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By *edonisticbikerUK OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleshill and Rushden

Hi everyone hope you're all well. I've been on the scene awhile now and loved every minute of it. But the other night I was playing with a smoking hot woman with a guy watching.

I struggled to get an erection to start with the after some intercourse I went down on her and lost my erection and was unable to get it back. I have never had this problem before.

Side note it was in a room next to sauna so was crazy hot any now it has happened I'm to worried to go back to the club incase it happens again, has this happened to anyone else and any advice will be greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to nearly all man. Try to forget about it, or it will become a psychological thing and the worry of it happening again will make it happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try viagra

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By *edonisticbikerUK OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleshill and Rushden

Thanks for the advice I am trying to forget about. I did speak to the doctor but want do anything because it's not yet been an ongoing problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, best way is to forget, it may be the guy watching put you offf

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

It happens to everyone at some time:

Almost always a one- off; there are all sorts of reasons: ( tired, hot, stressed, etc etc)

Don't obsess about it;

If you do, it can turn into something .

Forget about it and all will be well.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Oh, and DONT go the Viagra route just for this; or you can become psycologically dependent.

Viagra is good if you really do need it, but don't go that route unless it becomes a real problem ( and on doctor's advice )

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By *edonisticbikerUK OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleshill and Rushden

Some guy watching has never been a problem before. Ok will do many thanks so it could of been the heat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hydration!!

You would be absolutely shocked at how much of a difference this makes.

Drink lots of water if it's hot (and even if its not)

Mike

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By *edonisticbikerUK OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleshill and Rushden

Good tip but unfortunately in this case that was I only really drink water usually between 2 and 3 liters a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice I am trying to forget about. I did speak to the doctor but want do anything because it's not yet been an ongoing problem. "

Starve off wanking a few days before. But don't worry. It happens to all of us now and again. Well not me because I'm fantastic. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as long as you don't have any problems getting hard, you could use a cock ring they help you stay hard

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"as long as you don't have any problems getting hard, you could use a cock ring they help you stay hard"

I fucked a guy who did that - said it was because he had the same issue as you. I'll tell you he was rock hard for hours but it was exhausting for me after 2 hours of non-stop fucking (literally). In the end I had to ask him to take off the ring and spunk. So don't keep the ring on for ever (might make you feel like a stud but you'll tire her out) LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as long as you don't have any problems getting hard, you could use a cock ring they help you stay hard

I fucked a guy who did that - said it was because he had the same issue as you. I'll tell you he was rock hard for hours but it was exhausting for me after 2 hours of non-stop fucking (literally). In the end I had to ask him to take off the ring and spunk. So don't keep the ring on for ever (might make you feel like a stud but you'll tire her out) LOL"

ha ha thanks for the reference but I dont have this issue it was advice for the op.

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By *inxandmaybeCouple
over a year ago

Wells


"as long as you don't have any problems getting hard, you could use a cock ring they help you stay hard

I fucked a guy who did that - said it was because he had the same issue as you. I'll tell you he was rock hard for hours but it was exhausting for me after 2 hours of non-stop fucking (literally). In the end I had to ask him to take off the ring and spunk. So don't keep the ring on for ever (might make you feel like a stud but you'll tire her out) LOL

ha ha thanks for the reference but I dont have this issue it was advice for the op."

Yeah guys - for me quality always trumps quantity. One good short fuck tops hours of tedious pounding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you cum whilst masturbating x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happens to all men at some point, but if you went down on her instead sure she was happy - some women prefer that anyway. Don't let it put you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went though a period of time where men would go soft on me and I got paranoid thinking I was a shit shag! I believe it happens quite often. Nerves mainly I think.

I've even had one guy shoot before I'd properly got my hands down his pants.

It's not just you hon. Just get used to being watched and in sexy scenarios and I'm sure u will be ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it happens to me I use my tongue and fingers then finish the woman in question to satisfaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it happens to me I use my tongue and fingers then finish the woman in question to satisfaction "
have you any fingers left?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it happens to me I use my tongue and fingers then finish the woman in question to satisfaction have you any fingers left? "

I have enough to go around lol

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Every man that has ever lived has had the occasional stiff dick failure. It's entirely normal.

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By *aked_ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

nearby

You're in no way alone! Everyone including me has gone through this. Performance anxiety isn't a fun thing but it does get better with experience. It's annoying as the more you think about it the worse it becomes and then you get in your own head about it all. My advice is play it cool. If it goes down then keep your play partner entertained in other ways! If you feel relaxed about it then it will go away and you won't have an issue. It took me about 8 months to get used to public play. Some people have it from the start and others struggle!

Dave

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton

From a fems point of view don't worry about it!! It's perfectly normal n happens to all blokes at some point....yes even you Duracell bunny s out there!! With a bit of imagination fingers and tongue plenty of fun can be had by all. Had one of my best night's on here with a guy who went down.We had a laugh n lots of play so stress not

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By *aitMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

When it happens to me, I ask the lady if she can wake the little sod up for me. Always works!

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By *edonisticbikerUK OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleshill and Rushden

Thanks for all the advice everyone much appreciated, of to Jaydee's tonight so hopefully all goes well.

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By *i-cambsMan
over a year ago

March

I am twice your age and over the years has happened to me several times with wife mainlly due to stress.(redundancy/family berevements etc) i tried viagra (legally) it works brilliant but remember its only a short time cure. There are herbal remedies as well ( camagra i think) good luck at jaydees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expect there are blokes reading this thinking. .well it's never happened or is going to happen to me... but truth be told it's happened to all of us at some point so you are not alone. The worst thing you can do is start to worry as it can become self perpetuating. Relax and think of something really horny x

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By *reamweaversCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Happened to a couple of guys we have met. Just one of those things and understandable if a bit frustrating or awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It happens to me. Normally on new circumstances such as first time having sex in a club with others watching. Try not to worry or it will become more physiological.

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