FabSwingers.com forum: Fake Names

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had a couple of social meets with guys recently that have lied about their names and said that they like to keep their swinging life and non swinging life separate. Now we can totally understand this as we don't want to mix the two either, however we're upfront and honest about who we are and our ages etc etc.

I often do social meets on my own, and I'm now wary about what else guys could be fibbing about.

We realise that some guys could be married etc, and we understand discretion is a must, and should be respected however would you just turn a blind eye to fake names/alter egos or would you just rather people be honest?

Also do you use a fake name etc?

(Just to be clear I mean fake names in R/L...online is obviously 100% acceptable!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, always use real name. I think it's probably quite obvious from my profile name as to what it is.

If I message I always sign off with my (real) name. It would get to confusing not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only tell people my real name if I feel like it. Doesn't mean I'm lying about anything else. If I don't want people to know things I just don't tell them, I don't lie about it. Names are a bit different though cuz you have to call people something.

Having said that, I fully expect people to lie about some things and I can't do anything about that.

-Courtney

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not that bothered by an alias but it does embarrass the person using it when they slip up. I would never use my correct name in the forum etc but if we're messaging with a view to meeting we give them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frank and Ann - yeah right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not that bothered by an alias but it does embarrass the person using it when they slip up. I would never use my correct name in the forum etc but if we're messaging with a view to meeting we give them."

Does it embarrass the person? I wouldn't know

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

If I meet someone in real life I tend to tell them my real name. I don't mind being called by my fab name (although no-one's ever used my actual username since it's a bit of a mouthful).

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

I always use my real name, including signing messages here. I like to keep this aspect of my life separate from the rest of it, but it's too much hassle trying to remember a fake name. I've never done that in any other aspect of my life and it would feel weird to start now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't use any name at all. NSA means no need to know it. plus nobody uses my name irl anyway unless it's for filling in forms.

although a few guys on here know my real name for some reason and that freaks me out because i'm sure i haven't told them it. i have got my real name on another, not well known, site. maybe they got it from there?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Does it embarrass the person? I wouldn't know

I'd forgotten about that. I mean when you meet them and they refer to themselves by their correct name, which is frequently far less exotic than their alias. Tarquin becomes Fred for instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing some would know is my real first name and yeah keep the rest separate from the nsa meets

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"i don't use any name at all. NSA means no need to know it. plus nobody uses my name irl anyway unless it's for filling in forms.

So what do meets call you? 'Affectionate'? 'Ms Bitch'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is exactly what's happened! And the fact that one gave me 2 fake names...one of which he couldn't spell! (And then I found out his real name which was far less exotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name is fairly unusual. And someone once found me on Facebook which was annoying

(Only told him my first name btw)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i don't use any name at all. NSA means no need to know it. plus nobody uses my name irl anyway unless it's for filling in forms.

So what do meets call you? 'Affectionate'? 'Ms Bitch'?

nothing really. nobody in my life calls me anything - except my kids call me mum and they're the only people who have given me any sort of name at all.

i suppose it sounds a bit sad that i have no label but i'm ok with it.

some meets call me miss though, i do like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter what someone's real name is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me either way. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stick with my profile name...

my real name is on a need to know basis, and no one needs to know

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"i don't use any name at all. NSA means no need to know it. plus nobody uses my name irl anyway unless it's for filling in forms.

So what do meets call you? 'Affectionate'? 'Ms Bitch'?

nothing really. nobody in my life calls me anything - except my kids call me mum and they're the only people who have given me any sort of name at all.

i suppose it sounds a bit sad that i have no label but i'm ok with it.

some meets call me miss though, i do like that.

Fair enough

I think I'd find it a bit strange not to call you anything if I met you in person, but I could probably cope with 'Miss'....just

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i don't use any name at all. NSA means no need to know it. plus nobody uses my name irl anyway unless it's for filling in forms.

So what do meets call you? 'Affectionate'? 'Ms Bitch'?

nothing really. nobody in my life calls me anything - except my kids call me mum and they're the only people who have given me any sort of name at all.

i suppose it sounds a bit sad that i have no label but i'm ok with it.

some meets call me miss though, i do like that.

Fair enough

I think I'd find it a bit strange not to call you anything if I met you in person, but I could probably cope with 'Miss'....just

how come? i cope easily without having a name really. don't find they are actually needed for anyone, unless you want a particular person and there's more than one person about.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We're both terrible at remembering names any way so we generally don't call people by their name. When meeting people, we'll generally just go 'oh hey! How are you?'. We're happy for people to do the same to us.

We do go by fake names, both online and in person. Swinging isn't part of our 'real life' so why should we have that string between the two?

Our swinging names are part of our persona that isn't part of our 9-5 regular life.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"i don't use any name at all. NSA means no need to know it. plus nobody uses my name irl anyway unless it's for filling in forms.

So what do meets call you? 'Affectionate'? 'Ms Bitch'?

nothing really. nobody in my life calls me anything - except my kids call me mum and they're the only people who have given me any sort of name at all.

i suppose it sounds a bit sad that i have no label but i'm ok with it.

some meets call me miss though, i do like that.

Fair enough

I think I'd find it a bit strange not to call you anything if I met you in person, but I could probably cope with 'Miss'....just

how come? i cope easily without having a name really. don't find they are actually needed for anyone, unless you want a particular person and there's more than one person about."

I suppose I'm just used to calling someone by their name (whether it's real or not, I wouldnt know). Apart from the odd situation in a club/spa type environmentenvironment, I don't think I've ever met someone without having a name to call them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i don't use any name at all. NSA means no need to know it. plus nobody uses my name irl anyway unless it's for filling in forms.

So what do meets call you? 'Affectionate'? 'Ms Bitch'?

nothing really. nobody in my life calls me anything - except my kids call me mum and they're the only people who have given me any sort of name at all.

i suppose it sounds a bit sad that i have no label but i'm ok with it.

some meets call me miss though, i do like that.

Fair enough

I think I'd find it a bit strange not to call you anything if I met you in person, but I could probably cope with 'Miss'....just

how come? i cope easily without having a name really. don't find they are actually needed for anyone, unless you want a particular person and there's more than one person about.

that makes sense. thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very first chap I ever arranged to meet off here used a made up name. We'd messaged back and forth for a week or so and I eventually decided I was brand enough. The first thing he said after a hello kiss on the cheek was "my name's not actually X its Y". This was a massive relief as I'd been trying to figure out how to ask "what's your name again, I've forgotten?"

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We obviously have fake name on her but if we are going to meet then we admit what our real names are. Don't think either of us go the whole night without slipping up if we tried to use our fab names.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Names dont really bother me.. its just a cosmetic thing.

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

I don't tell anyone what my name is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always been honest about my name, that's why it's so sexy when called out during furious love making.

- Ramesis Nibblick The Third Kerplunk Kerplunk Whoops Where's My Thribble

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I would never use a fake 'real' name IRL, and I would hope that no-one I met would, either, as that would just be dishonest. That said, I only meet people after chatting for a long time first, and I am happy for them to continue to call me 'Flirty' when we meet in person. I'll call them by their Fab name, depending what it is (another reason why I will never meet anyone called 8InchCock or PussySmasher

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm dreadful at remembering people's names so whatever they told me, I'd have forgotten 5 minutes later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My name is fairly unusual. And someone once found me on Facebook which was annoying

(Only told him my first name btw)

Someone I'd lost touch with opened a Facebook account to find me and he only knew my first name. It's not rare but it's not common either. I've only met one other person in my whole life,with the same first name as me.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I use my real name and I couldn't care less if people use an alias.

I don't really expect honesty from strangers hoping for a fuck, but then I am probably never going to see them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often do social meets on my own, and I'm now wary about what else guys could be fibbing about.

Also do you use a fake name etc?

(Just to be clear I mean fake names in R/L...online is obviously 100% acceptable!) "

I can't see the problem with it..why should it matter?

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By *ack_greenfinchMan
over a year ago

bristol

"If I meet someone in real life I tend to tell them my real name. I don't mind being called by my fab name (although no-one's ever used my actual username since it's a bit of a mouthful)."

I like your Fab name - can't remember if I've read the short story, but given that she'd described as beautiful and intelligent, it has to be a good start.

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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We agreed from the start that we use real names as it would only confuse us otherwise. We have met a few guys, girls and couples would after a few meets have then told us their real names, but it's not caused us any issue really, we still had great fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my profile its Vimes.....but from my profile name that's obvious why....if I send mail or reply to mail I use my real name. It's what people will call me by and could get confusing otherwise!

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By *uddy and hollyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Guilty as charged lol

Fake lol

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By *5happycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tooting / dept 23 France

I have a name that I use for this part of my life, have used it for many years and even before I knew that I was a swinger, a bit like a nickname I suppose. Will happily respond to that when called and feel it is very much part of my identity. Most people we have met have been happy to call me that too, especially as we may have been corresponding as that for some time.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

its pretty common on the fetish scene to have scene names. No big deal. Even my best friend, I will use her scene name at events rather than her real name. Like others have said, it's very much part of my identity. I have a variation of my real name that I also use. I don't see it as fake or deceitful. It's just me in different modes. I respond to all of those names when called.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Drag mates and audiences call me Holestar. Clients call me MiSTARess. Everyone else who meets me in real life calls me Julie.

There you go, just outed myself. Not arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On my profile its Vimes.....but from my profile name that's obvious why....if I send mail or reply to mail I use my real name. It's what people will call me by and could get confusing otherwise!"

I'd probably call you Sam and ask how Lady Sybil's dragons are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't really matter to us. Some people have told us their real names after while. Each to there own really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is really interesting and I am sure when we meet people we would give our real (first) names but it's made me think it would be more fun and a tiny bit silly to be referred to in real life meets as Mr Duck And Mrs Duck, it's like a nickname you get given at school but now get to choose your own and I/we do prefer to be a tiny bit on the silly side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always use my real name and am honest about my status. I can't say ithadever occurred to me to be any different.

Regards,

Mike, I mean John, or is it Fred? Lol

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I tell people my real name when I meet them. I'm a crap liar, hate being lied to, and have nothing to hide so why bother called myself something fake like Jean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use Jay, which is a shortened version of my name.

Privacy is important to me.

In the past few months I have had experiences of people on this site trying to google me. I have also heard of one of my female friends from the site having some guy trying to add her on facebook.

I therefore am not too judgmental of people using fake names. There are so many odd balls on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always use my real name, including signing messages here. I like to keep this aspect of my life separate from the rest of it, but it's too much hassle trying to remember a fake name. I've never done that in any other aspect of my life and it would feel weird to start now."

Totally agree, spot on. Also - swinging is nothing to be ashamed of so when we are talking to other swingers we are perfectly happy for them to call us by our real names....Mandy and Ian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My real name is Engelbert Humperdinck.....

now would you tell people the truth now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm keyser soze my secret is out.

I can crack on with my life without that burden now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I meet someone in real life I tend to tell them my real name. I don't mind being called by my fab name (although no-one's ever used my actual username since it's a bit of a mouthful)."

and what a delicious looking mouthful

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I have met plenty who only know me as hanky.... In fact 99% of them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My name is fairly unusual. And someone once found me on Facebook which was annoying

(Only told him my first name btw)

My real name is usual as we and from n .Ireland it's easy to find out on fb.

So I go by my nick name till I get to know someone

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

If anyone's going to get hung up on someone elses's choices in their privacy, discretion to a point then what else are they going to start getting hung up about

Some people consider names here as their swinging alias, simply as and nothing more than to worry about.

In relation to the OP can you imagine one've those cheeky fooking single guys complaining about a cpl keeping aspects of themselves, maybe true names private from him. Their choice, how dare they

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

My name isn't 7of9 and I am not really from the Delta quadrant

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"My name isn't 7of9 and I am not really from the Delta quadrant "

3 - got to love a geeky reference.

Anyway. Most of the bdsm scene uses a pseudonym because it's still something that can cause people to loose jobs, homes, children etc...

For me because bdsm and swinging cross over I stick with my pseudony!

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"My name isn't 7of9 and I am not really from the Delta quadrant "

Awww what??? Sigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't really matter to us. Some people have told us their real names after while. Each to there own really."

This, its only a name as long as I've goy something to call them I don't mind lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something that concerns me at all. I'm meeting them for sex not to know their life story.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Doesn't really matter to us. Some people have told us their real names after while. Each to there own really.

This, its only a name as long as I've goy something to call them I don't mind lol. "

Howdy Juicyass, number 92

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't really matter to us. Some people have told us their real names after while. Each to there own really.

This, its only a name as long as I've goy something to call them I don't mind lol.

Howdy Juicyass, number 92

Catchy isn't it, Josie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't really matter to us. Some people have told us their real names after while. Each to there own really.

This, its only a name as long as I've goy something to call them I don't mind lol.

Howdy Juicyass, number 92

Catchy isn't it, Josie?

I have various names for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't really matter to us. Some people have told us their real names after while. Each to there own really.

This, its only a name as long as I've goy something to call them I don't mind lol.

Howdy Juicyass, number 92

Catchy isn't it, Josie?

I have various names for you!

Ha! All bloody abusive ones I bet!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We use a version of our real names. I'd never remember a pseudonym anyway.

Though Cal doesn't ever give his full real name as it is unique; he really is the only one... In the UK anyway.

Other people can use whatever name they like. As long as we know what to call them that's fine.

Nita

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