being dishonest than you do by "missing out" on a few couples. I think the couples and singles that won't play with bi guy couples are far outweighed by the ones that don't have a no bi-guy policy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting responses and it's nice to know people understand the dilemma from which ever view point.

Even though I play straight, I would feel better and more relaxed knowing that the people your playing with, know my preferences.

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By *ockman3858Man
over a year ago

didcot

I am bi I don't hide it I think it best to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest being honest and stating you are bi, if you are happy enough to.

Although I am straight I have played with couples where the male was bi. Always on the understanding that there would be no m2m contact and all attention was focused on the female.

Another time I have played with a couple where the male was straight but because the female wanted it, we had dvp.

I have no problem being around other males, straight or bi, I just don't fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest. We're not interested in anyone who has a problem with our bisexuality, or anyone who lies to get sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest. We're not interested in anyone who has a problem with our bisexuality, or anyone who lies to get sex."

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By *i de BiCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We only play bi and only play with other bisexual couples/singles ....alot more fun .

BUT the amount of guys with straight on their profiles who contact us & say they are BI is staggering , about 50% .

So say what you are , and not what you need to be, to meet & play with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We took the decision to not declare hubby's bisexuality. Typically we play straight, and didn't want to limit our choices in straight play. We find that any man who is bisexual or bicurious will usually bring up the subject fairly early on, so we have never felt limited when bisexual play has been on offer. We don't feel we are deceiving strictly straight men, because what we do in our own time is our business. We are aware that most people will consider this dishonest, but we are not hurting anyway, we only ever play in a manner that is appropriate to the situation, and above all we have no desire to limit our opportunities due to prejudices. It would be better if we didn't have to declare our sexuality on Fab, then we wouldn't be judged for it."

The most honest, forthright opinion we've ever come across on fab x

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

I don't hide the fact I'm bi. It isn't for everyone so if there profile say no bi I respect it.

I find once in a club this doesn't seem to be much of a problem.

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By *essysteveCouple
over a year ago

ALICANTE AREA SPAIN

definitely be honest - we are bot bi and we get loads of messages from 'straight' guys who tell us they are really bi - they go straight into the delete bin and get blocked. If you cannot be honest on this site what else may they be hiding x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say you're straight. Your sex life and who you fuck is no-one else's business.

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By *exy_HornyCouple
over a year ago

Leigh

Honesty is definitely the best policy. We search for couples using the "both are bisexual" option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest about it we are both bi and we state it on our profile.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Do not pretend to be anyone but who you are. Honesty is the best policy. If you are bi or curious/experimenting just say it

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I'm fairly sure I'm full bi and my mrs is bi curious having had a little play with another girl and would try again.

So we are losing out by being honest, even though it makes no difference to the situation at hand.

I always feel honesty is the best policy but I'm curious to know your thoughts on this?

Do I pretend to be straight or bi curious to widen possible meets with sexy people?"

I don't mind if a guy is bi or straight. It could not possibly affect me

And if I meet a guy or a couple where the guy is bi and my male companion is with me then we would like him to play straight; that is all; no other drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know how I feel about it and Bi is staying on my profile.

I suppose a little sentence on my profile saying I play straight is all it needs for people that can be bothered to read.

I would think so.

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