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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm after a bit of advice about how to approach a lady I work with. Shes younger than I am and just ridiculously attractive, we share an office away from everyone else. We get on very well, always chatting and laughing together and a bit of flirting, nothing major though. I'd just like a bit of advice on how to test the waters and see if there's more there. Obviously as we work together and share a room I don't really want to make it awkward if she's just being friendly but can't help but think there might be a bit more to it. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe say there's a film you'd like to go and see, and ask her if she'd like to come with you?

Or just ask her if she'd like to go for a drink one evening or do as I did and tell them at a work Christmas party that you wouldn't mind shagging them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe say there's a film you'd like to go and see, and ask her if she'd like to come with you?

Or just ask her if she'd like to go for a drink one evening or do as I did and tell them at a work Christmas party that you wouldn't mind shagging them "

Oops!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say to her "Hey do you fancy a drink some time?"

Gauge her reaction, if she's like "oh I'm not into you that way" you can reply with "oh I meant as friends, you know"

If she responds positively you can take it from there. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe say there's a film you'd like to go and see, and ask her if she'd like to come with you?

Or just ask her if she'd like to go for a drink one evening or do as I did and tell them at a work Christmas party that you wouldn't mind shagging them

Oops!! "

It led to a thirteen year relationship

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Tell her you enjoy her company and you'd like to get to know her better away from the work enviroment. Suggest a nearby pub to go after work. Allow her time to 'think about it'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A very difficult situation which has so much opportunity for turning out wrong. If it was me I would leave things as they are unless I felt that this woman and I were destined to be together, sharing an office with someone after a declaration of attraction can be awkward at best and intimidating at worst.

If you do decide to go ahead tread carefully...good luck.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I'd personally leave well alone and keep your relationship professional, the expression don't shit on your own doorstep springs to mind. One wrong move and you could be facing job dismissal and a sexual harassment charge.

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

Mention that you have been dying to see a movie or even better, a theatre show and that you keep putting it off, as going alone to do so seems a bit sad lol if she's interested she will jump at the chance to accompany you!

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton


"I'd personally leave well alone and keep your relationship professional, the expression don't shit on your own doorstep springs to mind. One wrong move and you could be facing job dismissal and a sexual harassment charge. "

Really??? Thousands of people meet the spouses whilst working together..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a mate to "ask her out" for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a few tips - stare at her without speaking, follow her into the lift and stare at her some more, leave her notes on her desk saying her hair smells nice, brush purposefully against her when she's at the photocopier.

These things are what ALL women want so give it a go and let us know how it went?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd personally leave well alone and keep your relationship professional, the expression don't shit on your own doorstep springs to mind. One wrong move and you could be facing job dismissal and a sexual harassment charge.

Really??? Thousands of people meet the spouses whilst working together.."

I've been to a wedding of a couple who met at my work. There are three relationships going on at the moment.

As long as he doesn't slap her arse and say "Fancy a fuck in the stationery cupboard" I think he'll be OK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give her a dead arm and say " I like you " then go sit at your desk and wait for the admiration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd personally leave well alone and keep your relationship professional, the expression don't shit on your own doorstep springs to mind. One wrong move and you could be facing job dismissal and a sexual harassment charge.

Really??? Thousands of people meet the spouses whilst working together..

I've been to a wedding of a couple who met at my work. There are three relationships going on at the moment.

As long as he doesn't slap her arse and say "Fancy a fuck in the stationery cupboard" I think he'll be OK "

My mate was a manager in a big company, after he finished "dating" the women he would sack them. Solved his problem. Quite how he kept his own job I don't actually know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give her a dead arm and say " I like you " then go sit at your desk and wait for the admiration "

Can I get you in a headlock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give her a dead arm and say " I like you " then go sit at your desk and wait for the admiration

Can I get you in a headlock? "
that would get me very giddy I might have to take you around the back of the bike shed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give her a dead arm and say " I like you " then go sit at your desk and wait for the admiration

Can I get you in a headlock? that would get me very giddy I might have to take you around the back of the bike shed "

As long as you don't padlock me to something then leave me there to fend for myself

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I'd personally leave well alone and keep your relationship professional, the expression don't shit on your own doorstep springs to mind. One wrong move and you could be facing job dismissal and a sexual harassment charge.

Really??? Thousands of people meet the spouses whilst working together.."

Not saying they don't it's not something I'd do hence the phrasing "I'd personally".

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I'd personally leave well alone and keep your relationship professional, the expression don't shit on your own doorstep springs to mind. One wrong move and you could be facing job dismissal and a sexual harassment charge.

Really??? Thousands of people meet the spouses whilst working together..

I've been to a wedding of a couple who met at my work. There are three relationships going on at the moment.

As long as he doesn't slap her arse and say "Fancy a fuck in the stationery cupboard" I think he'll be OK "

Depends on his profession some companies forbid intra office relationships contractually now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you're having one of your light hearted chats casually ask her if she's free to go watch a film ...keep it light and friendly. ..x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmmm all good advice, so how do I professionally say can I put my tongue in your bum?

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

How familiar do you want to be.......

With your P45?

or the jobcentre..............

Never mix work with swinging/dating.....

As you say she is younger than you,

Therefore any approach may be creepy!

she is paid to be there to work,

and to be civil and polite to workmates,

Nothing else.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

OP, don't be a single dick guy. If you want to see HR for sexual harassment, keep thinking as you do otherwise just flirt and chit. That is until she starts stoking your dick whilst helping you look over some excel flies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her about this website and explain it is difficult to get meets as a single guy but if she joined up with you you could both enjoy the mass of attention you'll receive.

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