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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was there recently and saw several couples getting it on. Really wanted to join as found it all super horny. However, we are soft swap. (Although I get off on Jay having full sex due to previous experiences I don't want penetrative sex) so question is how do I best communicate this in group play situation as I don't mind Jay doing full swap but I will do everything but full swap?? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use your voice... just tell people what you do and do not want. I find being up front and honest about it the best approach. Other than that we usually arrange to meet single women there anyway.

Communication is definitely the most important thing.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Join in with all the touching and sucking stuff and if anyone tries to go further (which doubt they would unless invited) just smile and shake your head no. Then go back to the touching and sucking.

That saves you having to spoil the mood by announcing you won't fuck anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is if your playing with a couple and your fella is shagging the other guy's Mrs i think it's fair to assume they will expect the same is going to happen with you, so i think it's important to make your wishes clear before you get to the point of him saying....well he's fucking my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Problem is if your playing with a couple and your fella is shagging the other guy's Mrs i think it's fair to assume they will expect the same is going to happen with you, so i think it's important to make your wishes clear before you get to the point of him saying....well he's fucking my wife "

This.

We talk to people before playing, but if we hadn't then we would take our cues from you. If you haven't said anything already, and your partner started fucking me, then Marc would probably assume you guys are open to full sex and act accordingly.

This is why we talk before playing with people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Problem is if your playing with a couple and your fella is shagging the other guy's Mrs i think it's fair to assume they will expect the same is going to happen with you, so i think it's important to make your wishes clear before you get to the point of him saying....well he's fucking my wife

This.

We talk to people before playing, but if we hadn't then we would take our cues from you. If you haven't said anything already, and your partner started fucking me, then Marc would probably assume you guys are open to full sex and act accordingly.

This is why we talk before playing with people."

This was our predicament we normally sit and chat to people and let them know we're soft swap but just seeing that many bodies turned me on (tray) I think I'm kinda weird cus seeing/hearingJay with another woman turns me on but I'm only interested in the woman and if we had of joined in I would have encouraged Jay to have full sex but like you say the Mr would have then expected full sex and a slap/punch to the face would not have gone down to well hence why I asked are there any signals you can give in that scenario? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Problem is if your playing with a couple and your fella is shagging the other guy's Mrs i think it's fair to assume they will expect the same is going to happen with you, so i think it's important to make your wishes clear before you get to the point of him saying....well he's fucking my wife

This.

We talk to people before playing, but if we hadn't then we would take our cues from you. If you haven't said anything already, and your partner started fucking me, then Marc would probably assume you guys are open to full sex and act accordingly.

This is why we talk before playing with people.

This was our predicament we normally sit and chat to people and let them know we're soft swap but just seeing that many bodies turned me on (tray) I think I'm kinda weird cus seeing/hearingJay with another woman turns me on but I'm only interested in the woman and if we had of joined in I would have encouraged Jay to have full sex but like you say the Mr would have then expected full sex and a slap/punch to the face would not have gone down to well hence why I asked are there any signals you can give in that scenario? Xx"

The only advice i can give is that if you are in a situation where you are joining in play that's already in progress rather than being able to talk about what your after first don't either of you do full sex that way men wont think it's ok to shag you being your fella's shagging his Mrs

Other than that i have no idea

Oh and don't be punching people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Problem is if your playing with a couple and your fella is shagging the other guy's Mrs i think it's fair to assume they will expect the same is going to happen with you, so i think it's important to make your wishes clear before you get to the point of him saying....well he's fucking my wife

This.

We talk to people before playing, but if we hadn't then we would take our cues from you. If you haven't said anything already, and your partner started fucking me, then Marc would probably assume you guys are open to full sex and act accordingly.

This is why we talk before playing with people.

This was our predicament we normally sit and chat to people and let them know we're soft swap but just seeing that many bodies turned me on (tray) I think I'm kinda weird cus seeing/hearingJay with another woman turns me on but I'm only interested in the woman and if we had of joined in I would have encouraged Jay to have full sex but like you say the Mr would have then expected full sex and a slap/punch to the face would not have gone down to well hence why I asked are there any signals you can give in that scenario? Xx

The only advice i can give is that if you are in a situation where you are joining in play that's already in progress rather than being able to talk about what your after first don't either of you do full sex that way men wont think it's ok to shag you being your fella's shagging his Mrs

Other than that i have no idea

Oh and don't be punching people "

I'd agree with this. If you can't communicate beforehand and you don't already know the people then neither of you should do anything that wouldn't be ok for both of you to do. That's kind of what I meant in my previous post - we would take our cues from you so don't give the type of cues where people would make the wrong assumption. I get that it's difficult when you're a bit more restricted, but that's just the way it is. That's my opinion anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Problem is if your playing with a couple and your fella is shagging the other guy's Mrs i think it's fair to assume they will expect the same is going to happen with you, so i think it's important to make your wishes clear before you get to the point of him saying....well he's fucking my wife

This.

We talk to people before playing, but if we hadn't then we would take our cues from you. If you haven't said anything already, and your partner started fucking me, then Marc would probably assume you guys are open to full sex and act accordingly.

This is why we talk before playing with people.

This was our predicament we normally sit and chat to people and let them know we're soft swap but just seeing that many bodies turned me on (tray) I think I'm kinda weird cus seeing/hearingJay with another woman turns me on but I'm only interested in the woman and if we had of joined in I would have encouraged Jay to have full sex but like you say the Mr would have then expected full sex and a slap/punch to the face would not have gone down to well hence why I asked are there any signals you can give in that scenario? Xx

The only advice i can give is that if you are in a situation where you are joining in play that's already in progress rather than being able to talk about what your after first don't either of you do full sex that way men wont think it's ok to shag you being your fella's shagging his Mrs

Other than that i have no idea

Oh and don't be punching people

I'd agree with this. If you can't communicate beforehand and you don't already know the people then neither of you should do anything that wouldn't be ok for both of you to do. That's kind of what I meant in my previous post - we would take our cues from you so don't give the type of cues where people would make the wrong assumption. I get that it's difficult when you're a bit more restricted, but that's just the way it is. That's my opinion anyway."

Thanks for that advice like I said was unsure of how it would pan out but will look out for signs and in no way would be pushy Jay wouldn't just go off fucking someone it was more if they invited Jay in would I be expected to and I know I would if jay is but it was how do I communicate I'm not but I think it best to avoid that situation unless we spoke beforehand

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By *anm2009Man
over a year ago

Barrow-in-Furness

We make it clear first particularly as we like lots of men playing with gail I always say ok guys everything but full sex. If we change our minds and / or we both agree with one individual then we go off in private but communication is the key just be up front and enjoy the touching and licking x

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By *anm2009Man
over a year ago

Barrow-in-Furness

We have only recently been going to Chams and its only been on Monday bi day and night as we are both bi. We've had so much fun and want to more liberal with what we do but need to be pushed as we are both fairly reserved until we are persuaded. Is there a Dominant couple or couples or dominant male who would be willing to help us throw off the shackles so to speak?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple solution is to both play as a soft swap couple as it would be unfair on the man being told no whilst your partner is having full swap fun, this way everyone is happy and comes away with a smile on their faces

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The simple solution is to both play as a soft swap couple as it would be unfair on the man being told no whilst your partner is having full swap fun, this way everyone is happy and comes away with a smile on their faces "

This is what we will be doing as we both realise this isn't fair on the other guy unless we can find a couple where they are agreeable for this to happen and only participate in group play if we are involved from the start with boundaries set,like I said it was just so horny seeing the room so full I just wanted to join in xx

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