FabSwingers.com forum: Failing miserably

By *averic12 OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I am at a loss! I don't quite understand what's so utterly horrifying about my profile.

Most women are complaining about profiles not being read, getting sent dick pics and not face pics. I read profiles, send according messages and face pics.

My messages are almost always deleted and profile never even looked at.. Am I that off putting?

Be as honest as you like lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is really difficult for single guys on here. There is a lot of competition. Take a look at your profile and strategy, search the forums for advice that's out there.

And remember that people look in stealth mode

So you wouldn't even know if they looked at your profile, like I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having been here over a year - and having verifications...you must know what works for you by now

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By *ordweaver2018Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

Female friend showed me her profile - quite literally a hundred messages a day.

What makes you stand out? What 'in' do you have that catches the eye? What angle can you use that will make them stop and notice you.

Not an awful lot of writing on your profile is the only other thing I could suggest.

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By *averic12 OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"having been here over a year - and having verifications...you must know what works for you by now

Sadly not.... I think a lot of them were just good timing of the message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get into photography.. Or wear a smart suit for some pics, most guys don't show face pics on here so will be to your advantage. In the end it's only sex and no point getting frustrated as it just shows in messages. On the rare occasion a single lady messages me, play it cool ! Reply with one message not 5 if you haven't had a response back. You ain't doing so bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing horrifying about your profile. Photos are fairly good, better than some, but not as good as other. What you say in you profiles is much the same as what most single guys say, so you might get someone pick you at random. With all the competion out there you have to sell yourself.

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By *averic12 OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

There is such a thin line between selling yourself and sounding like a cocky arsehole. Some may like that of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is such a thin line between selling yourself and sounding like a cocky arsehole. Some may like that of course."

No I don't think anybody likes a cocky arsehole! But it's always good to know a bit more about the man; what his fantasies are, what he's good at etc. That way a woman or couple can gauge if there is any common ground.

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By *reenEyedWifeCouple
over a year ago

Market Harborough

You're a good looking guy, but all your photos have the same expression. A smiley pic with teeth showing is always a winner.

Profile text poorly written (grammar, punctuation, spelling).

Remember you've got to "stand out" from the crowd. Your profile doesn't.

Good luck x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Your photos are a bit samey - how about a variety? Having a photo from 2011 and 2016 shows people how you have aged in 5 years.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Slagging off other fab users 'unlike many on here' isn't very sexually attractive and your profile text says nothing about you as a person. Look at your profile objectively.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Slagging off other fab users 'unlike many on here' isn't very sexually attractive and your profile text says nothing about you as a person. Look at your profile objectively. "

That's better. You're not ugly so its not your face.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

We all love a loser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Female friend showed me her profile - quite literally a hundred messages a day.

does she have flange pics on show and no filters on?

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I am at a loss! I don't quite understand what's so utterly horrifying about my profile.

Most women are complaining about profiles not being read, getting sent dick pics and not face pics. I read profiles, send according messages and face pics.

My messages are almost always deleted and profile never even looked at.. Am I that off putting?

Be as honest as you like lol"
it must just be luck try going to clubs or getting to know others in the chat rooms? Not sure what else to say mate good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all love a loser.

speak for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I say that a lot depends on where you live? I not in an area which has a large pool of single fabbers in Perth and I do know if I lived in a larger town I would get many messages. Saying that I am happy with what.I do get as I lead a busy life and don't have a lot of time for.meets unless I travel with work. Get on forums...go to socials and show the real you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is such a thin line between selling yourself and sounding like a cocky arsehole. Some may like that of course."

You are definitely on the wrong side of that line.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't mean to sound offensive cos i think you're quite attractive but in your newer pics you look abit untidy, the hair seems abit messy, in my opinion you're much hotter with short hair.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Your profile is not horrifying.. i think its more you are horrified at the lack of response you are getting.

In which case join the 3000 trailer loads of blokes in this situation.. chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't rely on this site really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't rely on this site really

This may be the key to it too. I'd never say I was 'successful' or 'failing miserably', I always think swinging fab should be an extension of your life, or addition.

Sure it's tough competition there, try socials, parties, clubs, just to meet people - links to people are useful to make positive headway etc if that's what you're looking for. Plenty of sex going in London I'm sure

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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago

East Mids

Your profile looks fine to us great to see something other than cocks! It is probably just down to being a single guy as dont forget most on here are looking for women even if they are a couple. And before others say it we know our profile is crap we only came back to the site this week.

There appears to be a lot of fickle people on here and double standards rife such as people who only want to meet people younger than them or ask for face pics but dont have thier own. We hardly ever message people usually because their profile is so selective or they have filters on anyway. We'll reply to a wink or message (unless its crude) even if its just to say thanks otherwise what's the point being on here? Keep winking we're sure it won't be long before you get to have some fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am at a loss! I don't quite understand what's so utterly horrifying about my profile.

Most women are complaining about profiles not being read, getting sent dick pics and not face pics. I read profiles, send according messages and face pics.

My messages are almost always deleted and profile never even looked at.. Am I that off putting?

Be as honest as you like lol"

Nice pics and body but your profile only details your availability and doesn't say anything about you add a person

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