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"we are having enough trouble finding a single male when we need one. " Yet so many single men grumble they can't get meets! | |||
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"We are wondering the same thing as we are looking but only seem too get the idiots who dont have a clue as too what its all about" its not the most natural thing having aex with another man's wife partner...probably why people dont know what to do. Plus does the bull have to remain single and be at the couples beck n call? In that respect the dominant party would be the couple.... | |||
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"as for finding a bull it depends what you want from the guy. finding fuck and go would be easy." Would be interesting to hear what couples mean by a bull -maybe means different things to different folk? | |||
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"It all seems so complicated, this having to play sone kinda role as a single man, like a puppet in a string for some couple I just couldnt be arsed " This is certainly something we would expect. | |||
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"as for finding a bull it depends what you want from the guy. finding fuck and go would be easy. Would be interesting to hear what couples mean by a bull -maybe means different things to different folk? " yeah some people are happy to just fuck without their guys around and some want the guy to watch or even join in. i know most guys i've met prefer the guy not to be there because it's weird for them and the guy also can act weird and that is off putting. others want a dating experience. there'll be other stuff i've not thought about as well. | |||
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"as for finding a bull it depends what you want from the guy. finding fuck and go would be easy. Would be interesting to hear what couples mean by a bull -maybe means different things to different folk? yeah some people are happy to just fuck without their guys around and some want the guy to watch or even join in. i know most guys i've met prefer the guy not to be there because it's weird for them and the guy also can act weird and that is off putting. others want a dating experience. there'll be other stuff i've not thought about as well." If the guy in the couple is a real cuckold he would generally prefer to watch but may be "forbidden" from taking part....the self denial being all part of the pleasure | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull " Maibe cos they got more too offer than just one thing. | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull " Yeah they prob dont tend to BS as much so | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull " they're around. i've fucked a few. that's how i know they aren't keen on the hubby being around. they don't advertise themselves as this either because of their preference for the husband not to be there. | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull they're around. i've fucked a few. that's how i know they aren't keen on the hubby being around. they don't advertise themselves as this either because of their preference for the husband not to be there." Ah I see . I'm bloody glad I fly solo , couldn't be on with all the nonsense lol | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull they're around. i've fucked a few. that's how i know they aren't keen on the hubby being around. they don't advertise themselves as this either because of their preference for the husband not to be there. Ah I see . I'm bloody glad I fly solo , couldn't be on with all the nonsense lol " yeah. it's definitely easier pleasing yourself. | |||
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"It all seems so complicated, this having to play sone kinda role as a single man, like a puppet in a string for some couple I just couldnt be arsed " I can see why you'd look at it from that point of view but in our experience with the men we have seen regular is that it suits their requirements just as much as it does ours. They may not be looking for a relationship but miss the company and obv the sex it offers so hooking up with us as a threesome allows them to cover that part they're looking for. We saw someone a few times and felt confortable enough that we could then spend time alone sep, RG went on a couple of 'dates' alone and had a great time. | |||
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"Depends on the definition of 'Bull'. I used to think it was a man who joined a couple as an MMF trio, where there is a threeway friendship. However it seems to be a word used to describe fit black guys who fuck white women in front of their husbands, but with no meaningful friendship. We would love to find the former, and from time to time we come across a man who understands that threeway relationship. We have found so far that it hasn't been possible to have the regularity and frequency that one of these type of arrangements requires. Unfortunately a lot of men think they are bulls, but don't really understand what this entails - they just want to fuck someone's wife and the hubby doesn't really feature in their thinking." A proper bull/fun friend for a cpl wont struggle with other males/bf's/hubs in threeway social stuff or mfm situations. Part of the buzz is the other guy trusting you with his partner as is her wanting her bull claim her regular. Sometimes hubs are actively involved on all fronts, sometimes just socially and sometimes after an initial meet her partner will arrange for you to meet her alone. The situations cpls go for vary as does what they consider a bull. As for the blk guys thing mentioned. That's a fallacy people pick up from the crap some people type out or blow out. Black, white, other, there's all sorts of genuine cpls discreetly meeting all sorts of regular guys via Fab or elsewhere. When the right couple finds/meets the right guy it's quite something. Sadly the clowns who fake/pretend here to get to many cpls before the real guys do. By that time couple's almost given up or paranoid on who to trust that's contacted them. | |||
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"We are wondering the same thing as we are looking but only seem too get the idiots who dont have a clue as too what its all about" yes, we know that feeling | |||
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"we are having enough trouble finding a single male when we need one. Yet so many single men grumble they can't get meets!" Are you saying couples should drop their standards just so single males can get more meets? | |||
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"we are having enough trouble finding a single male when we need one. Yet so many single men grumble they can't get meets! Are you saying couples should drop their standards just so single males can get more meets? " Em, no i dont think he was saying that at all | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull Maibe cos they got more too offer than just one thing." I hope you not saying black guys have only one thing to offer!! | |||
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"we are having enough trouble finding a single male when we need one. " | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull " Ask Tommy Steele! He knows where to find a little white bull | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull Ask Tommy Steele! He knows where to find a little white bull " you've tainted my childhood. | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull Maibe cos they got more too offer than just one thing. I hope you not saying black guys have only one thing to offer!!" I don't think it's fair to say that white guys have more to offer than just one thing. I had a black lover for a long time, but I've also had white lovers. All have been good friends who gave me more than just sex. But the term 'Bull' does seem to have been adopted by the interracial swing scene, and is used much less these days to describe the lover of a married woman. | |||
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"And all couples are after something different and sometimes figuring out what they want is a challenge in itself! " Too true at times with some. Usually a gen cpl wanting good meets with a gen single usually know exactly what situation they want and what kind've guy they want for it. If someone doesn't know what they want beyond 'seeking a reg M meet' and it's undiscoverable in basic convo (if any convo) it's not a good ingredient. Personally I'd leave it there. Discovery yes but guesswork no | |||
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"It seems there are quite a few descriptions of those who wish invite another into the intimate part of their lives. I had a two year relationship with a (MF) couple in so far as we were bets friends as well as sexual partners. In this particular liaison I went round to their house and they to mine. We attended gigs and theatre nights together. In some cases I took the lady out on a "date" and we even went on holiday together as a threesum. His pleasure was to see his wife pleasured in a safe and secure way. There was never a need to use the words "Bull" or "Cuck" nor was there any hint of humiliation or degrading another just three people have fun in a straight sexual and social setting!" Sounds like a dream come true | |||
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"definition of Bull varies really. I have played with the wife of the couple while hubby has just watched, took pics/videos. I have also played where we all actively take part and enjoy a full threesome. Adversely I have played with couples where hubby was playing the sissy role and was humiliated by the wife and then performed clean up duties !!!. I currently have a great threesome relationship with a couple on here and we sometimes all play together and other times hubby just watches. However you must obviously all talk and find out what everyone wants to get out of the play time. well that's my take on it anyway. Andy " Well said this is a post that has been put by someone who actually gets whats it is all about, just hope we can find someone in our age range who gets it as well as you | |||
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"definition of Bull varies really. I have played with the wife of the couple while hubby has just watched, took pics/videos. I have also played where we all actively take part and enjoy a full threesome. Adversely I have played with couples where hubby was playing the sissy role and was humiliated by the wife and then performed clean up duties !!!. I currently have a great threesome relationship with a couple on here and we sometimes all play together and other times hubby just watches. However you must obviously all talk and find out what everyone wants to get out of the play time. well that's my take on it anyway. Andy Well said this is a post that has been put by someone who actually gets whats it is all about, just hope we can find someone in our age range who gets it as well as you" Thank you and really hope you find your perfect bull xx | |||
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"When I cuckold couples, I always wanted the husband there, it's more fun cuckolding him in front of his wife, and also he can lick and cleanup afterwards. " There we have it!! The overriding reason we do not welcome single males! We accept the plain simple fat that some guys like to be humiliated by some limp-dick fucking their wife... However that is not for us. That being accepted, there seems to be a great majority of single guys who are of the clear opinion that they are better than any woman's choice of partner? Or are we wrong? | |||
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"When I cuckold couples, I always wanted the husband there, it's more fun cuckolding him in front of his wife, and also he can lick and cleanup afterwards. There we have it!! The overriding reason we do not welcome single males! We accept the plain simple fat that some guys like to be humiliated by some limp-dick fucking their wife... However that is not for us. That being accepted, there seems to be a great majority of single guys who are of the clear opinion that they are better than any woman's choice of partner? Or are we wrong? " I don't believe anyone is going to be humiliated by a guy with a "limp dick". | |||
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"When I cuckold couples, I always wanted the husband there, it's more fun cuckolding him in front of his wife, and also he can lick and cleanup afterwards. There we have it!! The overriding reason we do not welcome single males! We accept the plain simple fat that some guys like to be humiliated by some limp-dick fucking their wife... However that is not for us. That being accepted, there seems to be a great majority of single guys who are of the clear opinion that they are better than any woman's choice of partner? Or are we wrong? I don't believe anyone is going to be humiliated by a guy with a "limp dick"." A limped dick bull would definitely alter the bull-cuckold dynamic! | |||
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"Sorry you got it all wrong, some hubbys liked to be cuckold, that's what cuckolding is all about, and the hubby enjoys being cuckolded. If you just want a threesome than that's fine, the couple asked how do they meet a bull ." | |||
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"I didn't realise it would be difficult ? There seems to be lots of male profiles using the title "bull" , although most of them are black males I don't often see or notice a white bull Ask Tommy Steele! He knows where to find a little white bull " Ha ha ha I just burst out laughing, I absolutely love tommy steele I think he is funny | |||
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"It seems there are quite a few descriptions of those who wish invite another into the intimate part of their lives. I had a two year relationship with a (MF) couple in so far as we were bets friends as well as sexual partners. In this particular liaison I went round to their house and they to mine. We attended gigs and theatre nights together. In some cases I took the lady out on a "date" and we even went on holiday together as a threesum. His pleasure was to see his wife pleasured in a safe and secure way. There was never a need to use the words "Bull" or "Cuck" nor was there any hint of humiliation or degrading another just three people have fun in a straight sexual and social setting! Sounds like a dream come true " It was pretty awesome they moved to the US with work but it was a nice part of life!!! | |||
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"we are having enough trouble finding a single male when we need one. Yet so many single men grumble they can't get meets!" Most single men don't make good bulls!! | |||
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"We are wondering the same thing as we are looking but only seem too get the idiots who dont have a clue as too what its all about" The "idiot" bit cuts both ways. There are loads of couple profiles that say they're seeking a cuckold arrangement but end up turning out to be clueless or fantasists. With the endless labels available in swinging anyone can claim to be anything and tag themselves as such. I've found the key to finding the right person for what you need, is to only subtly hint at it in your profile and messages. If people you engage with, say the right things without you leading them to it, then it is more likely that they're not just saying things they know you want to hear. Also, if you have to shout about it on your profile and tell people you're a bull, then chances are you aren't! | |||
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"We are wondering the same thing as we are looking but only seem too get the idiots who dont have a clue as too what its all about The "idiot" bit cuts both ways. There are loads of couple profiles that say they're seeking a cuckold arrangement but end up turning out to be clueless or fantasists. With the endless labels available in swinging anyone can claim to be anything and tag themselves as such. I've found the key to finding the right person for what you need, is to only subtly hint at it in your profile and messages. If people you engage with, say the right things without you leading them to it, then it is more likely that they're not just saying things they know you want to hear. Also, if you have to shout about it on your profile and tell people you're a bull, then chances are you aren't!" You're preaching to the choir! That's just what i said! | |||
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"A bull is a dominant guy who fucks d ladies hard n fast. " Well if thats what you think its about i just hope no cpl bothers asking you too be one for them as you havent a clue | |||
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"A bull is a dominant guy who fucks d ladies hard n fast. Well if thats what you think its about i just hope no cpl bothers asking you too be one for them as you havent a clue" | |||
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"For those couples who have a regular bull how did you go about finding them." Lucky enough to be a regular for this Asian couple in my pics. Looking forward to meet other couples though Get in touch guys | |||
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"Depends on the definition of 'Bull'. I used to think it was a man who joined a couple as an MMF trio, where there is a threeway friendship. However it seems to be a word used to describe fit black guys who fuck white women in front of their husbands, but with no meaningful friendship. We would love to find the former, and from time to time we come across a man who understands that threeway relationship. We have found so far that it hasn't been possible to have the regularity and frequency that one of these type of arrangements requires. Unfortunately a lot of men think they are bulls, but don't really understand what this entails - they just want to fuck someone's wife and the hubby doesn't really feature in their thinking." . That's my understanding of a bull. I think a bull should form a bond with the couple because that's how you established trust and get to know a couple. If you're going to let a bull into your lives then he needs to be more than a regular shag, which could be anyone. He may wine, dine a wife, maybe go on holiday with you. The couple must be totally comfortable with their bull. There should be some exclusivity to the couple depending on how involved he gets in and out the bedroom. ...just my thoughts but then again others may have different ideas. | |||
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"I've been a bull for a two couples. It doesn't bother me if the guy is watching or not. The longer you are a bull for a couple, things do start to change. I have gone on dates with the women by ourselves, and the husband has joined in. I'm comfortable with what ever the couple wants due to I feel very lucky to be able to fuck another mans wife. Have fun" Totally agree, the longer you do it the better it becomes for all parties | |||
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"It seems there are quite a few descriptions of those who wish invite another into the intimate part of their lives. I had a two year relationship with a (MF) couple in so far as we were bets friends as well as sexual partners. In this particular liaison I went round to their house and they to mine. We attended gigs and theatre nights together. In some cases I took the lady out on a "date" and we even went on holiday together as a threesum. His pleasure was to see his wife pleasured in a safe and secure way. There was never a need to use the words "Bull" or "Cuck" nor was there any hint of humiliation or degrading another just three people have fun in a straight sexual and social setting!" Perfect!!!! Why are you so far away? Lol | |||
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"as for finding a bull it depends what you want from the guy. finding fuck and go would be easy." Woukd I float your boat ?? | |||
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"as for finding a bull it depends what you want from the guy. finding fuck and go would be easy. Woukd I float your boat ??" i don't even have a cuck yet. and i don't enjoy fuck and go for 1 on 1 meets. | |||
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"For those couples who have a regular bull how did you go about finding them." ..have you tried a farmer?? | |||
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"We are wondering the same thing as we are looking but only seem too get the idiots who dont have a clue as too what its all about" Just looking in the wrong places! Should be looking in Worcester! | |||
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"I have had thresomes with a number of couples and I'm always ok with the hubby watching or joining in if he wants. I'm after all fucking his wife so if he wants to see what goes on I'm not going to stop him. Some guys want to go further with the whole cuckolding thing and I will play the part if that's what they want. I think there are many guys who just want to fuck a woman and don't want another guy to get in the way, but if you're a 'bull' then you should expect hubby to be involved." That would be a "hot wife and voyeur" if just watching....or simply mmf if joining in. Cuckolding is an entirely different thing....mostly about denial and humiliation. Certainly not joining in! | |||
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"For those couples who have a regular bull how did you go about finding them." Go to the local auction market? There are specialist sales for good stock bulls | |||
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"For those couples who have a regular bull how did you go about finding them." Put that you're looking for one or advertise it in a meet | |||
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"For those couples who have a regular bull how did you go about finding them." I was 'found' on a specialist website for this. They are out there and can't be listed on here. BullG | |||
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"For those couples who have a regular bull how did you go about finding them." I don't know about finding one, but one just found me! I'm not interested but I can give you a name if you are? | |||
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