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Profile Views and Face Pics Requests

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By *portyndNaughty OP   Man
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

I do get my profile viewed every day and one interesting issue I noticed is the number of couples who clearly state they are not looking for single males, what is going on?

The other issue I have been experiencing is the request of a face picture by both couples and single females, where after sending the pictures you got your email deleted and not even a thank you or brief message just acknowledging maybe you are not their type. I think is rude!!!

Is it a common behaviour on FAB?

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"I do get my profile viewed every day and one interesting issue I noticed is the number of couples who clearly state they are not looking for single males, what is going on?

The other issue I have been experiencing is the request of a face picture by both couples and single females, where after sending the pictures you got your email deleted and not even a thank you or brief message just acknowledging maybe you are not their type. I think is rude!!!

Is it a common behaviour on FAB?"

Not common in the sense everybody does it, but I have no doubt it does happen.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

It's happens a lot, and I mean a lot! Loads of couples supposedly bit interested in single guys ( I think they are but choose to say their not, or using your profile to see what other couple and single females you've met).

As for the face pics thing, I just laugh when the people demanding face pics have none if themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People look at profiles for all sorts of reasons. Maybe they are looking for single guys but put that they aren't because they want to look themselves. Maybe they just saw your profile and were curious (I look at plenty of profiles of people I don't have an interest in meeting just because I'm curious). Just don't worry about who views your profile. Focus on your inbox instead.

As for face pictures, yes, it is common on fab to just delete a message after getting a face picture if the person/people aren't attracted to you. I personally think it is rude and I think people do it generally because they find it awkward to tell someone they aren't attracted to them. But there are other reasons, too - for example, lots of people get really nasty when you tell them you don't find them attractive...so it may be the route of least resistance to simply delete the message. Again, don't worry about your sent box. Focus on your inbox and you'll be much happier.

Fab is an odd place. People are here for their own pleasure and generally don't care much about others' feelings. Keep that in mind and don't look too deep into other people's actions. Just try to be nice yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If what many other single men say is right then yes, it is common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People look at profiles for all sorts of reasons. Maybe they are looking for single guys but put that they aren't because they want to look themselves. Maybe they just saw your profile and were curious (I look at plenty of profiles of people I don't have an interest in meeting just because I'm curious). Just don't worry about who views your profile. Focus on your inbox instead.

As for face pictures, yes, it is common on fab to just delete a message after getting a face picture if the person/people aren't attracted to you. I personally think it is rude and I think people do it generally because they find it awkward to tell someone they aren't attracted to them. But there are other reasons, too - for example, lots of people get really nasty when you tell them you don't find them attractive...so it may be the route of least resistance to simply delete the message. Again, don't worry about your sent box. Focus on your inbox and you'll be much happier.

Fab is an odd place. People are here for their own pleasure and generally don't care much about others' feelings. Keep that in mind and don't look too deep into other people's actions. Just try to be nice yourself. "

Yes, agree with this..

We do reply if we've asked for a fave pic, even if not for us, but we have also had ours ignored. No point worrying about it, just move on.

However if someone sends us a face pic with first message, and they clearly haven't read our profile or match what we want then we often don't reply. If they can't be bothered to read the profile we've put time and effort into, why shoukd we bother to answer them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Why worry about people who don't want to meet you? Concentrate your energy on those who do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will often delete messages from people who aren't for us, or who haven't read our profile to see if we match it our wants, accomm etc. Not because we're rude, but sometimes sending a "thanks but no thanks" message seems to give a green light for further questions, or even abuse sometimes. Therefore simply deleting is the easier, and in some ways more dignified option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of it like going into a furniture shop, as soon as you walk in a salesperson comes running over with ££signs in their eyes determined to convince you they have exactly what you want even when they don't.

They ask "is there anything I can help you with today" and you immediately respond with " no im fine thanks I'm just browsing"

IF you find the piece of furniture you are looking for THEN you strike up a conversation with the salesperson but until that point you just want to be left alone to make your own choices in peace.

Not that I'm saying single males are akin to sideboards but that is how we British do our shopping and when you sign up to sites like this you are, to all intents and purposes, setting up your shop window for browsers.

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By *portyndNaughty OP   Man
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

I do agree with most of the feedback here and think that unsolicited messages or messages that clearly show lack of profile reading are understandable to be deleted. My main point is about single men receiving a first message requesting face pictures and after you had the courtesy to reply back get the message deleted without a reply sounds to me kind of rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do agree with most of the feedback here and think that unsolicited messages or messages that clearly show lack of profile reading are understandable to be deleted. My main point is about single men receiving a first message requesting face pictures and after you had the courtesy to reply back get the message deleted without a reply sounds to me kind of rude."

They're not interested and probably don't know/want to say why for fear of abuse back (yes, it happens) I really wouldn't worry about it, it won't change a thing. Stressing over stuff you cannot change is pointless. Let people run their profiles as they want and you do the same.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley


"People look at profiles for all sorts of reasons. Maybe they are looking for single guys but put that they aren't because they want to look themselves. Maybe they just saw your profile and were curious (I look at plenty of profiles of people I don't have an interest in meeting just because I'm curious). Just don't worry about who views your profile. Focus on your inbox instead.

As for face pictures, yes, it is common on fab to just delete a message after getting a face picture if the person/people aren't attracted to you. I personally think it is rude and I think people do it generally because they find it awkward to tell someone they aren't attracted to them. But there are other reasons, too - for example, lots of people get really nasty when you tell them you don't find them attractive...so it may be the route of least resistance to simply delete the message. Again, don't worry about your sent box. Focus on your inbox and you'll be much happier.

Fab is an odd place. People are here for their own pleasure and generally don't care much about others' feelings. Keep that in mind and don't look too deep into other people's actions. Just try to be nice yourself. "

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"I do get my profile viewed every day and one interesting issue I noticed is the number of couples who clearly state they are not looking for single males, what is going on? "

When people have set their filters to prevent first messages from single guys, THE SITE automatically adds the line "not looking for single guys" to their profile. In fact, this is often not the case - they ARE actively looking for single guys, but want to do the searching themselves. They will send the first message to the single guys they are interested in, and of course the guys can then reply. That way they keep their inbox manageable, and don't set up false expectations that they will meet any/all single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will often delete messages from people who aren't for us, or who haven't read our profile to see if we match it our wants, accomm etc. Not because we're rude, but sometimes sending a "thanks but no thanks" message seems to give a green light for further questions, or even abuse sometimes. Therefore simply deleting is the easier, and in some ways more dignified option."

I agree with this, I'm not rude at all but do find if you reply sometimes people see it that you meant yes not no. Also those who don't meet my criteria which is clearly in my profile, if they can't be bothered to read it then should I be expected to waste my time telling them again?

Some people do seem to get abusive but we're all just here for a good time so why bother being nasty about it.

I don't have a face pic up and do ask for one but I do make it clear I have a face pic on my friends only list and will add people so they can see it when I feel we may get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do get my profile viewed every day and one interesting issue I noticed is the number of couples who clearly state they are not looking for single males, what is going on?

When people have set their filters to prevent first messages from single guys, THE SITE automatically adds the line "not looking for single guys" to their profile. In fact, this is often not the case - they ARE actively looking for single guys, but want to do the searching themselves. They will send the first message to the single guys they are interested in, and of course the guys can then reply. That way they keep their inbox manageable, and don't set up false expectations that they will meet any/all single guys."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People look at profiles for all sorts of reasons. Maybe they are looking for single guys but put that they aren't because they want to look themselves. Maybe they just saw your profile and were curious (I look at plenty of profiles of people I don't have an interest in meeting just because I'm curious). Just don't worry about who views your profile. Focus on your inbox instead.

As for face pictures, yes, it is common on fab to just delete a message after getting a face picture if the person/people aren't attracted to you. I personally think it is rude and I think people do it generally because they find it awkward to tell someone they aren't attracted to them. But there are other reasons, too - for example, lots of people get really nasty when you tell them you don't find them attractive...so it may be the route of least resistance to simply delete the message. Again, don't worry about your sent box. Focus on your inbox and you'll be much happier.

Fab is an odd place. People are here for their own pleasure and generally don't care much about others' feelings. Keep that in mind and don't look too deep into other people's actions. Just try to be nice yourself. "

Especially the last paragraph.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the same as.i try be nice but no reply so i feel whats the point.just no thanks would be nice

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