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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages. I'm polite and honest. But I get very few replies and have not had a single meeting. I'm also on another site and had a few meetings from there, I came on to here as it's more local. I'm doin nothing different on here to the other site so where am I going wrong. Any advice gratefully received.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think you're doing anything wrong you just need to persevere.

The site is worldwide almost how do you mean more local?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need to have patients here and check that you match the requirements of the people you are messaging but even then it not guaranteed.I'm running out of women in my area but not giving up hope neither should you

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages"

There's your problem, right there. Or a big part, at least.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm messaging people in a40 mile radius of where I am. The other site I am on has very few people local to me. I have travelled up to 100 miles for meetings. Just wanted to stay a bit closer to home. But having no luck on this site.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages. I'm polite and honest. But I get very few replies and have not had a single meeting. I'm also on another site and had a few meetings from there, I came on to here as it's more local. I'm doin nothing different on here to the other site so where am I going wrong. Any advice gratefully received.

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time, patience, basic common sense....

is 7 weeks really giving it time...

is 7 weeks really showing a lot of patience.....

and as for the basic common sense part... well you spent twice as many words on your post, than you have on your shop window to the world where you could be telling people why they shouls be meeting you of anyone else....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all boils down to the ratio of single men to women etc.You are in the huge majority and one of tens of thousands of men trying to get a reply.If its not for you maybe stick with the other site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could be being local is what puts people off also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and your married which a lot will see as cheating and not swinging so you will struggle.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

You come across as desperate to meet (messaging hundreds of people !!!).

Your status says need a meet bad .

Your just here to try and get a secret shag behind your wife's back .

This is why you have had no luck.

I would suggest that you rethink your profile and be creative otherwise your profile will never have that green tick .

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"You come across as desperate to meet (messaging hundreds of people !!!).

Your status says need a meet bad .

Your just here to try and get a secret shag behind your wife's back .

This is why you have had no luck.

I would suggest that you rethink your profile and be creative otherwise your profile will never have that green tick . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep your chin up, guys more than out number the women so try and stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your replies I shall keep with it for another couple of weeks and see how I get on...

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

One big sticking point you will come across is the suggestion that you might be married and playing away from home... This is not appealing to most on here. ( not all, but most)

Whilst there is nothing in itself wrong with a floral bedspread and purple curtains, or indeed the mirrored trinket box adorning your dressing table below the mirror in which you photograph yourself... However you might find that a lot of folk will assume that room has a 'ladies touch' and thusly assume the presence of a woman in your life.

Just saying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham


"I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages. I'm polite and honest. But I get very few replies and have not had a single meeting. I'm also on another site and had a few meetings from there, I came on to here as it's more local. I'm doin nothing different on here to the other site so where am I going wrong. Any advice gratefully received.

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hi mate I been here a while to come off for a bit and back now and its harder for single man

one thing I did when I started was visit clubs that way people off the site see you get chatting and it all goes from there

last time I was not getting replys so started club meets and wow it was good met a lady at club and had lots of meets since even used to get party invites because I am easy to talk to and fun and really go for it so try that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your married....your male...your wife doent know...i gather......welcome to my world my friend.....just learn to roll with the punches.....there will be a few as i have found out....good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the profile needs more detail personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me a year to meet someone suitable. Just keep at it it will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your married....your male...your wife doent know...i gather......welcome to my world my friend.....just learn to roll with the punches.....there will be a few as i have found out....good luck"

I have come to this thread a bit late but can't see any mention of the OP being married - I assume it was on his profile?

OP - if you are married how are you expecting to accommodate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your married....your male...your wife doent know...i gather......welcome to my world my friend.....just learn to roll with the punches.....there will be a few as i have found out....good luck

I have come to this thread a bit late but can't see any mention of the OP being married - I assume it was on his profile?

OP - if you are married how are you expecting to accommodate?"

yeah it was on his profile, i never noticed until someone mentioned it. he's taken it off now.

i was gonna advise him to put it back on but some people get shit for being married and cheating on here and it's his profile so up to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I have come to this thread a bit late but can't see any mention of the OP being married - I assume it was on his profile?

OP - if you are married how are you expecting to accommodate?"

My wife works away she can be out of the country for up to a month at a time... That is how I can accommodate!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I have come to this thread a bit late but can't see any mention of the OP being married - I assume it was on his profile?

OP - if you are married how are you expecting to accommodate?

My wife works away she can be out of the country for up to a month at a time... That is how I can accommodate!!!"

That's nice. Would it be wrong of me to assume that she does not know that you have sex in her bed with other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages. I'm polite and honest. But I get very few replies and have not had a single meeting. I'm also on another site and had a few meetings from there, I came on to here as it's more local. I'm doin nothing different on here to the other site so where am I going wrong. Any advice gratefully received."

The poor photos aren't helping. If you meet people from another site get them to take some photos and dump the awful selfies. Some of the guys you are competing against take a lot of time and trouble with their profiles and photos. Yours are poor so you will struggle.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages

There's your problem, right there. Or a big part, at least."

Most ladies prefer to receive messages from guys who have read their profiles, consider that they are what the lady is looking for and then have written a message indicating why the gent would like to meet that particular lady. For example mentioning a similar interest or something from the profile.

Knowing that your messages cannot possibly be individually written, would said lady like to meet and potentially have sex with someone who wants to shag anyone considered local ????

Try a new , more personal approach. Send messages to fewer, better selected ladies !

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

You're married....that cuts down the number of potential meets massively. That's your choice but be aware the impact it has on finding meets. Every woman I know on here won't meet attached men,so even if you had tje most amazingly written profile ,fantastic pics (I'm not judging,I've not looking,just as an example)you were perfect age,height etc none if us would consider you x

Just be patient,someone looking for you will come along
"I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages. I'm polite and honest. But I get very few replies and have not had a single meeting. I'm also on another site and had a few meetings from there, I came on to here as it's more local. I'm doin nothing different on here to the other site so where am I going wrong. Any advice gratefully received."

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"You come across as desperate to meet (messaging hundreds of people !!!).

Your status says need a meet bad .

Your just here to try and get a secret shag behind your wife's back .

This is why you have had no luck.

I would suggest that you rethink your profile and be creative otherwise your profile will never have that green tick . "

So lie basically

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A sensible person would do 'due diligence' on a person they thought they might have sex with.....this includes having a peek at the persons green arrow which will reveal that where once it was announced he was married, he no longer is, (apparently):

Be honest and be patient. If what you're doing isn't working, do something different but don't lie deliberately or by omission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on fab for several weeks and sent literally hundreds of messages"

Have you *really* been compatible with all the hundreds of people you messaged? Every single one of them? Did you read each profile carefully and write a tailored message to them that wasn't cut and paste from anywhere else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id sort your photos out. people are unlikey to reply to profiles with poor pics

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