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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't he is entitled to privacy, they aren't together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night "

What's it got to do with her anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't say anything at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She told him I was a swinger so I might get my own back lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She told him I was a swinger so I might get my own back lol"

But he has done nothing to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night

What's it got to do with her anyway? "

The fact he was swinging while they were together

She told him I was a swinger so I want to get my own back on her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She told him I was a swinger so I might get my own back lol

But he has done nothing to you "

NO he hasn't probably not say anything I like the guy actually know him for 3 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you want to hurt cause someone else hurt

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night

What's it got to do with her anyway?

The fact he was swinging while they were together

She told him I was a swinger so I want to get my own back on her"

You are looking for 'revenge'? Wow

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By *eendeeCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

To be honest we all ask for discretion so surely you wouldn't gain anything by telling anyone you had seen him in the club Hun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why would you want to hurt cause someone else hurt "

She's my best friend actually

A bit pissed off he knew I was a swinger before he saw me in club

Probably not say anything I like the guy actually

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By *ordy1971Man
over a year ago

North west

Shouldn't say anything how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shouldn't say anything how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot "

She told him I was a swinger that's my point lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest we all ask for discretion so surely you wouldn't gain anything by telling anyone you had seen him in the club Hun x"

All my friends knew he was my best is boyfriend when he walked in I was like having a heart attack at the time

Not my best night at club

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night

What's it got to do with her anyway?

The fact he was swinging while they were together

She told him I was a swinger so I want to get my own back on her"

Doesn't sound like the sort of thing a friend would be posting here, really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't say anything how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot

She told him I was a swinger that's my point lol"
but that was her... Not him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shouldn't say anything how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot

She told him I was a swinger that's my point lol but that was her... Not him "

Actually I'm not gonna say anything I've know him for 3 years been in my house for meals and I actually like him. Keeping him as a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't seem much of a friend if you want to do this !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op,you asked for advice,General consensus seems to be say nothing,yet you seem to argue against it.why ask for advice you don't wish to take?

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By *ws101Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Kinda a low blow to put a smile on your face :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you ashamed of being a swinger? He's doing the same as you,why would you have a heart attack about seeing him in a club?

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By *ws101Man
over a year ago

mansfield


"Are you ashamed of being a swinger? He's doing the same as you,why would you have a heart attack about seeing him in a club? "
good call

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not asking for advice

I already decided not to tell her last night when I say him

I like the guy and I want him as a swinging friend nice to talk to someone I know about it

People are so judgemental on her ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O think that would be quite vindictive. Each to their own. I've had my swinging lifestyle shared around my village and shown to family members when in fact it's nobody's business but mine. Totally out if malice and tbh if I was your friend and you told me and gloated a little you wouldn't be my friend for long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't say anything how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot

She told him I was a swinger that's my point lol"

All you'll achieve is hurting your friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you ashamed of being a swinger? He's doing the same as you,why would you have a heart attack about seeing him in a club? "

It's the first time I've seen someone I know in the club so it was a bit scarey and I don't tell people I'm a swinger not the kind of thing you advertise to people or well I don't anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"O think that would be quite vindictive. Each to their own. I've had my swinging lifestyle shared around my village and shown to family members when in fact it's nobody's business but mine. Totally out if malice and tbh if I was your friend and you told me and gloated a little you wouldn't be my friend for long "

I'm not telling her no point they have split up so it's non of her business

Plus I like the guy so I don't want to do that to him either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not asking for advice

I already decided not to tell her last night when I say him

I like the guy and I want him as a swinging friend nice to talk to someone I know about it

People are so judgemental on her ffs"

If you had decided not to tell her last night why are you asking whether you should on a forum? Not a criticism but certainly wondering why.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

I think the question was meant to say should I let my best friends ex bone me

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By *ws101Man
over a year ago

mansfield


"Are you ashamed of being a swinger? He's doing the same as you,why would you have a heart attack about seeing him in a club?

It's the first time I've seen someone I know in the club so it was a bit scarey and I don't tell people I'm a swinger not the kind of thing you advertise to people or well I don't anyway "

Yet you decided to seek advice about advertising a friends ex being a swinger? Odd logic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not asking for advice

I already decided not to tell her last night when I say him

I like the guy and I want him as a swinging friend nice to talk to someone I know about it

People are so judgemental on her ffs

If you had decided not to tell her last night why are you asking whether you should on a forum? Not a criticism but certainly wondering why."

Just wondered what you judgemental people would say to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the question was meant to say should I let my best friends ex bone me"

You are right should have asked that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not asking for advice

I already decided not to tell her last night when I say him

I like the guy and I want him as a swinging friend nice to talk to someone I know about it

People are so judgemental on her ffs"

re read your opening post.you did ask,and now because you didn't get the answers or support you hoped for,people are judgemental? Grow up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't say anything how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot

She told him I was a swinger that's my point lol"

So you want revenge....and you say she is your best friend?

Haven't read the rest of the thread...but confused already

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

My advice to let sleeping dogs lie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not asking for advice

I already decided not to tell her last night when I say him

I like the guy and I want him as a swinging friend nice to talk to someone I know about it

People are so judgemental on her ffs

re read your opening post.you did ask,and now because you didn't get the answers or support you hoped for,people are judgemental? Grow up."

I wasn't gonna tell her anyway don't see no point so shouldn't have posted or asked a different question instead like should I play with him

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I often wonder why people don't stand up for what they type and backtrack when the answers don't go their way.

I am going to answer what I think was the original intention.

Discretion is a great thing in swinging. Revenge like that is vindictive. Revenge against a best friend is even worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I'd like a best friend like you really ...how long you fancied him for?? ...while they were both together!! and your gonna snitch he's a swinger hmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't think I'd like a best friend like you really ...how long you fancied him for?? ...while they were both together!! and your gonna snitch he's a swinger hmmmmmm"

Not really fancied him and not gonna sleep with him to close to home

I'm not telling her kind of decided that last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night

What's it got to do with her anyway? "

or you?

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"Don't think I'd like a best friend like you really ...how long you fancied him for?? ...while they were both together!! and your gonna snitch he's a swinger hmmmmmm

Not really fancied him and not gonna sleep with him to close to home

I'm not telling her kind of decided that last night"

....

Next.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Blimey what a roller coaster ride this thread has been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happens in a swingers club stays in the swingers club..ALWAYS.. Cheating or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't gain anything by stirring up trouble.... In fact you will loose your friend. He's entitled to privacy and you should respect that.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I'm not asking for advice

I already decided not to tell her last night when I say him

I like the guy and I want him as a swinging friend nice to talk to someone I know about it

People are so judgemental on her ffs"

You've said that because your friend, who you claim is your best friend, told her then boyfriend you are a swinger, you want to get back at her by implying that he was cheating on her during their relationship.

Yeah, that's what best friends do. I'm certainly judging you.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Would I fuck my best friend's ex in a club or party if I was interested? YES

Would I tell my best friend I fucked her ex? NO

Would I tell my best friend her ex used to swing behind her back? NO

Would I care if my best friend told her (then) boyfriend I was a swinger? NOT IN THE LEAST BIT

People need to grow up. Statistically it's almost a given you'll see someone or the other at a swing club or sex party who you know. It's just bound to happen. Instead of having a seizure every individual needs to decide how he/she will handle it and stick with that plan, not go bollocks and channel that anxiety into (even considering) revenge, hurt etc. Most people adopt a "just jog on" policy i.e., don't acknowledge and don't interact. Some (like me) will interact if there's an interest. I'm actually glad to see someone I know is a swinger (has happened only twice). Cowering in fear and taking it out on someone is the last thing you should do. They're probably just as embarrassed if it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night

What's it got to do with her anyway?

The fact he was swinging while they were together

She told him I was a swinger so I want to get my own back on her"

She;s your friend and you want to want to hurt her? That's pretty vile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would I fuck my best friend's ex in a club or party if I was interested? YES

Would I tell my best friend I fucked her ex? NO

Would I tell my best friend her ex used to swing behind her back? NO

Would I care if my best friend told her (then) boyfriend I was a swinger? NOT IN THE LEAST BIT

People need to grow up. Statistically it's almost a given you'll see someone or the other at a swing club or sex party who you know. It's just bound to happen. Instead of having a seizure every individual needs to decide how he/she will handle it and stick with that plan, not go bollocks and channel that anxiety into (even considering) revenge, hurt etc. Most people adopt a "just jog on" policy i.e., don't acknowledge and don't interact. Some (like me) will interact if there's an interest. I'm actually glad to see someone I know is a swinger (has happened only twice). Cowering in fear and taking it out on someone is the last thing you should do. They're probably just as embarrassed if it happens."

Thank you for this appreciate what you have said and take it on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She told him I was a swinger so I might get my own back lol"

are you though?

or just someone that likes fucking lots of people

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

OP, it sounds a bit like you want to shag him, in which case you're both swingers, so go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your "best" friend split up with her boyfriend and didn't tell you? She broke your trust and told him something about you that it wasn't her place to tell him...you contemplated telling her to get your own back...

sounds to me like you both need a new "best" friend, frankly...toxic friendships like that just make me shake my head about how so called "adults" behave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not asking for advice"

Really? So when you asked


"Do I tell her he's a swinger"

and


"do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her"

in your opening post that wasn't you asking for advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused.... you started by referring to him as your best friends boyfriend, but quickly it turns out he isn't her boyfriend and she certainly isn't your best friend as you wanted to purposefully cause her pain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

End of day I'm not telling her she's still my friend so that's all good

I like the guy he's nice person and I might ask him to play if I see him in there again

No I didn't fancy him when they were going out never thought of him like that.

But we have been friends for nearly 3 years so I class him as a friend

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

So attention seeking then?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"End of day I'm not telling her she's still my friend so that's all good

I like the guy he's nice person and I might ask him to play if I see him in there again

No I didn't fancy him when they were going out never thought of him like that.

But we have been friends for nearly 3 years so I class him as a friend "

Does he know you consider him as a friend? If so, perhaps considering how you treat friends, he may run in the opposite direction, very swiftly ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So attention seeking then?"

I don't need attention to be honest I get plenty of meets stopped meeting from site now

Only attend clubs private parties and organised social events.

Think I just wanted to play with him and seeing if it was ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"End of day I'm not telling her she's still my friend so that's all good

I like the guy he's nice person and I might ask him to play if I see him in there again

No I didn't fancy him when they were going out never thought of him like that.

But we have been friends for nearly 3 years so I class him as a friend

Does he know you consider him as a friend? If so, perhaps considering how you treat friends, he may run in the opposite direction, very swiftly ...."

I haven't told my friend her ex is a swinger ok

She told her then boyfriend I was a swinger

I've done nothing wrong at moment ok

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"So attention seeking then?

I don't need attention to be honest I get plenty of meets stopped meeting from site now

Only attend clubs private parties and organised social events.

Think I just wanted to play with him and seeing if it was ok "

That was obvious. I would never fuck a friend's ex as I think that some people are just off limits, but you obviously have no problem with it so fill your boots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never fuck a friend's ex as I think that some people are just off limits, but you obviously have no problem with it so fill your boots"

As part of my lifelong quest to avoid unnecesary drama I find the simple rule of not fucking ex's friends or friends' exes a good one to live by. To me it's a no brainer

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"She told him I was a swinger so I might get my own back lol"

Sounds a bit childish lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So attention seeking then?

I don't need attention to be honest I get plenty of meets stopped meeting from site now

Only attend clubs private parties and organised social events.

Think I just wanted to play with him and seeing if it was ok "

That isn't what your op said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

It sounds like your best friend needs to pick her friends more carefully to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, just fuck him. Thats what it sounds like you want to do.

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By *sxr600Man
over a year ago

northamptonshire

#number 1 rule:

What happens at the swingers club, stays at the swingers club!!

Don't tell her they are not together. It's none of her business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can see the back tracks in the amount of bullshit that has been said.

If you wanted comments on whether or not you should fuck him you should of worded your post better.

At the end of the day you have to live with the consequences of your actions but if you have to ask strangers if it's the right thing to do I'd say you have doubt in your mind

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Well OP this ain't gone well for you really. But like others have said, you changed your view several times. Clearly you want to Fuck him

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

okay..... so would i say to my bestie that i saw their ex in a club...... if it comes up in conversation...sure

would i say to my bestie that i knew he had been going whilst they were together.... nope!!!!!

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I think the question was meant to say should I let my best friends ex bone me

You are right should have asked that "

You don't sound like the kind of friends I would want to be honest. You are clearly not motivated by any concern for the fact he admits he cheated on your friend whilst with her (which is irrelevant anyway now as they have split up) but you say she is your best friend yet you want revenge because she told him you are a swingers. So what if she did? Now you admit the real reason is because you want to shag him yourself. Some 'best' friend you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave them to sort out there mess

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Swinging clubs are meant to be discrete.

If they are split up, then what's the point stirring emotion. Maybe she knows he's a swinger.

Not your place to say anyway.

I anticipate you and he will play together anyway, and have fun, and she won't know.

But so what, they aren't together. Stick to your guns, have fun, and keep it to yourself.

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By *esi tardkaCouple
over a year ago

acton


"Don't think I'd like a best friend like you really ...how long you fancied him for?? ...while they were both together!! and your gonna snitch he's a swinger hmmmmmm

Not really fancied him and not gonna sleep with him to close to home

I'm not telling her kind of decided that last night

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Next."

We keeping bumping into people we know of our everyday life at swinging clubs ... Nothing to hide big deal ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Probably won't fuck him end of day too close to home tbh

I'm not telling her I say him in club

Why am I a bad friend I haven't done nothing wrong so far ok

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield


"Probably won't fuck him end of day too close to home tbh

I'm not telling her I say him in club

Why am I a bad friend I haven't done nothing wrong so far ok"

FFS make your mind up not first you didn't want to Fuck him then you did now you change again, do you even know what day it is!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She told him I was a swinger so I might get my own back lol

But he has done nothing to you

NO he hasn't probably not say anything I like the guy actually know him for 3 years "

He is a sw Niger....so are you! Why not just fuck him and get it over!?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"Probably won't fuck him end of day too close to home tbh

I'm not telling her I say him in club

Why am I a bad friend I haven't done nothing wrong so far ok"

You're a bad friend because you were contemplating hurting your so called best friend in a bit of tit for tat. Real friends wouldn't even think like that, if they were upset about what someone had done they would discuss it with them. That's the adult way to behave.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"Probably won't fuck him end of day too close to home tbh

I'm not telling her I say him in club

Why am I a bad friend I haven't done nothing wrong so far ok

FFS make your mind up not first you didn't want to Fuck him then you did now you change again, do you even know what day it is!!!!!"

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By *ivianVanDammeWoman
over a year ago

West Coast


"Why would you want to hurt cause someone else hurt "

Get your own back? Are you 13?

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

With friends like you who needs enemies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of this should of even crossed your mind. You saw a chap you know in a swingers club. So what!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Probably won't fuck him end of day too close to home tbh

I'm not telling her I say him in club

Why am I a bad friend I haven't done nothing wrong so far ok"

You use the term .."so far " and in another reply "at the moment " ..when as a "friend" (as you claim to be ) you should have said you'd never breath a word . Seems you are just storing the information to use at a later date . The mear fact you even thought of telling your friend to spite her says it all!! She needs better friends without the petty,childish and venfictive streak . If she hurt you by outing you as a swinger then pull up your big girl panties and have that conversation her like adults.Or you do the other adult thing and end said friendship .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them for a FFM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably won't fuck him end of day too close to home tbh

I'm not telling her I say him in club

Why am I a bad friend I haven't done nothing wrong so far ok

You use the term .."so far " and in another reply "at the moment " ..when as a "friend" (as you claim to be ) you should have said you'd never breath a word . Seems you are just storing the information to use at a later date . The mear fact you even thought of telling your friend to spite her says it all!! She needs better friends without the petty,childish and venfictive streak . If she hurt you by outing you as a swinger then pull up your big girl panties and have that conversation her like adults.Or you do the other adult thing and end said friendship . "

She's my best friend ok I'm not telling her or ending our froendship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wish u never put up this post ok

I wanna fuck him ok but I'm not telling her fuck you judgmental fuck heads I don't care what you think

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By *reenEyedWifeCouple
over a year ago

Market Harborough


"O think that would be quite vindictive. Each to their own. I've had my swinging lifestyle shared around my village and shown to family members when in fact it's nobody's business but mine..."

OMG that's really quite awful

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"I wish u never put up this post ok

I wanna fuck him ok but I'm not telling her fuck you judgmental fuck heads I don't care what you think"

oooooops! take advice with pinch of salt. overall, stay loyal, discrete, and have fun

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I think the question was meant to say should I let my best friends ex bone me"

This

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

1) how can you say she is your best friend if you hate her for telling her boyfriend you were a swinger?

2) if you fancy her ex boyfriend and hope to play with him, why would he want to play with you after you tell he is a swinger?

I would say that if you tell her then she won't like you but neither will he so you lose both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha talk about how to make yourself look like a total tit!!

Worst attempt at back tracking I have ever seen OP. Cringing for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was worth this month's fiver...cheers OP...pure entertainment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That was worth this month's fiver...cheers OP...pure entertainment "

Happy to entertain you which is so fucking East on the Forums don't you just love it

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke

What happens in the club stays in the club. Swingers 101.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was worth this month's fiver...cheers OP...pure entertainment "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op,you asked for advice,General consensus seems to be say nothing,yet you seem to argue against it.why ask for advice you don't wish to take?"

Couldn't have said it better

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By *onny bigMan
over a year ago

london harrow

Wow

This threads got Jeremy Kyle written all over it

Stay away from your ex's boyfriend and start evaluating your mind set as it seems a little immature to me, you won't have friends for long if you keep up your petty ways and continue to look at things the way you do.

I honestly don't think you know what you want yourself but just remember you're playing with people's emotions so try and have a little bit of discretion/decency and most importantly THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

Good look though and i hope it all works out for you in the end.

I don't want to be horrible towards you because you have had it a bit rough tonight but can you not see that you've brought it on yourself?

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"I wish u never put up this post ok

I wanna fuck him ok but I'm not telling her fuck you judgmental fuck heads I don't care what you think"

I guess it didn't go quite the way you wanted it to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP did you know your best friend had split up from her boyfriend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She told him I was a swinger so I might get my own back lol"

In fairness to the OP, I think she was joking here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the question was meant to say should I let my best friends ex bone me

You are right should have asked that "

If you're feeling chemistry go ahead and play with him.

In the vanilla perspective a bestie probabbly wouldn't bone your ex. But in the lifestyle the rules (I think) are a little different.

But let him know before the clothes come off, that you expect mutual discretion.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

You bumped into him in a club - who knows you may bump into him in here - he may have read this thread already....

You COULD be the reason he got into swinging!? When she told him you did he may have thought it sounded interesting and looked into it more.....

He could be talking to her about all the above right now.....

Just a slightly different spin on it......!

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By *onny bigMan
over a year ago

london harrow


"You bumped into him in a club - who knows you may bump into him in here - he may have read this thread already....

You COULD be the reason he got into swinging!? When she told him you did he may have thought it sounded interesting and looked into it more.....

He could be talking to her about all the above right now.....

Just a slightly different spin on it......!"

Get your tin hats on

I love a conspiracy theory's

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"You bumped into him in a club - who knows you may bump into him in here - he may have read this thread already....

You COULD be the reason he got into swinging!? When she told him you did he may have thought it sounded interesting and looked into it more.....

He could be talking to her about all the above right now.....

Just a slightly different spin on it......!

Get your tin hats on

I love a conspiracy theory's "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think this is saying more about you than anybody else - tit for tat taletelling isnt a nice characteristic in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wud say next time you in clubf nd he is in get him shagged. You are both there for same reason. Have fun persion x

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"Hi this happened to me last night. I saw my best friends boyfriend in a swingers club.

Did go over and talk to him he told me they split up a few weeks ago.

Do I tell her he's a swinger she told him I was as she's only friend I've told about my swinging lifestyle

They have split up but do I tell her he was swinging whilst seeing her he confessed last night "

Unfortunately as they've already split up it would do more harm than good :-/

If they were still together or get back together however I would tell her.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"I wish u never put up this post ok

I wanna fuck him ok but I'm not telling her fuck you judgmental fuck heads I don't care what you think"

Ah, I maybe should have read this before I posted.

If you're her friend I dread to think what you're like with your enemies

If you've got that riled up you obviously do care, I'm guessing you were looking for some validation?

End of the day the community is always going to be split regarding the many technicalities of is or isn't each particular scenario cheating or morally right, just do whatever you want looks like you are going to do so anyway.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I wish u never put up this post ok

I wanna fuck him ok but I'm not telling her fuck you judgmental fuck heads I don't care what you think

Ah, I maybe should have read this before I posted.

If you're her friend I dread to think what you're like with your enemies

If you've got that riled up you obviously do care, I'm guessing you were looking for some validation?

End of the day the community is always going to be split regarding the many technicalities of is or isn't each particular scenario cheating or morally right, just do whatever you want looks like you are going to do so anyway. "

It's not about cheating, it's about being a shitty friend. If this is actually a true situation, of which I have my doubts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So attention seeking then?

I don't need attention to be honest I get plenty of meets stopped meeting from site now

Only attend clubs private parties and organised social events.

Think I just wanted to play with him and seeing if it was ok "

You said you didn't want to play with him in several earlier posts??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You bumped into him in a club - who knows you may bump into him in here - he may have read this thread already....

You COULD be the reason he got into swinging!? When she told him you did he may have thought it sounded interesting and looked into it more.....

He could be talking to her about all the above right now.....

Just a slightly different spin on it......!

Get your tin hats on

I love a conspiracy theory's

"

He's not on fab swingers so he won't see this post ok

He told me he's been swinging for years and years so I've not brought him to it.

I like him known him for 3 years so keep him as a friend

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I wish u never put up this post ok

I wanna fuck him ok but I'm not telling her fuck you judgmental fuck heads I don't care what you think"

Thats not nice is it.

Maybe if you don't want people to comment on your post other than to agree with you then you should mention that in the OP

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