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By *one_wolf. OP   Man
over a year ago

Chatham

Thought i would put my post from another thread in here for Single Males, Hope you digest this.....

People do meet and it's the ones that stick at it, regularly get to socials, create a unique profile to them, unique style of pictures, guys that won't shag anything and are genuinely fun, people that are not complaining or causing arguments, want to actually get to know someone before meeting, willing to travel....

That's just in my view summarising it,

My own experience, I joined the site as a single male a year ago after 5 years being around the scene on and off as a single male/Cpl , first meet within a week as I went in chat and had banta and tongue in cheek cheekiness, first social not long after that, had a few more meets where I was driving hours up and down the country and expense of hotels and that, got a regular fuckbuddy, went out with her mate, left site, re joined, few more socials, met my misses on here, broke up but kept and still close (Going to swingfields with her) few more socials, and here I am today, all because I'm a gobby twat in the right sense, I'm mad as a hatter and became different from the normal type of guy on here, you want to leave your mark, maybe my youth helped but not by much as I see other guys that just be themselves prosper from this great site.

So if your a single male reading this ...... Start the emphatic land of hope and glory music,...... Here's my 11 quick steps on how to fully prosper from this site ......... 1)Don't expect to get it from anyone and anytime, you have to stand out to them. 2) Be unique. 3) Spend atleast an hour on your profile and truely sell yourself. 4) Don't be a twat and whiney. 5) Get to a social and be prepared to travel to one and/or travel to meets. 6) Have banter. 7) Don't ask for a meet straight away in messages. 8) Spend atleast 5-10 mins on a opening message after reading the profile thoroughly and not copy and paste. 9) Don't obsess over a girl and seem needy. 10) Have a variety of pictures on your profile and not just cock ones, or if they are cock ones make them stand out (reference sunglasses one on my profile.) 11) Spend that 5 pound to become a site supporter and get in chat more often and join in with the convo.

Now I know that might not appeal to some of you but them 11 steps might make your stay on this site more pleasant, WARNING them 11 steps DO NOT guarantee a definite meet but will increase your chances. Also yes I probably will get some stick saying "that's not how the site works" etc.... But in reality you have to stand out from the masses of single males

Thank you for reading

Lone_wolf.

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Thought i would put my post from another thread in here for Single Males, Hope you digest this.....

People do meet and it's the ones that stick at it, regularly get to socials, create a unique profile to them, unique style of pictures, guys that won't shag anything and are genuinely fun, people that are not complaining or causing arguments, want to actually get to know someone before meeting, willing to travel....

That's just in my view summarising it,

My own experience, I joined the site as a single male a year ago after 5 years being around the scene on and off as a single male/Cpl , first meet within a week as I went in chat and had banta and tongue in cheek cheekiness, first social not long after that, had a few more meets where I was driving hours up and down the country and expense of hotels and that, got a regular fuckbuddy, went out with her mate, left site, re joined, few more socials, met my misses on here, broke up but kept and still close (Going to swingfields with her) few more socials, and here I am today, all because I'm a gobby twat in the right sense, I'm mad as a hatter and became different from the normal type of guy on here, you want to leave your mark, maybe my youth helped but not by much as I see other guys that just be themselves prosper from this great site.

So if your a single male reading this ...... Start the emphatic land of hope and glory music,...... Here's my 11 quick steps on how to fully prosper from this site ......... 1)Don't expect to get it from anyone and anytime, you have to stand out to them. 2) Be unique. 3) Spend atleast an hour on your profile and truely sell yourself. 4) Don't be a twat and whiney. 5) Get to a social and be prepared to travel to one and/or travel to meets. 6) Have banter. 7) Don't ask for a meet straight away in messages. 8) Spend atleast 5-10 mins on a opening message after reading the profile thoroughly and not copy and paste. 9) Don't obsess over a girl and seem needy. 10) Have a variety of pictures on your profile and not just cock ones, or if they are cock ones make them stand out (reference sunglasses one on my profile.) 11) Spend that 5 pound to become a site supporter and get in chat more often and join in with the convo.

Now I know that might not appeal to some of you but them 11 steps might make your stay on this site more pleasant, WARNING them 11 steps DO NOT guarantee a definite meet but will increase your chances. Also yes I probably will get some stick saying "that's not how the site works" etc.... But in reality you have to stand out from the masses of single males

Thank you for reading

Lone_wolf.

xxxx"
so true !! Great pics too nice cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is great advise. Anybody wondering why their profile isn't working should take a look at yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is great advise. Anybody wondering why their profile isn't working should take a look at yours."

It's a mystery to me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

them 11 steps the men on here should definitely adhere to.. admin should use that on the website tips too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id rather meet a man who could work all that out for himself. The best filter on here is the first message "fancy a fuck" is easily translated as "i have a room temperature IQ".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

…

Great advice there

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Only about 2% of fab users use the forum. Those men with shit profiles couldn't care less about them (otherwise they wouldn't be shit) and won't read profiles and won't read your advice.

But at least it's Friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White knight alert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"White knight alert "

I can't see any maidens in distress on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just a common sense post. Anyone that can't work that out for themselves probably doesn't deserve to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just a common sense post. Anyone that can't work that out for themselves probably doesn't deserve to meet anyone. "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Surely it's best that people find their own way of doing things and what works for them. Rather than following some type of check list.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"This is just a common sense post. Anyone that can't work that out for themselves probably doesn't deserve to meet anyone. "

And there are plenty that don't!!

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Load of tosh

Just spam cock pics and fancy a fuck messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This just looks like another condescending thread and states the obvious, it's hardly inspiring.

Not all males are looking for the same things on here and that applies to females also.

OP are you going to offer help to the unemployed people on fab, how to construct a good CV to get a job next ?

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By *one_wolf. OP   Man
over a year ago

Chatham

Cheers for your input guys and yes it really is a common sense post but if single guys read this instead of posting the endless "what am I doing wrong/ can someone give me opinion on my profile" then wouldn't it all benefit us??

Also with the white knight comment.... How am I trying to sacrifice my dignity and dignity of others to defend a lass in this post?

No the guys do not need to follow the points religiously and should definitely find their own way but this post is just about giving a little helping push into the direction of the way to utilise this site to its fullest potential, as all the couples and females and guys must be sick of the endless "fancy a Fuck" and cock pictures.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with all 11 steps

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"This just looks like another condescending thread and states the obvious, it's hardly inspiring.

Not all males are looking for the same things on here and that applies to females also.

OP are you going to offer help to the unemployed people on fab, how to construct a good CV to get a job next ? "

Not at all. There are a high proportion of guys on here with a profile with no pics (or full of cock pics worse still) and a text saying 'fill in later' or 'here for NSA) who whinge and moan that no women meet, that we are timewasters, that the site us a con.... A million things. Most of them would do well to follow the advice given to give them even half a hope in hell of meeting ladies off here.

If they aren't here to meet the above then it's not a problem.

I think OP was sweet and rather selfless in what he posted.

I hope all do well on here and it's sad not all do and that some find the need to get shirty when they don't

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By *uralRobMan
over a year ago

Ludlow

Good advice , you only get out what you put in... No effort = no meets. It does take time to build a profile getting photos and verifications, most poeple on here understand that and some one fairly new on here like myself won't have a top notch stand out profile straight away. Just be honest and be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more to the poster, hit the nail on the head there xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

We are not all the same. Some things suit us that are on your " don't do " list.

I don't make a big issue with profiles, war and peace bore me, we go on the initial message.

We like people to be straight, no flannel and tell us they are after a meet, we then decide whether to keep talking to them to see if we all get on.

We also had our very first meet with a man who sent a one line mail that made us both laugh so much we carried on chatting. It must have taken him ten seconds to write it.

I ( Mrs ) likes to see cock pics on a profile so I can see what I might be getting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheers for your input guys and yes it really is a common sense post but if single guys read this instead of posting the endless "what am I doing wrong/ can someone give me opinion on my profile" then wouldn't it all benefit us??

Also with the white knight comment.... How am I trying to sacrifice my dignity and dignity of others to defend a lass in this post?

No the guys do not need to follow the points religiously and should definitely find their own way but this post is just about giving a little helping push into the direction of the way to utilise this site to its fullest potential, as all the couples and females and guys must be sick of the endless "fancy a Fuck" and cock pictures

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Why just single males ?? ... Granted not all couples and single ladies seek profile advice however there are threads asking why can't we find ??

The same pointers are applicable to all demographics not just guys..

Those that seek advice can find all of the tips and pointers you 've made, in the countless other threads in the archives.. it's my stock post in the advice threads.

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By *ugbyguy01Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"

Thought i would put my post from another thread in here for Single Males, Hope you digest this.....

People do meet and it's the ones that stick at it, regularly get to socials, create a unique profile to them, unique style of pictures, guys that won't shag anything and are genuinely fun, people that are not complaining or causing arguments, want to actually get to know someone before meeting, willing to travel....

That's just in my view summarising it,

My own experience, I joined the site as a single male a year ago after 5 years being around the scene on and off as a single male/Cpl , first meet within a week as I went in chat and had banta and tongue in cheek cheekiness, first social not long after that, had a few more meets where I was driving hours up and down the country and expense of hotels and that, got a regular fuckbuddy, went out with her mate, left site, re joined, few more socials, met my misses on here, broke up but kept and still close (Going to swingfields with her) few more socials, and here I am today, all because I'm a gobby twat in the right sense, I'm mad as a hatter and became different from the normal type of guy on here, you want to leave your mark, maybe my youth helped but not by much as I see other guys that just be themselves prosper from this great site.

So if your a single male reading this ...... Start the emphatic land of hope and glory music,...... Here's my 11 quick steps on how to fully prosper from this site ......... 1)Don't expect to get it from anyone and anytime, you have to stand out to them. 2) Be unique. 3) Spend atleast an hour on your profile and truely sell yourself. 4) Don't be a twat and whiney. 5) Get to a social and be prepared to travel to one and/or travel to meets. 6) Have banter. 7) Don't ask for a meet straight away in messages. 8) Spend atleast 5-10 mins on a opening message after reading the profile thoroughly and not copy and paste. 9) Don't obsess over a girl and seem needy. 10) Have a variety of pictures on your profile and not just cock ones, or if they are cock ones make them stand out (reference sunglasses one on my profile.) 11) Spend that 5 pound to become a site supporter and get in chat more often and join in with the convo.

Now I know that might not appeal to some of you but them 11 steps might make your stay on this site more pleasant, WARNING them 11 steps DO NOT guarantee a definite meet but will increase your chances. Also yes I probably will get some stick saying "that's not how the site works" etc.... But in reality you have to stand out from the masses of single males

Thank you for reading

Lone_wolf.

xxxx"

Whilst I can't say I attribute all of those points to my Fab life, all excellent and very valid nonetheless. I've found just being genuine, not being an arsehole, and treating people like people - not sex objects is the best way to go about things.

It's a sorry state of affairs when you've really got to educate some people in not being d#cks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawn...i love these so called "experts"....i'm just wondering if this is another look at me post

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Who's your Mrs hahahaa!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Load of tosh

Just spam cock pics and fancy a fuck messages "
leave me out of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though. Every single guy on here could follow what you say . But we would not all meet the same ladies. We all have our own ways. Some work some don't. If the lady does not fancy you it does not matter if you have the . Best profile. The best pics. The best messages. It's not gonna happen

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

* Have decent pics.

* Don't act like a twat.

* Be respectful and polite.

* Try to be as fun and friendly as possible.

* Be truthful and honest.

Totally obvious stuff. Applicable not just to single males but to everybody who uses the site. Not guaranteed to get you meets of course, far from it...I can testify to that. If the other person doesn't fancy you then none of this will matter one jot. But at least it'll give you a fighting chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Thought i would put my post from another thread in here for Single Males, Hope you digest this.....

People do meet and it's the ones that stick at it, regularly get to socials, create a unique profile to them, unique style of pictures, guys that won't shag anything and are genuinely fun, people that are not complaining or causing arguments, want to actually get to know someone before meeting, willing to travel....

That's just in my view summarising it,

My own experience, I joined the site as a single male a year ago after 5 years being around the scene on and off as a single male/Cpl , first meet within a week as I went in chat and had banta and tongue in cheek cheekiness, first social not long after that, had a few more meets where I was driving hours up and down the country and expense of hotels and that, got a regular fuckbuddy, went out with her mate, left site, re joined, few more socials, met my misses on here, broke up but kept and still close (Going to swingfields with her) few more socials, and here I am today, all because I'm a gobby twat in the right sense, I'm mad as a hatter and became different from the normal type of guy on here, you want to leave your mark, maybe my youth helped but not by much as I see other guys that just be themselves prosper from this great site.

So if your a single male reading this ...... Start the emphatic land of hope and glory music,...... Here's my 11 quick steps on how to fully prosper from this site ......... 1)Don't expect to get it from anyone and anytime, you have to stand out to them. 2) Be unique. 3) Spend atleast an hour on your profile and truely sell yourself. 4) Don't be a twat and whiney. 5) Get to a social and be prepared to travel to one and/or travel to meets. 6) Have banter. 7) Don't ask for a meet straight away in messages. 8) Spend atleast 5-10 mins on a opening message after reading the profile thoroughly and not copy and paste. 9) Don't obsess over a girl and seem needy. 10) Have a variety of pictures on your profile and not just cock ones, or if they are cock ones make them stand out (reference sunglasses one on my profile.) 11) Spend that 5 pound to become a site supporter and get in chat more often and join in with the convo.

Now I know that might not appeal to some of you but them 11 steps might make your stay on this site more pleasant, WARNING them 11 steps DO NOT guarantee a definite meet but will increase your chances. Also yes I probably will get some stick saying "that's not how the site works" etc.... But in reality you have to stand out from the masses of single males

Thank you for reading

Lone_wolf.

xxxx"

Well said babe xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's nice to offer some advice, OP. Of course people can take it or leave it, and tailor it to work for them.

And I like your pictures, too. They show personality

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously though. Every single guy on here could follow what you say . But we would not all meet the same ladies. We all have our own ways. Some work some don't. If the lady does not fancy you it does not matter if you have the . Best profile. The best pics. The best messages. It's not gonna happen "
this I always say this then get people jump down my throat for it lol

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By *5happycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tooting / dept 23 France


"* Have decent pics.

* Don't act like a twat.

* Be respectful and polite.

* Try to be as fun and friendly as possible.

* Be truthful and honest.

Totally obvious stuff. Applicable not just to single males but to everybody who uses the site. Not guaranteed to get you meets of course, far from it...I can testify to that. If the other person doesn't fancy you then none of this will matter one jot. But at least it'll give you a fighting chance.

"

Isn't this what we should probably apply to life and not just Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder how many of the 'timewasters or "bad" fabbers' actually go on the forums though.

Common sense that, plus it's all relative to what you want. I get positive attention and I've got no picture and text basically, and never send out meet messages, so I'm sure people who are trying hard are getting somewhere, if they're realistic.

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By *one_wolf. OP   Man
over a year ago

Chatham

Again thanks for your input, yes I know that my dos and donts might not be everyone's cup of tea or that if you have the best profile you might not get a meet as the lass isn't attracted to you, however it gives you a stepping stone and is just a guide to better yourself, you don't need to follow any of it but if I have made one guy reading this change his profile for the better I'm happy I did this....I have looked at many guys profiles and they all follow a similar tactic and they get more meets than the guy that's got no profile and cock pics....

And no this is far from a "look at me I'm an expert" sort of thread, I'm just offering advice to the masses, I get that it's not just males but majority it is for us male variants, I don't need a look at me type of post as I do okay at living the lifestyle on a swingers website not just a sex website..... I like to have fun and banter

Well you know who my playmate is that Im going to Swingfields with Nymph

Also Courtney, I love your pictures aswell and Fabd some but I now can't get bloodhound gang out of my head as its my type of music haha

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"* Have decent pics.

* Don't act like a twat.

* Be respectful and polite.

* Try to be as fun and friendly as possible.

* Be truthful and honest.

Totally obvious stuff. Applicable not just to single males but to everybody who uses the site. Not guaranteed to get you meets of course, far from it...I can testify to that. If the other person doesn't fancy you then none of this will matter one jot. But at least it'll give you a fighting chance.

Isn't this what we should probably apply to life and not just Fab?"

I was thinking this too...apart from the bit about having decent pics of course.

The OP offers some good advice here. Advice more people should probably follow. I think threads like this are always a good idea. Nothing wrong with a few pointers from people who have done well on Fab. Always welcomed by me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP has forgotton to add these 2 tips

12) shower the female / females with flowers and gifts .

13) Pander to there every wish and accept there always right .

Only joking excellent advice given

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is just a common sense post. Anyone that can't work that out for themselves probably doesn't deserve to meet anyone. "

Don't give them profile advice. Let them fester in their spunky y-fronts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with you!

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"Load of tosh

Just spam cock pics and fancy a fuck messages "

Deffo play the numbers

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"This just looks like another condescending thread and states the obvious, it's hardly inspiring.

Not all males are looking for the same things on here and that applies to females also.

OP are you going to offer help to the unemployed people on fab, how to construct a good CV to get a job next ?

Not at all. There are a high proportion of guys on here with a profile with no pics (or full of cock pics worse still) and a text saying 'fill in later' or 'here for NSA) who whinge and moan that no women meet, that we are timewasters, that the site us a con.... A million things. Most of them would do well to follow the advice given to give them even half a hope in hell of meeting ladies off here.

If they aren't here to meet the above then it's not a problem.

I think OP was sweet and rather selfless in what he posted.

I hope all do well on here and it's sad not all do and that some find the need to get shirty when they don't "

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Id rather meet a man who could work all that out for himself. The best filter on here is the first message "fancy a fuck" is easily translated as "i have a room temperature IQ"."

bingo...... this....

those who have worked it for themselves don't need to crow about it... they will just get on and do...

this, although well intentioned, almost actually feels patronising and condescending....

sorry... it does...

you teach in action...... teach a man to fish rather than just giving......

if you give them all the answers... thats not learning....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One rule don't be a knobber. That's all it is really.

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton


"This just looks like another condescending thread and states the obvious, it's hardly inspiring.

Not all males are looking for the same things on here and that applies to females also.

OP are you going to offer help to the unemployed people on fab, how to construct a good CV to get a job next ?

Not at all. There are a high proportion of guys on here with a profile with no pics (or full of cock pics worse still) and a text saying 'fill in later' or 'here for NSA) who whinge and moan that no women meet, that we are timewasters, that the site us a con.... A million things. Most of them would do well to follow the advice given to give them even half a hope in hell of meeting ladies off here.

If they aren't here to meet the above then it's not a problem.

I think OP was sweet and rather selfless in what he posted.

I hope all do well on here and it's sad not all do and that some find the need to get shirty when they don't "
applause applause xxx

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

I have leant something new and I shal link this thread to any Single man asking for advice in the threads asking for advice contained within.

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