FabSwingers.com forum: New at attracting women and failing miserably

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have a seperate profile from my couple profile. I want to explore my bisexuality seperate from my relationship (which he is aware of) but I don't seem to have any luck at all finding or keeping interest with females. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe the Isle of Man is a small area and ladies might be loathe to make contact with someone they might know? 6 degrees of separation and all that...?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nothing wrong with your profile anyway. Maybe more photos and more about what you can offer and would like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your lack of experience puts some off but actually a woman finding another woman on her own is the most difficult meet to achieve , my friend tried for 7 months and left in the end ,I suggest when you do get chatting with a woman get a phone call in as soon as to avoid talking to a guy pretending to be a woman ,good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a seperate profile from my couple profile. I want to explore my bisexuality seperate from my relationship (which he is aware of) but I don't seem to have any luck at all finding or keeping interest with females. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong

Move to south Wales, miss is looking for bi fun on the side!!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I used to struggle with ladies and in all honesty completely gave up looking, but lately seem to be attracting a lot without even trying! - only difference in what I'm doing is I cam fairly often?

Maybe pure fluke though?? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile looks good, I might personally put in that you only meet alone on this profile as my experience suggests some women will think you will then ask to meet with your partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Cinderella - we are about - and are just as keen (desperate?) to meet other women - it just takes a bit to make it happen.

Can I suggest adding a body photo or two - we need at least a hint of what you're like to awaken the thoughts... and it just doesn't work if that initial imagination doesn't get kicked in.!

Perhaps also mention your preferred age range, and describe the sort of women that usually turns your head...

We're all full of the same insecurities when it comes to another women, and we need to feel that we'd be welcome if we try!

Good luck - I do hope that you find what or who you are looking for!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guys Thankyou so much for all your lovely ideas you have no idea how much it means to get advice . I've been on other sites and had experiences with women ..but only as a couple so definatly will adjust the profile and add some more pics...the fear of rejection stepping out in my own is overwhelming lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Maybe try a club night? You could go as a couple, so you didn't feel entirely alone, then try to find a woman who wants fun with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no idea women seeking women was so difficult. By far the easiest meet seems to be for men after men, you get offered those on a daily basis even if you're not interested in that type of thing.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry I am not Bi so I may be completely wrong here, but I wouldn't be attracted to you, you have words on your profile that don't really say that much and looks slightly aggressive, plus the lack of pics would also make me really dubious that I was speaking to an actual female who wants to meet another female, there isn't anything enticing, which as a female is what I look for in a male profile, so I would expect more from a female profile. But good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can attract lots of guys....but as I'm straight it isn't much use to me lol!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Try a ladies only night although you'd like have to travel.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Maybe the Isle of Man is a small area and ladies might be loathe to make contact with someone they might know? 6 degrees of separation and all that...?"

Isle of Man? Her profile currently says she's from cork, Ireland

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry I am not Bi so I may be completely wrong here, but I wouldn't be attracted to you, you have words on your profile that don't really say that much and looks slightly aggressive, plus the lack of pics would also make me really dubious that I was speaking to an actual female who wants to meet another female, there isn't anything enticing, which as a female is what I look for in a male profile, so I would expect more from a female profile. But good

luck

Thankyou Hun, I don't mean to come across as aggressive I've just had so many people pretending to be female when they wernt that it got extremely annoying lol but Thankyou for your advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the Isle of Man is a small area and ladies might be loathe to make contact with someone they might know? 6 degrees of separation and all that...?

Isle of Man? Her profile currently says she's from cork, Ireland "

I didn't even cop that I was so focused on people's advice, I lived in Doncaster for years, moved to Ireland bout 4 years ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Maybe the Isle of Man is a small area and ladies might be loathe to make contact with someone they might know? 6 degrees of separation and all that...?

Isle of Man? Her profile currently says she's from cork, Ireland "

So she is! A classic example of a know all know nothing not reading a profile properly.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

As a bi fem myself I would suggest you need a few more pics to. I also thought your profile text was a little blunt and aggressive. But then what do I know? I struggle to attract women to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou Hun il change my wording there

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"As a bi fem myself I would suggest you need a few more pics to. I also thought your profile text was a little blunt and aggressive. But then what do I know? I struggle to attract women to

My profile is fairly blunt but I don't have a problem attracting women. In fact I'm knee deep in clunge on a regular basis

Sorry if that term offends, it tickles me every time

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"As a bi fem myself I would suggest you need a few more pics to. I also thought your profile text was a little blunt and aggressive. But then what do I know? I struggle to attract women to

My profile is fairly blunt but I don't have a problem attracting women. In fact I'm knee deep in clunge on a regular basis

Sorry if that term offends, it tickles me every time

No offence taken, it made me chuckle to. Bit jel though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've reworded my profile there and hope it sounds alittle more female friendly?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I've reworded my profile there and hope it sounds alittle more female friendly?"

Much, much better. FAF?!!!!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"As a bi fem myself I would suggest you need a few more pics to. I also thought your profile text was a little blunt and aggressive. But then what do I know? I struggle to attract women to

My profile is fairly blunt but I don't have a problem attracting women. In fact I'm knee deep in clunge on a regular basis

Sorry if that term offends, it tickles me every time

No offence taken, it made me chuckle to. Bit jel though

Come join us, always room for more clunge

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've reworded my profile there and hope it sounds alittle more female friendly?

Much, much better. FAF?!!!!

Faf? Lol

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"I've reworded my profile there and hope it sounds alittle more female friendly?"

Much. Shame you're in Ireland

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I've reworded my profile there and hope it sounds a little more female friendly?"

Much more female friendly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've reworded my profile there and hope it sounds alittle more female friendly?

Much. Shame you're in Ireland

I know it's typical! The country I move away from is where everyone is lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've reworded my profile there and hope it sounds a little more female friendly?

Much more female friendly

Thanks Hun

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By *urvy_bi_honeyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Well if you are ever in Norfolk area I'm 100% genuine verified bi-female.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys Thankyou so much for all your lovely ideas you have no idea how much it means to get advice . I've been on other sites and had experiences with women ..but only as a couple so definatly will adjust the profile and add some more pics...the fear of rejection stepping out in my own is overwhelming lol"

Welcome to our world

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By *urvyKattWoman
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire

I find there is a general issue with finding single ladies to meet up with, although a lot of them have bisexual on their profile when it comes to meeting ladies alone then it doesn't seem to happen for me either.

If you are ever in south west Scotland, give me a shout. I love curvy ladies and would not hesitate to meet you xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I didn't think bi single ladies would have trouble getting meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You would be suprised!

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Your lack of experience puts some off but actually a woman finding another woman on her own is the most difficult meet to achieve , my friend tried for 7 months and left in the end ,I suggest when you do get chatting with a woman get a phone call in as soon as to avoid talking to a guy pretending to be a woman ,good luck

A sweeping statement considering you're a male and the only insight you have is from one female friend.

Lack of experience doesn't put me off. It's all about chemistry rather than experience. I find girl on girl meets the easiest to arrange.

Maybe your location is a bit of a challenge.

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By *urviving48Woman
over a year ago

new forest

Mega.jealous too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't think bi single ladies would have trouble getting meets. "

as a bi single woman I would say that I would only meet other bi SINGLE women, not bi women who have a partner and are looking for a bit on the side....as that's not bi single is it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I didn't think bi single ladies would have trouble getting meets.

as a bi single woman I would say that I would only meet other bi SINGLE women, not bi women who have a partner and are looking for a bit on the side....as that's not bi single is it

Depends on your interpretation of the phrase.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Personally, the mention of that you are part of a couple, will put me off. I would need a ton of disclaimers to reassure me that I won't end up joining an army of performing seals here

Other than that, your profile is nice with with som nice photographs

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I'm also bi and have trouble, had a few meets but nothing regular.

I'm utterly hopeless at chatting women up or knowing if a woman is interested in me, never sure how to initiate things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't think bi single ladies would have trouble getting meets.

as a bi single woman I would say that I would only meet other bi SINGLE women, not bi women who have a partner and are looking for a bit on the side....as that's not bi single is it

Depends on your interpretation of the phrase. "

indeed it does as everything is subjective....and my interpretation would be to steer clear as the OP has a male partner already

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