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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys so I don't have much luck with messaging girls around me, any tips on how to get attention and not come across as a weirdo haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys so I don't have much luck with messaging girls around me, any tips on how to get attention and not come across as a weirdo haha "

Most people read the profile before deciding whether to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's some advice:

Attach some face pics

Use correct spelling and not text speak

Be polite

Say a little bit about yourself and what you're looking for

Have a profile that consists of more than just cock pictures

Read the profile of the person you're contacting. Refer to this in your message.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending messages is just luck of the draw. Women say they want face pics and want more than a sentence sending then they send a quick short answer back and only have a pic of a left nipple lol. They want it all but give nothing lol

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I have a feeling that you punctuate your written communications with 'ha ha' quite frequently. Don't do that.

I also have a comment to make about one of your pictures but because you have not requested a profile critique, I'm unable to.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Here's some advice:

Attach some face pics

Use correct spelling and not text speak

Be polite

Say a little bit about yourself and what you're looking for

Have a profile that consists of more than just cock pictures

Read the profile of the person you're contacting. Refer to this in your message.

Good luck x"

I reckon the above should be cut and pasted to every similar thread on here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you just have to be attractive (and able to show that) and able to socialise.

dunno why so many men struggle with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly just try being yourself how would you talk/ approach a woman in the real world? Plus women are spoilt for choice on here.. so don't get to butt hurt if they don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just send a simple 'hi' with a flange pic attached....

works every time

(that's a lie btw, I don't send messages )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's some advice:

Attach some face pics

Use correct spelling and not text speak

Be polite

Say a little bit about yourself and what you're looking for

Have a profile that consists of more than just cock pictures

Read the profile of the person you're contacting. Refer to this in your message.

Good luck x

I reckon the above should be cut and pasted to every similar thread on here!!"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Hey guys so I don't have much luck with messaging girls around me, any tips on how to get attention and not come across as a weirdo haha "

How fast can you run?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fast have very long legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Decent/unique profile picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just add be realistic about your expectation. Do a full search on 'who's near' and it will give you an idea of the ratio of guys to women. In my experience, albeit I'm far from gods gift, if you get a response rate of better than 10% you're doing well. Good luck.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Be yourself, be positive, be patient.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

For me, it's simple. Make me laugh.

No cheesy jokes, no self effacing comments, just some observation that strikes you as funny.

No way I'd want to chat with (much less meet) a man who didn't make me smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sending messages is just luck of the draw. Women say they want face pics and want more than a sentence sending then they send a quick short answer back and only have a pic of a left nipple lol. They want it all but give nothing lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best thing to do is:

Have face pics available on your profile, and hide the naughty pics on your Friends only or private.

Get photo verified

Then have a nice friendly and approach profile. Very detailed about what you are looking for.

Also if that doesn't work get yourself in the forums and get to socials in clubs meeting people in person is the way forward.

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By *ay-Jay-1980Man
over a year ago

surrey

Great advice, but another problem is if you are new you dont have any veri and people then believe you are fake but they need to meet you do you can get a verfication. A bit like chicken and the egg.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks why you go to social and show your face fuck the messages sometimes the woman get enough of them it's about getting out there and meet in people this getting verified

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Thanks why you go to social and show your face fuck the messages sometimes the woman get enough of them it's about getting out there and meet in people this getting verified "

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By *achiavellian_adventuresCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke/Andover

Simple (if not in execution):

-Grab their attention in the first sentence.

-Then prove that you've read their profile but tayloring each message to you "target"... Which requires reading their whole profile.

-Demonstrate you are what they are looking for; if you aren't then don't bother messaging!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Sending messages is just luck of the draw. Women say they want face pics and want more than a sentence sending then they send a quick short answer back and only have a pic of a left nipple lol. They want it all but give nothing lol "

Or just read and no reply, or just delete your message. Get used to it guys

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hey guys so I don't have much luck with messaging girls around me, any tips on how to get attention and not come across as a weirdo haha "

Being a woman in here must be a bit like being in Willy Wonka's Chocolate Factory; so much choice, and always something more attractive in the next room......it's difficult to be more appealing than the next shiny sweety..... Good luck mate

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Being a woman in here must be a bit like being in Willy Wonka's Chocolate Factory; so much choice, and always something more attractive in the next room......it's difficult to be more appealing than the next shiny sweety..... Good luck mate "

We do have more choice from the numbers but it still doesn't mean we get great message from amazing guys.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Being a woman in here must be a bit like being in Willy Wonka's Chocolate Factory; so much choice, and always something more attractive in the next room......it's difficult to be more appealing than the next shiny sweety..... Good luck mate

We do have more choice from the numbers but it still doesn't mean we get great message from amazing guys."

From your verifications it appears you've done ok

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