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By *ornycpl-durham OP   Couple
over a year ago

near You

Everyone has their boundries,things they have agreed on as a cpl what their comforfortable with each other doing on a meet,has anyone ever crossed the line and gone further than agreed,and how have you come back from it?x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their boundries,things they have agreed on as a cpl what their comforfortable with each other doing on a meet,has anyone ever crossed the line and gone further than agreed,and how have you come back from it?x"

Is this an 'out of interest' thread or have one of you crossed the line yourselves and are seeking advice on how to recover the situation?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I crossed a line once, Mr mentioned afterwards that he wasn't comfortable with it, we talked and I never did it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking things through is often the answer.

Communication is key in a swinging relationship. That and consideration for you partner.

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

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We said right from the beginning that if anything happens that one of us isn't happy with we will discuss it and either not do it again or if no agreement can be made we stop swinging. One of us did cross a line once (won't say who) we discussed it as agreed and all is good. I think the key to successfully swinging is being honest, trusting and understanding of each others needs and wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is useless without specific examples...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I crossed a line once, Mr mentioned afterwards that he wasn't comfortable with it, we talked and I never did it again.

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Went to Hove?

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By *ornycpl-durham OP   Couple
over a year ago

near You

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I crossed a line once, Mr mentioned afterwards that he wasn't comfortable with it, we talked and I never did it again.

Went to Hove? "

Good Lord Steve what do you take me for!? although I did get as far as Waitrose in Western Road once .

Actually (see what I did there?) I lived in Grand Avenue in Hove when I was a student.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Just talk through it, how it made you feel, why you feel that way etc. Etc.

I think an important part of swinging is also learning to forgive each other.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I crossed a line once, Mr mentioned afterwards that he wasn't comfortable with it, we talked and I never did it again.

Went to Hove?

Good Lord Steve what do you take me for!? although I did get as far as Waitrose in Western Road once .

Actually (see what I did there?) I lived in Grand Avenue in Hove when I was a student. "

Ah yes, the waitrose where they once did an evening for naturists to go shopping.

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By *ornycpl-durham OP   Couple
over a year ago

near You


"Everyone has their boundries,things they have agreed on as a cpl what their comforfortable with each other doing on a meet,has anyone ever crossed the line and gone further than agreed,and how have you come back from it?x

Is this an 'out of interest' thread or have one of you crossed

the line yourselves and are seeking advice on how to recover the situation? "

Yes i have(fem)feel pretty crap right now and just wondered how other ppl that have been through it got on x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Everyone has their boundries,things they have agreed on as a cpl what their comforfortable with each other doing on a meet,has anyone ever crossed the line and gone further than agreed,and how have you come back from it?x

Is this an 'out of interest' thread or have one of you crossed

the line yourselves and are seeking advice on how to recover the situation?

Yes i have(fem)feel pretty crap right now and just wondered how other ppl that have been through it got on x"

I don't know the details of what happened with you obviously but I can only advise talking it out, expressing your regret, accepting his hurt and moving on from there hopefully reassured.

Good luck.

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By *otwife and MeCouple
over a year ago

Hove

She let a man fuck her bareback ...

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

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"She let a man fuck her bareback ... "

Comments like that aren't very helpful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to do it all the time when I was married, can't see the point if you have restrictions, sex is ment to be enjoyed and if your holding back in things you enjoy how can you enjoy it, so I used to just go with the flow and make my own rules up as I went along

My ex used to hate it when I kissrd other men it didn't stop me though

This is why I always say I'm to selfish to be in a relationship and I'm better off single, I dislike being told what I can and can't do

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By *otwife and MeCouple
over a year ago

Hove

Why do you say that for .. It's about crossing the line .. Or have I miss understood ?!

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By *ornycpl-durham OP   Couple
over a year ago

near You

Hotwife and me ,no i didnt and only asked on here coz of the way i feel right now and comments like that arent helpful atall!!

But thanks to everyone else who has kindly commented,its not something i can talk to with friends outside fab x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their boundries,things they have agreed on as a cpl what their comforfortable with each other doing on a meet,has anyone ever crossed the line and gone further than agreed,and how have you come back from it?x

Is this an 'out of interest' thread or have one of you crossed

the line yourselves and are seeking advice on how to recover the situation?

Yes i have(fem)feel pretty crap right now and just wondered how other ppl that have been through it got on x

I don't know the details of what happened with you obviously but I can only advise talking it out, expressing your regret, accepting his hurt and moving on from there hopefully reassured.

Good luck."

This is what I'd advise too.

I hope you sort it. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you knowingly crossed a line you need to ask yourself why - do you need to re-define your line? If you are new to anything its quite hard to draw up boundaries before you start.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

All you can do is talk it over, let him know that you understand that you did wrong and NEVER do it again.

Depending what you did (not asking, I really don't care) hope that his trust can be rebuilt.

Don't go down the route of - well I did something that he didn't want me to do so I will let him do something I don't want him to do, just to even the score. That will only add to any resentment.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

We agreed from the start that what happens on a meet happens, we are both happy for each other to do anything they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel the best course of action is to discuss and work through it. Sure you will get through this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their boundries,things they have agreed on as a cpl what their comforfortable with each other doing on a meet,has anyone ever crossed the line and gone further than agreed,and how have you come back from it?x

Is this an 'out of interest' thread or have one of you crossed

the line yourselves and are seeking advice on how to recover the situation?

Yes i have(fem)feel pretty crap right now and just wondered how other ppl that have been through it got on x"

They did it without your consent?

I ended up in shock for the rest of the day and changed how i meet guys because of this. I hardly meet anyone now.

Also i am just gonna grab and hurt their balls to the next guy who tries this, don't give a fuck now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and the slightest hint of being a liar from any guy and i don't trust him at all with my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their boundries,things they have agreed on as a cpl what their comforfortable with each other doing on a meet,has anyone ever crossed the line and gone further than agreed,and how have you come back from it?x"
have you as a couple crossed that line and what happened ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was something we'd agreed on yet he did it anyway then it would be over. All trust would be gone. I don't need that shit in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it was something we'd agreed on yet he did it anyway then it would be over. All trust would be gone. I don't need that shit in my life. "
yes cut and dry crucify the guit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both had our indiscretions and naughty moments,chatted over and moved on simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm worried that lines might be crossed

And if they were how would I handle it while still in the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm worried that lines might be crossed

And if they were how would I handle it while still in the situation. "
make sure you always have your lines running parallel or horizontal you can't go wrong then x

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"I used to do it all the time when I was married, can't see the point if you have restrictions, sex is ment to be enjoyed and if your holding back in things you enjoy how can you enjoy it, so I used to just go with the flow and make my own rules up as I went along

My ex used to hate it when I kissrd other men it didn't stop me though

This is why I always say I'm to selfish to be in a relationship and I'm better off single, I dislike being told what I can and can't do

"

I agree with everyone that the OP needs to talk it out with her partner because moving forward there's no other way

However, I'm also with naughtynymphos on this one. In sex there should be virtually no "lines" or restrictions because if you introduce them, the lines will keep getting "crossed". Perhaps a couple can decide on certain off-limits people (certain friends and family for example) but that's sort of it. I don't have a partner but if I ever do have one, he'd have to be mighty tolerant !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to do it all the time when I was married, can't see the point if you have restrictions, sex is ment to be enjoyed and if your holding back in things you enjoy how can you enjoy it, so I used to just go with the flow and make my own rules up as I went along

My ex used to hate it when I kissrd other men it didn't stop me though

This is why I always say I'm to selfish to be in a relationship and I'm better off single, I dislike being told what I can and can't do

I agree with everyone that the OP needs to talk it out with her partner because moving forward there's no other way

However, I'm also with naughtynymphos on this one. In sex there should be virtually no "lines" or restrictions because if you introduce them, the lines will keep getting "crossed". Perhaps a couple can decide on certain off-limits people (certain friends and family for example) but that's sort of it. I don't have a partner but if I ever do have one, he'd have to be mighty tolerant ! "
god that's far too technical at this time of the morning for me if sex doesn't flow naturally get dressed and move onto the next ,boundaries kill sex orgasms make it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm worried that lines might be crossed

And if they were how would I handle it while still in the situation. "

Do you mean that you're worried your partner might do something that you hadn't agreed on? Or that the person you're meeting might?

Talk to your partner. I think if you can't trust them to stick to whatever rules you've made then it's a horrible experience and not worth the hassle.

If it's another person, tell them at the time. Or move away from them. Don't ever go along with something that you don't want to do. x

And ignore anyone that says you shouldn't have rules. Have as many as you want. It's your body and your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to do it all the time when I was married, can't see the point if you have restrictions, sex is ment to be enjoyed and if your holding back in things you enjoy how can you enjoy it, so I used to just go with the flow and make my own rules up as I went along

My ex used to hate it when I kissrd other men it didn't stop me though

This is why I always say I'm to selfish to be in a relationship and I'm better off single, I dislike being told what I can and can't do

I agree with everyone that the OP needs to talk it out with her partner because moving forward there's no other way

However, I'm also with naughtynymphos on this one. In sex there should be virtually no "lines" or restrictions because if you introduce them, the lines will keep getting "crossed". Perhaps a couple can decide on certain off-limits people (certain friends and family for example) but that's sort of it. I don't have a partner but if I ever do have one, he'd have to be mighty tolerant ! "
so are you advocating a little 4 way brainstorming session yes very sexy I'm in

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm worried that lines might be crossed

And if they were how would I handle it while still in the situation.

Do you mean that you're worried your partner might do something that you hadn't agreed on? Or that the person you're meeting might?

Talk to your partner. I think if you can't trust them to stick to whatever rules you've made then it's a horrible experience and not worth the hassle.

If it's another person, tell them at the time. Or move away from them. Don't ever go along with something that you don't want to do. x

And ignore anyone that says you shouldn't have rules. Have as many as you want. It's your body and your life. "

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm worried that lines might be crossed

And if they were how would I handle it while still in the situation. make sure you always have your lines running parallel or horizontal you can't go wrong then x "

Most helpful

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