FabSwingers.com forum: Messages read

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I first joined fab my profile wasn't up to scratch, neither were the messages I sent. As a result most messages were deleted. Having worked on both message content and profile I have now had lots of messages read and not deleted! My question is this - if someone has read and not deleted my message, should I say hello again, assuming that they are interested a little bit? Or leave it till they reply, risking them forgetting about me? Just wondering really? Thanks.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I'd give it a good few days then message again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just our personal opinion and don't mean it to sound harsh but we generally reply instantly if we are at all interested or mark unread for a message later, read with no reply is generally considered a no and anymore messages after that would come across as desperation to us.

Generally speaking best way is send a message and forget about it, don't stress chasing and find yourself getting frustrated.

M&M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the majority of people read and reply instantly but some do take a few days before replying

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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I would give it a few days as sometimes even if we were interested, it can take time to respond. We may have looked at the message quickly in a coffee shop on the mobile while out and plan to reply later on the laptop. Also with a combination of kids, work and receiving lots of messages it can take time to get on top of things.

Personally we would not mind getting a second polite message, but everyone is different. Hope that all makes sense

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By *reenEyedWifeCouple
over a year ago

Market Harborough

I frequently mark messages that I don't have time to respond to as "unread" so they stay bright yellow in my inbox. I am sure that's frustrating to some who see I have been online and assume I am "ignoring" them - when I'm actually just waiting until I either have time, or am in the mood, to respond properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined fab my profile wasn't up to scratch, neither were the messages I sent. As a result most messages were deleted. Having worked on both message content and profile I have now had lots of messages read and not deleted! My question is this - if someone has read and not deleted my message, should I say hello again, assuming that they are interested a little bit? Or leave it till they reply, risking them forgetting about me? Just wondering really? Thanks."

Don't bother messaging again if they want to talk to you they will let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally view there profile before reading the message and if I don't like them I don't read it. Sometimes I'm nosey and want to see what they write even though I've no intention of replying regardless to what they say.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We tend to reply instantly or at the end of the day when we can look together. We then tend to do a mass delete at the end of the week. we only delete those that are not in our preferances or no pic. I would not re send a message if they have not replied within a day or so after reading it.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

If I am going to reply I do so instantly or mark the message unread and reply later.

If the message has been read and not answered then I have no interest in the sender, same as if I delete them either read or unread.... I look at profiles before opening mail, if I don't like the profile I don't bother with the message.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Yes try again ....Some days I get sooooo many messages ..... too many to reply to ....so keep trying .... eventually you will get a reply .... there are some nice ladies out there

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Depending on our mood, it can take us a few days to get around to replying. If a profile really grabs our attention then we'll usually reply right away. If we're going to delete then we might on it in a bulk go every few months.

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

Don't obsess about the state of your sent items. You will never know what read-and-not-deleted means, as everyone reacts to messages differently. Assume that no reply means no interest, and continue your search. That way, if you do get a reply a week or more later, it will come as a pleasant surprise.

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