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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why is so hard to get a meet on here ? put on my own profile 3 months ago and still can't get a meet why is this ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some questions are unanswerable and our feel yours is one of those. I would say that verifications don't guarantee meets as you're discovering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

idk coz women are too fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it seems so but still shouldn't be that hard to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could say you're at an advantage over the average single guy here as you have a swinging partner so you can fall back on couples meets for your NSA fun between arranging lone meets.

Despite being married and in a swinging couple if you're looking to meet in your own then you essentially join the ranks of all the other single men looking so need to ensure you stand out above all the others.

It's tough for us all. Good luck in your search and I hope you find what you're looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because now you're just another single male, no shortage of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the million dollar question!

As a single man you join the ranks of 1000's of others.

Some people may not wish to play with married men even with their wife's consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a good question but I am afraid I don't have a good answer, why do some people seam to get lots of meets and other get none, is it they looks or personality or both, who knows.

Sometimes I think it's just luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question: are you looking for for random sex with someone who you don't know?

Fab, to a lot of people is the social side of swinging and NSA, which helps people find like-minded people. Fab seems to really help people meet other people.

Fab doesn't seem to be quite as useful for those trying to bypass the social side of things.

The common advice for people wanting to bypass the social side and have random sex is to go to a club.

But seemingly even clubs have a social element.

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a good question but I am afraid I don't have a good answer, why do some people seam to get lots of meets and other get none, is it they looks or personality or both, who knows.

Sometimes I think it's just luck"

how would you know their personality from a pic on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people. "

Most guys think though that because females are on a sex site they will fuck just anyone, just like most guys will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question: are you looking for for random sex with someone who you don't know?

Fab, to a lot of people is the social side of swinging and NSA, which helps people find like-minded people. Fab seems to really help people meet other people.

what I seek is all in my own profile

Fab doesn't seem to be quite as useful for those trying to bypass the social side of things.

The common advice for people wanting to bypass the social side and have random sex is to go to a club.

But seemingly even clubs have a social element.

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it seems so but still shouldn't be that hard to get a meet "

Why?

The answer to your question is that the people you have contacted don't want to fuck you. How is that the site's fault?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people.

Most guys think though that because females are on a sex site they will fuck just anyone, just like most guys will"

well I know different just like some men won't just fuck anything some of us like to form a bond with the ladies and not just any ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it seems so but still shouldn't be that hard to get a meet

Why?

The answer to your question is that the people you have contacted don't want to fuck you. How is that the site's fault? "

so correct me if you will so I take it that I'm unattractive to the whole site of fab ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a good question but I am afraid I don't have a good answer, why do some people seam to get lots of meets and other get none, is it they looks or personality or both, who knows.

Sometimes I think it's just luck

how would you know their personality from a pic on here ? "

Well I was thinking you would have talk to them before meeting, I have talk to a few that in the end I never had a meeting with, so I guess I never clicked with them

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

There is a pecking order on the site

Unicorns (single bi young females)

Females

Couples

Single men

Single men (married)

I was thinking of changing my profile to a single female. I would get a lot more offers of meets but I would never turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it seems so but still shouldn't be that hard to get a meet

Why?

The answer to your question is that the people you have contacted don't want to fuck you. How is that the site's fault?

so correct me if you will so I take it that I'm unattractive to the whole site of fab ? "

I don't think you're unattractive, so no, not the whole site. It also doesn't mean the people you contacted find you unattractive- just that for some reason they don't want to fuck you.

Perhaps they are chatting to many others and can't fit you in so don't reply. Perhaps they fancy the arse off you but you're too far away or they don't meet attached guys (even if they have permission).

I'm shit at explaining what I mean. But don't take their rejection personally. I know it can be really crap and get you down. Any human with emotions would be the same.

Chin up. x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"Question: are you looking for for random sex with someone who you don't know?

Fab, to a lot of people is the social side of swinging and NSA, which helps people find like-minded people. Fab seems to really help people meet other people.

Fab doesn't seem to be quite as useful for those trying to bypass the social side of things.

The common advice for people wanting to bypass the social side and have random sex is to go to a club.

But seemingly even clubs have a social element.

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a pecking order on the site

Unicorns (single bi young females)

Females

Couples

Single men

Single men (married)

I was thinking of changing my profile to a single female. I would get a lot more offers of meets but I would never turn up "

lol think I have been mailing your fake lady for the last week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a pecking order on the site

Unicorns (single bi young females)

Females

Couples

Single men

Single men (married)

I was thinking of changing my profile to a single female. I would get a lot more offers of meets but I would never turn up "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people.

Most guys think though that because females are on a sex site they will fuck just anyone, just like most guys will

well I know different just like some men won't just fuck anything some of us like to form a bond with the ladies and not just any ladies "

Only going on my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be sexually appealing to the woman that look at your profile , maybe she just hasn't seen you yet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to get conversation out of most people on here. Even tried offering a social first still get no luck. Just gotta wait and hope someone takes the chance to meet me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people.

Most guys think though that because females are on a sex site they will fuck just anyone, just like most guys will

well I know different just like some men won't just fuck anything some of us like to form a bond with the ladies and not just any ladies "

Cool. But you asked about a problem getting a meet. You should be asking the ladies who you have already formed a bond with.

It sounded like you were just trying to find someone to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a pecking order on the site

Unicorns (single bi young females)

Females

Couples

Single men

Single men (married)

I was thinking of changing my profile to a single female. I would get a lot more offers of meets but I would never turn up "

I think married man are lower then that from what been said to me a cockroach comes above them

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a pecking order on the site

Unicorns (single bi young females)

Females

Couples

Single men

Single men (married)

I was thinking of changing my profile to a single female. I would get a lot more offers of meets but I would never turn up "

so why create a false profile hard as it is I still like to think that our profile is as honest as it can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people.

Most guys think though that because females are on a sex site they will fuck just anyone, just like most guys will

not at all mate I like the whole shboom partying and socialising and then fun

well I know different just like some men won't just fuck anything some of us like to form a bond with the ladies and not just any ladies

Cool. But you asked about a problem getting a meet. You should be asking the ladies who you have already formed a bond with.

It sounded like you were just trying to find someone to fuck. "

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about."

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about."

I think the posters that said you have to be the right person in the right area is spot on, just have to keep going and if noting else you may make some good friends, I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet."

I am not saying it does entitle me to a meet it doesn't for anyone , all I am saying I didn't think our of the thousands of people on this site that I would be that hard to find a compatible match from both sides

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of putting up posts asking a question that really cant be answered, maybe spend the time messaging the people you havent messaged before, that person your looking for could be in amongst the people you havent messaged yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet.

I am not saying it does entitle me to a meet it doesn't for anyone , all I am saying I didn't think our of the thousands of people on this site that I would be that hard to find a compatible match from both sides"

it's really hard. i think that's why i'm so popular, not out of being so sexy but the fact that guys are desperate.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Great profile, good looking guy, the world is your oyster, go for it!

Is that what you want to hear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet.

I am not saying it does entitle me to a meet it doesn't for anyone , all I am saying I didn't think our of the thousands of people on this site that I would be that hard to find a compatible match from both sides

it's really hard. i think that's why i'm so popular, not out of being so sexy but the fact that guys are desperate. "

like your reply but not in an offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great profile, good looking guy, the world is your oyster, go for it!

Is that what you want to hear?"

not exactly mate I don't praise i'd just like to meet and get to know like minded people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a pecking order on the site

Unicorns (single bi young females)

Females

Couples

Single men

Single men (married)

"

I've not found that to be true. But it's a very convenient excuse.

The females and couples DO meet men. Just not necessarily any man just because they have a cock and this is a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet.

I am not saying it does entitle me to a meet it doesn't for anyone , all I am saying I didn't think our of the thousands of people on this site that I would be that hard to find a compatible match from both sides

it's really hard. i think that's why i'm so popular, not out of being so sexy but the fact that guys are desperate.

like your reply but not in an offensive "

i'm not even that fussy i reckon but i still struggle to find anyone i click with on here, or that even makes me feel interested in them.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet.

I am not saying it does entitle me to a meet it doesn't for anyone , all I am saying I didn't think our of the thousands of people on this site that I would be that hard to find a compatible match from both sides"

I didn't say you did, I quoted someone else.

There are a lot of factors - attraction, location, availability etc. Patience is key. Have you got along to socials and clubs, or are you relying solely on messages back and forth?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet."

Bigger I knew when I writing that comment, that someone would pick up on that point but I'm universally attractive so they would naturally want me!

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"There is a pecking order on the site

Unicorns (single bi young females)

Females

Couples

Single men

Single men (married)

I've not found that to be true. But it's a very convenient excuse.

The females and couples DO meet men. Just not necessarily any man just because they have a cock and this is a sex site. "
who are the most sought after on this site? Who are the least sought after?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet.

I am not saying it does entitle me to a meet it doesn't for anyone , all I am saying I didn't think our of the thousands of people on this site that I would be that hard to find a compatible match from both sides

it's really hard. i think that's why i'm so popular, not out of being so sexy but the fact that guys are desperate.

like your reply but not in an offensive

i'm not even that fussy i reckon but i still struggle to find anyone i click with on here, or that even makes me feel interested in them."

have you given them a chance to click with you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married. "
is that maybe cos you want more from this site ? everyone has that right to choose whom they meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married. "

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its funny in some ways i refuse to budge from what im looking for and expect yet my preferences are also very simple. Works bloody perfectly for me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I've been on here 7 months (this time around) and I've only had 1 social meet.

I'm always polite, friendly and patient.

What surprises me is, the number of females and couples complaining about time wasters and rude men, when, if they arrange to meet someone like me they'd have nothing to moan about.

You're missing the point. They need to be attracted to you, just like you do them. Just because you're not a timewaster doesn't mean you're entitled to a meet.

I am not saying it does entitle me to a meet it doesn't for anyone , all I am saying I didn't think our of the thousands of people on this site that I would be that hard to find a compatible match from both sides

it's really hard. i think that's why i'm so popular, not out of being so sexy but the fact that guys are desperate. "
do you really believe that apart from the guy who messaged me yesterday noone has ever given me the impression theyve messaged me out of desperation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always thought part of the frustrations that arise is due to the fact that there aren't actually that many people who use this site. It's not like pof, or tinder - there just aren't the millions of users that you'd need for everyone, of every age, living everywhere, to all be able to find all the meets they want.

30,000 ish online at any one time, at the most? I don't really find it that surprising that people can't always find people they're interested in who are also interested in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it"

this is your prerogative ,are you searching for something more perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it

this is your prerogative ,are you searching for something more perhaps "

Not at all i wouldnt want a relationship with a swinger, ijudt mean why would someone go out their way to meet a married man when there are single guys available

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"yes it seems so but still shouldn't be that hard to get a meet

Why?

The answer to your question is that the people you have contacted don't want to fuck you. How is that the site's fault? "

Oh don't be ridiculous! You know full well it is our duty to fuck any man that asks, or didn’t you get that memo?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"who are the most sought after on this site? Who are the least sought after?"

You're asking the wrong question. It's not whose most or least sought after, but who is least available.

I would suggest that the number of meets involving men is higher than single bi females who play with both people in a MF couple. So rare in fact they are called Unicorns.

The name Unicorns comedy from their availability, not the demand.

The pecking order as you put it is wrong. Just that the demand for men, while high, is far lower than the supply.

Just look at the verifications of the people you like: see all the men they have met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it

this is your prerogative ,are you searching for something more perhaps "

I've seen you suggest this twice now. Are you inferring that single woman who won't meet married man are actually looking for relationships??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it seems so but still shouldn't be that hard to get a meet

Why?

The answer to your question is that the people you have contacted don't want to fuck you. How is that the site's fault?

Oh don't be ridiculous! You know full well it is our duty to fuck any man that asks, or didn’t you get that memo?!! "
only joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it seems so but still shouldn't be that hard to get a meet

Why?

The answer to your question is that the people you have contacted don't want to fuck you. How is that the site's fault?

Oh don't be ridiculous! You know full well it is our duty to fuck any man that asks, or didn’t you get that memo?!! "

Well I didn't get it, no one tells me anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it

this is your prerogative ,are you searching for something more perhaps

I've seen you suggest this twice now. Are you inferring that single woman who won't meet married man are actually looking for relationships?? "

not exactly no depending how this is viewed I guess whether is through morals that you as an individual doesn't play with married men or whether you see meeting married as some obstruction in meeting someone long term lots of points of view on this only you know the real reasons for your choice and this is right to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married. is that maybe cos you want more from this site ? everyone has that right to choose whom they meet "

Sorry but I didn't understand this? No I'm most definitely not looking for more but if I were meeting guys (which I don't I already have one) I wouldn't pick a married one. For the simple reason I wouldn't want to get involved in a potential problem with his wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it

this is your prerogative ,are you searching for something more perhaps

I've seen you suggest this twice now. Are you inferring that single woman who won't meet married man are actually looking for relationships??

not exactly no depending how this is viewed I guess whether is through morals that you as an individual doesn't play with married men or whether you see meeting married as some obstruction in meeting someone long term lots of points of view on this only you know the real reasons for your choice and this is right to do so "

I have been single and played with single guys before. I wasn't looking for a relationship and I would not knowingly choose to sleep with a married man. Nothing to do with my morals or wanting anything else.

Either he's lying about having permission and therefore it could go horribly wrong with me in the firing line or he's telling the truth and he has permission but all sorts of issues could arise later down the line.

And why would I pick married when there are hundreds of single men that aren't restricted on meeting times or availability.

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over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married. is that maybe cos you want more from this site ? everyone has that right to choose whom they meet

Sorry but I didn't understand this? No I'm most definitely not looking for more but if I were meeting guys (which I don't I already have one) I wouldn't pick a married one. For the simple reason I wouldn't want to get involved in a potential problem with his wife.

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so you have a partner ? can't see where the potential problem from wife would come from, this is a joint agreement between us to play separately as well as Cpl

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over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it

this is your prerogative ,are you searching for something more perhaps

I've seen you suggest this twice now. Are you inferring that single woman who won't meet married man are actually looking for relationships??

not exactly no depending how this is viewed I guess whether is through morals that you as an individual doesn't play with married men or whether you see meeting married as some obstruction in meeting someone long term lots of points of view on this only you know the real reasons for your choice and this is right to do so "

You are correct there are lots of points of view. My perception of what you said is inferring single woman in here are looking for more than just nsa, whilst some may be the majority are not. They just choose not to get involved with married men when there is plenty of single guys with no strings or comeback on them via jealousy etc.

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over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married. is that maybe cos you want more from this site ? everyone has that right to choose whom they meet

Sorry but I didn't understand this? No I'm most definitely not looking for more but if I were meeting guys (which I don't I already have one) I wouldn't pick a married one. For the simple reason I wouldn't want to get involved in a potential problem with his wife.

so you have a partner ? can't see where the potential problem from wife would come from, this is a joint agreement between us to play separately as well as Cpl "

Some people are happy with that others aren't - you asked why you weren't getting anywhere so I gave you my opinion.

Some people will never be happy with that dynamic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it

this is your prerogative ,are you searching for something more perhaps

I've seen you suggest this twice now. Are you inferring that single woman who won't meet married man are actually looking for relationships??

not exactly no depending how this is viewed I guess whether is through morals that you as an individual doesn't play with married men or whether you see meeting married as some obstruction in meeting someone long term lots of points of view on this only you know the real reasons for your choice and this is right to do so

I have been single and played with single guys before. I wasn't looking for a relationship and I would not knowingly choose to sleep with a married man. Nothing to do with my morals or wanting anything else.

Either he's lying about having permission and therefore it could go horribly wrong with me in the firing line or he's telling the truth and he has permission but all sorts of issues could arise later down the line.

And why would I pick married when there are hundreds of single men that aren't restricted on meeting times or availability. "

the profile is all put in truth and there will be no problem arise on our part now or anytime in the future , the choice for which you not to meet married men known or not known is currently your choice which everyone on this site as the right over, not sure tho on how many single men they are on here we have come across a lot of men who are either married or attached who want to meet the wife but the give away is they can't accom just saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married. is that maybe cos you want more from this site ? everyone has that right to choose whom they meet

Sorry but I didn't understand this? No I'm most definitely not looking for more but if I were meeting guys (which I don't I already have one) I wouldn't pick a married one. For the simple reason I wouldn't want to get involved in a potential problem with his wife.

so you have a partner ? can't see where the potential problem from wife would come from, this is a joint agreement between us to play separately as well as Cpl

Some people are happy with that others aren't - you asked why you weren't getting anywhere so I gave you my opinion.

Some people will never be happy with that dynamic"

totally understand what saying again it comes down to individual choice

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Every day i see this kind of post some one bitching about not getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many of the single guys on here do you think are married really, a few I would think,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How many of the single guys on here do you think are married really, a few I would think,"

more than a few I think probably a least 60% of men on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every day i see this kind of post some one bitching about not getting meets "

wouldn't say bitch just asking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it"

That's how I view it too.

I'm not interested in meeting one half of a couple from here. I can't explain it fully, I'm just not keen on the dynamics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many of the single guys on here do you think are married really, a few I would think,

more than a few I think probably a least 60% of men on here "

i dont think its anywhere near 60%....as you say, a cant accom is a pretty good guideline, and single men that put that are way less than 60%...there are plenty of reasons to not be able to accom, but as a rough guideline its useful...as said above,plenty of women looking for nsa would perfeer single to married if just meeting 1 on 1...much simpler all round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe cos your married? Permission or not if I was looking for guys I would choose one that's not married.

Yeah this ive had married guys ask me to meet them outwith there couples profile, but there are 1000s of single guys to choose from so why would i choose another womens man.. thats kind of how i see it"

same here. i can do without the hassle of having to chat to someones wife for the guy to have permission to fuck me...

it's even on my profile that i'm not interested in married/attached guys. yet they still message for meets, while complimenting said profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ? "

In married and get plenty of meets

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ?

In married and get plenty of meets "

so does my wife a lot easier for a married woman to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because women are holding all the cards, the men basically have to wait their turn lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ?

In married and get plenty of meets "

I have come across a couple that wouldn't even talk to me because I am married, which is up to them, but on there profile the day before they had meet with a married lady, just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they are lucky enough to get in the queue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if they are lucky enough to get in the queue lol "
That is right as well lol.

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By *issy NickersWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't understand all of this thread - this is a swingers sex site not a straight sex site. To me, there are lots of differences e.g. We have lots of lovely clubs to go to, lots of swingers want multiple play not just mf, there are lots of people arranging parties. Why don't you go to clubs or get into the party scene and meet people instead or arranging one on one fab meets? You'd probably have much more fun & meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ?

In married and get plenty of meets

I have come across a couple that wouldn't even talk to me because I am married, which is up to them, but on there profile the day before they had meet with a married lady, just saying"

double standards comes to mind lol cos women whether they are married on not will come first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand all of this thread - this is a swingers sex site not a straight sex site. To me, there are lots of differences e.g. We have lots of lovely clubs to go to, lots of swingers want multiple play not just mf, there are lots of people arranging parties. Why don't you go to clubs or get into the party scene and meet people instead or arranging one on one fab meets? You'd probably have much more fun & meet people "

most guys wanna get a fuck with the least amount of effort possible.

married guys have even less time to invest in this stuff also i'm guessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry about it iv been on for 4months and nothing but im not bothered if i meet brill if i dont then i dont... always got a right hand lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand all of this thread - this is a swingers sex site not a straight sex site. To me, there are lots of differences e.g. We have lots of lovely clubs to go to, lots of swingers want multiple play not just mf, there are lots of people arranging parties. Why don't you go to clubs or get into the party scene and meet people instead or arranging one on one fab meets? You'd probably have much more fun & meet people

most guys wanna get a fuck with the least amount of effort possible.

married guys have even less time to invest in this stuff also i'm guessing."

we do invest we just seem to get more knockbacks than frank Bruno so we can become demoralised a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ?

In married and get plenty of meets

I have come across a couple that wouldn't even talk to me because I am married, which is up to them, but on there profile the day before they had meet with a married lady, just saying

double standards comes to mind lol cos women whether they are married on not will come first "

I do like to cum first....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand all of this thread - this is a swingers sex site not a straight sex site. To me, there are lots of differences e.g. We have lots of lovely clubs to go to, lots of swingers want multiple play not just mf, there are lots of people arranging parties. Why don't you go to clubs or get into the party scene and meet people instead or arranging one on one fab meets? You'd probably have much more fun & meet people

most guys wanna get a fuck with the least amount of effort possible.

married guys have even less time to invest in this stuff also i'm guessing.

we do invest we just seem to get more knockbacks than frank Bruno so we can become demoralised a bit "

never say all guys, just most guys seem to do this.

my profile is very specific now, very, so i opened all my filters (incuding age) because what i want is more important than who i want it with.

i've had loads of messages, most of them have not read my profile and the ones who said they have are looking for the same as me they say, yet i look at their profile and they have the opposite of what i'm looking for on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ?

In married and get plenty of meets

I have come across a couple that wouldn't even talk to me because I am married, which is up to them, but on there profile the day before they had meet with a married lady, just saying

double standards comes to mind lol cos women whether they are married on not will come first

I do like to cum first...."

You would have to be quick with me then, I don't take long lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand all of this thread - this is a swingers sex site not a straight sex site. To me, there are lots of differences e.g. We have lots of lovely clubs to go to, lots of swingers want multiple play not just mf, there are lots of people arranging parties. Why don't you go to clubs or get into the party scene and meet people instead or arranging one on one fab meets? You'd probably have much more fun & meet people

most guys wanna get a fuck with the least amount of effort possible.

married guys have even less time to invest in this stuff also i'm guessing.

we do invest we just seem to get more knockbacks than frank Bruno so we can become demoralised a bit

never say all guys, just most guys seem to do this.

my profile is very specific now, very, so i opened all my filters (incuding age) because what i want is more important than who i want it with.

i've had loads of messages, most of them have not read my profile and the ones who said they have are looking for the same as me they say, yet i look at their profile and they have the opposite of what i'm looking for on their profile. "

think that's down to who is like a politician as to which lies are believed the most my profile is as it says on the tin and that's the way I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My personal experience is that fab works brilliantly when you put the effort in and get to know people.

Most guys think though that because females are on a sex site they will fuck just anyone, just like most guys will"

so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand all of this thread - this is a swingers sex site not a straight sex site. To me, there are lots of differences e.g. We have lots of lovely clubs to go to, lots of swingers want multiple play not just mf, there are lots of people arranging parties. Why don't you go to clubs or get into the party scene and meet people instead or arranging one on one fab meets? You'd probably have much more fun & meet people

most guys wanna get a fuck with the least amount of effort possible.

married guys have even less time to invest in this stuff also i'm guessing.

we do invest we just seem to get more knockbacks than frank Bruno so we can become demoralised a bit

never say all guys, just most guys seem to do this.

my profile is very specific now, very, so i opened all my filters (incuding age) because what i want is more important than who i want it with.

i've had loads of messages, most of them have not read my profile and the ones who said they have are looking for the same as me they say, yet i look at their profile and they have the opposite of what i'm looking for on their profile.

think that's down to who is like a politician as to which lies are believed the most my profile is as it says on the tin and that's the way I am "

yeah. they could be copy and pasting to anyone and everyone also.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Ok my take on this as I single girl (that would be open to a relationship if the right person came along) is married men are off limits for anything more than fun because they have a wife, that is obvious. So if it's just for fun I'm going to take the more shallow approach of going for physical attributes I find attractive from a married guy, his personality is of little consequence I'm not going to love him I'm going to fuck him.

However given the choice of a married man (even one with consent) over a genuine single guy I would go with the single guy. While I'm sure there may be exceptions on both sides, single guys tend to be more flexible and have more free time to make a full night of things, where the married guy usually has to be home in time for bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no true, so hows is a married suppose to get a meet on here ? or is it this site is just a waste of time ?

In married and get plenty of meets

I have come across a couple that wouldn't even talk to me because I am married, which is up to them, but on there profile the day before they had meet with a married lady, just saying

double standards comes to mind lol cos women whether they are married on not will come first

I do like to cum first....

You would have to be quick with me then, I don't take long lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are married, each with our own profile as well, so that we can meet as a couple or as a single male/female. It works for us, because we take the time to be honest and up front.

Is it hard? Of course. Most people only. Want a woman, or maybe a couple. Gav was lucky last Friday and went out to xtasia and met a couple and had some fun, on his own. He's there again this Friday and we both don't think he will have that much luck this time! But we are both honest, and up front, and that means it both works for us and works for other people.

You just have to have faith and trust. C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet people socislly. Of course it's down to attraction. If i like the look I will meet. I didn't used to but I've learned over time doing a social I'm treated better. One guy came to mine for coffee and was letching on me everytime I turned around. It put me off. I said no 3 times then asked him to leave x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok my take on this as I single girl (that would be open to a relationship if the right person came along) is married men are off limits for anything more than fun because they have a wife, that is obvious. So if it's just for fun I'm going to take the more shallow approach of going for physical attributes I find attractive from a married guy, his personality is of little consequence I'm not going to love him I'm going to fuck him.

However given the choice of a married man (even one with consent) over a genuine single guy I would go with the single guy. While I'm sure there may be exceptions on both sides, single guys tend to be more flexible and have more free time to make a full night of things, where the married guy usually has to be home in time for bed "

Why would a married bloke with permission need to be home at a particular time?

I think the thing of signing up to a swingers site but wanting to avoid married people is an oxymoron.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

There are more than enough single men to choose from so why bother with a married man who could potentially be even the teensiest weensiest bit of a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are more than enough single men to choose from so why bother with a married man who could potentially be even the teensiest weensiest bit of a problem"

Doesn't bother me who you choose - point I was making is that if you want to avoid married people, signing up to a swingers site don't seem the way to go.

As for avoiding problems - I haven't a clue how many of the people we've played with at clubs are married - it's not something we ask.

I'd guess the ones who want to hide it ain't likely to admit to being married on their profiles.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"There are more than enough single men to choose from so why bother with a married man who could potentially be even the teensiest weensiest bit of a problem

Doesn't bother me who you choose - point I was making is that if you want to avoid married people, signing up to a swingers site don't seem the way to go.

As for avoiding problems - I haven't a clue how many of the people we've played with at clubs are married - it's not something we ask.

I'd guess the ones who want to hide it ain't likely to admit to being married on their profiles."

My comment is in response to the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My comment is in response to the OP"

Talk to the hand etc.

apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're nothing special

That translates into more effort for less return

Can't put it any simpler than that

That's not being rude or bitchy, just honest

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Ok my take on this as I single girl (that would be open to a relationship if the right person came along) is married men are off limits for anything more than fun because they have a wife, that is obvious. So if it's just for fun I'm going to take the more shallow approach of going for physical attributes I find attractive from a married guy, his personality is of little consequence I'm not going to love him I'm going to fuck him.

However given the choice of a married man (even one with consent) over a genuine single guy I would go with the single guy. While I'm sure there may be exceptions on both sides, single guys tend to be more flexible and have more free time to make a full night of things, where the married guy usually has to be home in time for bed

Why would a married bloke with permission need to be home at a particular time?

I think the thing of signing up to a swingers site but wanting to avoid married people is an oxymoron."

Because the wife doesn't allow over night stays it is a rule some couples enforce. I've even discussed this issue with the OP privately and by his own admission when I would be free on the weekend (as a parent whose children stay at their dads then, a regular arrangement many co parenting women have) he's generally not free to meet then the weekends are considered family time

And I have a verification from a married man so I don't avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because the wife doesn't allow over night stays it is a rule some couples enforce. I've even discussed this issue with the OP privately and by his own admission when I would be free on the weekend (as a parent whose children stay at their dads then, a regular arrangement many co parenting women have) he's generally not free to meet then the weekends are considered family time

And I have a verification from a married man so I don't avoid them. "

We don't do overnight stays (that would seem weird), but we don't have a bedtime because we're grown ups.

I'd find it a stretch that somebody has permission to go out & fuck other people, but they have to be in bed by midnight.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Because the wife doesn't allow over night stays it is a rule some couples enforce. I've even discussed this issue with the OP privately and by his own admission when I would be free on the weekend (as a parent whose children stay at their dads then, a regular arrangement many co parenting women have) he's generally not free to meet then the weekends are considered family time

And I have a verification from a married man so I don't avoid them.

We don't do overnight stays (that would seem weird), but we don't have a bedtime because we're grown ups.

I'd find it a stretch that somebody has permission to go out & fuck other people, but they have to be in bed by midnight."

It happens I've encountered it on a few occasions and I want all nighter meets so for me staying over is an essential part of my meets, therefore I select guys based on that's criteria, and single guys fit it easier.

Everyone has the right to use this site how they want, to match their individuals needs

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Because the wife doesn't allow over night stays it is a rule some couples enforce. I've even discussed this issue with the OP privately and by his own admission when I would be free on the weekend (as a parent whose children stay at their dads then, a regular arrangement many co parenting women have) he's generally not free to meet then the weekends are considered family time

And I have a verification from a married man so I don't avoid them.

We don't do overnight stays (that would seem weird), but we don't have a bedtime because we're grown ups.

I'd find it a stretch that somebody has permission to go out & fuck other people, but they have to be in bed by midnight.

It happens I've encountered it on a few occasions and I want all nighter meets so for me staying over is an essential part of my meets, therefore I select guys based on that's criteria, and single guys fit it easier.

Everyone has the right to use this site how they want, to match their individuals needs"

And the use of "home in time for bed" was a turn of phrase for not being able to do overnight stays which as a married man you won't do, so in your case it proves me right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said in a previous reply it doesn't bother me who you choose or how you make those choices.

My points were with regard to the contradiction of people (of which there are a few) saying they would avoid married people on a swingers site...

...though I'll bet that doesn't apply so strictly to single women..

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"As I said in a previous reply it doesn't bother me who you choose or how you make those choices.

My points were with regard to the contradiction of people (of which there are a few) saying they would avoid married people on a swingers site...

...though I'll bet that doesn't apply so strictly to single women.."

Yes I see your point but I've met and have a regular arrangement with the male half of a couple as his wife knows and trusts me (she's taking a break while they try for a baby) so I'm not really the contradiction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I said in a previous reply it doesn't bother me who you choose or how you make those choices.

My points were with regard to the contradiction of people (of which there are a few) saying they would avoid married people on a swingers site...

...though I'll bet that doesn't apply so strictly to single women..

Yes I see your point but I've met and have a regular arrangement with the male half of a couple as his wife knows and trusts me (she's taking a break while they try for a baby) so I'm not really the contradiction "

You're just getting him in shape for babymaking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because the wife doesn't allow over night stays it is a rule some couples enforce. I've even discussed this issue with the OP privately and by his own admission when I would be free on the weekend (as a parent whose children stay at their dads then, a regular arrangement many co parenting women have) he's generally not free to meet then the weekends are considered family time

And I have a verification from a married man so I don't avoid them.

We don't do overnight stays (that would seem weird), but we don't have a bedtime because we're grown ups.

I'd find it a stretch that somebody has permission to go out & fuck other people, but they have to be in bed by midnight."

Work in the morning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Work in the morning?"

If I get to spend the night out fucking the next day is an official holiday

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

There's one other factor. I mean this politely - I'm finding your posts in this thread quite hard to understand.

If the messages you're sending are similarity written, I think lots of women will be dismissing them. I am saying "if".

Some people will start saying about grammar nazis, but whether we like it or not, a woman with limited time and 40 messages to read is going to gravitate towards the better written ones in lots of cases.

I'm sure there may be a good reason why the messages are like that if they are, but it might be worth getting your wife, or someone else, to take a look at them.

Still doesn't alter the fact that your a single guy though and there are masses of them for every woman. I'm not really sure why you're surprised at the way things are

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